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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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*caution this thread is deep*
Ever wonder of fellow fabbers would notice if you suddenly disappeared?
Suicide! The elephant in the room. Im sure every fabber has experienced it in some shape or form.
Realistically im sure some fabbers have lost their lives to suicide. And that to me is a scary thought. That someone ive chatted with or shared encounters with has left us to soon.
Although we are all here for fun and fantasys and discreation is needed,i want all readers here to know its okay to not be okay.
And if you are feeling down and need a chat my inbox is always open.
Lets remember behind every profile here is a human being(or 2 lol).
We are not robots and words and conversations we have here impact lives away from here.
So fabbers if youre feeling down , stand up and speak up!
I am here for you and im sure the whole fab community is too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"*caution this thread is deep*
Ever wonder of fellow fabbers would notice if you suddenly disappeared?
Suicide! The elephant in the room. Im sure every fabber has experienced it in some shape or form.
Realistically im sure some fabbers have lost their lives to suicide. And that to me is a scary thought. That someone ive chatted with or shared encounters with has left us to soon.
Although we are all here for fun and fantasys and discreation is needed,i want all readers here to know its okay to not be okay.
And if you are feeling down and need a chat my inbox is always open.
Lets remember behind every profile here is a human being(or 2 lol).
We are not robots and words and conversations we have here impact lives away from here.
So fabbers if youre feeling down , stand up and speak up!
I am here for you and im sure the whole fab community is too!"
I check in with a few that I know struggle.
Have had many checking in on me when they picked up on things
Yes I wonder but not just about fabbers but people in general |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"*caution this thread is deep*
Ever wonder of fellow fabbers would notice if you suddenly disappeared?
Suicide! The elephant in the room. Im sure every fabber has experienced it in some shape or form.
Realistically im sure some fabbers have lost their lives to suicide. And that to me is a scary thought. That someone ive chatted with or shared encounters with has left us to soon.
Although we are all here for fun and fantasys and discreation is needed,i want all readers here to know its okay to not be okay.
And if you are feeling down and need a chat my inbox is always open.
Lets remember behind every profile here is a human being(or 2 lol).
We are not robots and words and conversations we have here impact lives away from here.
So fabbers if youre feeling down , stand up and speak up!
I am here for you and im sure the whole fab community is too!
I check in with a few that I know struggle.
Have had many checking in on me when they picked up on things
Yes I wonder but not just about fabbers but people in general "
I 100% its not just about fab but i worry its just not brought up or people dont talk about it here. I just want fabbers to know that we are all human and although ultimatley we are here for sex that is okay to talk here too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly I don't think anyone would notice if I disappeared and as for in my personal life there is about a handful and even at that it would be a few days. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Honestly I don't think anyone would notice if I disappeared and as for in my personal life there is about a handful and even at that it would be a few days. "
Im sure thats not true. Anyone u chat to regularly here would notice and im sure everyone in your personal life too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get what you're doing op and I do think it's great, bringing focus to the issue.
And everyone has their own way of looking at it but for me, I'm so conscious of the perception of this issue, especially with statements like the "elephant in the room" and "its ok not to be ok".
I've had serious issues in the past lasting for many years and I still have my down days. It's part of life for many people. I like to tell people about my challenges (in naturally brought up conversation) and speak about it as if it's as common as having a poop, not that I tell people when I poop but you get my point.
I talk about how I overcame it and ask people "have you ever had any similar challenges?" so that people look at it as something that's a two way conversation and isn't the elephant in the room that makes people feel judged or like theres something wrong with them.
It should be spoken as something that is part of our daily lives so that those levels of discomfort are removed completely when bringing it up in conversation.
For me, this is done by not referring to it as the elephant in the room or giving any kind of perception that it's not a daily task we all face, the same as any other task like going to the shop, collecting the kids from school or just figuring out how to get your head straight in general.
That's my take on it but again, nothing against you bringing it up to be discussed!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I get what you're doing op and I do think it's great, bringing focus to the issue.
And everyone has their own way of looking at it but for me, I'm so conscious of the perception of this issue, especially with statements like the "elephant in the room" and "its ok not to be ok".
I've had serious issues in the past lasting for many years and I still have my down days. It's part of life for many people. I like to tell people about my challenges (in naturally brought up conversation) and speak about it as if it's as common as having a poop, not that I tell people when I poop but you get my point.
I talk about how I overcame it and ask people "have you ever had any similar challenges?" so that people look at it as something that's a two way conversation and isn't the elephant in the room that makes people feel judged or like theres something wrong with them.
It should be spoken as something that is part of our daily lives so that those levels of discomfort are removed completely when bringing it up in conversation.
For me, this is done by not referring to it as the elephant in the room or giving any kind of perception that it's not a daily task we all face, the same as any other task like going to the shop, collecting the kids from school or just figuring out how to get your head straight in general.
That's my take on it but again, nothing against you bringing it up to be discussed! "
By saying its the elaphant in the room i meant it affects us
all. My whole point to the thread was to normalise the conversation |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get what you're doing op and I do think it's great, bringing focus to the issue.
And everyone has their own way of looking at it but for me, I'm so conscious of the perception of this issue, especially with statements like the "elephant in the room" and "its ok not to be ok".
I've had serious issues in the past lasting for many years and I still have my down days. It's part of life for many people. I like to tell people about my challenges (in naturally brought up conversation) and speak about it as if it's as common as having a poop, not that I tell people when I poop but you get my point.
I talk about how I overcame it and ask people "have you ever had any similar challenges?" so that people look at it as something that's a two way conversation and isn't the elephant in the room that makes people feel judged or like theres something wrong with them.
It should be spoken as something that is part of our daily lives so that those levels of discomfort are removed completely when bringing it up in conversation.
For me, this is done by not referring to it as the elephant in the room or giving any kind of perception that it's not a daily task we all face, the same as any other task like going to the shop, collecting the kids from school or just figuring out how to get your head straight in general.
That's my take on it but again, nothing against you bringing it up to be discussed! "
But unfortunately it is still considered the elephant in the room. People are afraid to say they may be struggling for fear of judgement by family, friends , work colleagues etc.
The amount if time I've heard someone say " would never had thought they were depressed" " so much to live for" " people worse off than you".
It is something we should all be able to openly talk about but unfortunately some people find it hard to do that. If what op has posted makes one person reach out than he has done good.
As the saying goes noone knows what is going on in a person's life and one nice text or nice comment or just reaching out could be all that's needed.
Glad to hear you have dealt with your issues ( not the word I want to use but can't think of an alternative but you know what I mean ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I said twice I didnt have a problem with what the OP has done.
I was merely giving my experiences that when the issue comes as part of general conversation, as in its not a big deal to go through it, the weight it represents is diminished and from a personal point of view, it's the only way I would have spoken about it.
I have had many friends tell me things I never expected to hear by bringing it up in this way, that's why I wanted to make that point.
And I feel like society is moving towards that viewpoint, bringing it out into the open more and more hence why I tend to advise making it as common and every day as any other part of life and avoiding negative language or words which give it weight, despite what it is. |
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By *ovely loversCouple
over a year ago
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This is a very good issue to bring up. Regardless of fab site or society in general. Please consider people we know & watch out for the signs..lack of contact etc. A kind considered word is all it takes to make someone feel connected again. Thanks for bringing this subject up.J&S x |
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