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You're an attractive couple so you will eventually get some interest, but it does take time, a lot longer than one week.
As this site has more Men than Women then factor distance to where you live, it will narrow your chances even more.
It's not all bad news, you'll get interest at socials and clubs if you decide to try that route or contribute to the forums so your profile gets seen. Be patient your age ranges are good I'm sure you'll get some interest soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any tips on what we could do to get people’s attention? Quite a few read messages but not many responses.
Thanks in advance. "
you'll be ok your wife looks gorgeous  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its very difficult online, its worth considering going to clubs and socials so you have more than one tool in your swinger tool kit."
clubs are very public though........ what if you're shy or short on money?  |
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I think the issue is you are only looking for women. There isn't as many single women on here and they can have several messages a day that unfortunately some messages get missed or bumped down the list.
Try a club maybe ? |
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You have only been here a week and you are only looking for women. Many couples look for women to join them and find it difficult.
Just remember not to make women feel like the only reason you are talking to them is because you want them to fulfill your fantasies. Just talk as friends. Build rapport. If somebody knows you like them in themselves then you are much more likely to take the next step with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You like most couples are chasing the mythical unicorn... your profile is ok - great pics, but limited bio.
Stick with it and don’t take this place to seriously.
Mr
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There are some really nice genuine couples in our area - they do take a bit of searching and I won’t call out names for you in here, but they are in Colchester/Ipswich area when I was part of a couple we met some lovely local people. |
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"Any tips on what we could do to get people’s attention? Quite a few read messages but not many responses.
Thanks in advance. "
You're looking for a woman - the most rare entity on fab.
Of the comparatively few who are on here, majority are looking for men, not couples.
The best thing to do is to make your profile and pics amazing. |
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Your pics are nice but your profile is a little limiting.
Maybe add a little of what you like to do, or what you might like to try?
Also some folk have their filters set so that new members can’t message them, or they don’t look for new members on their searches.
Give it time, start slow and organise a social drink or two with some people. Get a couple of verifications (even just for a social drink) and things will soon get busy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Firstly, I applaud the bravery about showing your faces. I would never want that creepy guy from the Esso garage down the road winking at me because he’s seen me on here, but if you don’t care about that, kudos!
Personally - I am very visual, And as you look at the site you’ll notice, most profiles contain photos of people’s bodies, even if they’re in lingerie/underwear. People want to see your bodies.
Also, describing more detail of what kind of experience you’re looking for - do you want social drinks first? Will it be full sex for all, or just soft swap between females? Do you like sensual sex, or rough? Are you happy to go with the flow of what the woman wants? Kinky? Do you like toys... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any tips on what we could do to get people’s attention? Quite a few read messages but not many responses.
Thanks in advance. "
Just as others are saying xx write just a little more description about whats your looking for or want to do xx its harder on here for new couples with no verifications xx people are very suspicious xx with some good cause as well xx if you go to a couple of socials xx talk to people ask there advice xx but above all have fun xx keep safe xx |
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"Any tips on what we could do to get people’s attention? Quite a few read messages but not many responses.
Thanks in advance. "
Your profile does not state exactly what your after with the women I certainly would be interested looking at your pics but your profile would put me off msg you |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"its very difficult online, its worth considering going to clubs and socials so you have more than one tool in your swinger tool kit.clubs are very public though........ what if you're shy or short on money? "
That is true, although they can be a good place to start getting to know people and if it did happen to go that way many of them have private rooms.
Some of them start from £10 per couple on certain nights as well, and if it's a club where you can take your own alcohol it's in my opinion a worthwhile investment if the lifestyle.
(of course only my opinion) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its very difficult online, its worth considering going to clubs and socials so you have more than one tool in your swinger tool kit.clubs are very public though........ what if you're shy or short on money?
That is true, although they can be a good place to start getting to know people and if it did happen to go that way many of them have private rooms.
Some of them start from £10 per couple on certain nights as well, and if it's a club where you can take your own alcohol it's in my opinion a worthwhile investment if the lifestyle.
(of course only my opinion)"
exactly...... clubs suit you obviously but they don't suit everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with what others have said your searching for a unicorn and unfortunately they are difficult to come by. We have had loads of fun opening up to couples. Don’t assume everyone wants a full swap some couples are happy for FF play and then to have full sex with there own partners us included and we are in the same town. People will respect your boundaries xxx |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
maidenhead |
Your trying to find the lock mess monster lol. Both of you look good but finding a single female to join you will be very hard.
If you wanted a single male you would have 1000 replied by now no question including myself lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any tips on what we could do to get people’s attention? Quite a few read messages but not many responses.
Thanks in advance. "
By looking at your pictures you don’t mind showing face so just change it about I say change twice a week it just gets people looking when they see change of picture.
Good luck |
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By *rank33Man
over a year ago
London |
"Any tips on what we could do to get people’s attention? Quite a few read messages but not many responses.
Thanks in advance. "
Well guys! I am
Surprised you aren’t getting any responses! I would have imagined that to be a problem for a single male !
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By *rank33Man
over a year ago
London |
"its very difficult online, its worth considering going to clubs and socials so you have more than one tool in your swinger tool kit.clubs are very public though........ what if you're shy or short on money?
That is true, although they can be a good place to start getting to know people and if it did happen to go that way many of them have private rooms.
Some of them start from £10 per couple on certain nights as well, and if it's a club where you can take your own alcohol it's in my opinion a worthwhile investment if the lifestyle.
(of course only my opinion)"
Clubs want more couples and single ladies and do the entrance is very low in comparison to a single guy ! |
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"Any tips on what we could do to get people’s attention? Quite a few read messages but not many responses.
Thanks in advance. "
I agree with others, you're an attractive couple.
It can be worth putting up adverts, even if it's for a social or to see who's going to a club. just be wary of those that talk the talk but don't turn up.
If you ever go to Vanilla Alternative or Jaydees, let me know  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say that I'm incredibly surprised as Mrs is stunning but on reading your profile I note that you are looking for the holy grail of playmates.
If, on the other hand you'd been looking for single men, your inbox would be overflowing |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
You are looking for the smallest group on fab. Personally speaking, as a single female, your profile pics and bio did nothing to grab my attention. Good luck, hope you find what you are looking for. Maybe try what others have already suggested, clubs and socials. X |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"its very difficult online, its worth considering going to clubs and socials so you have more than one tool in your swinger tool kit.clubs are very public though........ what if you're shy or short on money?
That is true, although they can be a good place to start getting to know people and if it did happen to go that way many of them have private rooms.
Some of them start from £10 per couple on certain nights as well, and if it's a club where you can take your own alcohol it's in my opinion a worthwhile investment if the lifestyle.
(of course only my opinion)exactly...... clubs suit you obviously but they don't suit everyone "
There's always the option of organised socials if they don't want to attend clubs to meet people. Great for networking. |
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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago
Cap d’Agde, France |
OP broaden your search criteria.
Lose the silly face photos and get some erotic/lingerie photos (no crudity).
Expand your written profile.
Try messaging some folk, make the first move.
Follow the good advice above.
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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago
Bickliegh |
Good luck looking for the elusive unicorn may be put looking for a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow or eternal youth might help too only gesting hope you find what your looking for x |
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The Forums definitely helped me! I hadn’t received any Messages then I joined in on some of the Interactive Threads and Games interacting with other members. Gradually started receiving messages and built up my confidence to send Women/Couples messages outside of Interactive Theeads. |
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"Bleeding obvious why i wouldn't meet you.
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I see several reasons, too. 
Op: you are an attractive couple, but if your profile text isn’t enticing, it will be difficult to find someone. Have a look at other couples’ profiles that have been successful meeting single bi women to get some ideas.
J |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Welcome to the real fab, all talk and pictures, with very little content and real meets ... getting worse by the day.. so don’t panic, it’s normal  "
Actually, quite a few of us meet, just those who match our preferences. |
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"Bleeding obvious why i wouldn't meet you.
I see several reasons, too.
Op: you are an attractive couple, but if your profile text isn’t enticing, it will be difficult to find someone. Have a look at other couples’ profiles that have been successful meeting single bi women to get some ideas.
J"
To me all the "reasons" just show that they're far more likely to be "our type" of people than the average couple. Love that the clothes are on, love that they are happy to show their faces, love they don't have a tirade of petty nonsense filling their profile.
If they were closer, we'd be all over them, exactly because of these reasons. |
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"Bleeding obvious why i wouldn't meet you.
I see several reasons, too.
Op: you are an attractive couple, but if your profile text isn’t enticing, it will be difficult to find someone. Have a look at other couples’ profiles that have been successful meeting single bi women to get some ideas.
J
To me all the "reasons" just show that they're far more likely to be "our type" of people than the average couple. Love that the clothes are on, love that they are happy to show their faces, love they don't have a tirade of petty nonsense filling their profile.
If they were closer, we'd be all over them, exactly because of these reasons."
Indeed. We also value those ‘reasons’, too.
I’m not here to tell them exactly what they need to put on their profile - it’s just our opinion. After all, it’s up to them what they feel is the best way forward. Which is why when they asked for advice, I gave them a suggestion and it’s up to them whether to act upon it or not.
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By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago
Hinckley |
This is fab. Full of people who think they’re all that! don’t worry, your a fab looking couple, but people tend to think they’re out of your league, so may not bother. Patients guys. We’re fugly, but we enjoy ourselves on here. X |
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Hi, being a couple in here for just over a month now and have had one play and a few socials, we are struggling to get play dates as folk have busy lives...but we have found if u keep adding pics and vids tmyoy will see the numbers rise and have more msgs..good luck xx |
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Well there's not a lot on your profile, that doesn't say much about you. You like fun and being silly which shows from your photos. Maybe a few sexy photos, to show a different sexier side to you. Maybe also have some photos that maybe demonstrate you like it a bit rough.
Just a little imagination |
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By *rank33Man
over a year ago
London |
"I would say that I'm incredibly surprised as Mrs is stunning but on reading your profile I note that you are looking for the holy grail of playmates.
If, on the other hand you'd been looking for single men, your inbox would be overflowing"
Agree with this ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a friend I chat to, she is looking for a couple like you and lives in or near your area, I could give your her kik so you could chat, but would ask her permission first. |
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