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wen we first started out swingin we went 2 a local club ,,but was ages b4 i did anythin ,,mainly chatted n asked lots of questions ,,then went 2 a swing hotel felt realy comfy n relaxed ,,havent luked bac since ,,make sureur comfy b4 hand ,,dnt do anythin u r not at eas with ,,,  |
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"how did u find it starting out and did u get dissheartened by timewasters and fakes?"
If you are repeatedly having people not turn up to meets then look at your selection criteria, you have only been here 3 months...hardly long enough to get disheartended  |
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You have to have some thick skin, and be in it for the long haul.
The beauty of swinging is that your swingdar gets more sensitive over time, with experience/tuning. You get to sense who's not so genuine, who wouldn't really probably give you what you need to be fully satisfied etc, and you economise with your time, so you waste less and increase your success rate.
I've found that by adhering to my core sense of what is that I know I love, and rarely veering away from that, it means that I'm fulfilled and happy. When I've diverged from my path, made 'compromises' with myself, I've ended up somewhat disappointed.
Even if you're not getting sexually fulfilled, make the time to find out some really great people - there are many around. Having others like these are gold dust.
Lastly, rely on your gut instinct as much as possible. Good luck!!
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Why won't hubby go to clubs? Pick one with a social area and private play areas. That way you don't have to play but if you do there's private play areas for your first time.
Go on a couples only noght and have fun ask all your questions, have a good chat and see where the night takes you.
At least that way you know 99% of people there are there for the same reason as you.
Their not as scary as you would think
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"You have to have some thick skin, and be in it for the long haul.
The beauty of swinging is that your swingdar gets more sensitive over time, with experience/tuning. You get to sense who's not so genuine, who wouldn't really probably give you what you need to be fully satisfied etc, and you economise with your time, so you waste less and increase your success rate.
I've found that by adhering to my core sense of what is that I know I love, and rarely veering away from that, it means that I'm fulfilled and happy. When I've diverged from my path, made 'compromises' with myself, I've ended up somewhat disappointed.
Even if you're not getting sexually fulfilled, make the time to find out some really great people - there are many around. Having others like these are gold dust.
Lastly, rely on your gut instinct as much as possible. Good luck!!
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this is how i would have put it cheers sophie x |
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It's interesting that hubby won't go to clubs but it appears that you will.
I'd suggest a club is a good place to start, not because you have to get involved, but simply because you will meet people there for the same reason as yourselves and you will get the chance to openly talk to people and perhaps from that arrange a private date.
Clubs are in 2 catergories, clothed and unclothed too so pick a clothed one for your first visit.
For example, Xtasia in West Brom, and I know thats a fair trek from you, has a party night on 25th May with about 150 people going which will be mainly couples with a good mix of single guys and girls in there too. It's a clothed club so you'll have plenty of chance to chat to people just like in a big pub tbh, but should you get the urge to join in the activities well your in the right place and as theres a hotel next door you could book a room, meet a couple and have that private meet on that night.
Just a thought, though the points raised by other posters are equally valid |
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As another Newbie ish lol; i found it interesting at first; lots of hellow but not one interested in really meeting so after only one week however all things changed and have met a couple of nice people off here; so just give it time im sure after reading your profile you no be to long b4 you two have smiles on your faces lol
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