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By *appy vibe OP Man
over a year ago
Gloucestershire |
Single guy with a couple of friend only pics due to my job, constantly accused being in a relationship and not putting effort in.
How the hell do I get a meet when I do my best to individual Taylor a message to everyone I wrote.  |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
I honestly think if you’re sending so many messages that you’re getting rejected every hour, you’re sending far too many.
Far better to get involved on here and get known as a decent guy.
I send about two or three a year (unsolicited ones to people I don’t know)  |
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By *appy vibe OP Man
over a year ago
Gloucestershire |
"You have no profile photo. Now being hidden doesnt mean you couldn't have a profile photo. . Most wont even read the message if it's a blank photo.
Are you sending photos with your messages?"
Always a picture with a message, it's s must, otherwise they don't know who they are talking to. |
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"You have no profile photo. Now being hidden doesnt mean you couldn't have a profile photo. . Most wont even read the message if it's a blank photo.
Are you sending photos with your messages?
Always a picture with a message, it's s must, otherwise they don't know who they are talking to."
even If it's a hand photo.. any photo is better than no profile photo |
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"You have no profile photo. Now being hidden doesnt mean you couldn't have a profile photo. . Most wont even read the message if it's a blank photo.
Are you sending photos with your messages?
Always a picture with a message, it's s must, otherwise they don't know who they are talking to."
thing is they will look at your profile first |
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I'm getting the same problem however after speaking to guys and gals on here I've changed my profile and little and will be adding a few more (non cock) pics later.
Hopefully then I'll get more responce from messages I send. What you think people |
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"I'm getting the same problem however after speaking to guys and gals on here I've changed my profile and little and will be adding a few more (non cock) pics later.
Hopefully then I'll get more responce from messages I send. What you think people"
don't hijack threads and there are still a majority of cock pics so not really much of a change and try going to clubs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t put why you can’t and won’t accommodate, this isn’t Trumpville, you don’t have explain yourself to anyone.
Take photos of yourself from the neck down, but don’t not have any photos at all.
Just a thought |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have no profile photo. Now being hidden doesnt mean you couldn't have a profile photo. . Most wont even read the message if it's a blank photo.
Are you sending photos with your messages?
Always a picture with a message, it's s must, otherwise they don't know who they are talking to.
thing is they will look at your profile first"
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"Single guy with a couple of friend only pics due to my job, constantly accused being in a relationship and not putting effort in.
How the hell do I get a meet when I do my best to individual Taylor a message to everyone I wrote. "
If you can’t have photos due to your job why is your profile picture a face picture?
Take photos that don’t include your face (not dick pictures). Search the forums for lots of threads and advice on what makes a good picture.
Personally your profile text doesn’t sell you at all to me. It certainly wouldn’t inspire me to reply! |
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I trying to hijack just trying to be helpfully. Yes I know there are still more dick pics on it but that will change once I get time . I meant I've changed my profile and little and hopefully it tells more.who I am  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. As others have said your profile is, being kind, not the best.
Inability to accommodate, as a 40+yr old man, despite your given reasons will be seen by most as either: Not single or living at home....neither of which are attractive to most. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Single guy with a couple of friend only pics due to my job, constantly accused being in a relationship and not putting effort in.
How the hell do I get a meet when I do my best to individual Taylor a message to everyone I wrote. "
. Single guys that can’t accommodate can find Fabs hard as single ladies and couples may think you are married or in a relationship.My own opinion for what it’s worth is attend socials and clubs hopefully you can make a connection there.Verify people you meet and they in turn will verify you. |
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Recently single and trying get things back to how I like them before putting up that I can accommodate, this is the true reason behind it."
Maybe switch it to say you can't currently accommodate due to house renovation works or something, but happy to meet at clubs/hotels? It just sounds better. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
Hull |
OP.
Take notice of the suggestions mentioned so far.
It's a case you are up against so many guys all seeking the same thing.
At two months in, you're a mere beginner. This site doesn't present itself with instant responses!
You have to work at SELLING yourself to get yourself noticed.
Your profile needs to be worked on. A lack of a photo or two (not cock ones) would work.
Say what you want from a meet, plus what you can give as well at one.
You don't accommodate except for the reason you have stated. But in that, the overall impression you give is negative. Change it all to sound positive.
Get to Socials, clubs even into the Forums; that gets you noticed.
It does work, but only by your input, alongside Perseverance & Patience.
Good luck.
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"Single guy with a couple of friend only pics due to my job, constantly accused being in a relationship and not putting effort in.
How the hell do I get a meet when I do my best to individual Taylor a message to everyone I wrote. "
So you've been found out basically |
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Recently single and trying get things back to how I like them before putting up that I can accommodate, this is the true reason behind it.
Maybe switch it to say you can't currently accommodate due to house renovation works or something, but happy to meet at clubs/hotels? It just sounds better. "
I don't think anyone should justify why they can't/won't accommodate as long as they don't expect people to accommodate them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Silhouette image is always deleted regardless of profile message.
Look we all are secret we all have special jobs..
Enough site support on here for profiles |
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"Single guy with a couple of friend only pics due to my job, constantly accused being in a relationship and not putting effort in.
How the hell do I get a meet when I do my best to individual Taylor a message to everyone I wrote. "
There are 100s of guys on here with pics can accommodate and have a decent profile why would anyone pick you over them .. this is the way you should be thinking when doing your profile x |
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"No pics and a profile that screams insecure and needy
Would you meet you?
If you cant take a non identifiable picture then you need to look at other mens pics and see how its done
Ms Icebreaker "
It really makes me chuckle how men make their jobs an excuse to not show any pics like they doing something illegal |
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"Thanks I thought I did. Is it OK to have 1 dick showing. As I'm not sure now with all the help I have had"
Guess it really depends who your trying to attract if its men leave the dick pics they love them lol...
Had to delete last message stupid auto correct always changes love to live  |
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"Thanks I thought I did. Is it OK to have 1 dick showing. As I'm not sure now with all the help I have had"
Wait. Do have more than 1 dick?! That's your unique selling point right there. How many dicks do you have? So many questions. |
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"To be honest I'm hoping to attract/meet a genuine bi couple where the guy is bi possibly both and a few ladies too"
Then get dick pics off public,your profile is first thing most people looks at before even opening your message do a search of forums on profile advice there is lots of great advice out there but you have to act on it ... you have been told few times to get rid of the dick pics and they still there ...
Go to account manage pics and get them out of public REMEMBER you have to save at the end or else it dont move them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Silhouette image is always deleted regardless of profile message.
Look we all are secret we all have special jobs..
Enough site support on here for profiles"
youre special so special wanna have some of your attention give it to me   |
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"To be honest I'm hoping to attract/meet a genuine bi couple where the guy is bi possibly both and a few ladies too"
You need to start your own thread if you want advice and stop hijacking this one - it’s considered bad forum etiquette |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got to be honest rejection isn't something I've come across here, you must be doing it all wrong, I'm thinking about running a class for a nominal fee who needs help i know i do |
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"To be honest I'm hoping to attract/meet a genuine bi couple where the guy is bi possibly both and a few ladies too"
ms icebreaker has replied already but here's my two pennorth. I'm the dom half of our partnership, but I don't know if you are top or bottom. So you might say you want aex, but you don't say what kind. That's never going to grab muly attention.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single guy with a couple of friend only pics due to my job, constantly accused being in a relationship and not putting effort in.
How the hell do I get a meet when I do my best to individual Taylor a message to everyone I wrote. "
What are you, Copper, Judge, lawyer???
Even so, you have a body, take pics. Otherwise most would think you are married or only after a quick fk....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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New
And
Nervous
Oh ...
Not inspiring for a random meet I'm afraid, sorry if that sounds harsh. Without pictures you look like a fantasist and not many go round saying they are swingers out of context so most are in the same boat. If you are recognised then you are recognised by another swinger so they aren't going to be outing you. If you are playing away then that's a different matter, you gotta roast in your own fire for that
It never ceases to amaze us that no photos results in a meet for people, we see public and sent photos that are extremely variable to say the least, including 'oh dear god no' but that same person (s) may appeal to others.
Try to see the big picture, you have a few seconds to impress, it's the internet. People lie. People are predators. People set up fake profiles for a laugh and string people along ( a couple I spoke to openly joked about it ) people back out when it gets too real or realise their lies will be found out ( height, age, relationship status, appearance etc )
But there are plenty of real people, real swingers who aren't suppliers of quick shags for others.
Hard talk but there it is.
Make some more effort because it definitely requires it.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single guy with a couple of friend only pics due to my job, constantly accused being in a relationship and not putting effort in.
How the hell do I get a meet when I do my best to individual Taylor a message to everyone I wrote. "
I'm surprised you're not knee deep in clunge to be honest  |
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By *appy vibe OP Man
over a year ago
Gloucestershire |
"New
And
Nervous
Oh ...
Not inspiring for a random meet I'm afraid, sorry if that sounds harsh. Without pictures you look like a fantasist and not many go round saying they are swingers out of context so most are in the same boat. If you are recognised then you are recognised by another swinger so they aren't going to be outing you. If you are playing away then that's a different matter, you gotta roast in your own fire for that
It never ceases to amaze us that no photos results in a meet for people, we see public and sent photos that are extremely variable to say the least, including 'oh dear god no' but that same person (s) may appeal to others.
Try to see the big picture, you have a few seconds to impress, it's the internet. People lie. People are predators. People set up fake profiles for a laugh and string people along ( a couple I spoke to openly joked about it ) people back out when it gets too real or realise their lies will be found out ( height, age, relationship status, appearance etc )
But there are plenty of real people, real swingers who aren't suppliers of quick shags for others.
Hard talk but there it is.
Make some more effort because it definitely requires it.
Good luck"
Thank you, hard talk but truthful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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James you have met one couple in your two months on fab,many guys will be jealous of that and wonder how you managed that.
I would suggest some pics,nothing that identifies you but some public pics nonetheless |
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"More effort has been out into the text, I'm hoping I'll get some feed back from you all?
James"
"More effort has been out into the text, I'm hoping I'll get some feed back from you all?
James"
You're still going to be up against it with no public pics. Most people you message will want to know what you look like first of all. If they can't see that, it will be an instant delete and they'll go on to the messages they have from ten other single guys.
I can't see why you can't post non facial pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Messaging is maximum effort, minimum return. Meeting in a club for me has always been the best way. Only expect to socialise and chat to others. You meet real people and are more likely to connect by chatting. Give it a try! |
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Just read it again after having read it this morning. I can see you've put work in and made some massive changes. Good work!
I'd drop the bit about texting too much. Also, you say what you're looking for, but not so much about what you can offer.
Like many people, I would not even message back if you did not have a profile pic. But on the whole, massive improvement! |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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It's a definite improvement but the lack of photos/profile pic will definitely put some people off.
the bit about texting too much is unnecessary & might be off putting, you can always explain that via message once you get chatting to someone.
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"To be honest I'm hoping to attract/meet a genuine bi couple where the guy is bi possibly both and a few ladies tooms icebreaker has replied already but here's my two pennorth. I'm the dom half of our partnership, but I don't know if you are top or bottom. So you might say you want aex, but you don't say what kind. That's never going to grab muly attention.Thanks for the imput. I'm a vers bi more bottom if that helps
Mr icebreaker"
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Your profile reads as you are married....can't accommodate....check your grammar and punctuation....and your profile comes across as bordering on desperate....and only 2 months in the site...what are you expecting...there are something like 5 men to every lady....it takes time...photos are a must you don't have to show your face....your luck will improve |
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