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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Like many single males I'm having a hard time, and not in a good way!!!
I've tried a few revisions of my profile and rarely get repliesto messages, despite making effort to write specifically to each profile.
Seems I'm popular with men, which I hardly surprising as most men would fuck a hole in the ground if it was damp....
Maybe I need to invest in travel, maybe attend a club, maybe get some better photos.. maybe just not be a slightly chubby stoner with a not too subtle lycra fetish...or just hang out on fetlife more. ????
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You don’t have a proper pic and your profile is lacking. Luck counts for nothing here, it’s about effort. An engaging profile which offers women something will help. And very few will chat to a guy that doesn’t have a decent pic.
Oh, and playing the blues is still very sexy |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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Oh this again.
Mate just do a search on the forums on this subject that has been raised literally a thousand times before.
It comes up at least twice every bloody week! All the advice you need has already been given elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Like many single males I'm having a hard time, and not in a good way!!!
I've tried a few revisions of my profile and rarely get repliesto messages, despite making effort to write specifically to each profile.
Seems I'm popular with men, which I hardly surprising as most men would fuck a hole in the ground if it was damp....
Maybe I need to invest in travel, maybe attend a club, maybe get some better photos.. maybe just not be a slightly chubby stoner with a not too subtle lycra fetish...or just hang out on fetlife more. ????
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A profile photo of your feet and socks see more grass than anything if yourself.
Many fab people will not be turned on by grass
This op. You have said it yourself
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Like many single males I'm having a hard time, and not in a good way!!!
I've tried a few revisions of my profile and rarely get repliesto messages, despite making effort to write specifically to each profile.
Seems I'm popular with men, which I hardly surprising as most men would fuck a hole in the ground if it was damp....
Maybe I need to invest in travel, maybe attend a club, maybe get some better photos.. maybe just not be a slightly chubby stoner with a not too subtle lycra fetish...or just hang out on fetlife more. ????
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There is a post telling guys how to be was a long list of dos and donts
Slagging off males isn't nice
This op |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ohhhh that comment about men...well, it's my sense of humour, that can be taken or left.... I only speak from the heart with love..and from experience.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Really dont think we are here to go running or swimming lol and your profile needs a lot of work 420 is very off putting for me cant stand drugs "
I accept the comment on the profile, but my lifestyle interests are not for debate.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really dont think we are here to go running or swimming lol and your profile needs a lot of work 420 is very off putting for me cant stand drugs
I accept the comment on the profile, but my lifestyle interests are not for debate.
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No one was 'debating' your lifestyle interests
You asked for advice
And were told that most women on here would be put off by stoners |
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"Really dont think we are here to go running or swimming lol and your profile needs a lot of work 420 is very off putting for me cant stand drugs
I accept the comment on the profile, but my lifestyle interests are not for debate.
No one was 'debating' your lifestyle interests
You asked for advice
And were told that most women on here would be put off by stoners"
This and thank you x |
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My advice would be as follows:
- Be honest and polite
- Don't get all hot and heavy in messages - 1-5.
- No dick pics on messages
- Send a face pic and a proper introduction
- Don't get all pissy when people turn you down or don't reply
- No copy and paste messages |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My advice would be as follows:
- Be honest and polite
- Don't get all hot and heavy in messages - 1-5.
- No dick pics on messages
- Send a face pic and a proper introduction
- Don't get all pissy when people turn you down or don't reply
- No copy and paste messages"
Thanks for something constructive. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Point one. This is posted in introductions. Point two. I never asked to be roasted by people who don't meet smokers, that should be glaringly obvious. Props to anyone offering something constructive. |
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"Like many single males I'm having a hard time, and not in a good way!!!
I've tried a few revisions of my profile and rarely get repliesto messages, despite making effort to write specifically to each profile.
Seems I'm popular with men, which I hardly surprising as most men would fuck a hole in the ground if it was damp....
Maybe I need to invest in travel, maybe attend a club, maybe get some better photos.. maybe just not be a slightly chubby stoner with a not too subtle lycra fetish...or just hang out on fetlife more. ????
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Tailoring messages specifically to each profile is good. However, no matter what you put into your message, people will still look at your profile and decide whether your are for them. As people above have said, there are several things that may detract you as an ideal candidate. Women are greatly outnumbered by men on here and can receive 100s of messages a day, so your profile needs to be exceptional to stand out. You’re not a bad looking guy, but a couple lines is not enough.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Point one. This is posted in introductions. Point two. I never asked to be roasted by people who don't meet smokers, that should be glaringly obvious. Props to anyone offering something constructive. "
So, you arent asking for advice?
I'm confused |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Point one. This is posted in introductions. Point two. I never asked to be roasted by people who don't meet smokers, that should be glaringly obvious. Props to anyone offering something constructive.
So, you arent asking for advice?
I'm confused"
Not directly, it's ambiguous. I posted as an intro, loads of people replied with advice, which is ok, but in the process disguised that as a dig at me for being a smoker.
Two things are true in that I don't mind advice on my profile, but hadn't posted in that thread... Also I didn't write a great post, the copy itself is a confusing read, and I got slightly roasted for it.
Advice taken none the less. |
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"Point one. This is posted in introductions. Point two. I never asked to be roasted by people who don't meet smokers, that should be glaringly obvious. Props to anyone offering something constructive.
So, you arent asking for advice?
I'm confused"
Hes only wanting advice that suits him x |
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"Point one. This is posted in introductions. Point two. I never asked to be roasted by people who don't meet smokers, that should be glaringly obvious. Props to anyone offering something constructive.
So, you arent asking for advice?
I'm confused
Not directly, it's ambiguous. I posted as an intro, loads of people replied with advice, which is ok, but in the process disguised that as a dig at me for being a smoker.
Two things are true in that I don't mind advice on my profile, but hadn't posted in that thread... Also I didn't write a great post, the copy itself is a confusing read, and I got slightly roasted for it.
Advice taken none the less. "
Never roasted you ... you jumped to that conclusion yourself simply said it would put me off meeting you .... as you stated you were having a hard time getting a meet and with that attitude I can now understand why |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The best advice would be to make your profile interesting as possible to others. Get their interest and you may get to meet them if you don't you definitely won't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Point one. This is posted in introductions. Point two. I never asked to be roasted by people who don't meet smokers, that should be glaringly obvious. Props to anyone offering something constructive.
So, you arent asking for advice?
I'm confused
Not directly, it's ambiguous. I posted as an intro, loads of people replied with advice, which is ok, but in the process disguised that as a dig at me for being a smoker.
Two things are true in that I don't mind advice on my profile, but hadn't posted in that thread... Also I didn't write a great post, the copy itself is a confusing read, and I got slightly roasted for it.
Advice taken none the less.
Never roasted you ... you jumped to that conclusion yourself simply said it would put me off meeting you .... as you stated you were having a hard time getting a meet and with that attitude I can now understand why "
Don't you understand that if you're out off by smokers your opinion isn't valid to me, I accepted any concstuctive critism of my profile via a ( badly worded) intro post. There is a massive difference between critiquing a profile and a person. I don't think you got that balance right and felt you critizing me for having a kink for sporty ladies. It's not a massively productive use of my time, not sure about you but I've certainly learned something about reaching out to public forums.
I have every right to censor the advise I get. |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
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"Point one. This is posted in introductions. Point two. I never asked to be roasted by people who don't meet smokers, that should be glaringly obvious. Props to anyone offering something constructive.
So, you arent asking for advice?
I'm confused
Not directly, it's ambiguous. I posted as an intro, loads of people replied with advice, which is ok, but in the process disguised that as a dig at me for being a smoker.
Two things are true in that I don't mind advice on my profile, but hadn't posted in that thread... Also I didn't write a great post, the copy itself is a confusing read, and I got slightly roasted for it.
Advice taken none the less.
Never roasted you ... you jumped to that conclusion yourself simply said it would put me off meeting you .... as you stated you were having a hard time getting a meet and with that attitude I can now understand why
Don't you understand that if you're out off by smokers your opinion isn't valid to me, I accepted any concstuctive critism of my profile via a ( badly worded) intro post. There is a massive difference between critiquing a profile and a person. I don't think you got that balance right and felt you critizing me for having a kink for sporty ladies. It's not a massively productive use of my time, not sure about you but I've certainly learned something about reaching out to public forums.
I have every right to censor the advise I get. "
I think she was just advising you that being 420 friendly puts her off so it may a factor in other women being put off thats all hence it may add to you not having much luck getting meets.Hardly roasting you for it. |
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"Point one. This is posted in introductions. Point two. I never asked to be roasted by people who don't meet smokers, that should be glaringly obvious. Props to anyone offering something constructive.
So, you arent asking for advice?
I'm confused
Not directly, it's ambiguous. I posted as an intro, loads of people replied with advice, which is ok, but in the process disguised that as a dig at me for being a smoker.
Two things are true in that I don't mind advice on my profile, but hadn't posted in that thread... Also I didn't write a great post, the copy itself is a confusing read, and I got slightly roasted for it.
Advice taken none the less.
Never roasted you ... you jumped to that conclusion yourself simply said it would put me off meeting you .... as you stated you were having a hard time getting a meet and with that attitude I can now understand why
Don't you understand that if you're out off by smokers your opinion isn't valid to me, I accepted any concstuctive critism of my profile via a ( badly worded) intro post. There is a massive difference between critiquing a profile and a person. I don't think you got that balance right and felt you critizing me for having a kink for sporty ladies. It's not a massively productive use of my time, not sure about you but I've certainly learned something about reaching out to public forums.
I have every right to censor the advise I get. "
Wont say no more sorry you feel I have " roasted " you was never my intention good luck ... |
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"Point one. This is posted in introductions. Point two. I never asked to be roasted by people who don't meet smokers, that should be glaringly obvious. Props to anyone offering something constructive.
So, you arent asking for advice?
I'm confused
Not directly, it's ambiguous. I posted as an intro, loads of people replied with advice, which is ok, but in the process disguised that as a dig at me for being a smoker.
Two things are true in that I don't mind advice on my profile, but hadn't posted in that thread... Also I didn't write a great post, the copy itself is a confusing read, and I got slightly roasted for it.
Advice taken none the less.
Never roasted you ... you jumped to that conclusion yourself simply said it would put me off meeting you .... as you stated you were having a hard time getting a meet and with that attitude I can now understand why
Don't you understand that if you're out off by smokers your opinion isn't valid to me, I accepted any concstuctive critism of my profile via a ( badly worded) intro post. There is a massive difference between critiquing a profile and a person. I don't think you got that balance right and felt you critizing me for having a kink for sporty ladies. It's not a massively productive use of my time, not sure about you but I've certainly learned something about reaching out to public forums.
I have every right to censor the advise I get.
I think she was just advising you that being 420 friendly puts her off so it may a factor in other women being put off thats all hence it may add to you not having much luck getting meets.Hardly roasting you for it. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dear OP,
I have decided to comment on your post even though I don't meet smokers so my opinion will not be relevant to you. However, you did post on the open forum, where anyone can express their opinion.
The 420 advice is relevant and is not, in the slightest, a dig at your lifestyle. There are plenty of Fabbers, myself included, who are turned off by people using drugs. On the other hand, there are quite plenty of those who either don't mind or pursue drug users. So yes, your lifestyle is limiting your choice on here, but it's your life so live it however you want.
More pics for your profile would be good, also I'd suggest not limiting yourself to just Fab as your outlet for looking to meet people. Organised socials and clubs are good as then your personality can shine through, in a way it is not possible via online interaction.
As there are way more men than women and couples on Fab, patience goes a long way.
Good luck and happy fabbing. |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"Dear OP,
I have decided to comment on your post even though I don't meet smokers so my opinion will not be relevant to you. However, you did post on the open forum, where anyone can express their opinion.
The 420 advice is relevant and is not, in the slightest, a dig at your lifestyle. There are plenty of Fabbers, myself included, who are turned off by people using drugs. On the other hand, there are quite plenty of those who either don't mind or pursue drug users. So yes, your lifestyle is limiting your choice on here, but it's your life so live it however you want.
More pics for your profile would be good, also I'd suggest not limiting yourself to just Fab as your outlet for looking to meet people. Organised socials and clubs are good as then your personality can shine through, in a way it is not possible via online interaction.
As there are way more men than women and couples on Fab, patience goes a long way.
Good luck and happy fabbing."
Absolutely PERFECT!
Great summary of pretty much all advice on such posts.
I suggest we copy and paste this whenever this subject crops up (which seems to be on a weekly basis). lol |
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