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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's pretty obvious that the men on this site outnumber the women and couples lol
So I've often wondered how women work their way through the many messages that they get, what factors afce t whether a single guy gets a reply...
Apologies is this has been covered before  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I look at the profile and the message. 98% of the time it's clear that either my profile hasn't been read, or been read but ignored. I don't bother replying to those. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are right OP, us ladies can afford to be picky as there are so many single guys on here.
This is how I filter my messages.
No profile pic - delete
Local to me - delete
One word or very short message - delete
Obviously not read my profile - delete
Read my profile, but think they are the exception - delete
Check pics and I don’t fancy them - delete
Look at interests, if it doesn’t list safe sex - delete
I know this seems really ruthless, but I literally woke up to over twenty messages this morning and not one of them made it through  it can be frustrating.
I would suggest, putting in the effort to read a woman or couples profile, and tailoring your first message so it is relevant to them, it doesn’t have to be a novel but more than a short sentence is best and, personally I like someone who comes across as friendly and isn’t crude. I hope that helps a bit.
Penny xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You are right OP, us ladies can afford to be picky as there are so many single guys on here.
This is how I filter my messages.
No profile pic - delete
Local to me - delete
One word or very short message - delete
Obviously not read my profile - delete
Read my profile, but think they are the exception - delete
Check pics and I don’t fancy them - delete
Look at interests, if it doesn’t list safe sex - delete
I know this seems really ruthless, but I literally woke up to over twenty messages this morning and not one of them made it through it can be frustrating.
I would suggest, putting in the effort to read a woman or couples profile, and tailoring your first message so it is relevant to them, it doesn’t have to be a novel but more than a short sentence is best and, personally I like someone who comes across as friendly and isn’t crude. I hope that helps a bit.
Penny xx"
Thank you that's really helpful!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Reading my profile is the key. Lot of men don't and still message me. They shouldn't be surprised if they don't get a response or get blocked."
Ive definitely found that reading a profile saves a lot of wasted time, but I can't lie I've been guilty of seeing pictures and getting lost in lust and messaging straight away lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Reading my profile is the key. Lot of men don't and still message me. They shouldn't be surprised if they don't get a response or get blocked.
Ive definitely found that reading a profile saves a lot of wasted time, but I can't lie I've been guilty of seeing pictures and getting lost in lust and messaging straight away lol "
Then I think you've answered your question there   |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"You are right OP, us ladies can afford to be picky as there are so many single guys on here.
This is how I filter my messages.
No profile pic - delete
Local to me - delete
One word or very short message - delete
Obviously not read my profile - delete
Read my profile, but think they are the exception - delete
Check pics and I don’t fancy them - delete
Look at interests, if it doesn’t list safe sex - delete
I know this seems really ruthless, but I literally woke up to over twenty messages this morning and not one of them made it through it can be frustrating.
I would suggest, putting in the effort to read a woman or couples profile, and tailoring your first message so it is relevant to them, it doesn’t have to be a novel but more than a short sentence is best and, personally I like someone who comes across as friendly and isn’t crude. I hope that helps a bit.
Penny xx"
Exactly this!!  xx |
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Got to admit, this is why I use winks, in the hope a lady will look at my profile and wink back if she likes what she sees. Do think they are under used on here because it should save time and break the ice.
It does get a little tedious if I have to analyse 30 profiles to write to 30 women when statistically 3 (or less) will be interested regardless of if I wrote the perfect message...
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My decision process is even simpler: if he has read the profile and sounds like someone I can have a conversation with, we have one. A proper introduction (a name and a face) in the first or second message also helps. |
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"A message from a cock as avatar is an instant delete. No need to check the profile."
Certain irony with your profile avatar.
And a cock avatar increases profile visits by a good 50%. So you wanna see it but don't wanna be messaged by it???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Top to bottom speed reeding and deleting as I go or a quick no thanks but that brings its problems.
But this weekend I just haven't bothered to open any and its been far more relaxing. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"A message from a cock as avatar is an instant delete. No need to check the profile.
Certain irony with your profile avatar.
And a cock avatar increases profile visits by a good 50%. So you wanna see it but don't wanna be messaged by it????"
Is that profile visits from men or women though? Don't get me wrong I'm not complaining, I'll happily look at dicks all day long. |
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"A message from a cock as avatar is an instant delete. No need to check the profile.
Certain irony with your profile avatar.
And a cock avatar increases profile visits by a good 50%. So you wanna see it but don't wanna be messaged by it????"
No idea. I am not part of this statistics but suspect it is mostly couples and men looking. |
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"You are right OP, us ladies can afford to be picky as there are so many single guys on here.
This is how I filter my messages.
No profile pic - delete
Local to me - delete
One word or very short message - delete
Obviously not read my profile - delete
Read my profile, but think they are the exception - delete
Check pics and I don’t fancy them - delete
Look at interests, if it doesn’t list safe sex - delete
I know this seems really ruthless, but I literally woke up to over twenty messages this morning and not one of them made it through it can be frustrating.
I would suggest, putting in the effort to read a woman or couples profile, and tailoring your first message so it is relevant to them, it doesn’t have to be a novel but more than a short sentence is best and, personally I like someone who comes across as friendly and isn’t crude. I hope that helps a bit.
Penny xx"
Exactly the same as I do Penny you hit it on the head.....x |
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No picture - delete
Not local - delete
Nothing/1 sentence written on profile-delete
Cannot accommodate - delete
First msg is crude - delete
I know this sounds like I am really picky but I get so many messages every day that I need a system.
Plus I know guys get annoyed when women don't reply even to say no thanks but when you get loads of msgs it's hard to find time to reply to them all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No picture - delete
Not local - delete
Nothing/1 sentence written on profile-delete
Cannot accommodate - delete
First msg is crude - delete
I know this sounds like I am really picky but I get so many messages every day that I need a system.
Plus I know guys get annoyed when women don't reply even to say no thanks but when you get loads of msgs it's hard to find time to reply to them all"
That last statement is so true. Especially because so often a no thanks just seems to start a conversation as to why. Or in telling me I'm making a mistake |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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Mostly I have all my message filters on so I can’t receive any. This just saves me endlessly reading crap messages from guys that obviously haven’t read my profile and “wanna fuck in my car/van now” mostly.
This means I browse profiles and I will sometimes contact someone I like the look of. If you are posting on the forums it makes you more noticeable, but you would then have to have an interesting profile with more than a couple of sentences telling me something about the type of person you are.
I also browse local profiles that can accommodate and any local updates that catch my eye.
Sometimes if I have been rejected a few times, or if I am just feeling a bit low, I will open my filters for 10 minutes. It’s usually enough to boost my ego    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A message from a cock as avatar is an instant delete. No need to check the profile.
Certain irony with your profile avatar.
And a cock avatar increases profile visits by a good 50%. So you wanna see it but don't wanna be messaged by it????"
Not sure what you mean with the irony and my avatar..?
I don't wanna see a cock, nor do I want to be messaged by a cock. It says clearly in my profile. |
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Don’t send messages, women will find who they are attracted to
I barely chat to guys that message me, I enjoy picking the guys
A guy that’s sending me messages will be sending the same message to every other woman in the locality
Be patient and wait for the woman that finds you hot and not bothersome
Goes against the grain I know but it works |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Decent first message can normally tell from the opening line, even without opening the message if it’s going to be worth pursuing, also if the profile is written well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's pretty obvious that the men on this site outnumber the women and couples lol
So I've often wondered how women work their way through the many messages that they get, what factors afce t whether a single guy gets a reply...
Apologies is this has been covered before "
I read the profiles before the actual message.if a profile catches my interest then il reply but I usually always reply to all with a reply |
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If he has listed on his profile that he likes fuller figured women and verifications from ladies like myself then he has my attention. I'll reply and see how it goes from there.
I don't get hundreds of messages as my filters are on point, so I get to reply to 90% of my messages even if it's ano thanks. |
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If he includes a photo of his face, and definitely not his cock, if his profile is friendly and humourous, if he comes across as a nice, normal guy, if he speaks to me in a respectful manner, if he isn't pushy and demanding, if he tells me something about himself, if it isn't obviously a copy and paste message, then I will reply. |
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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago
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"It's pretty obvious that the men on this site outnumber the women and couples lol
So I've often wondered how women work their way through the many messages that they get, what factors afce t whether a single guy gets a reply...
ask yourself this question when was the last time you got s message of a single woman.Even women you wouldnt look at twice get bombarded with messages got to tell you something.
Apologies is this has been covered before "
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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago
DERBY/Notts border |
"It's pretty obvious that the men on this site outnumber the women and couples lol
So I've often wondered how women work their way through the many messages that they get, what factors afce t whether a single guy gets a reply...
ask yourself this question when was the last time you got s message of a single woman.Even women you wouldnt look at twice get bombarded with messages got to tell you something.
Apologies is this has been covered before "
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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago
DERBY/Notts border |
"It's pretty obvious that the men on this site outnumber the women and couples lol
So I've often wondered how women work their way through the many messages that they get, what factors afce t whether a single guy gets a reply...
ask yourself this question when was the last time you got s message of a single woman.Even women you wouldnt look at twice get bombarded with messages got to tell you something.
Apologies is this has been covered before "
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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago
DERBY/Notts border |
"It's pretty obvious that the men on this site outnumber the women and couples lol
So I've often wondered how women work their way through the many messages that they get, what factors afce t whether a single guy gets a reply...
ask yourself this question when was the last time you got s message of a single woman.Even women you wouldnt look at twice get bombarded with messages got to tell you something.
Apologies is this has been covered before "
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"If he includes a photo of his face, and definitely not his cock, if his profile is friendly and humourous, if he comes across as a nice, normal guy, if he speaks to me in a respectful manner, if he isn't pushy and demanding, if he tells me something about himself, if it isn't obviously a copy and paste message, then I will reply."
To be honest that sounds like terrifically hard work |
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"If he includes a photo of his face, and definitely not his cock, if his profile is friendly and humourous, if he comes across as a nice, normal guy, if he speaks to me in a respectful manner, if he isn't pushy and demanding, if he tells me something about himself, if it isn't obviously a copy and paste message, then I will reply.
To be honest that sounds like terrifically hard work "
Terrifically so..there's not many men up to the job |
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"If he includes a photo of his face, and definitely not his cock, if his profile is friendly and humourous, if he comes across as a nice, normal guy, if he speaks to me in a respectful manner, if he isn't pushy and demanding, if he tells me something about himself, if it isn't obviously a copy and paste message, then I will reply.
To be honest that sounds like terrifically hard work
Terrifically so..there's not many men up to the job "
Well in any case I do hope you liked the cock shot |
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"If he includes a photo of his face, and definitely not his cock, if his profile is friendly and humourous, if he comes across as a nice, normal guy, if he speaks to me in a respectful manner, if he isn't pushy and demanding, if he tells me something about himself, if it isn't obviously a copy and paste message, then I will reply.
To be honest that sounds like terrifically hard work
Terrifically so..there's not many men up to the job
Well in any case I do hope you liked the cock shot "
You'd better be kidding! |
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"If he includes a photo of his face, and definitely not his cock, if his profile is friendly and humourous, if he comes across as a nice, normal guy, if he speaks to me in a respectful manner, if he isn't pushy and demanding, if he tells me something about himself, if it isn't obviously a copy and paste message, then I will reply.
To be honest that sounds like terrifically hard work
Terrifically so..there's not many men up to the job
Well in any case I do hope you liked the cock shot
You'd better be kidding!"
When the boaby is involved, there’s no kidding |
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"If he includes a photo of his face, and definitely not his cock, if his profile is friendly and humourous, if he comes across as a nice, normal guy, if he speaks to me in a respectful manner, if he isn't pushy and demanding, if he tells me something about himself, if it isn't obviously a copy and paste message, then I will reply.
To be honest that sounds like terrifically hard work
Terrifically so..there's not many men up to the job
Well in any case I do hope you liked the cock shot
You'd better be kidding!
When the boaby is involved, there’s no kidding "
Well you didn't say it was a boaby...boaby pics are welcome! |
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"If he includes a photo of his face, and definitely not his cock, if his profile is friendly and humourous, if he comes across as a nice, normal guy, if he speaks to me in a respectful manner, if he isn't pushy and demanding, if he tells me something about himself, if it isn't obviously a copy and paste message, then I will reply.
To be honest that sounds like terrifically hard work
Terrifically so..there's not many men up to the job
Well in any case I do hope you liked the cock shot
You'd better be kidding!
When the boaby is involved, there’s no kidding
Well you didn't say it was a boaby...boaby pics are welcome!"
Huzzah! |
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"If he includes a photo of his face, and definitely not his cock, if his profile is friendly and humourous, if he comes across as a nice, normal guy, if he speaks to me in a respectful manner, if he isn't pushy and demanding, if he tells me something about himself, if it isn't obviously a copy and paste message, then I will reply.
To be honest that sounds like terrifically hard work
Terrifically so..there's not many men up to the job
Well in any case I do hope you liked the cock shot
You'd better be kidding!
When the boaby is involved, there’s no kidding
Well you didn't say it was a boaby...boaby pics are welcome!
Huzzah! "
It makes me think of Still Game and Chewin the Fat |
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"If he includes a photo of his face, and definitely not his cock, if his profile is friendly and humourous, if he comes across as a nice, normal guy, if he speaks to me in a respectful manner, if he isn't pushy and demanding, if he tells me something about himself, if it isn't obviously a copy and paste message, then I will reply.
To be honest that sounds like terrifically hard work
Terrifically so..there's not many men up to the job
Well in any case I do hope you liked the cock shot
You'd better be kidding!
When the boaby is involved, there’s no kidding
Well you didn't say it was a boaby...boaby pics are welcome!
Huzzah!
It makes me think of Still Game and Chewin the Fat "
Me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are right OP, us ladies can afford to be picky as there are so many single guys on here.
This is how I filter my messages.
No profile pic - delete
Local to me - delete
One word or very short message - delete
Obviously not read my profile - delete
Read my profile, but think they are the exception - delete
Check pics and I don’t fancy them - delete
Look at interests, if it doesn’t list safe sex - delete
I know this seems really ruthless, but I literally woke up to over twenty messages this morning and not one of them made it through it can be frustrating.
I would suggest, putting in the effort to read a woman or couples profile, and tailoring your first message so it is relevant to them, it doesn’t have to be a novel but more than a short sentence is best and, personally I like someone who comes across as friendly and isn’t crude. I hope that helps a bit.
Penny xx"
yep this 100% |
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"It's pretty obvious that the men on this site outnumber the women and couples lol
So I've often wondered how women work their way through the many messages that they get, what factors afce t whether a single guy gets a reply...
ask yourself this question when was the last time you got s message of a single woman.Even women you wouldnt look at twice get bombarded with messages got to tell you something.
Apologies is this has been covered before "
Utter rubbish. I prefer to message guys. I know plenty women that will message first.
Also, as for being bombarded with messages, you've no idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I smile at some guys saying women don't message guys as this is simply not true a lot of women do. What these guys who don't get first messages from women need to do is ask themselves why not them but it shouldn't be hard to work out for most. |
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"You are right OP, us ladies can afford to be picky as there are so many single guys on here.
This is how I filter my messages.
No profile pic - delete
Local to me - delete
One word or very short message - delete
Obviously not read my profile - delete
Read my profile, but think they are the exception - delete
Check pics and I don’t fancy them - delete
Look at interests, if it doesn’t list safe sex - delete
I know this seems really ruthless, but I literally woke up to over twenty messages this morning and not one of them made it through it can be frustrating.
I would suggest, putting in the effort to read a woman or couples profile, and tailoring your first message so it is relevant to them, it doesn’t have to be a novel but more than a short sentence is best and, personally I like someone who comes across as friendly and isn’t crude. I hope that helps a bit.
Penny xx"
This! If guys dont read my profile now it gets deleted. Usually ignored but occasionally with a sarky comment reply about not reading my profile. |
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"A message from a cock as avatar is an instant delete. No need to check the profile.
Certain irony with your profile avatar.
And a cock avatar increases profile visits by a good 50%. So you wanna see it but don't wanna be messaged by it????
Not sure what you mean with the irony and my avatar..?
I don't wanna see a cock, nor do I want to be messaged by a cock. It says clearly in my profile."
You previous avatar was a shot of in between your legs. Even in lingerie, that’s by design to make people notice your profile... so when you say no to cock avatars it’s ironic as in general “you want to see it at some stage, but don’t want to be messaged by it”. Women in general and couples visit my page more when there is a cock avatar more then any other image.
I must admit I read profiles and send messages based on what’s written, usually with a polite compliment and never with vulgarity or distaste, or an included cock attachment. No replies. Or at least very rare maybe 1 a month.
Starting to think I should just be rude n hope the cocky approach works...?.?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's pretty obvious that the men on this site outnumber the women and couples lol
So I've often wondered how women work their way through the many messages that they get, what factors afce t whether a single guy gets a reply...
Apologies is this has been covered before "
yes its been covered but it will be covered again, women dont know what they want themselves but i think its a great idea to ask them up front like this so they put it down in writing but always photograph the evidence  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A message from a cock as avatar is an instant delete. No need to check the profile.
Certain irony with your profile avatar.
And a cock avatar increases profile visits by a good 50%. So you wanna see it but don't wanna be messaged by it????
Not sure what you mean with the irony and my avatar..?
I don't wanna see a cock, nor do I want to be messaged by a cock. It says clearly in my profile.
You previous avatar was a shot of in between your legs. Even in lingerie, that’s by design to make people notice your profile... so when you say no to cock avatars it’s ironic as in general “you want to see it at some stage, but don’t want to be messaged by it”. Women in general and couples visit my page more when there is a cock avatar more then any other image.
I must admit I read profiles and send messages based on what’s written, usually with a polite compliment and never with vulgarity or distaste, or an included cock attachment. No replies. Or at least very rare maybe 1 a month.
Starting to think I should just be rude n hope the cocky approach works...?.?
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Exactly - my previous avatar was a picture of me wearing lingerie. Nowhere in my profile you will find a naked vagina as I don't need to get attention that way. If your profile is visited more when you display your cock - well I am not amongst those women who look for a cock and decide to meet a man based on his cock. I'm interested in person and I'm a fan of classy pictures. That's all. Happy fabbing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A message from a cock as avatar is an instant delete. No need to check the profile.
Certain irony with your profile avatar.
And a cock avatar increases profile visits by a good 50%. So you wanna see it but don't wanna be messaged by it????
Not sure what you mean with the irony and my avatar..?
I don't wanna see a cock, nor do I want to be messaged by a cock. It says clearly in my profile.
You previous avatar was a shot of in between your legs. Even in lingerie, that’s by design to make people notice your profile... so when you say no to cock avatars it’s ironic as in general “you want to see it at some stage, but don’t want to be messaged by it”. Women in general and couples visit my page more when there is a cock avatar more then any other image.
I must admit I read profiles and send messages based on what’s written, usually with a polite compliment and never with vulgarity or distaste, or an included cock attachment. No replies. Or at least very rare maybe 1 a month.
Starting to think I should just be rude n hope the cocky approach works...?.?
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All the above. Plus my new addition is removing all people with a status that involve whining about ‘timewasters’ and even more cringingly ‘dreamers’ or some stomach turning shite like ‘where are all the sluts at’...
I also just mass delete any winks and friend requests.
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"All the above. Plus my new addition is removing all people with a status that involve whining about ‘timewasters’ and even more cringingly ‘dreamers’ or some stomach turning shite like ‘where are all the sluts at’...
I also just mass delete any winks and friend requests.
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so basically...... everyone |
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"All the above. Plus my new addition is removing all people with a status that involve whining about ‘timewasters’ and even more cringingly ‘dreamers’ or some stomach turning shite like ‘where are all the sluts at’...
I also just mass delete any winks and friend requests.
so basically...... everyone "
Not true. I reply to my mum.... |
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"All the above. Plus my new addition is removing all people with a status that involve whining about ‘timewasters’ and even more cringingly ‘dreamers’ or some stomach turning shite like ‘where are all the sluts at’...
I also just mass delete any winks and friend requests.
so basically...... everyone
Not true. I reply to my mum...."
lol hey is she gorgeous? |
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"All the above. Plus my new addition is removing all people with a status that involve whining about ‘timewasters’ and even more cringingly ‘dreamers’ or some stomach turning shite like ‘where are all the sluts at’...
I also just mass delete any winks and friend requests.
so basically...... everyone
Not true. I reply to my mum....lol hey is she gorgeous? "
Of course she is. Move over all the others mums, even Stifler’s. |
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"A message from a cock as avatar is an instant delete. No need to check the profile.
Certain irony with your profile avatar.
And a cock avatar increases profile visits by a good 50%. So you wanna see it but don't wanna be messaged by it????
Not sure what you mean with the irony and my avatar..?
I don't wanna see a cock, nor do I want to be messaged by a cock. It says clearly in my profile."
Says the same in mine too...and I dont look for straight guys...however its useful to sift out the ones who cant be arsed to read the profile
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"You are right OP, us ladies can afford to be picky as there are so many single guys on here.
This is how I filter my messages.
No profile pic - delete
Local to me - delete
One word or very short message - delete
Obviously not read my profile - delete
Read my profile, but think they are the exception - delete
Check pics and I don’t fancy them - delete
Look at interests, if it doesn’t list safe sex - delete
I know this seems really ruthless, but I literally woke up to over twenty messages this morning and not one of them made it through it can be frustrating.
I would suggest, putting in the effort to read a woman or couples profile, and tailoring your first message so it is relevant to them, it doesn’t have to be a novel but more than a short sentence is best and, personally I like someone who comes across as friendly and isn’t crude. I hope that helps a bit.
Penny xx
Exactly this!! xx"
Me too
Plus if more than 20 messages I mass delete. |
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"No picture - delete
Not local - delete
Nothing/1 sentence written on profile-delete
Cannot accommodate - delete
First msg is crude - delete
I know this sounds like I am really picky but I get so many messages every day that I need a system.
Plus I know guys get annoyed when women don't reply even to say no thanks but when you get loads of msgs it's hard to find time to reply to them all"
My system is pretty much the same but I respond with a “no thank you” rather than just delete...but that can bring it’s own issues... |
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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago
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Each person is different.
If you look at my profile, it's a bit bland, dosn't really sell in a fantastic sense, however, it also dosn't lie.
No pic as a profile, but still get the odd message, and if people are polite, get the odd message back.
At the same time, I don't send that many message's out, could be why I don't get many back!
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By *j1963Couple
over a year ago
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- Got to have a profile pic
- go to include safe sex in bio
- none smoker
- preferable they can accommodate
- close enough (within 30mins drive) but not to close. I don’t wanna bum into you doing the food shop.
- Message needs to include face pic (I wanna see if I have chemistry with you and make sure we don’t know each other outside fans !!!)
- cock pic must be included. ( I know most girls disagree but I don’t wanna spend all night talking to you to be let down when I see it)
- veri are important and I know it must be hard if you have none but I’m unlikely to message you back if you don’t have at least one.
- bum pics put me off not sure why as I love a good bum
- girls bits close up also put me off. I wanna know your neat down there but tasteful pics ladies.
- men & ladies you got groom down there. Men it needs to be short and ideally minimal. Ladies the same minimal or smooth. I don’t wanna go looking through a forest.
- humour - love banter and cheekiness
- if you’ve read my profile, read veri’s or looked at pics and build a message from there. Even if I’m not initially interested I will generally take the time to reply because you’ve made the effort.
God us girls are hard work !
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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago
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"- Got to have a profile pic
- go to include safe sex in bio
- none smoker
- preferable they can accommodate
- close enough (within 30mins drive) but not to close. I don’t wanna bum into you doing the food shop.
- Message needs to include face pic (I wanna see if I have chemistry with you and make sure we don’t know each other outside fans !!!)
- cock pic must be included. ( I know most girls disagree but I don’t wanna spend all night talking to you to be let down when I see it)
- veri are important and I know it must be hard if you have none but I’m unlikely to message you back if you don’t have at least one.
- bum pics put me off not sure why as I love a good bum
- girls bits close up also put me off. I wanna know your neat down there but tasteful pics ladies.
- men & ladies you got groom down there. Men it needs to be short and ideally minimal. Ladies the same minimal or smooth. I don’t wanna go looking through a forest.
- humour - love banter and cheekiness
- if you’ve read my profile, read veri’s or looked at pics and build a message from there. Even if I’m not initially interested I will generally take the time to reply because you’ve made the effort.
God us girls are hard work !
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Now that would be different whilst food shopping!
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I decide when to contact a guy when yes made it easier for me to select him, as he appears potentially attractive to me. He's been respectful, communicated well - the basics - and shared pics that give me a full grasp of how he looks and what his interests are.
You'd imagine that those things wouldn't be too hard but it appears to be for a large amount of the men here. Each type of them have made it easier for me.- those who facilitated my attraction and that other lot who turned me off them by being dicks. That's the easier part - I don't want a man who shows he could be thoughtless or hard work.
I may respond to someone a little outside my typical range with interest and usually am generous but I also don't want to engage much with people who repeatedly demonstrate that they are making my message management tougher than it should be
Be fun, light and show you are thoughtful and you'll get my attention and response.
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"Got to admit, this is why I use winks, in the hope a lady will look at my profile and wink back if she likes what she sees. Do think they are under used on here because it should save time and break the ice.
It does get a little tedious if I have to analyse 30 profiles to write to 30 women when statistically 3 (or less) will be interested regardless of if I wrote the perfect message...
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Exactly this. When women openly admit they don't bother reading openers if they're not J to your profile, it seems like a pointless effort. |
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"Got to admit, this is why I use winks, in the hope a lady will look at my profile and wink back if she likes what she sees. Do think they are under used on here because it should save time and break the ice.
It does get a little tedious if I have to analyse 30 profiles to write to 30 women when statistically 3 (or less) will be interested regardless of if I wrote the perfect message...
Exactly this. When women openly admit they don't bother reading openers if they're not J to your profile, it seems like a pointless effort. "
Yep. I agree. A wink suits me much better. I wouldn't want someone agonising over what to write in a first message only for me not to find them attractive in the slightest. |
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"You are right OP, us ladies can afford to be picky as there are so many single guys on here.
This is how I filter my messages.
No profile pic - delete
Local to me - delete
One word or very short message - delete
Obviously not read my profile - delete
Read my profile, but think they are the exception - delete
Check pics and I don’t fancy them - delete
Look at interests, if it doesn’t list safe sex - delete
I know this seems really ruthless, but I literally woke up to over twenty messages this morning and not one of them made it through it can be frustrating.
I would suggest, putting in the effort to read a woman or couples profile, and tailoring your first message so it is relevant to them, it doesn’t have to be a novel but more than a short sentence is best and, personally I like someone who comes across as friendly and isn’t crude. I hope that helps a bit.
Penny xx"
Thank you for your insight this will help a lot |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"You are right OP, us ladies can afford to be picky as there are so many single guys on here.
This is how I filter my messages.
No profile pic - delete
Local to me - delete
One word or very short message - delete
Obviously not read my profile - delete
Read my profile, but think they are the exception - delete
Check pics and I don’t fancy them - delete
Look at interests, if it doesn’t list safe sex - delete
I know this seems really ruthless, but I literally woke up to over twenty messages this morning and not one of them made it through it can be frustrating.
I would suggest, putting in the effort to read a woman or couples profile, and tailoring your first message so it is relevant to them, it doesn’t have to be a novel but more than a short sentence is best and, personally I like someone who comes across as friendly and isn’t crude. I hope that helps a bit.
Penny xx"
**news flash**
Guys can be just as picky..its not only ladies gents can and do say no thanks.. I say no thanks more than I say yes please.
Know your worth op.. ladies may have more messages, its not compulsory for anyone to say yes please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's pretty obvious that the men on this site outnumber the women and couples lol
So I've often wondered how women work their way through the many messages that they get, what factors afce t whether a single guy gets a reply...
Apologies is this has been covered before "
I decide on the best cock pic! like most on here cock pics win every time  closer the better and a crime scene ruler or a handy reflection shot next to stanly tape measure secures the deal, iv`e gone off sky remotes n lynx as a classy lady! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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beats me they go out looking for a new pair of bed heels to local shopping mall they look in every shop but a shoe shop, they spend hundreds of pounds and have more bags than they can carry but alas no bed shoes for the greedy girls party that night |
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Be patient and wait for the woman that finds you hot and not bothersome
Goes against the grain I know but it works "
I'm trying that approach but I've already fallen foul of the "you've been on here over than a year with no verifications therefore must have three heads and webbed feet" crew. |
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I decide on the best cock pic! like most on here cock pics win every time closer the better and a crime scene ruler or a handy reflection shot next to stanly tape measure secures the deal, iv`e gone off sky remotes n lynx as a classy lady! "
Damn! Now that Lynx cans have been slightly downsized I was hoping it'd work in my favour. |
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"Personally I look at the profile and the message. 98% of the time it's clear that either my profile hasn't been read, or been read but ignored. I don't bother replying to those."
Couldn't agree more. If someone can't be bothered to read our profile then why should we bother.
However, on the flip side, it becomes immediately apparent when someone has read our profile, and that is a massive feather in their cap. |
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I decide on the best cock pic! like most on here cock pics win every time closer the better and a crime scene ruler or a handy reflection shot next to stanly tape measure secures the deal, iv`e gone off sky remotes n lynx as a classy lady!
Damn! Now that Lynx cans have been slightly downsized I was hoping it'd work in my favour. "
Lynx do mini cans if that helps  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I posted about my "encounters" on this site in the UK forum;
To answer you - I actually do try and respond to everyone. Even if it's to say sorry not interested. (I even say I am sorry I am not interested to the people who message they want to fist my asshole). I can log on to 50 messages waiting and another 30 building up as I write back - I try and respond just to be polite.
I've learned that many men are very put off on these sites because of the lack of a simple response - if even rejection. Its actually turned many into very cynical people, which is something that we need more of right? (Intentional sarcasm.) And it isnt difficult to copy and paste a simple no thank you.
So while I do empathize with women because we do get ridiculous amounts of mail, it literally only takes 10 minutes to respond to 40 plus emails with a quick "no thank you, but keep trying!".
Pendulum swings both ways!
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"You are right OP, us ladies can afford to be picky as there are so many single guys on here.
This is how I filter my messages.
No profile pic - delete
Local to me - delete
One word or very short message - delete
Obviously not read my profile - delete
Read my profile, but think they are the exception - delete
Check pics and I don’t fancy them - delete
Look at interests, if it doesn’t list safe sex - delete
I know this seems really ruthless, but I literally woke up to over twenty messages this morning and not one of them made it through it can be frustrating.
I would suggest, putting in the effort to read a woman or couples profile, and tailoring your first message so it is relevant to them, it doesn’t have to be a novel but more than a short sentence is best and, personally I like someone who comes across as friendly and isn’t crude. I hope that helps a bit.
Penny xx"
I'm exactly the same.. Plus more. One guy said i appear crazy having lists but when you get on average 20 plus messages a day... You need to be picky otherwise you might as well become an escort and make money out of sex rather it being a hobby lol |
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"I posted about my "encounters" on this site in the UK forum;
To answer you - I actually do try and respond to everyone. Even if it's to say sorry not interested. (I even say I am sorry I am not interested to the people who message they want to fist my asshole). I can log on to 50 messages waiting and another 30 building up as I write back - I try and respond just to be polite.
I've learned that many men are very put off on these sites because of the lack of a simple response - if even rejection. Its actually turned many into very cynical people, which is something that we need more of right? (Intentional sarcasm.) And it isnt difficult to copy and paste a simple no thank you.
So while I do empathize with women because we do get ridiculous amounts of mail, it literally only takes 10 minutes to respond to 40 plus emails with a quick "no thank you, but keep trying!".
Pendulum swings both ways!
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Still not practical as most men keep messaging even after i say no thanks |
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I decide on the best cock pic! like most on here cock pics win every time closer the better and a crime scene ruler or a handy reflection shot next to stanly tape measure secures the deal, iv`e gone off sky remotes n lynx as a classy lady!
Damn! Now that Lynx cans have been slightly downsized I was hoping it'd work in my favour. "
Noooo... Always ask for measurements! Lol but seriously at least the cana girth is the same right? As girth is better than length |
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I decide on the best cock pic! like most on here cock pics win every time closer the better and a crime scene ruler or a handy reflection shot next to stanly tape measure secures the deal, iv`e gone off sky remotes n lynx as a classy lady!
Damn! Now that Lynx cans have been slightly downsized I was hoping it'd work in my favour.
Noooo... Always ask for measurements! Lol but seriously at least the cana girth is the same right? As girth is better than length"
Fuk sakes iv`e messaged lynx manufacturers to get exact girth measurements in microns don`t wan`t other women get scammed out of a few mm`s |
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Damn! Now that Lynx cans have been slightly downsized I was hoping it'd work in my favour.
Noooo... Always ask for measurements! Lol but seriously at least the cana girth is the same right? As girth is better than length
Fuk sakes iv`e messaged lynx manufacturers to get exact girth measurements in microns don`t wan`t other women get scammed out of a few mm`s "
From 'girth' to 'mirth' in only two microns! Pictures available on request etc etc. For a small fee I'll even select the Lynx flavour of your choice. Or go continental with a can of 'Axe'... |
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"You are right OP, us ladies can afford to be picky as there are so many single guys on here.
This is how I filter my messages.
No profile pic - delete
Local to me - delete
One word or very short message - delete
Obviously not read my profile - delete
Read my profile, but think they are the exception - delete
Check pics and I don’t fancy them - delete
Look at interests, if it doesn’t list safe sex - delete
I know this seems really ruthless, but I literally woke up to over twenty messages this morning and not one of them made it through it can be frustrating.
I would suggest, putting in the effort to read a woman or couples profile, and tailoring your first message so it is relevant to them, it doesn’t have to be a novel but more than a short sentence is best and, personally I like someone who comes across as friendly and isn’t crude. I hope that helps a bit.
Penny xx"
Thank god its not just me that does all of the above |
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Damn! Now that Lynx cans have been slightly downsized I was hoping it'd work in my favour.
Noooo... Always ask for measurements! Lol but seriously at least the cana girth is the same right? As girth is better than length
Fuk sakes iv`e messaged lynx manufacturers to get exact girth measurements in microns don`t wan`t other women get scammed out of a few mm`s
From 'girth' to 'mirth' in only two microns! Pictures available on request etc etc. For a small fee I'll even select the Lynx flavour of your choice. Or go continental with a can of 'Axe'... "
Haha for a small fee! cheaper than pound shop knockoff linx |
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"Well, I'm not going to go and buy a can of a Lynx flavour I don't like just for photo! "
When times are hard Sky remote is on hand! plus i had no idea Lynx had flavours all smells horrid lol |
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