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The single male struggles
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello all, just reading through the forum, if a couple is a struggling what chance does a single male have?? I know there is more males than anything else on here, seems a lot of time and effort is needed here which is understandable, I come one for at least an hour a day, is this not enough? Or am I just having bad luck, be interested to hear your opinions.
Hope your all having more luck than me ha, thanks Al |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
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"I never been to a club before, it’s not far from me either tbh, rather go with someone, especially the first time there! Who’s been? "
No one's going to hold your hand. Everyone's friendly. The people that run it are lovely, just message townhouse twosome after doing a forum Search for townhouse  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have spoke to her a few times, I was supposed to go, forgive my language but I shit out ha, need to grow a pair an walk in don’t i ha "
I get the same feeling, my fear is that I can't perform when I get there |
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"I have spoke to her a few times, I was supposed to go, forgive my language but I shit out ha, need to grow a pair an walk in don’t i ha
I get the same feeling, my fear is that I can't perform when I get there "
Don't go to a club expecting to perform, go there to watch and learn to gain confidence |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have spoke to her a few times, I was supposed to go, forgive my language but I shit out ha, need to grow a pair an walk in don’t i ha
I get the same feeling, my fear is that I can't perform when I get there
Don't go to a club expecting to perform, go there to watch and learn to gain confidence"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ll be able to perform there no problem! Especially when I see body’s all over the place, it’s just the hidden rules these places must have, just a bit of a newbie like anything, obviously nervous, don’t know what to expect, |
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"I have spoke to her a few times, I was supposed to go, forgive my language but I shit out ha, need to grow a pair an walk in don’t i ha
I get the same feeling, my fear is that I can't perform when I get there "
"Performing" isn't compulsory, its not a "balls-to-the-wall" orgy as soon as you walk through the door you know!
Go with the mindset that you will chill out, maybe chat and make some friends, and perhaps even get to see some people having sex, and anything else is a bonus. |
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"I’ll be able to perform there no problem! Especially when I see body’s all over the place, it’s just the hidden rules these places must have, just a bit of a newbie like anything, obviously nervous, don’t know what to expect, "
There are no "hidden" rules.
just act as if you were in a pub on a normal night out, how would you interact with others there?
Hopefully you would strike up a conversation, be approachable and open, and keep it clean.
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"I’ll be able to perform there no problem! Especially when I see body’s all over the place, it’s just the hidden rules these places must have, just a bit of a newbie like anything, obviously nervous, don’t know what to expect, "
Hidden rules?? It's a swing club not fight club, only rules usually are be respectful to other people and no means no. Just go there to socialise and think of anything else as a bonus |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have spoke to her a few times, I was supposed to go, forgive my language but I shit out ha, need to grow a pair an walk in don’t i ha
I get the same feeling, my fear is that I can't perform when I get there
"Performing" isn't compulsory, its not a "balls-to-the-wall" orgy as soon as you walk through the door you know!
Go with the mindset that you will chill out, maybe chat and make some friends, and perhaps even get to see some people having sex, and anything else is a bonus."
yeah I know that ha, I guess it’s just a nerve thing with me, the initial walk through the door thing ha, thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have spoke to her a few times, I was supposed to go, forgive my language but I shit out ha, need to grow a pair an walk in don’t i ha
I get the same feeling, my fear is that I can't perform when I get there
"Performing" isn't compulsory, its not a "balls-to-the-wall" orgy as soon as you walk through the door you know!
Go with the mindset that you will chill out, maybe chat and make some friends, and perhaps even get to see some people having sex, and anything else is a bonus. yeah I know that ha, I guess it’s just a nerve thing with me, the initial walk through the door thing ha, thanks "
Just have a couple of drinks beforehand for Dutch courage, just don’t roll up pissed |
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It’s not about performing when you get there. It’s about building up the confidence to get to a club, get yourself seen, socialise. Etc. The second time will be easier. Talk to people. It always starts with a conversation. And like someone said, no one will hold your hand. Been to clubs on my own plenty of times. It gets easier immediately after the first time lol. Good luck |
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"Hello all, just reading through the forum, if a couple is a struggling what chance does a single male have?? I know there is more males than anything else on here, seems a lot of time and effort is needed here which is understandable, I come one for at least an hour a day, is this not enough? Or am I just having bad luck, be interested to hear your opinions.
Hope your all having more luck than me ha, thanks Al "
I have no idea why you don't get any. I would love your camper van and pup and u have a nice face and seem genuine.
Best of luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go to a couple of clubs let people get to know you and don’t be pushy that way you will get a couple of verifications . You should be okay after that.
It took me a couple of months but then it seemed okay. I have now been on here for eight to ten years now. I still get some time wasters both single women and couples but in general it’s not bad. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don’t go expecting to hit it off on your first time because it normally won’t happen just watch and learn and if you’re still uncertain about how it works talk to who ever is behind the bar and tell them that you’re a newby . They have tuns of knowledge |
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I'm 50 - reasonable build, intelligent in Newcastle.
Would like my virginity gone - It seems impossible to hook up with a woman.
They are sooo difficult !!
If only one says 'lets go to mine, yours or hotel' -I'll be happy
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"I have spoke to her a few times, I was supposed to go, forgive my language but I shit out ha, need to grow a pair an walk in don’t i ha
I get the same feeling, my fear is that I can't perform when I get there
"Performing" isn't compulsory, its not a "balls-to-the-wall" orgy as soon as you walk through the door you know!
^^^what he said
Go with the mindset that you will chill out, maybe chat and make some friends, and perhaps even get to see some people having sex, and anything else is a bonus."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"" bodies all over the place" ???? So funny when folk assume a club is wall to wall with naked folk! Haha! "
I was reading somewhere that only about 30 to 40 % of people who go to adult clubs have sex there, it seems to be more about socilising without the usual vanila club environment more than wall to wall sex. Having been a couple of times though I would agree it's not what we thought too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm 50 - reasonable build, intelligent in Newcastle.
Would like my virginity gone - It seems impossible to hook up with a woman.
They are sooo difficult !!
If only one says 'lets go to mine, yours or hotel' -I'll be happy
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You need to make your own thread rather than hijack somebody else's Buddy. |
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