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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi
As someone who plays as a unicorn and with FWB, I have the same problem playing with my partner(s): couples don't necessarily want to meet as we aren't a "married" couple. I find it a bit odd, tbh, what does the legitimacy of any relationship (committed, fab, hookup, or otherwise)have to do with fucking?
It almost seems like couples only want other committed couples or single females....because any other combination could spell disaster for their relationship??
So I feel your pain. |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
Shropshire/Midlands |
"Hi
As someone who plays as a unicorn and with FWB, I have the same problem playing with my partner(s): couples don't necessarily want to meet as we aren't a "married" couple. I find it a bit odd, tbh, what does the legitimacy of any relationship (committed, fab, hookup, or otherwise)have to do with fucking?
It almost seems like couples only want other committed couples or single females....because any other combination could spell disaster for their relationship??
So I feel your pain."
I find it puzzling, too. I understand it’s a preference for some, but for someone like myself who has been with my FWB for 8 years (more than some married couples), what would be the problem?
Btw, I don’t have problems getting messages, as a single! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Hi
As someone who plays as a unicorn and with FWB, I have the same problem playing with my partner(s): couples don't necessarily want to meet as we aren't a "married" couple. I find it a bit odd, tbh, what does the legitimacy of any relationship (committed, fab, hookup, or otherwise)have to do with fucking?
It almost seems like couples only want other committed couples or single females....because any other combination could spell disaster for their relationship??
So I feel your pain."
I've noticed a lot of this of late. Define a 'proper' couple, does this mean married only? Living together? In a committed relationship but not living together? Where do you draw the line? I see nothing wrong with fwb couples personally speaking. Sometimes a lot less hung up or insecure than proper couples can be. Some socials don't allow fwbs to attent either as they aren't 'proper' couples, which I think is a bit odd. Having said this, it does come down to preferences at the end of the day and they should be respected. |
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I think no pics of the male won't help,most couples want to see both people on a profile.
Plus you have limited meeting times and cannot accom.
We don't mind fwb couples as long as they aren't cheating on their own partners on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
As someone who plays as a unicorn and with FWB, I have the same problem playing with my partner(s): couples don't necessarily want to meet as we aren't a "married" couple. I find it a bit odd, tbh, what does the legitimacy of any relationship
(committed, fab, hookup, or otherwise)have to do with fucking?
It almost seems like couples only want other committed couples or single females....because any other combination could spell disaster for their relationship??
So I feel your pain.
I find it puzzling, too. I understand it’s a preference for some, but for someone like myself who has been with my FWB for 8 years (more than some married couples), what would be the problem?
Btw, I don’t have problems getting messages, as a single! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a FWB couple who are struggling with meets, so you think it's because we are not a permanent couple, thanks in advance for any advice Rob "
Provided everything else would be a match the sticking point for us would be no pictures of the male half. Also we'd be wary about potential other halves being cheated on. Not saying you are but it's the questions we'd be asking.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn't mind the FWB part, it's the weekdays only that would put us off.
M also says she like to see more of guys than just their cocks, as it matters to her. Maybe a whole body shot would help there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple, we may choose to play with singles, or we may choose to play with couples who are committed. We don’t care if they’re married but FWB isn’t the same as a couple. When everyone is committed to their relationship, you know that it is the same for everyone and everyone only wants to leave with who they came with. It wouldn’t destroy our relationship, it’s our preference to swing with partnered up couples who are in the same sort of situation as we are. Like everything here it’s preference not fragility.
I think your limited age range and meet times will be the real problem though as many people will meet FWB couples, although I suspect other couples feel as we do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi
As someone who plays as a unicorn and with FWB, I have the same problem playing with my partner(s): couples don't necessarily want to meet as we aren't a "married" couple. I find it a bit odd, tbh, what does the legitimacy of any relationship (committed, fab, hookup, or otherwise)have to do with fucking?
It almost seems like couples only want other committed couples or single females....because any other combination could spell disaster for their relationship??
So I feel your pain.
I find it puzzling, too. I understand it’s a preference for some, but for someone like myself who has been with my FWB for 8 years (more than some married couples), what would be the problem?
Btw, I don’t have problems getting messages, as a single! "
I think if you’ve been with that person 8 years in the community, it’s different than the usual case of two people just connecting to get couple meets which can make couples hesitant. We have been together almost 20 years, we don’t want to hook up with people who may be looking to date and don’t have a commitment to one another. 8 years is a commitment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Playing with couples who are in love and committed to each other gives us a added enjoyment as we share our partners with each other.
There isn't that bond of love between fb or fwb couples. Therefore the added excitement isn't there for us anyway.
C and P |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi. I'm new to all this but from what I see the key is patience, being clear and sticking to what you're looking for, and engaging in conversation/chats/socials to build up connections. It's not easy but I hope persevering will eventually pay off with some great friends to share adventures with?? |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
We aren't bothered by FWB couples. We would meet if there is an attraction, etc. However reading your profile I could see a few points:
Age range is really limited ours for example is very diverse. I understand that's you're preference but this may be one reason.
Can't accommodate. We can't either and we know this affects our play as we're relying on others. We don't accommodate because we have a child at home.
Day time meets only and never weekends. I could be reading into things here but it sounds me like you both have husband's/wives at home and play together during the week.
Fab is difficult most couples we chat to are struggling too. We go through spells. But we've got a regular couple of couples we see. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Havent read the profile however fwb couples are off putting, we dont know the intimacy of your relationship, dont know how you are together etc, may not come into a sexual relationship but it does with a social. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Playing with couples who are in love and committed to each other gives us a added enjoyment as we share our partners with each other.
There isn't that bond of love between fb or fwb couples. Therefore the added excitement isn't there for us anyway.
C and P "
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
Playing devil's advocate here, but feel that some "proper" couples may feel threatened or insecure about their own relationship which is perhaps why they are worried about meeting fb or fwb in case one half is unfaithful or leaves the relationship for one of the fb or fwb, who are in effect, still single. Call me cynical, but I get this impression with some. |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Playing devil's advocate here, but feel that some "proper" couples may feel threatened or insecure about their own relationship which is perhaps why they are worried about meeting fb or fwb in case one half is unfaithful or leaves the relationship for one of the fb or fwb, who are in effect, still single. Call me cynical, but I get this impression with some. "
I think there's some truth in the this! But then I don't think if you're insecure in your relationship you should be swinging. Just my opinion |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"To me...and I may be wrong, your profile gives off a "we are married but not to each other" vibe, and that would put us off, can do without the drama if it all goes sideways lol!  "
That's what I read! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Playing devil's advocate here, but feel that some "proper" couples may feel threatened or insecure about their own relationship which is perhaps why they are worried about meeting fb or fwb in case one half is unfaithful or leaves the relationship for one of the fb or fwb, who are in effect, still single. Call me cynical, but I get this impression with some.
I think there's some truth in the this! But then I don't think if you're insecure in your relationship you should be swinging. Just my opinion"
Definitely not. I think some use it as a patch which means it will be the absolute opposite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Playing devil's advocate here, but feel that some "proper" couples may feel threatened or insecure about their own relationship which is perhaps why they are worried about meeting fb or fwb in case one half is unfaithful or leaves the relationship for one of the fb or fwb, who are in effect, still single. Call me cynical, but I get this impression with some. "
Exactly this?? |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Playing devil's advocate here, but feel that some "proper" couples may feel threatened or insecure about their own relationship which is perhaps why they are worried about meeting fb or fwb in case one half is unfaithful or leaves the relationship for one of the fb or fwb, who are in effect, still single. Call me cynical, but I get this impression with some.
I think there's some truth in the this! But then I don't think if you're insecure in your relationship you should be swinging. Just my opinion
Definitely not. I think some use it as a patch which means it will be the absolute opposite. "
Yes some use it that way for sure or one is into but the other is doing it for them. We've seen some of this.
My only caution with FWB couples is that they're playing away from home. Which is not something we like to partake in. Each to their own but I dont wanna be involved in it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My only caution with FWB couples is that they're playing away from home. Which is not something we like to partake in. Each to their own but I dont wanna be involved in it! "
So...in theory (I haven't checked the details of your profile to know specifics) you would be happy to play with a single female who is playing away from home ...but introduce another man and it's drama? |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
Plymouth |
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My only caution with FWB couples is that they're playing away from home. Which is not something we like to partake in. Each to their own but I dont wanna be involved in it!
So...in theory (I haven't checked the details of your profile to know specifics) you would be happy to play with a single female who is playing away from home ...but introduce another man and it's drama? "
Nope we wouldn't play with anyone who was playing away! Male or female. Couples who have consent to play separate is fine but not cheating!
Curious what gave you that impression?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Playing with couples who are in love and committed to each other gives us a added enjoyment as we share our partners with each other.
There isn't that bond of love between fb or fwb couples. Therefore the added excitement isn't there for us anyway.
C and P "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Playing devil's advocate here, but feel that some "proper" couples may feel threatened or insecure about their own relationship which is perhaps why they are worried about meeting fb or fwb in case one half is unfaithful or leaves the relationship for one of the fb or fwb, who are in effect, still single. Call me cynical, but I get this impression with some. "
This may well be true of some but as C said above it isn’t the reason for our choices. We do meet with singles, male and female, and have toyed with the idea of solo meets (so far only got around to solo separate room play). When we play with a couple we are looking for something different. It can be surprisingly hard to find two people who we both like and both fancy - especially given that most profiles have only pics of the lady with an occasional cock shot (wtf is it with men and their cocks?). We find it easier with couples, if we click with one there are usually common tastes that mean we will click with the other. If we wanted 2 singles who are happy to fuck we would be more likely to attempt arrange two that we know rather than randoms. Seems silly and like so much of life there are no hard and fast rules. There are doubtless fwb couples with more in common and greater compatibility than some married people but it is a filter we find useful.
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
"Playing devil's advocate here, but feel that some "proper" couples may feel threatened or insecure about their own relationship which is perhaps why they are worried about meeting fb or fwb in case one half is unfaithful or leaves the relationship for one of the fb or fwb, who are in effect, still single. Call me cynical, but I get this impression with some.
Exactly this??"
I would hope that there are not couples that feel threatened or insecure about their relationship, they shouldn’t be swinging if that’s the case as it can’t be making them happy if they feel like that. It’s difficult to find a couple where all four people are attracted, thats the biggest problem, not if they are a true couple and if meeting fwb you may as well just meet a single guy and single girl at the same time lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We will mostly only play with couples who are in love, i think its because there is a greater meaning behind it and i guess a little idea in our minds, that the couple would be more respectful of boundries and not take the piss.
However we are still very new so this could be all ignorance. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Playing devil's advocate here, but feel that some "proper" couples may feel threatened or insecure about their own relationship which is perhaps why they are worried about meeting fb or fwb in case one half is unfaithful or leaves the relationship for one of the fb or fwb, who are in effect, still single. Call me cynical, but I get this impression with some.
I think there's some truth in the this! But then I don't think if you're insecure in your relationship you should be swinging. Just my opinion
Definitely not. I think some use it as a patch which means it will be the absolute opposite.
Yes some use it that way for sure or one is into but the other is doing it for them. We've seen some of this.
My only caution with FWB couples is that they're playing away from home. Which is not something we like to partake in. Each to their own but I dont wanna be involved in it! "
Totally agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So if we aren’t living “together “ mean we are not real couple?  "
Not sure who that question was aimed at but if it was in reply to my previous comment then the answer is not at all. We accept at face value if a profile says couple (yours actually mentions being in love, a big tick for us) but there are others that state that they are FWB or similar. |
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Absolutely not but whereas we are in your area regularly (Dudley, either the Village or Copthorne) we are four years outside your age range and can't message you?
That could be a problem for others too?
Happy Fabbing. |
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By *ibob300Couple
over a year ago
north east |
"We are a FWB couple who are struggling with meets, so you think it's because we are not a permanent couple, thanks in advance for any advice Rob "
we are a bi couple in the northeast we are really struggling to find suitable couples
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think you'll struggle because you only want daytime in the week. Many people won't be able to do that - especially couples. Singles MAY be able to do it, but two people taking the day off to fuck you? They're more likely to not do that and fuck someone else in the evening or weekend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think finding couples that can meet during the daytime in the working week may be an issue...most will be working...coupled with that and the age restrictions it’s going to be stupidly hard but good luck, hope you find what you’re looking for x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To me...and I may be wrong, your profile gives off a "we are married but not to each other" vibe, and that would put us off, can do without the drama if it all goes sideways lol!
That's what I read! "
Definitely this!
The restriction on time to daytime only suggests your doing this whilst your own partners are at work behind their back.
If that's not the case and there are genuine non cheating reasons to the limited time availability that you can meet people then I would say as to why in your profile text so people don't just assume your cheating.
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By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago
Hinckley |
Well we’ve read lots of different views on this page. What ever relationships your in shouldn’t matter on here, this is a swing site, it’s supposed to cater for all including time scales? Relationships are what they are, that will never change, free love and expressing what people need, is the right of everyone. We’ve got very few boundaries to do with time, but work and families have to come first, which is only right, not just for us but others aswell, we love intellectual chat and will always accommodate those who want to play, or chat. Op, you’re not alone, so good on ya. Xx |
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If you think the fact you're an FWB couple is why you're struggling, why not simply remove it from your profile and see if it makes a difference?
You can always mention it to people once you're chatting if the question comes up or if it's important to you that they know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Playing with couples who are in love and committed to each other gives us a added enjoyment as we share our partners with each other.
There isn't that bond of love between fb or fwb couples. Therefore the added excitement isn't there for us anyway.
C and P "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As single F i will only see couples in relationship or married ruins my fantasy fwb I met couple in Adam & Eve last thurs they made out they was together in club but when added me on fab found out fwb not interested now but I will play with women on her own cos she was lovley found her attractive |
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