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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey guys,
Seem to be talking to a lot of girls/couples but doesnt seem to go any furter than that, had one couple that wanted to play but then stopped texting randomly, is there a trick to swinging in london?
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Hey guys,
Seem to be talking to a lot of girls/couples but doesnt seem to go any furter than that, had one couple that wanted to play but then stopped texting randomly, is there a trick to swinging in london?
x"
maybe you said something that made them change minds of thing "hmmm.. he is not the person for us"..... these things happen...
what i will say is this... no offence... 6 weeks.... it can take months for people to get their foot in the door....
so if you want some "no bs" advice.... be thankful you have gotten this far so far....
i say to everyone the same 3 things... time, patience and common sense....
firstly... rome wasn't built in a day... time
secondly.... again I point out 6 weeks, its doesn't really show the greatest amount of patience..... |
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Better words like squirm abuse etc have limited appeal also many don't like reference to timewasters you will get them whether you have it on your profile or not and some see it as a negative thing to say and can put people off - |
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"Hey guys,
Seem to be talking to a lot of girls/couples but doesnt seem to go any furter than that, had one couple that wanted to play but then stopped texting randomly, is there a trick to swinging in london?
x
maybe you said something that made them change minds of thing "hmmm.. he is not the person for us"..... these things happen...
what i will say is this... no offence... 6 weeks.... it can take months for people to get their foot in the door....
so if you want some "no bs" advice.... be thankful you have gotten this far so far....
i say to everyone the same 3 things... time, patience and common sense....
firstly... rome wasn't built in a day... time
secondly.... again I point out 6 weeks, its doesn't really show the greatest amount of patience....."
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folks often make the assumption that if you're on here, you must just meet all the time - well some do, others don't.
As i say on my (long) profile - it WILL take long and take more time to arrange a meet with me than if you went into town and pulled - and i'm not alone in that
Love the tattoo btw  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Hey guys,
Seem to be talking to a lot of girls/couples but doesnt seem to go any furter than that, had one couple that wanted to play but then stopped texting randomly, is there a trick to swinging in london?
x"
The same trick for any part of the country....patience 
If you are already chatting with people then your profile appeals to some people, so I wouldn't change it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"changed a bit so let me know your thoughts "
It seems fine to me. You state what you want.
The only thing I would say is, remove the "no timewasters" line. A timewaster would be attracted by it whilst putting some genuine folk off.
Good luck.
Love the tattoo btw |
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"Hey guys,
Seem to be talking to a lot of girls/couples but doesnt seem to go any furter than that, had one couple that wanted to play but then stopped texting randomly, is there a trick to swinging in london?
x
maybe you said something that made them change minds of thing "hmmm.. he is not the person for us"..... these things happen...
what i will say is this... no offence... 6 weeks.... it can take months for people to get their foot in the door....
so if you want some "no bs" advice.... be thankful you have gotten this far so far....
i say to everyone the same 3 things... time, patience and common sense....
firstly... rome wasn't built in a day... time
secondly.... again I point out 6 weeks, its doesn't really show the greatest amount of patience.....
+10
folks often make the assumption that if you're on here, you must just meet all the time - well some do, others don't.
As i say on my (long) profile - it WILL take long and take more time to arrange a meet with me than if you went into town and pulled - and i'm not alone in that
Love the tattoo btw "
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It cannot be said too many times, swining is possib;y the slowest way to get a fusk going...it is about great sex...if u want quick sex go to any night club at 2 am .
Dont know why the couple stopped texting but look at what u said to them...were u graphic,ppl want real sex not sexting, or pushy,they would be the two major reasons we would loose interest after getting to the point of speaking on the phone.
To be honest i would expect no contact after the verification phone call except close to the arranged day/on the day to confirm.
Thats just us...every couple is unique but perhaps might give u some ideas. |
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"all really helpful guys thanks
it also seems people up north are a lot more open and fun and easy going, anyone else notice this?"
Yes... weirdly london is complained about by quite a few...another reason its better ooop north.  |
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Everything looks promising, if you're getting into chats etc : and the better the match, the better the fun, so I wouldn't see it as failure if things haven't progressed to the next level - merely that it was realised that you all perhaps weren't 100% compatible at an early stage.
It's definitely better to have expert filtering, such that no-one exhausts time pursuing things that have some increased potential to fail to satisfy them, how they want to be. I prefer high quality, intense sessions with people who are great, and that I connect with, and I'm guessing that you would too. Your own sensitivity to what/who will work for you/them will likely get better too, with more experience, and you'll get more successes, as well as satisfaction.
You seem a great guy, so hang in there, as you single guys get a tough job on here, and newer members often find it slow/tougher. Good luck!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone is very supportive on here which is great,
date a lot but wanted to meet ppl to push things just on a sexual level as i find a lot of women i date arent as 'kinky' or sexually experienced so figured i'd give swinging a try |
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Strange thing is that the better one's profile is set-up, to help filter out those who you wouldn't be interested in, the lower the volume of messages/friend invites/winks one may get. This could be perceived as lacking in success, but if one ultimately connects mainly with the right people, then it's great, and your efforts are more focused rather than wasted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good advice above and I'd also suggest adding more pics to your profile. Think you can have up to 12 and a lot of people like to see different pics. You have a good body so show it off! Nice tattoo btw. Good luck. Ms |
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Do my pics look alright to everyone as well? had some really good comments off ppl 