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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all, I've been a member here for a while but never have actually met any women or couples in person. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on my profile or how to arrange something in reality. Thanks in advance  always enjoying browsing! |
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Yep I like you're pictures. They have caught my eye... Shame you're not local to me 
Your text doesn't sell you! You need to stand out from the crowd. Show us a bit of personality. Maybe a bit of humour.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think your age does count against you on here and you defo need to say more on your profile, but i am sure you will get there. "
Generally disagree with the profile bio part..you can out detail in your message...
In my opinion pictures and convenience are the two major factors on here. |
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"I think your age does count against you on here and you defo need to say more on your profile, but i am sure you will get there.
Generally disagree with the profile bio part..you can out detail in your message...
In my opinion pictures and convenience are the two major factors on here. "
I think the opinion of the OPs target audience are more relevant.  |
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"I think your age does count against you on here and you defo need to say more on your profile, but i am sure you will get there.
Generally disagree with the profile bio part..you can out detail in your message...
In my opinion pictures and convenience are the two major factors on here. "
Disagree. |
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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago
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"I think your age does count against you on here and you defo need to say more on your profile, but i am sure you will get there.
Generally disagree with the profile bio part..you can out detail in your message...
In my opinion pictures and convenience are the two major factors on here. "
Yeah I disagree with this. So much so that I didn't message you after browsing as I was expecting something amazing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think your age does count against you on here and you defo need to say more on your profile, but i am sure you will get there.
Generally disagree with the profile bio part..you can out detail in your message...
In my opinion pictures and convenience are the two major factors on here.
Yeah I disagree with this. So much so that I didn't message you after browsing as I was expecting something amazing. "
That's fine, you're welcome to your view. I'm just talking from my own personal experience.
However what is more important to you, if someone has a great bio but they're really not your type and far away, would you meet them... highly unlikely |
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"Generally disagree with the profile bio part..you can out detail in your message...
In my opinion pictures and convenience are the two major factors on here. "
Disagree.
Hello OP. It doesn't take too much effort to make the right first impression, and in direct contrast showing no effort will never make the right first impression. You've been here eight months and your profile still shows the automated text that the computer generates for you. Don't you think that maybe you should put in just a little effort? |
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"I think your age does count against you on here and you defo need to say more on your profile, but i am sure you will get there.
Generally disagree with the profile bio part..you can out detail in your message...
In my opinion pictures and convenience are the two major factors on here.
Yeah I disagree with this. So much so that I didn't message you after browsing as I was expecting something amazing.
That's fine, you're welcome to your view. I'm just talking from my own personal experience.
However what is more important to you, if someone has a great bio but they're really not your type and far away, would you meet them... highly unlikely"
I'm more likely to interact with people who have a good biog, interesting pictures AND a decent first message, almost regardless of where they are.
The holy trinity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Generally disagree with the profile bio part..you can out detail in your message...
In my opinion pictures and convenience are the two major factors on here.
Disagree.
Hello OP. It doesn't take too much effort to make the right first impression, and in direct contrast showing no effort will never make the right first impression. You've been here eight months and your profile still shows the automated text that the computer generates for you. Don't you think that maybe you should put in just a little effort?"
As long as he writes a polite opening message why should that matter ??
Most women have pretty generic bio's, it's really not the key factor. Same goes for other "dating apps" these days. Take Tinder for example, it's all visual based |
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"Generally disagree with the profile bio part..you can out detail in your message...
In my opinion pictures and convenience are the two major factors on here.
Disagree.
Hello OP. It doesn't take too much effort to make the right first impression, and in direct contrast showing no effort will never make the right first impression. You've been here eight months and your profile still shows the automated text that the computer generates for you. Don't you think that maybe you should put in just a little effort?
As long as he writes a polite opening message why should that matter ??
Most women have pretty generic bio's, it's really not the key factor. Same goes for other "dating apps" these days. Take Tinder for example, it's all visual based "
He's looking for women. I, as a woman, am telling him and you that the profile text matters. To me (not all women), good profile text matters more than pictures. |
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"Because nobody even talks unless there fake too up there own arses"
I'm talking to you right now. I've sent dozens of messages today.
Just because people aren't talking to you, doesn't mean they aren't talking. |
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"I’ve sent hundreds none reply"
As a rule I look at the profile when I get a message to see what the sender looks like, offers and is looking for.
Do you think the people you send messages to might do the same? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve sent hundreds none reply
Have you asked what you might do to change that? I did ages ago when I paid subscription and got abuse "
i have put pictures decided to take off been nice |
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"I’ve sent hundreds none reply
Have you asked what you might do to change that? I did ages ago when I paid subscription and got abuse "
Subscription gives you additional features on the site, not more attention.
You have to sell yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve sent hundreds none reply
Have you asked what you might do to change that? I did ages ago when I paid subscription and got abuse
Subscription gives you additional features on the site, not more attention.
You have to sell yourself. "
im not a piece of meat |
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Maybe, just maybe, bland profile or not, they met in a club, not via a message on site.
Maybe between that meet and you reading their profile they completely re-write their biog...."
Maybe even where exceptions are made on Fab (not something I've done), the easier route is still to write a decent profile, because exceptions are by definition exceptional. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can tell you what I do. You can disbelieve me if you want to, but asking for advice and disregarding it seems futile. "
I didn't ask for advice, I offered my opinion to the OP and everyone decided to tell me how wrong I was.
So as someone who enjoys a healthy debate/ argument from time to time, I got involved. |
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"I can tell you what I do. You can disbelieve me if you want to, but asking for advice and disregarding it seems futile.
I didn't ask for advice, I offered my opinion to the OP and everyone decided to tell me how wrong I was.
So as someone who enjoys a healthy debate/ argument from time to time, I got involved."
I don't see how you possibly have more insight into how women choose to meet than a woman who meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jeez this post went haywire.
I am half of a couple, I answer if
1.i can ascertain anything from the written part of a profile
2. Their message engages me
Picking people apart when they’re offering advice is just awful. |
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All profiles are ways to sell yourself and entice the people you're looking for. You can run them as you see fit, but the advice given here is the advice given a lot when these questions are asked. What about your profile might make someone more interested in you?
(and yes, I do work on my own profile for that very reason) |
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"Generally disagree with the profile bio part..you can out detail in your message...
In my opinion pictures and convenience are the two major factors on here.
Disagree.
Hello OP. It doesn't take too much effort to make the right first impression, and in direct contrast showing no effort will never make the right first impression. You've been here eight months and your profile still shows the automated text that the computer generates for you. Don't you think that maybe you should put in just a little effort?
As long as he writes a polite opening message why should that matter ??"
Because if I was browsing profiles I would skip straight on by the one the OP has at present. I would think that if he cant be bothered to put in any effort then why should I.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well this got a little out of hand at some point but thanks everyone for the comments! Tried making some changes on the profile, will keep updating! "
Your age can go against you.
Ignore the nasty comments take proactive comments .
Change profile every few weeks till you find what works . Add extra photo again every few weeks keeps you noticed.
Meet aim the socials or confidence to visit a club..
Tbh at 22 i was out with my mates most nights having a laff and a few beers.
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"Hi all, I've been a member here for a while but never have actually met any women or couples in person. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on my profile or how to arrange something in reality. Thanks in advance always enjoying browsing! "
At the risk of asking a daft question and looking like a plum, what does "slide into my DMs" mean?
I thought DMs were Doc Martins.  |
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"Hi all, I've been a member here for a while but never have actually met any women or couples in person. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on my profile or how to arrange something in reality. Thanks in advance always enjoying browsing!
At the risk of asking a daft question and looking like a plum, what does "slide into my DMs" mean?
I thought DMs were Doc Martins. "
Direct messages. PMs as referred to on Twitter. |
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"Hi all, I've been a member here for a while but never have actually met any women or couples in person. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on my profile or how to arrange something in reality. Thanks in advance always enjoying browsing!
At the risk of asking a daft question and looking like a plum, what does "slide into my DMs" mean?
I thought DMs were Doc Martins.
Direct messages. PMs as referred to on Twitter. "
So, "slide into my private messages?"
Sounds odd.
I must be getting old..... |
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By *jb773Man
over a year ago
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"Pictures are ok. Text needs a lot of work. You are competing with thousands of men on here. Sell yourself. "
How so you sell yourself on here, I recently updated my profile and just waiting to see what happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need to accept that there are about 100 women to every man here and they get bombarded with messages. So you need to a) ead bios and respond accordingly,
respecting that some people won't be interested, b) message people or chat in the forums as only by being proactive will you attract the ladies and c) make a bit of an effort with your own bio to make them interested in you. Most people will not be interested but hopefully some will be and you have to take it from there. Good luck! |
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There are two kinds of men on here , the ones that moan and complain that they just get ignored and no one ever meets on here anyway. Then there is the kind that listens to advice from their target audience, they put in effort, attend socials and clubs, use the forums and chatrooms to make connections and get themselves known for all the right reasons. Be the second type. |
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