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"[Removed by poster at 17/06/19 16:38:48]" Full of mistakes doh! Could any body advise how you initially contact someone that has peaked your interest! I have been told several times my messages are copy and pasted to all, even though all are unique. I’m a bit confused. | |||
"[Removed by poster at 17/06/19 16:38:48]" Deffo not how to do it pal !! | |||
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"Everyone of us is different, in terms of what we like and expect, just as you are op. General advice appears to be to personalise your message, if you are able to. This will mean fully reading the profile that you're contacting, so that you're more sure that they're looking for someone like you and that you share appropriate interests. It's too easy to be blinded by lust, because we want others so much, so that we diminish what's not positive and enhance the positive aspects of people being a good fit for us. Be realistic, so that your time, as well as the recipient's, is invested wisely. Keep the tone fairly light. If you can incorporate something you've gleaned from their profile, then potentially including it helps them to know that you have read it - and you didn't just copy and paste. Sending photos helps - they'll probably visit your profile to take a look/learn more about you but adding pics jumps the gun a bit. Not overdoing, or even having any, cock pics can be a good way to stand out from many men here. Lots of people complain about the deluge of cock pics in mail and profiles. In addition to making a light message, including something that's pertinent to the recipient's profile, you could briefly touch on other matters that may be relevant, which could include anything and everything but probably better to be simple, maybe practical stuff - meeting for socials before a sex meet, potential to meet at clubs, if you go to any, typical availability etc etc Obviously it's a first meet and you'll likely write several more, before you get to meet each person/people of interest, so you don't have to cover/include tons of stuff. Some basic pertinent info could be ok. Experiment with your messages and your profile - recipients look at both, so the better that they reflect you/what you offer and do a good sales job, the likely the easier it will be to progress to getting more meets." This totally, read the profile, several times, and then form your message from the profile. | |||
"Everyone of us is different, in terms of what we like and expect, just as you are op. General advice appears to be to personalise your message, if you are able to. This will mean fully reading the profile that you're contacting, so that you're more sure that they're looking for someone like you and that you share appropriate interests. It's too easy to be blinded by lust, because we want others so much, so that we diminish what's not positive and enhance the positive aspects of people being a good fit for us. Be realistic, so that your time, as well as the recipient's, is invested wisely. Keep the tone fairly light. If you can incorporate something you've gleaned from their profile, then potentially including it helps them to know that you have read it - and you didn't just copy and paste. Sending photos helps - they'll probably visit your profile to take a look/learn more about you but adding pics jumps the gun a bit. Not overdoing, or even having any, cock pics can be a good way to stand out from many men here. Lots of people complain about the deluge of cock pics in mail and profiles. In addition to making a light message, including something that's pertinent to the recipient's profile, you could briefly touch on other matters that may be relevant, which could include anything and everything but probably better to be simple, maybe practical stuff - meeting for socials before a sex meet, potential to meet at clubs, if you go to any, typical availability etc etc Obviously it's a first meet and you'll likely write several more, before you get to meet each person/people of interest, so you don't have to cover/include tons of stuff. Some basic pertinent info could be ok. Experiment with your messages and your profile - recipients look at both, so the better that they reflect you/what you offer and do a good sales job, the likely the easier it will be to progress to getting more meets. This totally, read the profile, several times, and then form your message from the profile." Thanks for the advice I appreciate it | |||
