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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Now before people think im moaning i want you to know this is a genuine question...
It seems to me there is a much higher chance of meeting someone for a bit friendship and fun on most of the dating sites than here on fab, i hear a lot of people saying "oh the amount of guys on here you have to stand out from the crowd" or "not everybody is gonna fancy you" well there's just as much competition on the dating sites as there is here the only difference is you can post x-rated photos!so is this a place for people to just boost there ego or does anybody actually meet? I'm gonna be interested to see what comes of this question, how many people accuse me of moaning and whether or not it may prove my thoughts of this site wrong. |
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If Tinder works for you meet off Tinder. Of course people meet on here. Those that moan usually have unrealistic expectations. Sadly this stopped being a swingers site many years ago. It's been swamped with people who have no idea about the swinging community. We don't meet off here and only meet in clubs now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well take a look at all the recent club reviews and scroll down your feed to look at the recent verifications.
Of course people meet  "
I'm sure people do, so why does it seem so hard to get anybody to even chat with me let alone meet? I never found meeting people difficult on the other sites but now I'm looking for something different it seems impossible. What am i doing wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If Tinder works for you meet off Tinder. Of course people meet on here. Those that moan usually have unrealistic expectations. Sadly this stopped being a swingers site many years ago. It's been swamped with people who have no idea about the swinging community. We don't meet off here and only meet in clubs now."
I get that and I'm totally not moaning just looking for peoples thoughts, i would love to go to a club but it would be nice to at least no somebody verbally or physically when i get there it's an overwhelming thought walking into a scene you're new too. |
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"Well take a look at all the recent club reviews and scroll down your feed to look at the recent verifications.
Of course people meet
I'm sure people do, so why does it seem so hard to get anybody to even chat with me let alone meet? I never found meeting people difficult on the other sites but now I'm looking for something different it seems impossible. What am i doing wrong?"
Maybe put more in your profile about what you’re looking for. I’d not be sure if we were compatible.
Also, I don’t know what kind of messages you’re sending so maybe review those? |
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We have never been on tinder and this site does everything we want it to, we use the forum to find busier club nights and the odd party. We chat to friends we have met at clubs on here.
Are the two sites not completely different? One being for swinging and the other dating with a good chance of sex? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well take a look at all the recent club reviews and scroll down your feed to look at the recent verifications.
Of course people meet
I'm sure people do, so why does it seem so hard to get anybody to even chat with me let alone meet? I never found meeting people difficult on the other sites but now I'm looking for something different it seems impossible. What am i doing wrong?
Maybe put more in your profile about what you’re looking for. I’d not be sure if we were compatible.
Also, I don’t know what kind of messages you’re sending so maybe review those? "
My messages are friendly and i would like to think shows a little of my humorous side i never send dic pics, i always read profiles and respect peoples wishes and i don't get rude or abusive when people ignore me i just move on.
My profile is just a little cheeky really as i think it better to get to know someone by chatting, i will look at it tho and see if i can change a few things x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well take a look at all the recent club reviews and scroll down your feed to look at the recent verifications.
Of course people meet
I'm sure people do, so why does it seem so hard to get anybody to even chat with me let alone meet? I never found meeting people difficult on the other sites but now I'm looking for something different it seems impossible. What am i doing wrong?"
You're not necessarily doing anything "wrong" on here (provided you're being respectful) but as pointed out above this is a different medium from conventional dating/sites apps so if you're not genuinely interested in the swinging lifestyle and are just looking for a quick fuck then you're probably better off sticking to the likes of Tinder |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We have never been on tinder and this site does everything we want it to, we use the forum to find busier club nights and the odd party. We chat to friends we have met at clubs on here.
Are the two sites not completely different? One being for swinging and the other dating with a good chance of sex?"
Yes they are different but both have similarities depending on how you use the others and what you want from them i have met plenty of people on dating sites and just remained friends |
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"Well take a look at all the recent club reviews and scroll down your feed to look at the recent verifications.
Of course people meet
I'm sure people do, so why does it seem so hard to get anybody to even chat with me let alone meet? I never found meeting people difficult on the other sites but now I'm looking for something different it seems impossible. What am i doing wrong?
Maybe put more in your profile about what you’re looking for. I’d not be sure if we were compatible.
Also, I don’t know what kind of messages you’re sending so maybe review those?
My messages are friendly and i would like to think shows a little of my humorous side i never send dic pics, i always read profiles and respect peoples wishes and i don't get rude or abusive when people ignore me i just move on.
My profile is just a little cheeky really as i think it better to get to know someone by chatting, i will look at it tho and see if i can change a few things x"
I’m not saying your profile is bad by the way. Just might be worth expanding briefly on what those things are that you want to try. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well take a look at all the recent club reviews and scroll down your feed to look at the recent verifications.
Of course people meet
I'm sure people do, so why does it seem so hard to get anybody to even chat with me let alone meet? I never found meeting people difficult on the other sites but now I'm looking for something different it seems impossible. What am i doing wrong?
You're not necessarily doing anything "wrong" on here (provided you're being respectful) but as pointed out above this is a different medium from conventional dating/sites apps so if you're not genuinely interested in the swinging lifestyle and are just looking for a quick fuck then you're probably better off sticking to the likes of Tinder"
Totally not just looking for a quick fuck otherwise i would have just stuck to the dating sites! I am looking for new experiences and friendship and people to show me the ropes. The scene can be intimidating to a new person so i was hoping to make a few friends here who could hold my hand lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well take a look at all the recent club reviews and scroll down your feed to look at the recent verifications.
Of course people meet
I'm sure people do, so why does it seem so hard to get anybody to even chat with me let alone meet? I never found meeting people difficult on the other sites but now I'm looking for something different it seems impossible. What am i doing wrong?
Maybe put more in your profile about what you’re looking for. I’d not be sure if we were compatible.
Also, I don’t know what kind of messages you’re sending so maybe review those?
My messages are friendly and i would like to think shows a little of my humorous side i never send dic pics, i always read profiles and respect peoples wishes and i don't get rude or abusive when people ignore me i just move on.
My profile is just a little cheeky really as i think it better to get to know someone by chatting, i will look at it tho and see if i can change a few things x
I’m not saying your profile is bad by the way. Just might be worth expanding briefly on what those things are that you want to try. "
I didn't think you was and i will take a look to see if i can add anything i took some advice on another forum and didn't want my profile to look like i was just here for sex, i will also listen to yours and try to elaborate on it x |
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"If Tinder works for you meet off Tinder. Of course people meet on here. Those that moan usually have unrealistic expectations. Sadly this stopped being a swingers site many years ago. It's been swamped with people who have no idea about the swinging community. We don't meet off here and only meet in clubs now.
I get that and I'm totally not moaning just looking for peoples thoughts, i would love to go to a club but it would be nice to at least no somebody verbally or physically when i get there it's an overwhelming thought walking into a scene you're new too."
Put on your big boy pants. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If Tinder works for you meet off Tinder. Of course people meet on here. Those that moan usually have unrealistic expectations. Sadly this stopped being a swingers site many years ago. It's been swamped with people who have no idea about the swinging community. We don't meet off here and only meet in clubs now.
I get that and I'm totally not moaning just looking for peoples thoughts, i would love to go to a club but it would be nice to at least no somebody verbally or physically when i get there it's an overwhelming thought walking into a scene you're new too.
Put on your big boy pants."
Haha i don't have any I'm still in fab nappies |
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The amount of guys I ended up actually meeting on tinder is precisely 0. It’s all swipe and nothing else.
I prefer the honesty that you get on Fabs, there is no pretence of “dating” purely to get your willy wet. |
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By *iggerd69Man
over a year ago
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"Now before people think im moaning i want you to know this is a genuine question...
It seems to me there is a much higher chance of meeting someone for a bit friendship and fun on most of the dating sites than here on fab, i hear a lot of people saying "oh the amount of guys on here you have to stand out from the crowd" or "not everybody is gonna fancy you" well there's just as much competition on the dating sites as there is here the only difference is you can post x-rated photos!so is this a place for people to just boost there ego or does anybody actually meet? I'm gonna be interested to see what comes of this question, how many people accuse me of moaning and whether or not it may prove my thoughts of this site wrong. "
A lot of guys on here make out they're not just after a shag lol are you really after friendship? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The amount of guys I ended up actually meeting on tinder is precisely 0. It’s all swipe and nothing else.
I prefer the honesty that you get on Fabs, there is no pretence of “dating” purely to get your willy wet."
Well I'm not getting either an offer to go to a club, or my willy wet lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Now before people think im moaning i want you to know this is a genuine question...
It seems to me there is a much higher chance of meeting someone for a bit friendship and fun on most of the dating sites than here on fab, i hear a lot of people saying "oh the amount of guys on here you have to stand out from the crowd" or "not everybody is gonna fancy you" well there's just as much competition on the dating sites as there is here the only difference is you can post x-rated photos!so is this a place for people to just boost there ego or does anybody actually meet? I'm gonna be interested to see what comes of this question, how many people accuse me of moaning and whether or not it may prove my thoughts of this site wrong.
A lot of guys on here make out they're not just after a shag lol are you really after friendship?"
Seriously, i would like to meet some people who could introduce me in to the scene, make new friends within the scene and try things out! Of course sex is part of the package but its not all I'm about. |
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"If Tinder works for you meet off Tinder. Of course people meet on here. Those that moan usually have unrealistic expectations. Sadly this stopped being a swingers site many years ago. It's been swamped with people who have no idea about the swinging community. We don't meet off here and only meet in clubs now.
I get that and I'm totally not moaning just looking for peoples thoughts, i would love to go to a club but it would be nice to at least no somebody verbally or physically when i get there it's an overwhelming thought walking into a scene you're new too."
A serious question
What are you expecting to experience at a club? I get that it would be a slightly different experience but overwhelming seems to suggest you have a vision of a swinging club being very different from anything else.
Having been to a few it's very much like walking into a bar or club on a Saturday night. Although people tend to wear more clothes at a swinging club (at least to start with).
Yes there are dress down clubs but most have a bar area where you can just hang out and chat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP, I think you have rather unrealistic vision of what Fab is. The ratio of men to women is certainly much higher here than on a typical dating site, as 'dating' (even if it's just the cover for actually looking for NSA sex) is much more socially acceptable than swinging. The 'vanilla' society still does not fully accepts or understands how a woman can be sexually free and have as many or as few partners as she wants. Even on here there are some very judgemental people. All that means women are much more likely to be on a regular dating sites. Which, in turn, means it should be easier to meet someone through there. If you did find it easier to meet on Tinder, just stick to it.
When it comes to swingers clubs, I personally would not take someone I have never met to a club with me. As I have no idea how we get on and how they are going to behave in club environment. I'd be happy to arrange to meet at a club when I have already planned to go, but only on the understanding it would be a quick social, not holding the person's hand all evening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If Tinder works for you meet off Tinder. Of course people meet on here. Those that moan usually have unrealistic expectations. Sadly this stopped being a swingers site many years ago. It's been swamped with people who have no idea about the swinging community. We don't meet off here and only meet in clubs now."
Almost exactly this.
Fab lost its swingers site ethos.
Due to the amount of asshats that join thinking , swinging is the same as, fucking anything that moves.
It's sad, because what was once a great way to meet like minded people has been reduced to almost a cattle market, in the eyes of the majority of men. Some women and couples.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, I think you have rather unrealistic vision of what Fab is. The ratio of men to women is certainly much higher here than on a typical dating site, as 'dating' (even if it's just the cover for actually looking for NSA sex) is much more socially acceptable than swinging. The 'vanilla' society still does not fully accepts or understands how a woman can be sexually free and have as many or as few partners as she wants. Even on here there are some very judgemental people. All that means women are much more likely to be on a regular dating sites. Which, in turn, means it should be easier to meet someone through there. If you did find it easier to meet on Tinder, just stick to it.
When it comes to swingers clubs, I personally would not take someone I have never met to a club with me. As I have no idea how we get on and how they are going to behave in club environment. I'd be happy to arrange to meet at a club when I have already planned to go, but only on the understanding it would be a quick social, not holding the person's hand all evening. "
See responses like this are exactly what i mean!! You're assuming i have a vision realistic or not... which i don't!!! I have no expectations cos im new i don't know what to expect and this is my point, the reference im using with tinder is people chat, maybe go to dinner possibly have sex or end up in a relationship depending what exactly it is you're looking for, where as on here it seems impossible to even talk with someone because as a single guy everybody assumes you are only out for one thing instead of thinking this guy may be nice or fun lets meet up for a drink and see how things go... or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well take a look at all the recent club reviews and scroll down your feed to look at the recent verifications.
Of course people meet
I'm sure people do, so why does it seem so hard to get anybody to even chat with me let alone meet? I never found meeting people difficult on the other sites but now I'm looking for something different it seems impossible. What am i doing wrong?"
Most times I have "chatted" with someone, they have assumed it means I am up for sex talk or meeting them for sex, when it doesn't! Especially when my profile has stated that I am not meeting to play, or their message starts with "I know you are not meeting but... " I joined because I wanted sex, not chat or any kind of relationship, which I assume is more likely on Tinder. As far as I can tell, Tinder etc has plenty of people saying they want a relationship, chat, friendship , so they can get sex, which to me is worse than no conversation from someone that may just want sex. |
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Tinder is completely gimped nowadays for men, they want to push you into paid membership. As usual theres ten male profiles to every female one. It's not just me - I used to have good results with Tinder a few years ago but nowadays I don't even match with people. However a lot of users choose to share snapchat or Instagram ID so you can message directly and I have had some limited success that way.
Other problem with Tinder is it's full of scammers, spammers and inactive accounts. And in some places, girls for hire! So chance of matching gets ever lower. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well take a look at all the recent club reviews and scroll down your feed to look at the recent verifications.
Of course people meet
I'm sure people do, so why does it seem so hard to get anybody to even chat with me let alone meet? I never found meeting people difficult on the other sites but now I'm looking for something different it seems impossible. What am i doing wrong?
Most times I have "chatted" with someone, they have assumed it means I am up for sex talk or meeting them for sex, when it doesn't! Especially when my profile has stated that I am not meeting to play, or their message starts with "I know you are not meeting but... " I joined because I wanted sex, not chat or any kind of relationship, which I assume is more likely on Tinder. As far as I can tell, Tinder etc has plenty of people saying they want a relationship, chat, friendship , so they can get sex, which to me is worse than no conversation from someone that may just want sex. "
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I'm on the dating sites and they are all as bad as each other but tinder I think is the worst. Hardly get matches and when I do they just want NSA or ONS... At least on here you can be open about what you enjoy sexually..my ideal probably would be to meet someone on here dating wise.
But if you just want a shag then tinder seems to be the place to get one.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Dating sites are for couples and singles male and females its a people looking for a date where as FAB is a swinging site (wife swapping) it's more for couples than singles even tho singles can join and sometimes take part,
It actually depends what people want |
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