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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you read the FAQ's? A no reply is a no thanks. No one owes you anything I'm afraid even if you've upgraded to site supporter.

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

What did you spend the £12 on? It's free to message,

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I did nit know that thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman"

It's the way fab works it, but the women hate ghosting, which is much the same as not replying imo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

It's the way fab works it, but the women hate ghosting, which is much the same as not replying imo."

Not really tho eh?

With the limited amount of women on here, only so many, out of all of em, will fancy you, the ones that like your profile enough to find out is even small aswell as other factors such as location etc just limits you more so...

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By *hampagne_Supernova_91Man over a year ago

Manchester

It's easy! Don't behave like a limp noodle and show respect where it's due. Show good manners and bad ones in the bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

It's the way fab works it, but the women hate ghosting, which is much the same as not replying imo.

Not really tho eh?

That's a different issue. We're not talking numbers, OP is talking about ignoring messages unless I've misunderstood his post.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

What did your £12 entitle you to ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

It's the way fab works it, but the women hate ghosting, which is much the same as not replying imo.

Not really tho eh?

That's a different issue. We're not talking numbers, OP is talking about ignoring messages unless I've misunderstood his post."

Womem tend to reply to messages when they are interested inthe sender

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What did your £12 entitle you to ?"

The promise of endless sex with many hot women lusting after him ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

It's the way fab works it, but the women hate ghosting, which is much the same as not replying imo.

Not really tho eh?

That's a different issue. We're not talking numbers, OP is talking about ignoring messages unless I've misunderstood his post.

Womem tend to reply to messages when they are interested inthe sender"

That's correct, people get Ghosted when no longer interested. That's my point.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"What did your £12 entitle you to ?

The promise of endless sex with many hot women lusting after him ..."

A bargain ! Money well spent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

It's the way fab works it, but the women hate ghosting, which is much the same as not replying imo.

Not really tho eh?

That's a different issue. We're not talking numbers, OP is talking about ignoring messages unless I've misunderstood his post.

Womem tend to reply to messages when they are interested inthe sender

That's correct, people get Ghosted when no longer interested. That's my point."

But women don't reply when not interested in the first place

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

It's the way fab works it, but the women hate ghosting, which is much the same as not replying imo.

Not really tho eh?

That's a different issue. We're not talking numbers, OP is talking about ignoring messages unless I've misunderstood his post.

Womem tend to reply to messages when they are interested inthe sender

That's correct, people get Ghosted when no longer interested. That's my point.

But women don't reply when not interested in the first place"

And? Am I missing something, one not interested at first, the second looses interest. Are you entitled to a reply once you've messaged?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He is not what his user name implies x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

It's the way fab works it, but the women hate ghosting, which is much the same as not replying imo.

Not really tho eh?

That's a different issue. We're not talking numbers, OP is talking about ignoring messages unless I've misunderstood his post.

Womem tend to reply to messages when they are interested inthe sender

That's correct, people get Ghosted when no longer interested. That's my point.

But women don't reply when not interested in the first place

And? Am I missing something, one not interested at first, the second looses interest. Are you entitled to a reply once you've messaged?"

No, you're not entitled to anything but ghosting is once a comnection is established, no reply to an initial message from someone you don't want to connect with is not the same at all... Although I am not bothered about either happening to me in all fairness. Being ghosted by someone I know and have some kind of relationship with would be the only time it did

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry, can't be arsed with correcting typos today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

It's the way fab works it, but the women hate ghosting, which is much the same as not replying imo.

Not really tho eh?

That's a different issue. We're not talking numbers, OP is talking about ignoring messages unless I've misunderstood his post.

Womem tend to reply to messages when they are interested inthe sender

That's correct, people get Ghosted when no longer interested. That's my point.

But women don't reply when not interested in the first place

And? Am I missing something, one not interested at first, the second looses interest. Are you entitled to a reply once you've messaged?

So the issue of not messaging being rude in one case, it is overlooked as one might think a connection has been made or not?

Much as people like to have social interaction, the vast majority of people only have a handful of real friends. The realisation often happens when life sucks.

There are many here who simply cannot take the hint when a break might be entirely natural or a person may simply be toxic and cold turkey is the only way. For the same reason replying with no thanks often causes a string of why's.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman"

Whining about it will also lose you any potential reply.

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By *REEPALESTINEMan over a year ago

derby

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman"

Patience is key on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Site supporter option is not a feature that means you get an increased response rate, tough some people just want to interact with supporters only. No reply means you are not right for them at present or at all.

It's tough for single men as you face massive competition, so most will struggle to suc. Appropriate expectations and how you use the site help you the most.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He is not what his user name implies x"

Lmao too funny

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By *inkyman1964Man over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman"

Just remember, some ladies and even couples get messages than they can possibly reply to. They could be permanently replying and still not keep up, everyone has other things to do in life as well as being on Fab to answer your message.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"What did your £12 entitle you to ?"

Unlimited pussy at the click of a button

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So a person who pays themselves have to send a reply to you because you pay? How does that work?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because even if you say no thanks most men take it as an invitation to enter into a debate about it and try to pursuade you

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By *ltcouple666Couple over a year ago

cheshire

Maybe it's because of things like happened to me yesterday...although I was shattered after a huge run of nightshifts, I tried to reply a number of messages. I was potirvwlly polite to one older guy but his messages kept coming and he seemed to want to "seal the deal" there and then...and even though he seemed to have made our names up (started calling us Debs& Jay for some reason) lol, when I no longer could keep up with his messages, I got one telling me how hurtful I was for not constantly replying

tbh, sod politeness, if this is gunna happen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What did your £12 entitle you to ?"

Just what I was thinking...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t know why there’s always such moaning. We’ve never had a problem on here with it.

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By *ohnjones3210Man over a year ago

Chester

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman"

Women on here are can be very ignorant, but it's because they get hundreds of messages a day.

I have a YouTube channel and I also get hundreds of messages a day. I'm also ignorant. I lack the desire to reply to each message but I do reply to the ones which interest me.

Women aren't obliged to reply, just as I'm not.

However, like me with YouTube, if a woman gets a really interesting message, she is more likely to reply.

Women on here work differently to us men, they judge the sender as well as the message. Get advice on how to make sure your profile AND messages are in top condition!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you read the FAQ's? A no reply is a no thanks. No one owes you anything I'm afraid even if you've upgraded to site supporter. "

Spot on.

Here's a question for you OP.

Those Pizza delivery and takeaway menus that get posted through your door from time to time. Do you phone them all up just to tell them that you're not interested?

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By *ebjonnsonMan over a year ago

Maldon

"What did your £12 entitle you to ?

The promise of endless sex with many hot women lusting after him ...

A bargain ! Money well spent. "

I’m told that’s the average cost of a packet of cigarettes these days.

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By *irl1234xxxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Awww cheer up Happyman

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

Women on here are can be very ignorant, but it's because they get hundreds of messages a day.

I have a YouTube channel and I also get hundreds of messages a day. I'm also ignorant. I lack the desire to reply to each message but I do reply to the ones which interest me.

Women aren't obliged to reply, just as I'm not.

However, like me with YouTube, if a woman gets a really interesting message, she is more likely to reply.

Women on here work differently to us men, they judge the sender as well as the message. Get advice on how to make sure your profile AND messages are in top condition!"

It's not ignorant.

If you saw the stuff we filter, and the abuse we get... It's defensive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman"

Dont feel so entitled. Just because you message some does not mean they have to message back. Single women get more messages than you can imagine, you really need to stand out otherwise you have no chance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

Women on here are can be very ignorant, but it's because they get hundreds of messages a day.

I have a YouTube channel and I also get hundreds of messages a day. I'm also ignorant. I lack the desire to reply to each message but I do reply to the ones which interest me.

Women aren't obliged to reply, just as I'm not.

However, like me with YouTube, if a woman gets a really interesting message, she is more likely to reply.

Women on here work differently to us men, they judge the sender as well as the message. Get advice on how to make sure your profile AND messages are in top condition!

It's not ignorant.

If you saw the stuff we filter, and the abuse we get... It's defensive. "

What you're saying is because we have a reason it's not rude. That's the first time I've heard a woman defend it as not rude but defensive. Women may indeed have a valid reason but does that excuse then make it not rude?

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

Women on here are can be very ignorant, but it's because they get hundreds of messages a day.

I have a YouTube channel and I also get hundreds of messages a day. I'm also ignorant. I lack the desire to reply to each message but I do reply to the ones which interest me.

Women aren't obliged to reply, just as I'm not.

However, like me with YouTube, if a woman gets a really interesting message, she is more likely to reply.

Women on here work differently to us men, they judge the sender as well as the message. Get advice on how to make sure your profile AND messages are in top condition!

It's not ignorant.

If you saw the stuff we filter, and the abuse we get... It's defensive.

alright if someone who you didn't find attractive message you would you respond to their message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

None of those reasons eliminate the rudeness. Even the fact that Fab say it's ok, doesn't eliminate the rudeness, it just has made many accept the rudeness as normal. It's still rude, but it's fab and this is the environment that it's acceptable. One has to accept that there are many who do it and see nothing wrong with it.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Different rules apply, including for politeness, in different situations. On a bad day my inbox can be like being a celebrity being hounded by the press, except I'm not being paid or anything. Is it rude for the celebrities to avoid that kind of bedlam, and the potential for worse if they do engage?

I think it's just situational, and you need to learn the manners of each situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh its spend £12, get a line of women q'ing up to fuck u....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

Women on here are can be very ignorant, but it's because they get hundreds of messages a day.

I have a YouTube channel and I also get hundreds of messages a day. I'm also ignorant. I lack the desire to reply to each message but I do reply to the ones which interest me.

Women aren't obliged to reply, just as I'm not.

However, like me with YouTube, if a woman gets a really interesting message, she is more likely to reply.

Women on here work differently to us men, they judge the sender as well as the message. Get advice on how to make sure your profile AND messages are in top condition!

It's not ignorant.

If you saw the stuff we filter, and the abuse we get... It's defensive.

alright if someone who you didn't find attractive message you would you respond to their message"

Irrelevant, if I replied or didn't wouldn't change that not replying is rude, it would make me not rude or rude depending on my action.

For you to personalise it and then try to make an argument based upon my response doesn't change anything does it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

That the entitled attitude speaking right there. We dont need a reason its quite simple, if we don't message back move on. It's not personal dont make it so.

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

That the entitled attitude speaking right there. We dont need a reason its quite simple, if we don't message back move on. It's not personal dont make it so. "

I agree with you he has a huge sense of entitlement

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's just situational, and you need to learn the manners of each situation. "

Interesting point.

If one is a celeb then the attention is part of the positions expectation. Some love the attention, some struggle, but it's part of the package.

If the celeb was being hounded, then yeah I'd agree. However if the celeb wasn't being hounded, I'd say no argument. Being paid or not isnt an argument, but let's look at reward, fab has its rewards, payment. Payment for persistence, attractiveness, availability, good at sex, etc etc.

The danger with 'situational' is it moves goal posts from objective to subjective and in doing so is then exposed to criticism as there is no agreed base line. One can argue that the baseline is 'its not rude' for fab. The difficulty is it's not the only baseline.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

That the entitled attitude speaking right there. We dont need a reason its quite simple, if we don't message back move on. It's not personal dont make it so. "

And I can see yours as a very entitled position too if you look. "I don't need a reason", that's as entitled as anything one hears today.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think manners are already subjective. But I suspect we'll have to agree to disagree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

That the entitled attitude speaking right there. We dont need a reason its quite simple, if we don't message back move on. It's not personal dont make it so.

I agree with you he has a huge sense of entitlement"

You didn't answer my question, then again few have and it may be because there isn't one for most.

If you read carefully what I've said is I've been giving reasons why its seen as rude, many won't and don't accept those reasons which they are entitled to, but it's good to give a counter reason so others can see if there's another POV.

To just dismiss it is also rude.

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By *G CoupleCouple over a year ago

kent

We reply to messages from people who have read our profile. We hardly reply to any at all. Don't see that as rude we just stop people wasting their own time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

That the entitled attitude speaking right there. We dont need a reason its quite simple, if we don't message back move on. It's not personal dont make it so.

And I can see yours as a very entitled position too if you look. "I don't need a reason", that's as entitled as anything one hears today."

I'm not expecting anything from anyone huge difference. I dont feel entitled to men messaging me! I dont expect it, nor do I care if I get ignored. You feel entitled to something from someone else that's the point its its how life works. Why are you so butt hurt over a stranger not messaging you?

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By *irl1234xxxWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I’m happy to be seen as rude. I don’t have the time or energy to reply to all of the messages saying “no thanks” to then either receive a load of abuse or guys trying to persuade me to change my mind.

Couldn’t care less if people I’ve never met and never will meet think I’m rude.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think manners are already subjective. But I suspect we'll have to agree to disagree. "

It would seem that is the case, it does depend on what one has been taught and learnt.

If that is the accepted case, then one needs to accept others have different manners and these may or may not be rude to someone else, but there is that possibility; if that is the case then it helps to recognise it.

Much the same with the issues of Ghosting which I raised earlier.

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

That the entitled attitude speaking right there. We dont need a reason its quite simple, if we don't message back move on. It's not personal dont make it so.

I agree with you he has a huge sense of entitlement

You didn't answer my question, then again few have and it may be because there isn't one for most.

To just dismiss it is also rude."

The reason why I didn't give you an answer is pointless as you would have argued anyway which coming to think now for you is a predictable response and in a perfect world yes everyone would respond to each other but this isn't a perfect world and you can't just expect everyone to just respond to every message like if you got half the messages women got would you respond to all of them, I know I wouldn't and half of those message are more than likely vulgar and disgusting. As from what I have seen most men on here are just looking for a quick fuck n go

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’m happy to be seen as rude. I don’t have the time or energy to reply to all of the messages saying “no thanks” to then either receive a load of abuse or guys trying to persuade me to change my mind.

Couldn’t care less if people I’ve never met and never will meet think I’m rude."

This too.

I meet, I'm genuine, etc. Overall I think I'm a net positive here. Being "rude" means I can manage the demands here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

That the entitled attitude speaking right there. We dont need a reason its quite simple, if we don't message back move on. It's not personal dont make it so.

I agree with you he has a huge sense of entitlement

You didn't answer my question, then again few have and it may be because there isn't one for most.

To just dismiss it is also rude.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

That the entitled attitude speaking right there. We dont need a reason its quite simple, if we don't message back move on. It's not personal dont make it so.

And I can see yours as a very entitled position too if you look. "I don't need a reason", that's as entitled as anything one hears today.

If you read my profile you'll see I'm not butt hurt lol. As someone just said, if they're not interested then it's not an issue. I send a polite message and move on immediately. That's the end of it completely in my case. For many others it's not and they can be persistent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If some of the men who are rude and abusive when politely turned down weren't so and if some of the men who messaged bothered to read a profile that states they are not what they are looking for for whatever reason but ignored that and messaged anyway didn't do that then I'm sure women would be happy to reply saying no but unfortunately this is fab and it doesn't work like that!

It's rude abusive and crude messages that make women think twice about saying no thanks, not just the volume of messages they get. No one needs online abuse, this is supposed to be light hearted fun to get away from the boring routine of life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I reply to all my messages with the exception of people who have clearly been rude and not read my profile.

I manage my profile through active filters and hiding my it when I don't have the time or the inclination so the number of messages is just about doable.

How do you think it is rude of me to not reply to people who have been rude in the first place by not reading my profile and respecting my wishes?

I do not tolerate rudeness (any which way) in any part of my life and will not except it on here either!

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"If some of the men who are rude and abusive when politely turned down weren't so and if some of the men who messaged bothered to read a profile that states they are not what they are looking for for whatever reason but ignored that and messaged anyway didn't do that then I'm sure women would be happy to reply saying no but unfortunately this is fab and it doesn't work like that!

Well said.

I tried to reply to everyone when I started.

Mistake.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What did your £12 entitle you to ?

The promise of endless sex with many hot women lusting after him ..."

Where do I pay?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m always ignored

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman

That the entitled attitude speaking right there. We dont need a reason its quite simple, if we don't message back move on. It's not personal dont make it so.

I agree with you he has a huge sense of entitlement

You didn't answer my question, then again few have and it may be because there isn't one for most.

To just dismiss it is also rude.

It's the forums lol. One reason for them is information, view points and only 3-5% comment in them, However maybe 2O-50% just read and I see it as an opportunity to get across different opinions to those people. It can help fab a lot if one sees that.

I've tried to answer different people responses with something coherent that helps make debate and discussion, and hopefully not argument.

Yes some women get loads of messages. I've a few good friends who used to until they realised the filters, statuses and headers, if used well reduce messages from hundreds to only a a handful a week. They've learnt well. It does however mean that they search through Fab themselves now and no longer rely on just searching in their inbox.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m always ignored

That's not true! I speak to you regularly

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Different strategies work for different people. Having my filters extremely tight didn't work for me. My filters are on (to the extent it works for me) and my block list is huge. I get more messages than I can do justice to, but it's the best solution I've found to a challenging situation. I didn't just wake up one morning and decide to be a diva or a bitch.

The FAQ explicitly says that delete without reply means no thank you. It's clearly a norm for here. Situational manners.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m always ignored

That's not true! I speak to you regularly

That you do

I just wanna be noticed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree with you. I think most are aware.

I've proposed a few times to fab that they could consider having an automated "no thank you, you're not what I'm looking for now" button. This would mean the sender gets a reply (so not ignored), and it can be set up so it then maybe temporarily prevents the other from sending another message for say 2 weeks or a month. Cooling off time. This helps towards dealing with both issues.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree with you. I think most are aware.

They already have one. It’s called ‘delete’

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Different strategies work for different people. Having my filters extremely tight didn't work for me. My filters are on (to the extent it works for me) and my block list is huge. I get more messages than I can do justice to, but it's the best solution I've found to a challenging situation. I didn't just wake up one morning and decide to be a diva or a bitch.

The FAQ explicitly says that delete without reply means no thank you. It's clearly a norm for here. Situational manners. "

It's the norm for here agreed. Its probably the most talked about single topic on forums from men , but not exclusively, so though its the norm on fab it's an uncomfortable norm which is a strange thing.

Few ever read the FAQ till later when they are referenced to it by others or mods.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree with you. I think most are aware.

They already have one. It’s called ‘delete’

So both require a press of one button. Both send same a not interested, but served in a different way. I'm for trying to make it a better experience which as a lady said earlier is what fab is about, a fun experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So OP, you have some answers.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The FAQ explicitly says that delete without reply means no thank you. It's clearly a norm for here. Situational manners.

Few ever read the FAQ till later when they are referenced to it by others or mods.

Not knowing the rules of the house or being bothered to work out the norms of a situation is the problem here. You wouldn't go to a dress down club in your Sunday best, or a formal traditional church wanking through your towel. You'd work out what was appropriate in each situation. Same thing here.

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By *.H.SMan over a year ago

London

people dont reply thats there choice learn to deal with it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m always ignored

That's not true! I speak to you regularly

That you do

I just wanna be noticed

You attention seeker Haha

I noticed you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree with you. I think most are aware.

They already have one. It’s called ‘delete’

It is fun, if you don’t let it get you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m always ignored

That's not true! I speak to you regularly

That you do

I just wanna be noticed

You attention seeker Haha

I noticed you

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By *ewday1234Man over a year ago

greater Manchester

Don't hate the player ,hate the game

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By *hannytragger99Man over a year ago

london

Loses not looses

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman"

Just have patience

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By *andomfodCouple over a year ago

walsall

"What did your £12 entitle you to ?

The promise of endless sex with many hot women lusting after him ..."

For 12 pound?!

A bargain!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you read the FAQ's? A no reply is a no thanks. No one owes you anything I'm afraid even if you've upgraded to site supporter.

Spot on.

Here's a question for you OP.

Those Pizza delivery and takeaway menus that get posted through your door from time to time. Do you phone them all up just to tell them that you're not interested?"

Brilliant!

We still don't seem to have clarification of what the £12 was for - please tell.

Women can get hundreds of messages each day. Don't expect them to reply to all.

From our point of view, if a message is sent (even if polite one), from someone who does fit not within our stated requirements, we take that as they haven't been arsed to read our profile, so we can't be arsed to reply.

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By *uxinteriorMan over a year ago

south west , continental

Welcome to life in Fab world! It's the norm, do not be upset by the usual 'zero reply'. Fab owes you nothing, just like life!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The FAQ explicitly says that delete without reply means no thank you. It's clearly a norm for here. Situational manners.

Few ever read the FAQ till later when they are referenced to it by others or mods.

I'm not disagreeing, just pointing out that it may and can be be rude. I've been accused of the same when I follow the rules and block those who dont reply for the same reasoning. It doesn't bother meas that's a good filter that works well for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has the OP replied to any of our responses yet? How bloody rude, thank God I haven't paid any money, rubbish site

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By *attywailerMan over a year ago

Lithuania, Klaipeda

Its not rubbish, its just you folks that are pathetic and desperate. You want a shag ? go pof or to your local pub.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Because even if you say no thanks most men take it as an invitation to enter into a debate about it and try to pursuade you"

100% agree

Even when you are polite and say “ thank you for your message, but you’re not for us” the next message is why not? So it’s just easier to not to reply and delete the message.

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By *winflamesCouple over a year ago

Near Surbiton

"I think i just wasted £12, i have been polite messaging people but you dont get a reply specially from single woman"

What is it that makes you think that just because you spent £12 WHOLE pounds that you're entitled to a reply?

There are many reasons that people don't, and it is their right to delete or ignore unsolicited messages.

Perhaps review what it is you actually say in your initial contact?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It depends on what you wrote. If it's a one word sentence then I don't

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

The site doesn't promise that you will get replies if you buy site support, you just get a few extras for your money

Some people reply, some don't , if you accept this you will probably enjoy your time on the site more

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