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Worst day ever, let down terribly
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"Sooooo........ I have a friend, that I've met from fab, but we were more friends than anything else, got on well, spent a bit of time together. He's a professional man, good job, decent lifestyle, old fashioned manners, what I thought was an all round decent man. He needed a plus one to wedding, and last-minute invited me yesterday, for a wedding today. Nothing in it, just so didn't have to go on his own. I made a massive effort, so I sorted a dress, booked hair and make up this morning, and half an hour before he was due to pick me up let me down. No explanation, nothing, no crosswords, no reason at all. It is made me feel horrendous. I made such an effort to be the best me for him, thinking I was doing a decent thing. And it's made me feel horrendous. Gutted and disappointed to the core. It's not had a bad experience on here, but this has blown it out the water. It's knocked me far more than I ever thought I could be knocked!!! Help! " Wow that’s some let down and I can imagine how disappointed you are ... | |||
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a disappointment like that is hard especially when you've made such an effort and it all seems most odd on his part. How dud he let you know? | |||
"He's just ignored my messages, I've asked him. And he's blanked me. I'm more confused than anything else " Oh crap... Pmed you | |||
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"Cut him free from your life. He clearly has no respect for you or your feelings. Any man with manners would never do such a thing." I agree. It's just weird behaviour to invite you one day then the next go silent,no wonder you're feeling the way you are that's a horrible thing to do. It's not like it was just for coffee,being invited to a wedding is a huge thing. | |||
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"Already blocked!!! He had an open invite, hasn't been seeing anyone, and I think was toying with the idea and threw it out there. I'm pretty sure he expected me to say no, when I said yes he went into overdrive. He even text me at 6 o'clock this morning to make sure I was awake in time to get ready.? The mind baffles me " Is he still alive? | |||
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"Already blocked!!! He had an open invite, hasn't been seeing anyone, and I think was toying with the idea and threw it out there. I'm pretty sure he expected me to say no, when I said yes he went into overdrive. He even text me at 6 o'clock this morning to make sure I was awake in time to get ready.? The mind baffles me Is he still alive?" Oh yeah, logging on to whats.App regularly. | |||
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"He's just ignored my messages, I've asked him. And he's blanked me. I'm more confused than anything else " Awww this isn’t nice is it? Lots of love to you. From a man to a women - respect and love to you. Making such an effort says so much about you. X  | |||
"He's just ignored my messages, I've asked him. And he's blanked me. I'm more confused than anything else Awww this isn’t nice is it? Lots of love to you. From a man to a women - respect and love to you. Making such an effort says so much about you. Thankyou X " | |||
Really feel for you OP. What a horrible way for things to turn out.
There’s no fathoming people sometimes. Don’t be surprised if you hear from him with some sort of explanation. From the little you have told us about him it sounds like it was out of character behaviour. Or maybe this is the real him. If so then probably not the kind of person you’d want in your life.
You’ll have to update us all if you DO hear from him.
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"He's just ignored my messages, I've asked him. And he's blanked me. I'm more confused than anything else " Omg I'm sorry but wat a prick hope you ok hun xx PM if you wanna chat I'm a great listener xx | |||
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"I can't stand men that think they can treat women like that......that's so disrespectful...... "Karma is a bitch  | |||
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"He's just ignored my messages, I've asked him. And he's blanked me. I'm more confused than anything else " Maybe he is embarrassed and has no idea what to say. Not an excuse but a different angle. | |||
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"He's just ignored my messages, I've asked him. And he's blanked me. I'm more confused than anything else Maybe he is embarrassed and has no idea what to say. Not an excuse but a different angle." He should be embarrassed, anyway he’s had long enough to even try to apologise for his crappy behaviour, if this is the kind of person he is you would be well to forget him sweet, maybe upsetting to do so now but can you trust him not to do something similar again, he’s a grown man not a child, to me there’s no excuse for him. | |||
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"Feeing better today? Ready to slaughter the fuckwit if he contacts you? "Absofuckingloutely | |||
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"Maybe he was abducted and spent the night being anally probed by aliens who have erased his memory " Lets hope they removed more than just his memory  | |||
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"Maybe he was abducted and spent the night being anally probed by aliens who have erased his memory " Yeah that's it 
Let's see if he uses this excuse personally I think he will never be seen again! | |||
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"Did he invite you last minute because his original guest coukdnt make it. Like you were a plan b? "  This is the answer, he had a plan a who was prevaricating, sorted a plan b (which sadly was you OP) but his original came back to him.
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"From social media photos, he went on his own. Which makes even less sense. Still haven't heard from him, just feel more disappointed that I was such a poor judge of character. But, new day, onwards and upwards. Can't dwell on the scrapheap "Just remember scrap is a very sought after commodity. | |||
"From social media photos, he went on his own. Which makes even less sense. Still haven't heard from him, just feel more disappointed that I was such a poor judge of character. But, new day, onwards and upwards. Can't dwell on the scrapheap "You've blocked him, you won't hear from him. This will take you a few days to process I reckon. | |||
"From social media photos, he went on his own. Which makes even less sense. Still haven't heard from him, just feel more disappointed that I was such a poor judge of character. But, new day, onwards and upwards. Can't dwell on the scrapheap "Here’s to the next adventure then  | |||
"From social media photos, he went on his own. Which makes even less sense. Still haven't heard from him, just feel more disappointed that I was such a poor judge of character. But, new day, onwards and upwards. Can't dwell on the scrapheap " | |||
"From social media photos, he went on his own. Which makes even less sense. Still haven't heard from him, just feel more disappointed that I was such a poor judge of character. But, new day, onwards and upwards. Can't dwell on the scrapheap "Stop looking on social media. It will make it worse. Walk away, go watch a film, go for a walk, do something other than being online. | |||
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"Already blocked!!! He had an open invite, hasn't been seeing anyone, and I think was toying with the idea and threw it out there. I'm pretty sure he expected me to say no, when I said yes he went into overdrive. He even text me at 6 o'clock this morning to make sure I was awake in time to get ready.? The mind baffles me " I'm leaving the girls to console on this one, they seem to have the best idea. Best wishes! | |||
"Sooooo........ I have a friend, that I've met from fab, but we were more friends than anything else, got on well, spent a bit of time together. He's a professional man, good job, decent lifestyle, old fashioned manners, what I thought was an all round decent man. He needed a plus one to wedding, and last-minute invited me yesterday, for a wedding today. Nothing in it, just so didn't have to go on his own. I made a massive effort, so I sorted a dress, booked hair and make up this morning, and half an hour before he was due to pick me up let me down. No explanation, nothing, no crosswords, no reason at all. It is made me feel horrendous. I made such an effort to be the best me for him, thinking I was doing a decent thing. And it's made me feel horrendous. Gutted and disappointed to the core. It's not had a bad experience on here, but this has blown it out the water. It's knocked me far more than I ever thought I could be knocked!!! Help! " I can tell how much effort you put into this, and if it was me, I would want an explanation. There may be a good reason, probably beyond his control and he felt embarrassed, which would explain the lack of excuse. I was invited to a friend's wedding years ago and was going to take my bf. However, her fiancées parents, who had offered to pay for the wedding, pulled out at the last minute. My friend was mortified and had to cut numbers of guests very harshly. My ex was quite understanding at the time, and I went without him. So there could be a reason. Though if it was because he had invited someone else as well, coz he was hedging his bets, and chose her, I would have some strong words for him. I bet he never realised how much you put into this. | |||
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"Sooooo........ I have a friend, that I've met from fab, but we were more friends than anything else, got on well, spent a bit of time together. He's a professional man, good job, decent lifestyle, old fashioned manners, what I thought was an all round decent man. He needed a plus one to wedding, and last-minute invited me yesterday, for a wedding today. Nothing in it, just so didn't have to go on his own. I made a massive effort, so I sorted a dress, booked hair and make up this morning, and half an hour before he was due to pick me up let me down. No explanation, nothing, no crosswords, no reason at all. It is made me feel horrendous. I made such an effort to be the best me for him, thinking I was doing a decent thing. And it's made me feel horrendous. Gutted and disappointed to the core. It's not had a bad experience on here, but this has blown it out the water. It's knocked me far more than I ever thought I could be knocked!!! Help! " That's very very strange. Especially now I've read he's ignoring your messages that isn't on. Totally understand your frustration and confusion. This is not a reflection on you! I do hope you realise that - it's all him! Big hugs Ell x | |||
"From social media photos, he went on his own. Which makes even less sense. Still haven't heard from him, just feel more disappointed that I was such a poor judge of character. But, new day, onwards and upwards. Can't dwell on the scrapheap "I mean what others of said could of happened panicked, how do I explain etc but the just leaving you there is my issue. You dont do that to anyone it's just plain rude and indecent! He might be a "good" guy who just made a very very bad choice! His loss not yours! Nope your so much better than that! | |||
"Sooooo........ I have a friend, that I've met from fab, but we were more friends than anything else, got on well, spent a bit of time together. He's a professional man, good job, decent lifestyle, old fashioned manners, what I thought was an all round decent man. He needed a plus one to wedding, and last-minute invited me yesterday, for a wedding today. Nothing in it, just so didn't have to go on his own. I made a massive effort, so I sorted a dress, booked hair and make up this morning, and half an hour before he was due to pick me up let me down. No explanation, nothing, no crosswords, no reason at all. It is made me feel horrendous. I made such an effort to be the best me for him, thinking I was doing a decent thing. And it's made me feel horrendous. Gutted and disappointed to the core. It's not had a bad experience on here, but this has blown it out the water. It's knocked me far more than I ever thought I could be knocked!!! Help! " You didnt do anything wrong at all, dont beat yourself up about a creep like that. Block him and keep smiling, you will always be better than this guy will ever be, and im pretty sure many many people would be jnterested in meeting you x | |||
"Already blocked!!! He had an open invite, hasn't been seeing anyone, and I think was toying with the idea and threw it out there. I'm pretty sure he expected me to say no, when I said yes he went into overdrive. He even text me at 6 o'clock this morning to make sure I was awake in time to get ready.? The mind baffles me " Some people like playing games. Some people like having you there hanging. The fact you've had no explanation or apology makes me suspicious My guess is he had someone lined up as his plus one, they let him down which is why he asked you (also possibly to make the other person jealous). They then made up which is why you were then dumped. You deserve better than this shitty behaviour. Block and move on. | |||
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