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Introducing swinging to the wife
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over a year ago
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"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?
Show her your profile and explain it all from the beginning  "
Indeed. I'm sure she'll love the part about being honest with no mention of you being married |
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Over a few weeks subtly ask her if she fancys him on tele, is she's ever thought about sleeping with other people etc if you get a good reaction try suggesting racier things.
I wouldn't come straight out with "let's go swinging". |
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"You're both adults.
Have an adult conversation about it.
If she says no, drop it and forget it.
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Exactly this.
Swinging well succesful swinging requires absolute openess between partners. Start as you mean to go on by talking to your new wife. Sit down, tell her you love and respect her and you'd like to discuss your fantasies. Then say what you want to say...here's the difficult bit...really listen to her response and continue the discussion from there. |
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I was on the swinging scene a few years ago then took a break,then got married, as you can see from my profile I've not met anyone since my comeback, I'm just wondering if how introduce my wife that's all, I've never cheated on her and don't ever intend too! I want us both to have fun together |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd have definitely mentioned it before getting married, what are you going to do if it's not her thing? Get divorced? Or carry on doing it behind her back? What scale of swinging would you want her to go into? It's not just a yes or no choice, there's lots of things to consider
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"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so"
I hear you.
Some of us have suggested an honest chat. How does that approach seem to you? I personally would think twice about telling her you're already here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so"
You're a grown man.
If you can't figure out how to talk to the supposed love of your life (you married her after all), then a bunch of strangers certainly won't be able to. You know her, we don't. |
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"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so
You're a grown man.
If you can't figure out how to talk to the supposed love of your life (you married her after all), then a bunch of strangers certainly won't be able to. You know her, we don't. "
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"Only recently got married, so maybe I need to tweek the profile a bit"
I think you do need to "tweak the profile" a bit. It still says you are looking for fun with any age, size and shape woman and also that you are looking to meet couples for "genuine bi-fun" (although you are straight) |
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"Only recently got married, so maybe I need to tweek the profile a bit
I think you do need to "tweak the profile" a bit. It still says you are looking for fun with any age, size and shape woman and also that you are looking to meet couples for "genuine bi-fun" (although you are straight)"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?"
maybe you should have asked over a year ago but someone else wants to be a mistress in forums if that helps  |
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"You recently got married?? Do wtf are you doing on here?
If you can’t be honest with her before you get married then that’s shameful!!
The fact you can’t be honest on here.... shows you’re a knob!"
there's always one who gets all judgemental lol give the guy a break , he's asking a reasonable question and wants advice not being slagged off ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Iv questioned my wife about if she was interested in planning a 3some or even meeting another couple , but she said definitely not, that was before I even started on here. , so I’m having a go on my own , not doing too well to be fair though ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not read all the replies, tell her you just found out someone you work with and their wife are swingers and you’d never have guessed if he hadnt told you.. guage her reaction n maybe use it as a conversation starter x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You just need to tell her you've done it in the past, and does it appeal to you. If she says no. Drop it. You never know she may broach the subject at a later if her curiosity is pricked. If not collect stamps |
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No idea of the best answer however a mutual conversation about being curious about the club scene is less scary than a full on card carrying declaration of your swinging desires.
Clubs can be fetish clubs etc it’s going to work far better for you if you establish her kinks and fantasies. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Only recently got married, so maybe I need to tweek the profile a bit, thanks anyway "
Congratulations OP. Have a good honest chat with her. I'm assuming she knows you are on here,so perhaps log in with her and let her browse the site with you. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Iv questioned my wife about if she was interested in planning a 3some or even meeting another couple , but she said definitely not, that was before I even started on here. , so I’m having a go on my own , not doing too well to be fair though ?? "
How does your wife feel about you doing this? |
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Has she given any indication that she wants to swing or is this just what you want?
Talk ,talk and more talk
If she says no ,you have to then make a choice ,forgetting swinging and being faithful. Or carrying on being her back.....
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"You recently got married?? Do wtf are you doing on here?
If you can’t be honest with her before you get married then that’s shameful!!
The fact you can’t be honest on here.... shows you’re a knob!"
YUP |
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"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so"
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1 hour ago... In the Marchamley Shropshire area today if anyone fancies meeting up
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"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so
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plentyinthetank (38)
Man in Nantwich, North West, UK
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1 hour ago... In the Marchamley Shropshire area today if anyone fancies meeting up
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”Darling it’s not what it looks” |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Can guarantee she will not appreciate the fact that you are looking for sex on here already prior to speaking to her!
She will think you are or have cheated and put you straight in the bin haha
Honestly dude, you need to have the chat asap!!
Has she given you any indication that she would be into it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally, I’d delete your single account immediately and talk to her. Hopefully she won’t go down the route of “how do you know about this website”. If she’s in, great. If she isn’t then concentrate on a marriage and not getting your rocks off secretly. As a massive side of swinging is honesty and openness, I’d say your ship has already sailed |
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"You recently got married?? Do wtf are you doing on here?
If you can’t be honest with her before you get married then that’s shameful!!
The fact you can’t be honest on here.... shows you’re a knob!"
As meatloaf said “you took the words right out of my mouth”!! |
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"Like I said previously I've literally just came back, I've never cheated on her and don't intend too, that's why I want to approach the subject, but want to know the best way of doing so
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Man in Nantwich, North West, UK
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1 hour ago... In the Marchamley Shropshire area today if anyone fancies meeting up
”Darling it’s not what it looks” "
Honest!! |
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"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?"
Ask her to take new photos for your profile that will let her know the direction you want to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?
Ask her to take new photos for your profile that will let her know the direction you want to go. "
lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Evening all, I'm just wondering how to approach the subject of swinging to the wife, how does everyone else do it?
Ask her to take new photos for your profile that will let her know the direction you want to go. lol"
Hahaha |
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"Not read all the replies, tell her you just found out someone you work with and their wife are swingers and you’d never have guessed if he hadnt told you.. guage her reaction n maybe use it as a conversation starter x "
I like this. |
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