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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wondering where I am going wrong. Been honest about my status, age, physique etc etc but suffered a succession of knock backs. Begining to lose hope of meeting and playing. Has anybody got any tips? |
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"Wondering where I am going wrong. Been honest about my status, age, physique etc etc but suffered a succession of knock backs. Begining to lose hope of meeting and playing. Has anybody got any tips? "
Your married...so a whole host of people wont meet you, your profile is 2 lines and you have no pics...
now do you think its body size stopping you getting meets?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get your profile sorted and get some pics up and then be patient - let who you are come across in your profile and every message you send - its not easy for guys on here - even less so for those of us bigger built AND married - we are pretty much at the bottom of the pile when it comes to the what women want on here but just be you and go from there
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wondering where I am going wrong. Been honest about my status, age, physique etc etc but suffered a succession of knock backs. Begining to lose hope of meeting and playing. Has anybody got any tips?
Your married...so a whole host of people wont meet you, your profile is 2 lines and you have no pics...
now do you think its body size stopping you getting meets? "
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By *waymanMan
over a year ago
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"Wondering where I am going wrong. Been honest about my status, age, physique etc etc but suffered a succession of knock backs. Begining to lose hope of meeting and playing. Has anybody got any tips?
Your married...so a whole host of people wont meet you, your profile is 2 lines and you have no pics...
now do you think its body size stopping you getting meets? "
Jem is right. My profile varies in size. I do not - as others here will verify, I am on the large side of the Wigan scale (so called because those of us on the large side of the Wigan scale look like we ate all the pies).
I interact. I talk to people. It wasn't my profile got Jem interested - it was a jokey conversation in chat. Interact, and see what happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wondering where I am going wrong. Been honest about my status, age, physique etc etc but suffered a succession of knock backs. Begining to lose hope of meeting and playing. Has anybody got any tips?
Your married...so a whole host of people wont meet you, your profile is 2 lines and you have no pics...
now do you think its body size stopping you getting meets?
This. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sort your profile, people aren't mind readers. You wont get any response if you haven't got pics
Being married will matter to some, but other's wont give a toss.
Writing a good profile is not an exact science, but you really aren't helping yourself.
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"Wondering where I am going wrong. Been honest about my status, age, physique etc etc but suffered a succession of knock backs. Begining to lose hope of meeting and playing. Has anybody got any tips?
Your married...so a whole host of people wont meet you, your profile is 2 lines and you have no pics...
now do you think its body size stopping you getting meets?
Jem is right. My profile varies in size. I do not - as others here will verify, I am on the large side of the Wigan scale (so called because those of us on the large side of the Wigan scale look like we ate all the pies).
I interact. I talk to people. It wasn't my profile got Jem interested - it was a jokey conversation in chat. Interact, and see what happens."
i think i must be a feeder...id make the pies  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do agree that perhaps you do yourself no favours with your profile but rest assured that you are not the only one finding the site frustrating.
Even a single guy struggles unless he is 25 -30 years old over 6ft and very large in certain areas.
I have concluded that most couples do not want single guys and most single females are time wasters and just looking to get a thrill from being approached.
The usual response to single guys is to ignore or delete messages and some females just Block you even though you have been absolutly polite and respectful.
Why people can not just simply reply "Thanks for the message but now Thanks" if they are not interested is beyond me.
But perhaps I am old school with respect to manners.  |
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"I do agree that perhaps you do yourself no favours with your profile but rest assured that you are not the only one finding the site frustrating.
Even a single guy struggles unless he is 25 -30 years old over 6ft and very large in certain areas.
I have concluded that most couples do not want single guys and most single females are time wasters and just looking to get a thrill from being approached.
The usual response to single guys is to ignore or delete messages and some females just Block you even though you have been absolutly polite and respectful.
Why people can not just simply reply "Thanks for the message but now Thanks" if they are not interested is beyond me.
But perhaps I am old school with respect to manners. "
no reply is a no thank you...
And yes weirdly enough on a swinging site most couples are looking for couples to swing with...who would have thought it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do agree that perhaps you do yourself no favours with your profile but rest assured that you are not the only one finding the site frustrating.
Even a single guy struggles unless he is 25 -30 years old over 6ft and very large in certain areas.
I have concluded that most couples do not want single guys and most single females are time wasters and just looking to get a thrill from being approached.
The usual response to single guys is to ignore or delete messages and some females just Block you even though you have been absolutly polite and respectful.
Why people can not just simply reply "Thanks for the message but now Thanks" if they are not interested is beyond me.
But perhaps I am old school with respect to manners.
no reply is a no thank you...
And yes weirdly enough on a swinging site most couples are looking for couples to swing with...who would have thought it "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do agree that perhaps you do yourself no favours with your profile but rest assured that you are not the only one finding the site frustrating.
Even a single guy struggles unless he is 25 -30 years old over 6ft and very large in certain areas.
I have concluded that most couples do not want single guys and most single females are time wasters and just looking to get a thrill from being approached.
The usual response to single guys is to ignore or delete messages and some females just Block you even though you have been absolutly polite and respectful.
Why people can not just simply reply "Thanks for the message but now Thanks" if they are not interested is beyond me.
But perhaps I am old school with respect to manners. "
1) I prefer guys who are 'averagely endowed'
2) We meet single guys occasionally
3) Height isn't even brought into the equation
4) Age pref is over 35 for me
5) We choose to meet people that come across as fun and friendly
6) We delete messages (and block the sender male, couple or female) if they choose to ignore the text in our profile ....we CAN tell!
7) Some single ladies enjoy being approached, some aren't fussed and some are frustrated at being inundated
8) It isn't down to bad manners if someone choses to delete and not reply. We tried replying to all messages when we first joined.... only to get fed up with all the "why not?" or abusive messages. Admittedly, not everyone did reply in that manner, but our crystal ball is faulty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Master Posting
You need to have a look at some of the womens pofiles on here and learn how to sell yourself, maybe find a new term for being on the large side, BBW is the one women use for being obese so maybe BHM for big handsome man ? your profile does need work though and you need to realise its not a single mans world on this site. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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see... the issue is that a lot of people look for an "easy" excuse as to why they don't get meets...
be that "age"... or "build" ... or "colour".... or that they are the lonely "single" man....although a lot are married...
you get out what you put in... be that getting known on the forums or in the chat rooms, or taking your time on your profile and displaying the best "you" you possibly can... or going your arses out there to actual clubs and socials......
not everyone is going to like you, and you are not going to be irrestible to everyone! but to use an "easy" isn't going to help...
negativity breeds negativity... you go out there with a loser type "oh woe is me" attitude and you well get it back in spades...
if you don't sell yourself to your best way possible then to be honest you have no one else to blame except the person staring you back in the mirror...
harsh... yes... tough... sure... truth... absolutely!!!! |
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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago
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Your profile is your shop window, make an effort, but don't expect anyone to come running.
I have met only one person directly through my profile or messages on this site. Get out to the socials, go to the clubs. Contribute in the forums. You have to be active to be noticed.
If you cannot commit the time and effort needed, there are many faster, easier ways to get laid and if that is your only objective, really I think this is the wrong place to be.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your profile is your shop window, make an effort, but don't expect anyone to come running.
I have met only one person directly through my profile or messages on this site. Get out to the socials, go to the clubs. Contribute in the forums. You have to be active to be noticed.
If you cannot commit the time and effort needed, there are many faster, easier ways to get laid and if that is your only objective, really I think this is the wrong place to be.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do agree that perhaps you do yourself no favours with your profile but rest assured that you are not the only one finding the site frustrating.
Even a single guy struggles unless he is 25 -30 years old over 6ft and very large in certain areas.
I have concluded that most couples do not want single guys and most single females are time wasters and just looking to get a thrill from being approached.
The usual response to single guys is to ignore or delete messages and some females just Block you even though you have been absolutly polite and respectful.
Why people can not just simply reply "Thanks for the message but now Thanks" if they are not interested is beyond me.
But perhaps I am old school with respect to manners. "
I don't believe that for one minute mate. I'm over the age bracket you specified (I'm 34) and I'd class myself as average in the length department (though rather chunky with it in my defence, lol) in fact the only thing I have in common with your "demograph of acceptability" is the fact I am 6 foot 1 as if that matters when I am kneeling between a squealing lady's spread thighs!
Yet despite all these "drawbacks" I seem to do rather well on here? How can you explain this? Without admitting that in fact any man so long as he has the right attitude, intellect and imagination can enjoy success in this paradise world that is swinging?
And as for 'manners' is it well mannered for a single guy to expect a lady to spend about 3 hours a day simply typing up "no thanks" messages, which in the long run don't lead to pleasure for anyone concerned?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do agree that perhaps you do yourself no favours with your profile but rest assured that you are not the only one finding the site frustrating.
Even a single guy struggles unless he is 25 -30 years old over 6ft and very large in certain areas.
I have concluded that most couples do not want single guys and most single females are time wasters and just looking to get a thrill from being approached.
The usual response to single guys is to ignore or delete messages and some females just Block you even though you have been absolutly polite and respectful.
Why people can not just simply reply "Thanks for the message but now Thanks" if they are not interested is beyond me.
But perhaps I am old school with respect to manners.
I don't believe that for one minute mate. I'm over the age bracket you specified (I'm 34) and I'd class myself as average in the length department (though rather chunky with it in my defence, lol) in fact the only thing I have in common with your "demograph of acceptability" is the fact I am 6 foot 1 as if that matters when I am kneeling between a squealing lady's spread thighs!
Yet despite all these "drawbacks" I seem to do rather well on here? How can you explain this? Without admitting that in fact any man so long as he has the right attitude, intellect and imagination can enjoy success in this paradise world that is swinging?
And as for 'manners' is it well mannered for a single guy to expect a lady to spend about 3 hours a day simply typing up "no thanks" messages, which in the long run don't lead to pleasure for anyone concerned?
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Proof that positive mental attitude gets you meets.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do agree that perhaps you do yourself no favours with your profile but rest assured that you are not the only one finding the site frustrating.
Even a single guy struggles unless he is 25 -30 years old over 6ft and very large in certain areas.
I have concluded that most couples do not want single guys and most single females are time wasters and just looking to get a thrill from being approached.
The usual response to single guys is to ignore or delete messages and some females just Block you even though you have been absolutly polite and respectful.
Why people can not just simply reply "Thanks for the message but now Thanks" if they are not interested is beyond me.
But perhaps I am old school with respect to manners. "
I actually agree with SOME of what you say, yet the manner in which you put it across smacks of negativity.
There is no-one that is attractive to everyone. No One !
However, I do think it helps if a man is within a certain age bracket (tho the one you name is too restricted), I think it it helps if he has a certain physique, I think it matters if he has good looks and I think that cock size does factor for some, though not always in the manner you suggest.
As cliche as it sounds, a positive mental attitude, the ability to communicate effectively with others and the ability to get knocked down yet bounce back up with positivity are all useful tools to have on hand.
I fit none of the criteria you mention, yet I still manage to meet and I have the ability to scare police horses let alone the good people of Fab.
If you aren't getting meets, I would look beyond the purely physical. |
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"I do agree that perhaps you do yourself no favours with your profile but rest assured that you are not the only one finding the site frustrating.
Even a single guy struggles unless he is 25 -30 years old over 6ft and very large in certain areas.
I have concluded that most couples do not want single guys and most single females are time wasters and just looking to get a thrill from being approached.
The usual response to single guys is to ignore or delete messages and some females just Block you even though you have been absolutly polite and respectful.
Why people can not just simply reply "Thanks for the message but now Thanks" if they are not interested is beyond me.
But perhaps I am old school with respect to manners. "
You are so wrong. I am single, under 6 foot and have an average cock. I get meets (I don't display all my meets on my profile) |
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If i was reading your profile i would pass it by for these reasons
Your married but thats by the by just my preference
Its a couple of lines, it says nothing about your build, yes ive just looked that you say large because i couldnt see it but generally i dont look down there, i want all the information i need by reading the profile. You think its because your large, i would say looking at your profile the last thing that would put me off is the fact that your large. You need to sell yourself |
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