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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm what they describe as all talk, no play.
Probably the wrong site but too scared to cheat, unless talking to the opposite sex, counts as cheating.
Anyone else in that position. Happy to talk if you are.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm not averse to meeting. I guess I will meet the right person.
I'm probably in a minority but taking that first step to meet while being married is harder than I thought it to be! |
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"I'm pretty sure she doesn't!"
Then surely you didn't think this would be easier.
You are potentially going to break your wedding vows, cheat on her and live a lie? That's a tough pill to swallow.
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"I'm pretty sure she doesn't!
Then surely you didn't think this would be easier.
You are potentially going to break your wedding vows, cheat on her and live a lie? That's a tough pill to swallow.
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My wife wouldn't be happy if she knew I was on here (alone) it's the fact your on a site like this with the potential of cheating will break her heart even if you don't plan to |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm pretty sure she doesn't!
Then surely you didn't think this would be easier.
You are potentially going to break your wedding vows, cheat on her and live a lie? That's a tough pill to swallow.
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Never thought it would be easier in the slightest. Not sure how you know what my expectations are? (Unless you've walked in my shoes) .
Regardless, this post was supposed to be an invite to talk to those in a similar position, which I assume by your high moral ground, you're not.
To answer you next comment, obviously if there is no one in a similar position to me, I'm on the wrong site and yes, I will delete my profile. |
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"I'm pretty sure she doesn't!
Then surely you didn't think this would be easier.
You are potentially going to break your wedding vows, cheat on her and live a lie? That's a tough pill to swallow.
Never thought it would be easier in the slightest. Not sure how you know what my expectations are? (Unless you've walked in my shoes) .
Regardless, this post was supposed to be an invite to talk to those in a similar position, which I assume by your high moral ground, you're not.
To answer you next comment, obviously if there is no one in a similar position to me, I'm on the wrong site and yes, I will delete my profile. "
I based what I thought your expectations were from your own words on your own profile and some text above. No ambiguity there.
Anyway my point simply was you've made an extreme decision to come here... it's not an counselling site for sexless marriages and you have expressed the desire to have sex outside your marriage. The above is pure fact sadly.
I hope you get what you need.
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I’m not sure what you’re looking for OP? If it’s reassurance that what you are doing is ok, you’re in the wrong place.
Your business is absolutely your business but you don’t get an easy time on the forums as someone here behind their partners back. |
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"I’m not sure what you’re looking for OP? If it’s reassurance that what you are doing is ok, you’re in the wrong place.
Your business is absolutely your business but you don’t get an easy time on the forums as someone here behind their partners back."
I'm certainly not looking for reassurance. I understand I'm accountable for my actions but as you said, that's for me to deal with it.
If being on here without my partner knowing is so offensive to those who don't know me, then absolutely I'm on the wrong site. If so, I'd better close the door behind me and wish all you superior beings a fab day. |
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"I’m not sure what you’re looking for OP? If it’s reassurance that what you are doing is ok, you’re in the wrong place.
Your business is absolutely your business but you don’t get an easy time on the forums as someone here behind their partners back.
I'm certainly not looking for reassurance. I understand I'm accountable for my actions but as you said, that's for me to deal with it.
If being on here without my partner knowing is so offensive to those who don't know me, then absolutely I'm on the wrong site. If so, I'd better close the door behind me and wish all you superior beings a fab day. "
I’d suggest with this attitude and chip on your shoulder, maybe you are. No need to be rude! |
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"I’m not sure what you’re looking for OP? If it’s reassurance that what you are doing is ok, you’re in the wrong place.
Your business is absolutely your business but you don’t get an easy time on the forums as someone here behind their partners back.
I'm certainly not looking for reassurance. I understand I'm accountable for my actions but as you said, that's for me to deal with it.
If being on here without my partner knowing is so offensive to those who don't know me, then absolutely I'm on the wrong site. If so, I'd better close the door behind me and wish all you superior beings a fab day.
I’d suggest with this attitude and chip on your shoulder, maybe you are. No need to be rude!"
I didn't think I was being rude. Apologies if it came across that way.
I was merely stating that if people on fab don't take nicely to one being here behind their partners back then it's best I leave. I didn't necessarily point that as you. |
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Can I make a few observations.
There are people who cheat on fab who quietly go about their business without drawing attention to themselves. A line on a profile will suffice to make it clear to people what your situation is.
The forums are a place for people to express opinions. Opinions that you may not want to hear, but people have a right to express them.
Playing the hard done to card because someone is expressing their disapproval of your actions butters no parsnips. To confuse leberal minded swingers with people who have no moral compass is an easy mistake to make, but a mistake all the same.
Finally, whilst I wish you luck, you do come across as hostile because you haven't been flooded with supportive messages. Use fab how you see fit, but alienating your target audience will get you nowhere. |
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OP there are many people on fab who are here solo without the knowledge of their partner so you aren't alone. What you do need to know is that lots of people take a dim view of this. Some will tell you as much and others will simply choose not to interact with you. For a lot of folks they just don't want the potential drama and shit storm if your wife was to find out about you being here and track them down.
As for wanting to just chat - there are others who do this but most people are here to meet.
Only you can decide if fab is the right place for you. If you are feeling guilty about just chatting how would you feel after a meet? If you can't reconcile yourself with these feelings then maybe you should just concentrate on your relationship at home.
Good luck whatever you decide. |
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"I’m not sure what you’re looking for OP? If it’s reassurance that what you are doing is ok, you’re in the wrong place.
Your business is absolutely your business but you don’t get an easy time on the forums as someone here behind their partners back.
I'm certainly not looking for reassurance. I understand I'm accountable for my actions but as you said, that's for me to deal with it.
If being on here without my partner knowing is so offensive to those who don't know me, then absolutely I'm on the wrong site. If so, I'd better close the door behind me and wish all you superior beings a fab day.
I’d suggest with this attitude and chip on your shoulder, maybe you are. No need to be rude!
I didn't think I was being rude. Apologies if it came across that way.
I was merely stating that if people on fab don't take nicely to one being here behind their partners back then it's best I leave. I didn't necessarily point that as you. "
You have been here over a year and now decide it may be time to leave? Cya |
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