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How many time wasters are on here?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Only been on here a few weeks and have been chatting to various personalities of all shapes and sizes, but Ive never come across a site with so many bull s**ters  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks and have been chatting to various personalities of all shapes and sizes, but Ive never come across a site with so many bull s**ters "
Welcome to Fab lol |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"When Facing
Many Timewasters
One Has To
Consider The Common Denominator
Is YOU
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it is the point that i always make... and I get called a "hater" for mentioning it.....
how do you go about doing your chosing... and your due diligence.... if it isn't working then in the end only YOU can change that......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive had plenty of meets and only ever been let down a couple of times but they have always contacted me and to be honest they had good reasons to postpone the meet so i cant give you an honest answer really i just send my interest in a meet and let the other party return without pushing for the meeet that way its relaxed and un hurried ,
works for me and everyone is happy  |
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"i have had a couple of no shows yes  "
so lets ignore the negativity, cos it dont help, and look at constructive advice.
Are you speaking on the phone early on?
Are they giving out the right signals in initial messages? (ppl who meet rarely want graphic sexual descriptions via email of what will happen at the meet)
Do they have pics? i know some ppl dont, but they tend to be verified .
Does it seem to good to be true?
4 weeks is very quick to have arranged more than one meet, are u doing the above as well as using your common sense and knowledge of people?
this site in my experience has more who meet than most others, but its not handed to you on a plate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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to be honest i dont think there are many genuine people on here to be honest, i came to the forum to ask advice on why i wasn't getting any meets and to be honest i changed my profile and still no luck...
i talk to people in chat but just because im quite average in the downstairs department women / couples dont seem interested. they seem to want guys who are 8 or 9 inch long.
the whole point of this site is to swing and have fun and not to prejudice anyone but it seems to me if either you aint got a big one or your face dont fit you have no luck.
ive been on here for a few years and in that time only ever met a single lady and a couple.
i send messages quite regularly but to no avail do i hear back from any.. only a selective few have the decency to say a poite no.
unless someone can prove me otherwise |
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"to be honest i dont think there are many genuine people on here to be honest, i came to the forum to ask advice on why i wasn't getting any meets and to be honest i changed my profile and still no luck...
i talk to people in chat but just because im quite average in the downstairs department women / couples dont seem interested. they seem to want guys who are 8 or 9 inch long.
the whole point of this site is to swing and have fun and not to prejudice anyone but it seems to me if either you aint got a big one or your face dont fit you have no luck.
ive been on here for a few years and in that time only ever met a single lady and a couple.
i send messages quite regularly but to no avail do i hear back from any.. only a selective few have the decency to say a poite no.
unless someone can prove me otherwise"
look at my veri's,ppl meet.  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"to be honest i dont think there are many genuine people on here to be honest, i came to the forum to ask advice on why i wasn't getting any meets and to be honest i changed my profile and still no luck...
i talk to people in chat but just because im quite average in the downstairs department women / couples dont seem interested. they seem to want guys who are 8 or 9 inch long.
the whole point of this site is to swing and have fun and not to prejudice anyone but it seems to me if either you aint got a big one or your face dont fit you have no luck.
ive been on here for a few years and in that time only ever met a single lady and a couple.
i send messages quite regularly but to no avail do i hear back from any.. only a selective few have the decency to say a poite no.
unless someone can prove me otherwise
look at my veri's,ppl meet. "
Ditto.
I hate the fact that so many men seem to think that we HAVE to meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"to be honest i dont think there are many genuine people on here to be honest, i came to the forum to ask advice on why i wasn't getting any meets and to be honest i changed my profile and still no luck...
i talk to people in chat but just because im quite average in the downstairs department women / couples dont seem interested. they seem to want guys who are 8 or 9 inch long.
the whole point of this site is to swing
and have fun and not to prejudice anyone but it seems to me if either you aint got a big one or your face dont fit you have no luck.
ive been on here for a few years and in that time only ever met a single lady and a couple.
i send messages quite regularly but to no avail do i hear back from any.. only a selective few
have the decency to say a poite no.
unless someone can prove me otherwise"
I don't meet off the site anyway (three up to yet)
I'm too busy with meeting at socials and hose parties clubs etc
Use the site to keep up with who I have met
Short fat bald with an average dick here but I meet
Cause instead of being negative and on a downer I do summat about it xx |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"to be honest i dont think there are many genuine people on here to be honest, i came to the forum to ask advice on why i wasn't getting any meets and to be honest i changed my profile and still no luck...
i talk to people in chat but just because im quite average in the downstairs department women / couples dont seem interested. they seem to want guys who are 8 or 9 inch long.
the whole point of this site is to swing and have fun and not to prejudice anyone but it seems to me if either you aint got a big one or your face dont fit you have no luck.
ive been on here for a few years and in that time only ever met a single lady and a couple.
i send messages quite regularly but to no avail do i hear back from any.. only a selective few have the decency to say a poite no.
unless someone can prove me otherwise"
I've only been on the site 7 months, I can safely say people meet me, I've not been stood up yet either, I guess I was just born lucky.  , be lucky guys...   |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"to be honest i dont think there are many genuine people on here to be honest, i came to the forum to ask advice on why i wasn't getting any meets and to be honest i changed my profile and still no luck...
i talk to people in chat but just because im quite average in the downstairs department women / couples dont seem interested. they seem to want guys who are 8 or 9 inch long.
the whole point of this site is to swing and have fun and not to prejudice anyone but it seems to me if either you aint got a big one or your face dont fit you have no luck.
ive been on here for a few years and in that time only ever met a single lady and a couple.
i send messages quite regularly but to no avail do i hear back from any.. only a selective few have the decency to say a poite no.
unless someone can prove me otherwise"
actually that is not quite true.. and you know that... that is stretching what happened
1) yes you did come on asking for advice.. and got a lot of good advice.....
2) yes you changed "your" profile.....
i'll leave it that... but people who were sharp eyed people noticed a few things...
do you want to tell people why? honestly??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yep but to be honest ive been to socials and they always seem to be weekends in wich i work so not always able to get to them.
they are good dont get me wrong but a lot just want one offs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yep but to be honest ive been to socials and they always seem to be weekends in wich i work so not always able to get to them.
they are good dont get me wrong but a lot just want one offs"
But swinging is about one offs sometimes mate
If you want regular ya may be better with dating sites
There are people that will remeet regularly but also a lot that won't
The trick is to enjoy the moment xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yep but to be honest ive been to socials and they always seem to be weekends in wich i work so not always able to get to them.
they are good dont get me wrong but a lot just want one offs
But swinging is about one offs sometimes mate
If you want regular ya may be better with dating sites
There are people that will remeet regularly but also a lot that won't
The trick is to enjoy the moment xx"
Agreed, I'm actually yet to regularly meet someone (no comments, lol). To be fair only one of them I met just once, the others weren't many more times than that though. |
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"i agree not everyone wants regular meetings but to be honest id be happy with the one off meets but in 3 years ive only met 2 off here"
I'd ask for a full refund if I were you....that's feckin' outrageous |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive met with 2 lads off here (ironically before i came on here...) and i gotta say as much as i enjoy getting to know people, as soon as you arrange to meet something always comes up/they just stop talking to you/they aren't who you think they are... not good ! |
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"ive met with 2 lads off here (ironically before i came on here...) and i gotta say as much as i enjoy getting to know people, as soon as you arrange to meet something always comes up/they just stop talking to you/they aren't who you think they are... not good !"
i dont think 3 weeks is a reasonable time to decide something that always happens |
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"what like because i copied a profile and changed a few bits on there... hardly a crime is it ??what other bits then i aint got nothing to hide"
if u copied a profile, then i think i know why you arent getting meets...you get back out of swinging what u put into it
op i hope you read the advice i gave above, and feel free to comment on what after all was your thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"op i hope you read the advice i gave above, and feel free to comment on what after all was your thread."
I would agree with some of her points too... dunno why I'm about to do this, but hey.
Phone contact - I will never leave my house without speaking to someone on the phone. You can get more info out of hearing someone talk to you. For the most part if they are willing to talk on the phone, they should be genuine enough.
Pics - not in total agreement with, if they dont have them doesnt mean they arent genuine BUT... would you meet someone you haven't seen.
Too good to be true - BINGO! this one I feel I have a knack for, and if you're getting everything you want to hear too quickly and you just get that feel, then you're probably right, which leads to...
Trust your instinct - For me it's rarely been wrong.
EXPECT NOTHING, treat it like a social networking site, not a desperate-list-of women-who-surely-must-want-to-shag-you site. Make some FRIENDS, enjoy SOCIALISING, and eventually you might find you no longer come across as desperate and undesirable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i copied a little but put it in my own words, to be honest i have changed my profile so many times and to be honest if someone is interested they will chat and get to know you no matter what it says on profiles.
plus to be honest everytime i change my profile theres always someone who seems to pick at it so to be honest you cant win whatever you do.
i login daily , try to chat in the chat room on here, message people, what else can i do... i think i put lot of effort in to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have changed my expectatons on here to if there is anyone genuine on here they will make as much effort as me and if not then its their loss.
unless your 8" + then you may have interest.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and regarding last comment, i partly agree with him but how are you supposed to make friends and socialize when no one talks or replies"
Well the desperation will come through there too... but maybe I should add. I know this is supposedly a 'sex site'... but keep the convo off sex, until they turn it that way. You wouldn't go up to a woman in a bar and say "you like anal, I like anal, I think we should give it a go, up for it". This does essentially come back to the point of getting to know people. Keep it light, be yourself. Rejection is in all walks of life. Again, same principal, if you asked every single girl in a bar you were in if they fancied you, you'll probably get a low hit rate, its just how it is.
I'm not sure I can offer any more, I have to be up in 4 hrs. I'm not saying I'm some guru of this, this is just what I know, or feel to be true, and I think most of it isn't too far off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No you still have to make effort, the ratios of guys to girls is still massive, if you dont make yourself noticed no one's gonna chase after you.
That 8inch thing is way off though... for some maybe, but I'm 6 and a bit and no one has ever told me they didnt want me because I was too small. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well im the same too downstairs, i agree where your coming from but i have tried the friendly approach not even mentioning sex or anything but to be honest you dont get many replies either way..
thanks for your advice tho..
ill just see what happens if nothing happens soon ill just close my account..
you get some sleep mate.
thanks again for your advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont give up bro, there are plenty out there that will come after you. i got a few hawking me pretty hard but i cant do anything for them until springtime when me and my bud get a flat. Its hard to rock the boat when family is around (-_-)
Just keep at is and aim for women who make it clear what they want in their profiles. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"thanks mate wish some woen would give me a chance on here tho..
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I think your problem is that you came on here expecting 'a chance'. If you expect nothing, then anything is a bonus. If you are on here, pleasant, happy and chatty, then things might be different. You say you behave that way on chat but the only posts I have ever seen from you on the forums are moaning about why people won't meet you.
You're too negative, so I wouldn't meet you for that reason alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thanks mate wish some woen would give me a chance on here tho..
I think your problem is that you came on here expecting 'a chance'. If you expect nothing, then anything is a bonus. If you are on here, pleasant, happy and chatty, then things might be different. You say you behave that way on chat but the only posts I have ever seen from you on the forums are moaning about why people won't meet you.
You're too negative, so I wouldn't meet you for that reason alone."
Asking women to give you a chance makes it sound like a plea for a pity shag! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have changed my expectatons on here to if there is anyone genuine on here they will make as much effort as me and if not then its their loss.
unless your 8" + then you may have interest.."
Over 8" + = loss of interest for me. Why do so many men think that 'it's all about having a big cock'?
Some women love big cock... others ain't too fussed... and the others avoid big cock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately there are heaps of timewasters on the site & that is a sad fact. Whilst some of the sanctimonious twaddle talked by other members seem to suggest that it is something you bring on yourself the reality is that you can do absolutely everything right & still be left when somebody fails to show up.
Unfortunately there is no way to recognise those people who have got a track record for messing others about.
On the positive side there are some great people on the site.
Its a pity however that because of the actions of the many timewasters it makes the whole process so much more problematic for the rest of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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everyone has different tastes . Some guys like a good ass , or a great set of breasts or long legs , some women like big cocks some dont . Think it was soapy on another thread who said just be yourself be positive and expect nothing . Maybe try going into chat having a laugh and not having so much emphasis on the sex side of things . One more thing just a niggling point from when i was reading through the posts ... please stop saying "to be honest" , you got a lot of good advice here some of which i'll be taking up myself no one's perfect . Sit back enjoy the ride and good luck mate .  |
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By *essesCouple
over a year ago
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"everyone has different tastes . Some guys like a good ass , or a great set of breasts or long legs , some women like big cocks some dont . Think it was soapy on another thread who said just be yourself be positive and expect nothing . Maybe try going into chat having a laugh and not having so much emphasis on the sex side of things . One more thing just a niggling point from when i was reading through the posts ... please stop saying "to be honest" , you got a lot of good advice here some of which i'll be taking up myself no one's perfect . Sit back enjoy the ride and good luck mate . "
+ 1
I had a look at your profile and was put off straight away by the moan at the top. We want fun and this makes us think straight away that you are going to be a "glass is half empty" kind of guy.
Also size does not matter, some of the best meets we have had and want more of, are not large down there but what they do have is a fantastic attitude and special skills  that mean the size of their cock is the last thing we are thinking about.
Also your profile doesn't give us a clue about what you want in the other person/s. Do you like boobs, bums, humour?
So smile, be happy and give out the right attitude and I am sure you will get some more meets.
To the op, there may be time wasters on this site but there are also a lot of genuine fun people, you just need to be patient.
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"i copied a little but put it in my own words, to be honest i have changed my profile so many times and to be honest if someone is interested they will chat and get to know you no matter what it says on profiles.
plus to be honest everytime i change my profile theres always someone who seems to pick at it so to be honest you cant win whatever you do.
i login daily , try to chat in the chat room on here, message people, what else can i do... i think i put lot of effort in to be honest"
I know obviously everyone can have a negtative day and post a post/ thread....but if you are negative in your mails also then you won't get anywhere at all.
Your posts come across as you think people should give you a chance because you have asked them, what you are failing to realise is...it doesn't matter how many times you ask, people are allowed to choose who they play with.
There isn't a big list with the names of all the single men on it and when you get to the top of the list someone has to shag you....we ALL have a choice.
To be honest, if after all this time and effort you say you are still not getting the fun you are after, I would wonder wether I was on the right site or not.
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
To the original op ... bull shit ...its that stuff that keeps sydney university going....
To leicesterlad ...
You seem to focus on what you don't have (8" +.) its not always about size, even if it was, there are many big co*ks on here, ( I'm sometimes called a big dick, )
people that have met me mention my sense of humour,, I use that ( and ma big dick)
you say you want a chance, get yourself to a club, socials etc, meet people there, if you're going to stay make your own luck, if you leave thats a definite no chance
So advice from me
Focus on what you do have, ( I don't know what that is, you do, , )
start focussing on your strengths .. not your weaknesses,
If that fails ,, you could always have a penis extension..
Be lucky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"to be honest i dont think there are many genuine people on here to be honest, i came to the forum to ask advice on why i wasn't getting any meets and to be honest i changed my profile and still no luck...
i talk to people in chat but just because im quite average in the downstairs department women / couples dont seem interested. they seem to want guys who are 8 or 9 inch long.
the whole point of this site is to swing and have fun and not to prejudice anyone but it seems to me if either you aint got a big one or your face dont fit you have no luck.
ive been on here for a few years and in that time only ever met a single lady and a couple.
i send messages quite regularly but to no avail do i hear back from any.. only a selective few have the decency to say a poite no.
unless someone can prove me otherwise"
yeah didnt you put everyone on the forums off by just copying my profile haha 
and about having 8/9" cock thats rediculous, they might be a few couples etc who are here for that, but the majority are not. i get regular meets and im about 7" long and to be fair i could be 4" long coz most people dont even ask about the size, and if people say they want bigger than i got i dont bother them as i dont see the point.
as for face fits, yes of course your face has to fit, thats really one of the main things that women go for a nice face and smile and eyes, as well as nice body too.
your probally aiming too high, or coming accross boring or wrong, if your profile isnt a turn on or truthfull then your not going to get positive reactions to it, as they are going to go with the next profile which is a turn on.
but yeah out and out copying someone elses profile when most people know you have done it is really a great way to get meets haha, guess we can file you under the "non-genuine people" you say are on this website!
my profile works and i get regular meets when im looking because its hoenst, its me and i show what im like in a good positive light, and because of that and the way ive been on meets ive also got good verifications to back it up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thanks ive just seen your veri's and i can see your one of the genuine ones.
only if people had manners to reply like yourself "
but if they are not intrested the replies would only be no! surely its easy enough to look at your sent messages and see ok they read that message, maybe even deleeted it, and so much time has passed and they not replied - i take that as a no and leave them alone, not moan about it to the world that this website aint queing up to bang you lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what like because i copied a profile and changed a few bits on there... hardly a crime is it ??what other bits then i aint got nothing to hide"
lol you copied and pasted it word for word i had plenty of people off the forums tell me, then you blocked me as well after you must of seen me view your page haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me! I'm a time waster.
Well, you have to be when you are stood waiting for a number 32 bus and it's late, I mean, what else can you do to while away the time?
Bulbs! Remind me to pick some light bulbs up from Wilko's, I've got a terrible memory me
Oooh! Hang on...is that the 32?.....Nope, don't need that one, that's the puss that Piss quick Myrtle gets to go and see her sister in Anderby Creek, she's 82 you know! No wonder she's always pissing herself though, all them Yanks and Canadians from the war that is, she used to bang like a shit house door in a hurricane just so she got some nylons and chocolate, nothing but a hussy she was!
Gravy! Remind me to get some gravy from the pound shop.
We rubbed it in our legs for when we went to the dances we did.
OOOoooh I say!! Hark at him on that motor bike, he's going to come a cropper riding it like that! Pillock! Thats what he is, Mrs harman's great great grandad had a nasty accident on one of them contraptions, he went flying down Cobble stone Hill at nearly 7 miles an hour on that Penny Farthing!! He would have ended up in South Street if that cat hadn't run out onto the cobbles and sent him arse over tit! 2 hours it took Dr Smedley to get that saddle out from where the sun don't shine
It's here!! Hang on, let me get me bus pass....right, cheerio. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"what like because i copied a profile and changed a few bits on there... hardly a crime is it ??what other bits then i aint got nothing to hide
lol you copied and pasted it word for word i had plenty of people off the forums tell me, then you blocked me as well after you must of seen me view your page haha "
OK can this be dropped please ....everytime this man posts we get this.
Move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"everyone has different tastes . Some guys like a good ass , or a great set of breasts or long legs , some women like big cocks some dont . Think it was soapy on another thread who said just be yourself be positive and expect nothing . Maybe try going into chat having a laugh and not having so much emphasis on the sex side of things . One more thing just a niggling point from when i was reading through the posts ... please stop saying "to be honest" , you got a lot of good advice here some of which i'll be taking up myself no one's perfect . Sit back enjoy the ride and good luck mate .
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I had a look at your profile and was put off straight away by the moan at the top. We want fun and this makes us think straight away that you are going to be a "glass is half empty" kind of guy.
Also size does not matter, some of the best meets we have had and want more of, are not large down there but what they do have is a fantastic attitude and special skills that mean the size of their cock is the last thing we are thinking about.
Also your profile doesn't give us a clue about what you want in the other person/s. Do you like boobs, bums, humour?
So smile, be happy and give out the right attitude and I am sure you will get some more meets.
To the op, there may be time wasters on this site but there are also a lot of genuine fun people, you just need to be patient.
L x"
Totally agree - negativity breeds negativity and makes you look bad.
People want to meet a cheeky, friendly outgoing type, not grumpy old git type.
Be positive ALWAYS.
Our profile is on a slight negative angle, but hopefully it should look to the positive to get better meets - on the basis that a lot of ladies in couples are not in the lifestyle for the right reasons.
Besides most of our meets are via another site, and generally only via clubs/events or private parties.
Vary rare we look to meet from a site - as Soapy said.. use it to stay in contact and look about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"everyone has different tastes . Some guys like a good ass , or a great set of breasts or long legs , some women like big cocks some dont . Think it was soapy on another thread who said just be yourself be positive and expect nothing . Maybe try going into chat having a laugh and not having so much emphasis on the sex side of things . One more thing just a niggling point from when i was reading through the posts ... please stop saying "to be honest" , you got a lot of good advice here some of which i'll be taking up myself no one's perfect . Sit back enjoy the ride and good luck mate .
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I had a look at your profile and was put off straight away by the moan at the top. We want fun and this makes us think straight away that you are going to be a "glass is half empty" kind of guy.
Also size does not matter, some of the best meets we have had and want more of, are not large down there but what they do have is a fantastic attitude and special skills that mean the size of their cock is the last thing we are thinking about.
Also your profile doesn't give us a clue about what you want in the other person/s. Do you like boobs, bums, humour?
So smile, be happy and give out the right attitude and I am sure you will get some more meets.
To the op, there may be time wasters on this site but there are also a lot of genuine fun people, you just need to be patient.
L x"
which profile ? the op's or my own ? just curious , i quite like my humour .
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By *essesCouple
over a year ago
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"everyone has different tastes . Some guys like a good ass , or a great set of breasts or long legs , some women like big cocks some dont . Think it was soapy on another thread who said just be yourself be positive and expect nothing . Maybe try going into chat having a laugh and not having so much emphasis on the sex side of things . One more thing just a niggling point from when i was reading through the posts ... please stop saying "to be honest" , you got a lot of good advice here some of which i'll be taking up myself no one's perfect . Sit back enjoy the ride and good luck mate .
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I had a look at your profile and was put off straight away by the moan at the top. We want fun and this makes us think straight away that you are going to be a "glass is half empty" kind of guy.
Also size does not matter, some of the best meets we have had and want more of, are not large down there but what they do have is a fantastic attitude and special skills that mean the size of their cock is the last thing we are thinking about.
Also your profile doesn't give us a clue about what you want in the other person/s. Do you like boobs, bums, humour?
So smile, be happy and give out the right attitude and I am sure you will get some more meets.
To the op, there may be time wasters on this site but there are also a lot of genuine fun people, you just need to be patient.
L x
which profile ? the op's or my own ? just curious , i quite like my humour .
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Leicesterlads profile, yours is fine except that you won't meet couple
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...There isn't a big list with the names of all the single men on it and when you get to the top of the list someone has to shag you....
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There isn't? Ah, bollocks... I figured I had to be getting near the top by now |
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over a year ago
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i dont expect anything from here like i never have.
anything is a bonus, like i said in previous posts that i have change my profile many times.
if people wanted to chat then they would but most on here just delete if you send a message and thats why i dont even message or come on here as much as i have put the effort in trying to make friends to no avail.
problem is some people are shallow and dont even want to get to know you even if your trying to get to know them..
thinking of coming off here as 2 meets in 3 years aint great.
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over a year ago
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nowt to do with people being shallow at all.
everyone has what they are looking for, if they dont reply or say no then your not what they are looking for!
find ways to make your profile more attractive, maybe then you will get more responses!
and dont be negative in any shape or form on your profile it just makes it a definetite no for most women. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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...There isn't a big list with the names of all the single men on it and when you get to the top of the list someone has to shag you....
There isn't? Ah, bollocks... I figured I had to be getting near the top by now "
Back to the drawing board for you ! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"i dont expect anything from here like i never have.
anything is a bonus, like i said in previous posts that i have change my profile many times.
if people wanted to chat then they would but most on here just delete if you send a message and thats why i dont even message or come on here as much as i have put the effort in trying to make friends to no avail.
problem is some people are shallow and dont even want to get to know you even if your trying to get to know them..
thinking of coming off here as 2 meets in 3 years aint great.
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I am shallow in NSA sex.....if I don't find someone attractive then there will be no mails exchanged apart from us saying no thanks.
I am not on here to find a partner as I have one, so I don't need to get to know the person like you would do if you were going on a date....so I don't waste my time exchanging mails with someone I am not likely to meet.
This is not to be confused with someone sending a pic and I shag them without saying hello....the attraction has to be first for me, then we see if we get on enough to play. |
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"i dont expect anything from here like i never have.
anything is a bonus, like i said in previous posts that i have change my profile many times.
if people wanted to chat then they would but most on here just delete if you send a message and thats why i dont even message or come on here as much as i have put the effort in trying to make friends to no avail.
problem is some people are shallow and dont even want to get to know you even if your trying to get to know them..
thinking of coming off here as 2 meets in 3 years aint great.
I am shallow in NSA sex.....if I don't find someone attractive then there will be no mails exchanged apart from us saying no thanks.
I am not on here to find a partner as I have one, so I don't need to get to know the person like you would do if you were going on a date....so I don't waste my time exchanging mails with someone I am not likely to meet.
This is not to be confused with someone sending a pic and I shag them without saying hello....the attraction has to be first for me, then we see if we get on enough to play."
Picky, picky, picky! |
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"i dont expect anything from here like i never have.
anything is a bonus, like i said in previous posts that i have change my profile many times.
if people wanted to chat then they would but most on here just delete if you send a message and thats why i dont even message or come on here as much as i have put the effort in trying to make friends to no avail.
problem is some people are shallow and dont even want to get to know you even if your trying to get to know them..
thinking of coming off here as 2 meets in 3 years aint great.
I am shallow in NSA sex.....if I don't find someone attractive then there will be no mails exchanged apart from us saying no thanks.
I am not on here to find a partner as I have one, so I don't need to get to know the person like you would do if you were going on a date....so I don't waste my time exchanging mails with someone I am not likely to meet.
This is not to be confused with someone sending a pic and I shag them without saying hello....the attraction has to be first for me, then we see if we get on enough to play."
this^^^^
now attraction for me comes in many forms, there are ppl on the forums who i am attracted to cos of their words,same for chat, but it is still there.If we are looking for a quick meet though someones profile and pics have to turn me on, without that it isnt going to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im not really sweating meets like that. if i really want some THAT BAD then there are plenty of local chicks i can shag but for now, im just gonna go with the flow and see what happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe your to picky urself mate and don't give others a chance u give to much info nothing left to ask about u, nothing very fun more like a profile for a dating site I'd say |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to sound negative but I have only encountered timewasters so far but hoping some real genuine ladies are out there that actually want to MEET . *mini rant over* |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im not really sweating meets like that. if i really want some THAT BAD then there are plenty of local chicks i can shag but for now, im just gonna go with the flow and see what happens."
It's a shame others on here don't have the same view |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"i think as from monday its time to delete my account as ive been here a while and had no luck. think its time to move on..
Why wait that long?....."
Maybe if he lets us know we'll queue to give him a pity shag? |
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over a year ago
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We meet couples as well as single men, and in our time here we have found that its the single guys that are the time wasters, not knocking all single men but that's what we have found. |
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"to be honest i dont think there are many genuine people on here to be honest, i came to the forum to ask advice on why i wasn't getting any meets and to be honest i changed my profile and still no luck...
i talk to people in chat but just because im quite average in the downstairs department women / couples dont seem interested. they seem to want guys who are 8 or 9 inch long.
the whole point of this site is to swing and have fun and not to prejudice anyone but it seems to me if either you aint got a big one or your face dont fit you have no luck.
ive been on here for a few years and in that time only ever met a single lady and a couple.
i send messages quite regularly but to no avail do i hear back from any.. only a selective few have the decency to say a poite no.
unless someone can prove me otherwise"
I'll try and formulate a decent answer to this when I've stopped laughing. |
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well theres no point on staying on the site if no one even gives you a chance to get to know you,ive only had 2 genuine experiances on here and both have been polite to talk and meet, i have never messed anyone around or timewasted as i hate people doing that to me.
just dont see no point on staying on here as no one wants to meet.. |
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"i think as from monday its time to delete my account as ive been here a while and had no luck. think its time to move on..
Why wait that long?.....
Maybe if he lets us know we'll queue to give him a pity shag?"
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"i think as from monday its time to delete my account as ive been here a while and had no luck. think its time to move on..
Why wait that long?.....
Maybe if he lets us know we'll queue to give him a pity shag?
Lol"
i do fail to see the point of a flounce |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There will always be timewasters but there are many more really nice people who make up for them and will always make the site worthwhile.
You just have to deal with it.
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wish we could giv eyou some advice about how to go about things, but we cant.
we dont meet single guys so dont really look at profiles. what we can say is that couples profiles seem to say more about the whole experience (what they are like, what thye like, what thye do, what they look for and so on).
you profile reads like a shopping list. suppose seems a little detached. its got no soul, no depth almost.
almost reads a sif you could be a 'insert cock A into slot B' kinda person in bed.
try to make it more fluid, as thats what people look for. no point copying another profile and changing words (if thats what you did, cant comment on that) as its someone elses base still and gives thier personality, not your own.
we have considered not carrying on, but then decided to change course and have started going to socials, and whether we end up playing or not, we have a lovely night out, so its all good.
and, tbf, we really dont think there are more timewasters on here than in real life, just different kinds.
take care of yourself, and each other |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"well theres no point on staying on the site if no one even gives you a chance to get to know you,ive only had 2 genuine experiances on here and both have been polite to talk and meet, i have never messed anyone around or timewasted as i hate people doing that to me.
just dont see no point on staying on here as no one wants to meet.."
Ok.
Hopefully you will have more luck somewhere else. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Disgusted with some of the responses.
ahhhh were we meant to feel sorry for him and fuck his brains out...cos self pity is just so sexy "
Us women are just here to entertain the menz don't you know. |
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"Disgusted with some of the responses.
ahhhh were we meant to feel sorry for him and fuck his brains out...cos self pity is just so sexy "
it bugs me why wud i want to meet a man i dont want to fuck .. makes no sence lol
i like my guys well built well hung and 22 to 37
thats my choice ! 
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"Disgusted with some of the responses.
ahhhh were we meant to feel sorry for him and fuck his brains out...cos self pity is just so sexy
Us women are just here to entertain the menz don't you know. "
i know, i will get to the kitchen and go back to scrubbing the floor, forgive me, a mere woman thinking i had choices |
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"Disgusted with some of the responses.
ahhhh were we meant to feel sorry for him and fuck his brains out...cos self pity is just so sexy
Us women are just here to entertain the menz don't you know.
i know, i will get to the kitchen and go back to scrubbing the floor, forgive me, a mere woman thinking i had choices "
well, if ya gonna be on ya knees anyway.... lol |
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"Disgusted with some of the responses.
ahhhh were we meant to feel sorry for him and fuck his brains out...cos self pity is just so sexy
Us women are just here to entertain the menz don't you know.
i know, i will get to the kitchen and go back to scrubbing the floor, forgive me, a mere woman thinking i had choices
well, if ya gonna be on ya knees anyway.... lol"
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Seems to me no one realises there's no obligations to be here in the first place, and no obligation to be the entertainment for those that don't know how to entertain themselves.
Its nice to be nice and a sociable soul gets a lot further in all ways of life, as for cock's...well of course some will reach further than others, especially if they have a sense of humour and can smile at themselves....just watch out for the ones with teeth i say. |
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We were looking for a meet last night and thought we had found a genuine guy. I mean he had veri's ect.
After entensive email conversations and dispite us sending our number he never called or texted just kept emailing us asking what we wanted to do ect.
In the end it got too late to meet and we told him so and we went to bed.
We felt like this guy was just after Wank Fodder and completely wasted what could have been a good night for us with someone else.
Guy's if all you want is a wank then go to another site and stop wasting genuine swingers precious time.
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"We were looking for a meet last night and thought we had found a genuine guy. I mean he had veri's ect.
After entensive email conversations and dispite us sending our number he never called or texted just kept emailing us asking what we wanted to do ect.
In the end it got too late to meet and we told him so and we went to bed.
We felt like this guy was just after Wank Fodder and completely wasted what could have been a good night for us with someone else.
Guy's if all you want is a wank then go to another site and stop wasting genuine swingers precious time.
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"couples" do this to but again could be guys posing as couples |
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"op i hope you read the advice i gave above, and feel free to comment on what after all was your thread.
I would agree with some of her points too... dunno why I'm about to do this, but hey.
Phone contact - I will never leave my house without speaking to someone on the phone. You can get more info out of hearing someone talk to you. For the most part if they are willing to talk on the phone, they should be genuine enough.
Pics - not in total agreement with, if they dont have them doesnt mean they arent genuine BUT... would you meet someone you haven't seen.
Too good to be true - BINGO! this one I feel I have a knack for, and if you're getting everything you want to hear too quickly and you just get that feel, then you're probably right, which leads to...
Trust your instinct - For me it's rarely been wrong.
EXPECT NOTHING, treat it like a social networking site, not a desperate-list-of women-who-surely-must-want-to-shag-you site. Make some FRIENDS, enjoy SOCIALISING, and eventually you might find you no longer come across as desperate and undesirable. "
I'd agree with that, I haven't met much off this site and not a lot off others either ! BUT, where I have it's where I've been in a social situation, even just chatting in chatrooms - People can get to see you over a sustained period and make their mind up rather than getting a message out of the blue.
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"We were looking for a meet last night and thought we had found a genuine guy. I mean he had veri's ect.
After entensive email conversations and dispite us sending our number he never called or texted just kept emailing us asking what we wanted to do ect.
In the end it got too late to meet and we told him so and we went to bed.
We felt like this guy was just after Wank Fodder and completely wasted what could have been a good night for us with someone else.
Guy's if all you want is a wank then go to another site and stop wasting genuine swingers precious time.
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I learnt very early on that anyone that engages in endless emails of the "what are you going to do to me" type seldom meets.
I establish early on what they do, domestic arrangements etc. It's not because I'm looking to move in, but a single dad with children at home that runs his own business will have limited playtime and if I like him I'll cut him some slack. A single man, no kids, living alone, works 9-5 unable to talk on the phone but sends countless emails finds himself ignored.
The dreamers and fantatist are very easy to spot if you look, regardless of verifications. |
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"We were looking for a meet last night and thought we had found a genuine guy. I mean he had veri's ect.
After entensive email conversations and dispite us sending our number he never called or texted just kept emailing us asking what we wanted to do ect.
In the end it got too late to meet and we told him so and we went to bed.
We felt like this guy was just after Wank Fodder and completely wasted what could have been a good night for us with someone else.
Guy's if all you want is a wank then go to another site and stop wasting genuine swingers precious time.
I learnt very early on that anyone that engages in endless emails of the "what are you going to do to me" type seldom meets.
I establish early on what they do, domestic arrangements etc. It's not because I'm looking to move in, but a single dad with children at home that runs his own business will have limited playtime and if I like him I'll cut him some slack. A single man, no kids, living alone, works 9-5 unable to talk on the phone but sends countless emails finds himself ignored.
The dreamers and fantatist are very easy to spot if you look, regardless of verifications."
That's really good advice thanks sassy x |
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