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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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e been on here a while and not had much success, has anyone got any advice to help me here, I'm not particularly fussy. How do you usually open a conversation and how could I improve my profile.
Thanks
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As you have asked for advice hope this helps.
The first thing is your profile tells very little about who you are and what you like
It is very minimal and also references to drugs will put the vast majority off meeting you.
Maybe more information as to what your looking for what you like etc will help
Also you have no veris and I know this is very hard to get as a single man but there are a few swingers clubs in your area try visiting one and just chatting and socialising with people.
Make sure you get their fab names if you are getting on well and Veri them etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have only been on here 4 weeks. In fab time that's nothing at all.
Because you asked how to improve your profile a couple of things he I would say is get rid of the last line.
That won't do you any favours on here
Try to put something on to entice people in.
Most people look at profiles before reading a message.
And try to start only 1 thread for the same question |
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"I've updated my profile that any better? "
Two poor quality photos, very limited text, quite young (although some will be ok with this) and you've been on here 5 minutes....as others have said, get to socials or clubs...life happens in the real world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You state your a Dom but give no details around that about what experience you have. Type of plays you have trained in and have experience in.
When you are say your a Dom your telling people that
"i can keep you safe"
" Ican deal with the emotional bonding that takes place"
" I can play without causing lasting damage"
" I can deal with the aftercare needs physically and emotionally"
" I can walk in your mind without damaging it'
To name a few.
Those that are interested in the kink lifestyle will be expecting a level of knowledge and skill and need to know you have this.
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"As you have asked for advice hope this helps.
The first thing is your profile tells very little about who you are and what you like
It is very minimal and also references to drugs will put the vast majority off meeting you.
Maybe more information as to what your looking for what you like etc will help
Also you have no veris and I know this is very hard to get as a single man but there are a few swingers clubs in your area try visiting one and just chatting and socialising with people.
Make sure you get their fab names if you are getting on well and Veri them etc.
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The Dom line put me off too.
You are 24. There is a good chance you do not have the emotional maturity, let alone the experience to Dom someone effectively. That one line says so much to a person, if you can't back it up you find yourself in very dangerous territory.
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Hide the cock pics, show them to those who ask  Try to tease by only showing a little 
Say you’re ‘well endowed’ rather than quote a number, it affirms you are indeed, intelligent (as you state), rather than proud of a number.
Lose the last two lines of text, they are superfluous as you already state what you’re interested in, with your interests list. Also, anyone who is keen to know more about you, will get in touch
Patience is a virtue my young friend, and you have oodles of time in your favour |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately no better in my opinion OP
Both threads your asking on people are telling you the same thing.
You need to put effort into your text and photos.
Good luck |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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"You state your a Dom but give no details around that about what experience you have. Type of plays you have trained in and have experience in.
When you are say your a Dom your telling people that
"i can keep you safe"
" Ican deal with the emotional bonding that takes place"
" I can play without causing lasting damage"
" I can deal with the aftercare needs physically and emotionally"
" I can walk in your mind without damaging it'
To name a few.
Those that are interested in the kink lifestyle will be expecting a level of knowledge and skill and need to know you have this.
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This... sooooo much this. A lot of profiles I've seen say "I'm Dom" without knowing what that actually means. You get conversing with these "men" and ask about aftercare and their minds draw a blank. The 50 shades has buggered them to think " yeah I can do that, where's my suit?"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You state your a Dom but give no details around that about what experience you have. Type of plays you have trained in and have experience in.
When you are say your a Dom your telling people that
"i can keep you safe"
" Ican deal with the emotional bonding that takes place"
" I can play without causing lasting damage"
" I can deal with the aftercare needs physically and emotionally"
" I can walk in your mind without damaging it'
To name a few.
Those that are interested in the kink lifestyle will be expecting a level of knowledge and skill and need to know you have this.
This... sooooo much this. A lot of profiles I've seen say "I'm Dom" without knowing what that actually means. You get conversing with these "men" and ask about aftercare and their minds draw a blank. The 50 shades has buggered them to think " yeah I can do that, where's my suit?" "
Totally agree. We came into swinging after being in the local kink scene for 10 years xx it frightens us some of the messages we get from people who don't understand anything about the lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do wonder if some of these posts are less "help me sell myself" and more "look at me, aren't I amazing, fall at my feet damn it" "
I’ve been thinking the same thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do wonder if some of these posts are less "help me sell myself" and more "look at me, aren't I amazing, fall at my feet damn it" "
There’s so many of these posts and 9 times out of 10, the person pays no attention to the advice given. For the common observer like me, it just tells me who best to avoid.  |
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"e been on here a while and not had much success, has anyone got any advice to help me here, I'm not particularly fussy. How do you usually open a conversation and how could I improve my profile.
Thanks
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My gran said if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all...So I am struggling right now.
Read your profile...why should a woman, especially a sub woman, meet you over the 100s of other MacDoms out there?
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"You state your a Dom but give no details around that about what experience you have. Type of plays you have trained in and have experience in.
When you are say your a Dom your telling people that
"i can keep you safe"
" Ican deal with the emotional bonding that takes place"
" I can play without causing lasting damage"
" I can deal with the aftercare needs physically and emotionally"
" I can walk in your mind without damaging it'
To name a few.
Those that are interested in the kink lifestyle will be expecting a level of knowledge and skill and need to know you have this.
This... sooooo much this. A lot of profiles I've seen say "I'm Dom" without knowing what that actually means. You get conversing with these "men" and ask about aftercare and their minds draw a blank. The 50 shades has buggered them to think " yeah I can do that, where's my suit?"
Totally agree. We came into swinging after being in the local kink scene for 10 years xx it frightens us some of the messages we get from people who don't understand anything about the lifestyle "
This is the post I couldn't be arsed to write 
Ms Icebreaker |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"e been on here a while and not had much success, has anyone got any advice to help me here, I'm not particularly fussy. How do you usually open a conversation and how could I improve my profile.
Thanks
My gran said if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all...So I am struggling right now.
Read your profile...why should a woman, especially a sub woman, meet you over the 100s of other MacDoms out there?
Ms Icebreaker "
Is that a new burger mrs i |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You state your a Dom but give no details around that about what experience you have. Type of plays you have trained in and have experience in.
When you are say your a Dom your telling people that
"i can keep you safe"
" Ican deal with the emotional bonding that takes place"
" I can play without causing lasting damage"
" I can deal with the aftercare needs physically and emotionally"
" I can walk in your mind without damaging it'
To name a few.
Those that are interested in the kink lifestyle will be expecting a level of knowledge and skill and need to know you have this.
This... sooooo much this. A lot of profiles I've seen say "I'm Dom" without knowing what that actually means. You get conversing with these "men" and ask about aftercare and their minds draw a blank. The 50 shades has buggered them to think " yeah I can do that, where's my suit?"
Totally agree. We came into swinging after being in the local kink scene for 10 years xx it frightens us some of the messages we get from people who don't understand anything about the lifestyle
This is the post I couldn't be arsed to write
Ms Icebreaker "
Lol glad I could help grin xx |
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"I do wonder if some of these posts are less "help me sell myself" and more "look at me, aren't I amazing, fall at my feet damn it" "
I wonder why folk tell people to change their profile to hide what they're really like. |
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"e been on here a while and not had much success, has anyone got any advice to help me here, I'm not particularly fussy. How do you usually open a conversation and how could I improve my profile.
Thanks
My gran said if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all...So I am struggling right now.
Read your profile...why should a woman, especially a sub woman, meet you over the 100s of other MacDoms out there?
Ms Icebreaker
Is that a new burger mrs i"
I hope they won't sue! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"e been on here a while and not had much success, has anyone got any advice to help me here, I'm not particularly fussy. How do you usually open a conversation and how could I improve my profile.
Thanks
My gran said if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all...So I am struggling right now.
Read your profile...why should a woman, especially a sub woman, meet you over the 100s of other MacDoms out there?
Ms Icebreaker
Is that a new burger mrs i
I hope they won't sue! "
 bet it takes control of your taste buds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You state your a Dom but give no details around that about what experience you have. Type of plays you have trained in and have experience in.
When you are say your a Dom your telling people that
"i can keep you safe"
" Ican deal with the emotional bonding that takes place"
" I can play without causing lasting damage"
" I can deal with the aftercare needs physically and emotionally"
" I can walk in your mind without damaging it'
To name a few.
Those that are interested in the kink lifestyle will be expecting a level of knowledge and skill and need to know you have this.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The Dom line put me off too.
You are 24. There is a good chance you do not have the emotional maturity, let alone the experience to Dom someone effectively. That one line says so much to a person, if you can't back it up you find yourself in very dangerous territory.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You state your a Dom but give no details around that about what experience you have. Type of plays you have trained in and have experience in.
When you are say your a Dom your telling people that
"i can keep you safe"
" Ican deal with the emotional bonding that takes place"
" I can play without causing lasting damage"
" I can deal with the aftercare needs physically and emotionally"
" I can walk in your mind without damaging it'
To name a few.
Those that are interested in the kink lifestyle will be expecting a level of knowledge and skill and need to know you have this.
This... sooooo much this. A lot of profiles I've seen say "I'm Dom" without knowing what that actually means. You get conversing with these "men" and ask about aftercare and their minds draw a blank. The 50 shades has buggered them to think " yeah I can do that, where's my suit?" "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you change your profile to be what people want, you lose your real self in the process.
Elaborate more on what you can offer (beyond the length of your cock) and try and stand out as someone different and worth meeting.
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"I do wonder if some of these posts are less "help me sell myself" and more "look at me, aren't I amazing, fall at my feet damn it"
I wonder why folk tell people to change their profile to hide what they're really like."
Some people are fine but genuinely have no clue. The others come out in the wash anyway. |
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My standard advice is,
Who do you think you are? What do you have to offer? What are you looking for? What makes you different?
(when these questions are answered they do tell you a lot about the person, whether it's flattering or not) |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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There are many posts on improving your profile, I would do a forum search and then actually take on board some of the advice given. Your profile is a chance for people to have an insight into you and to generate some interest, you have to make it as enticing, as interesting , and full of fun as you are in order for people to want more.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m a sub to my partner, I would never consider anyone who states they are a dom but has no proof. I would want someone experienced.
You are 24, how are you experienced, what is your understanding? Your profile is very short for someone claiming so much.
You only want to meet women on your profile text, but you say you want to meet couples- what would you want the man to do? Watch? Let you take his partner and dom her? No one, with respect for their partner, would be ok with someone wanting to dom them, with nothing to back up an understanding of the scene and can guarantee the safety of their partner.
This isn’t a “I’m a sub and know everything” response btw, just someone in a relationship that includes that aspect, and as such wouldn’t feel comfortable meeting someone with a profile such as yours.
Lose the dom bit. You can’t prove it. What’s wrong with guys being assertive, why do they always want to claim they’re dominant- it’s off putting.
Lose at least ones of the cock pics- crop it if you must to show your abs, or put something completely different up. Not every woman is interested in the size of you cock- so what! If you can’t offer anything more than that they may as well use a vibrator.
And you’ve pretty much insulted any woman on here- not fussy!! Women have standards, you’ve just stated that you don’t have any and that any woman would do. Way to make them feel attractive and desired.
You should really rethink how you put yourself across, be honest, make yourself appealing- what makes you intelligent, what are your interests, what makes you fun- your sense of humour etc.
Good luck, when you do take on board what is being advised xx
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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago
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'Message me to find out more,...why? Why would you expect us to message you to chase more information when there are hundreds of other single guys that will be messaging us, some with similar profiles to you but some sending a he gone message and with profiles telling us about them and showing some useful full body dressed shots or maybe naked torso shots. Dick pics really don't do anything for my wife and I'm certainly not interested. Why do you think a dick pic is the definition of your profile?
Have a look round fab and think about what you want. If you just think women or couples will flock to you as a young single guy then you are mistaken. There is way more choice for ladies and couples and you need to do something to stand out. Write your profile as if you were writing a short biography, albeit more open about your sexual preferences. Treat your photos as you would if you were trying to get a modelling job.
And don't be afraid to message people but make sure your message is thought out and genuine and, if you don't send a clear face pic straight off, offer it on a reply to your initial message. Read the target profile and maje reference to the ckntebt ao you can show the recioient you have taken the time to read about them and what they like. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"You state your a Dom but give no details around that about what experience you have. Type of plays you have trained in and have experience in.
When you are say your a Dom your telling people that
"i can keep you safe"
" Ican deal with the emotional bonding that takes place"
" I can play without causing lasting damage"
" I can deal with the aftercare needs physically and emotionally"
" I can walk in your mind without damaging it'
To name a few.
Those that are interested in the kink lifestyle will be expecting a level of knowledge and skill and need to know you have this.
This... sooooo much this. A lot of profiles I've seen say "I'm Dom" without knowing what that actually means. You get conversing with these "men" and ask about aftercare and their minds draw a blank. The 50 shades has buggered them to think " yeah I can do that, where's my suit?" "
Yup I've had personal experience of emotional damage a dim dom can do. Never again will I give that level of trust to anyone. |
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Get yourself to socials mate. Mingle, be friendly and non pushy. Every chance of doing well then as long as you let your personality come to the fore. If you rely on here alone there's every chance things will be pretty barren long-term. The girls call the shots, along with the couples and youve every chance of getting swallowed up in the numbers game, or be looked at like you're something that's been stepped in by some, simply for being a single male, no matter how good your profile gets. Get out and meet people - it's paid off handsomely for me. You'll also meet great people you'd never have had an opportunity with otherwise. Good luck. |
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Get yourself to socials mate. Mingle, be friendly and non pushy. Every chance of doing well then as long as you let your personality come to the fore. If you rely on here alone there's every chance things will be pretty barren long-term. The girls call the shots, along with the couples and youve every chance of getting swallowed up in the numbers game, or be looked at like you're something that's been stepped in by some, simply for being a single male, no matter how good your profile gets. Get out and meet people - it's paid off handsomely for me. You'll also meet great people you'd never have had an opportunity with otherwise. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You state your a Dom but give no details around that about what experience you have. Type of plays you have trained in and have experience in.
When you are say your a Dom your telling people that
"i can keep you safe"
" Ican deal with the emotional bonding that takes place"
" I can play without causing lasting damage"
" I can deal with the aftercare needs physically and emotionally"
" I can walk in your mind without damaging it'
To name a few.
Those that are interested in the kink lifestyle will be expecting a level of knowledge and skill and need to know you have this.
This... sooooo much this. A lot of profiles I've seen say "I'm Dom" without knowing what that actually means. You get conversing with these "men" and ask about aftercare and their minds draw a blank. The 50 shades has buggered them to think " yeah I can do that, where's my suit?"
Yup I've had personal experience of emotional damage a dim dom can do. Never again will I give that level of trust to anyone. "
That's a real shame as done right it's an amazing dynamic xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The results are correlated to the efforts you put in."
Couldn’t of out it better myself zero effort zero results maximum effort gets results re do your profile from the ground up its taken me a year to get to my profile its still not perfect but like everything in life ya gotta work on it all year round its like a cv needs to be updated regularly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You state your a Dom but give no details around that about what experience you have. Type of plays you have trained in and have experience in.
When you are say your a Dom your telling people that
"i can keep you safe"
" Ican deal with the emotional bonding that takes place"
" I can play without causing lasting damage"
" I can deal with the aftercare needs physically and emotionally"
" I can walk in your mind without damaging it'
To name a few.
Those that are interested in the kink lifestyle will be expecting a level of knowledge and skill and need to know you have this.
This... sooooo much this. A lot of profiles I've seen say "I'm Dom" without knowing what that actually means. You get conversing with these "men" and ask about aftercare and their minds draw a blank. The 50 shades has buggered them to think " yeah I can do that, where's my suit?"
Yup I've had personal experience of emotional damage a dim dom can do. Never again will I give that level of trust to anyone.
That's a real shame as done right it's an amazing dynamic xxx"
Mt don't get done get dom |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"e been on here a while and not had much success, has anyone got any advice to help me here, I'm not particularly fussy. How do you usually open a conversation and how could I improve my profile.
Thanks
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Your profile is less than average.
And you're 'not particularly fussy'??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You state your a Dom but give no details around that about what experience you have. Type of plays you have trained in and have experience in.
When you are say your a Dom your telling people that
"i can keep you safe"
" Ican deal with the emotional bonding that takes place"
" I can play without causing lasting damage"
" I can deal with the aftercare needs physically and emotionally"
" I can walk in your mind without damaging it'
To name a few.
Those that are interested in the kink lifestyle will be expecting a level of knowledge and skill and need to know you have this.
This... sooooo much this. A lot of profiles I've seen say "I'm Dom" without knowing what that actually means. You get conversing with these "men" and ask about aftercare and their minds draw a blank. The 50 shades has buggered them to think " yeah I can do that, where's my suit?"
Yup I've had personal experience of emotional damage a dim dom can do. Never again will I give that level of trust to anyone.
That's a real shame as done right it's an amazing dynamic xxx
Mt don't get done get dom"
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When I looked yesterday there were only two blurry cock pics, and today the profile is hidden. Here's hoping the OP is frantically rewriting and posing for selfies based on all the good advice he has been given.
Looking forward to the big reveal |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I looked yesterday there were only two blurry cock pics, and today the profile is hidden. Here's hoping the OP is frantically rewriting and posing for selfies based on all the good advice he has been given.
Looking forward to the big reveal "
"Hidden phallus" profile now
Now there's a novel n quirky new u/name op
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For gods sake after all the advice he got he's gone ten steps backwards should of stuck to ur last write up because this new one is a huge red flag "
Some people can’t be helped. It’s even worse than it was! He’s not a dom, just a kid! Probably used to meeting girls from regular clubs etc, bosses them about and thinks that make makes him a dom xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For gods sake after all the advice he got he's gone ten steps backwards should of stuck to ur last write up because this new one is a huge red flag
Some people can’t be helped. It’s even worse than it was! He’s not a dom, just a kid! Probably used to meeting girls from regular clubs etc, bosses them about and thinks that make makes him a dom xx"
I remember being in his situation asking for advice on mine i got given some awesome advice and well alot of people think ive made a huge improvement excluding the pics i need better pics but my write up is in my opinion sound definitely noticed im getting alot more attention then before alas some people like the op just cant be saved he probably would be better off on tinder then fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you put as much effort in the messages as there is in your profile, you're not going to get much luck on here. I'd say other places should be more suitable for you, when you only need to use the arrows, at least at first. |
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"e been on here a while and not had much success, has anyone got any advice to help me here, I'm not particularly fussy. How do you usually open a conversation and how could I improve my profile.
Thanks
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Hiding your profile won't help |
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"e been on here a while and not had much success, has anyone got any advice to help me here, I'm not particularly fussy. How do you usually open a conversation and how could I improve my profile.
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Hiding your profile won't help"
Hiding never helps |
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