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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm having the same problem. Just about to give up all together. I must have sent 100s of messages only 20% read them only a few replies and mostly time wasters |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"I'm having the same problem. Just about to give up all together. I must have sent 100s of messages only 20% read them only a few replies and mostly time wasters "
Were 100s of people actually compatible though ?
Read people's profiles and check regarding what they are looking for. If they only meet in club's, do you write saying that you are happy to meet at the club.
Have you actually read all the profiles and taken the time to day you would be interested in meeting that person and the reason why.?
It's easy to send the same brief message to every female or couple, but people appreciate it more if you have taken a bit more time about your messages. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"I have been on here over a year and have had a few messages but lead to nothing just not had much luck does it look bad been on here a year and no Verifications"
It does look bad if you have not got a single verification. No excuse in Stoke as it is full of swingers.
There are newbie socials for people new to the world of swinging held at local pubs and hotel bars, newbie nights at Atlantis club in Burslem and nothing wrong with asking local ladies, gents or couples to meet you for a coffee or a pint and write you a verification to start you off.
Even easier is to go in the chat rooms and go on camera and ask someone to verify you.
Personally I think a meet face to face is better, as it proves that you do show up for meets.
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"I'm having the same problem. Just about to give up all together. I must have sent 100s of messages only 20% read them only a few replies and mostly time wasters
Were 100s of people actually compatible though ?
Read people's profiles and check regarding what they are looking for. If they only meet in club's, do you write saying that you are happy to meet at the club.
Have you actually read all the profiles and taken the time to day you would be interested in meeting that person and the reason why.?
It's easy to send the same brief message to every female or couple, but people appreciate it more if you have taken a bit more time about your messages. "
Yeah, I get umpteen "hi, love your profile, I'm a fun horny guy wanna meet?" messages. I don't look at the profile, I don't look at the pictures. Anyone blanket messaging who can't be bothered to say why me (and genuinely, great profile/ hot pics can be said about anyone and I know is) isn't going anywhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too much score given for verifications. They mean nothing. Some people have hundreds a lot from the same person! If you've got to find a meet or a club to get verified then you probably don't need to be on here. I've not had a problem meeting someone with none and problems with some who do have them. I think it greatly unfair some people not even given a chance to meet because they don't have any |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are pic and meet verified but don't show our verifications as we think who we have met should remain private.
That's just our way though,if people want to show theirs, then it's up to them. |
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"I have been on here over a year and have had a few messages but lead to nothing just not had much luck does it look bad been on here a year and no Verifications"
The short answer is that it all depends on the other person. Some will care, some won't. For our part we don't necessarily worry about whether people have veri's simply because they are not that big a deal. In your case you are young and therefore many people won't meet with you simply because of your age. So it isn't a leap of faith to imagine that you don't have a veri for just that reason.
Veri's come in all shapes and sizes, through meets, socials, organised events, clubs etc and therefore it's not too much effort to get one. Although, once again, as a young single guy you could be excused for not having done one of the above, perhaps nerves, youth or lack of options 'could' be a factor.
That said however, you have had ample opportunity to be verified by webcam. It doesn't require an invitation, organisation, acceptance etc. It just involves putting on your webcam and chatting with people. If that small amount of effort is too much for you then yes, it would make a difference to us. |
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I'm facing that dilemma soon. I don't message everyone and I've read lots of men profiles for ideas but I cannot change what I look like and I often get "not what I'm looking for". This will get worse as the months roll on without a meeting.
So I should be saying it's not for me and quit.
However I'm not giving it everything. There's 2 clubs I could go to, I could spend more time on decent pics, cam profiles, fitness etc.
I don't because I have other things taking my time so I can't be that critical about it.
So look at my list above and see if any of it applies to you. Also you can always close down your profile and start again. |
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