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"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too. As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. " i tend to agree | |||
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"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. " I am in no way confused. I used this site as I wish without need for comment on my desire for connection. You can choose to do something different V x | |||
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"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. " Ok. You're wrong. A | |||
"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. Ok. You're wrong. A" | |||
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"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all."  | |||
"Swinging is not the same as using." Excellent, not sure what the OP thinks we women will find alluring in his one sentence profile! | |||
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"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all. " | |||
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"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. " Yup you’re wrong | |||
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"I would say the reverse is true, i.e. most dating sites are like NSA/swinging sites now. It's difficult to tell the difference these days, apart from the fact that people seem to be more honest about what they're looking for on here. But whichever you use, women are generally going to be more circumspect than men, for security reasons if nothing else " Totally agree and so on point x | |||
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"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all." Damn right !
We are all different and like all different things ! | |||
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"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. " Don't message them, that'll teach them  | |||
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"Op you have to understand the dynamics of this site.... the ratio is 1,000 men to 1 woman.... So women can make demands because they have 1,000 men to choose from.... If the ratios were inverse..... men could make similar demands..... like blondes only..... Just imagine a fab world..... and men ruled.... You could choose from 1,000 women and your inbox is full everyday....." So you're saying that men don't make demands, will fuck any one who they happen upon and have no standards? | |||
"Op you have to understand the dynamics of this site.... the ratio is 1,000 men to 1 woman.... So women can make demands because they have 1,000 men to choose from.... If the ratios were inverse..... men could make similar demands..... like blondes only..... Just imagine a fab world..... and men ruled.... You could choose from 1,000 women and your inbox is full everyday....." It’s not about the ratio, it’s about what women want!!!! | |||
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"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too. As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. " But they can't get a round of drinks in  | |||
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"Op you have to understand the dynamics of this site.... the ratio is 1,000 men to 1 woman.... So women can make demands because they have 1,000 men to choose from.... If the ratios were inverse..... men could make similar demands..... like blondes only..... Just imagine a fab world..... and men ruled.... You could choose from 1,000 women and your inbox is full everyday..... So you're saying that men don't make demands, will fuck any one who they happen upon and have no standards?" No I’m saying that women on Fab can make any demand they want and some man will acquiesce ... | |||
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"You're confusing wanting a connection with dating. They're not the same thing. You're welcome " | |||
"You're confusing wanting a connection with dating. They're not the same thing. You're welcome "A connection is a given if you meet someone to have sex... I think the Op is talking about people looking for long term relationships on a swingers site... | |||
"You're confusing wanting a connection with dating. They're not the same thing. You're welcome
A connection is a given if you meet someone to have sex...
I think the Op is talking about people looking for long term relationships on a swingers site..."Well no, the OP is assuming that anyone wanting a connection, socials & more than a 'Hi how are you?' message, is them wanting to date. That is not the case, for me at least. | |||
"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too. As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. " This | |||
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"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all." Exactly this. I often wonder who replies to the 'meet now messages' I no more take a man home on a night out than click a dick on here. Any dick won't do I'm afraid. I think there's some confusion between swinging and hookers | |||
"I want a connection 100% or its not for me, I'm not in my teens/ early 20's anymore where the only connection I needed was a few beers or something more chemically enhanced. Maybe I'm fussy in my old age or maybe I need my mind to be stimulated as well as my body (in that order) I can't sleep with someone I don't like or fancy. It's not a question of what you want or longer term plans just starting with mutual respect and courtesy. " | |||
"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all." Agree xx | |||
"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. " It's a site for swingers (the clue is in the name ), but it's populated by human beings, who are all different, and have different tastes, ideas, and desires. Just use the site how you want to use it, the same as others do, and you will find likeminded people | |||
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"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. " Ultimately it is about finding the right people. Lots of characters are on the site, so it is a challenge finding the right person. That's why people try to filter out others. Everyday is a school day | |||
"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too. As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. " I agree x | |||
"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. " This is SO wrong! | |||
"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. " Your description of "the woman" aptly describes what I look for in a profile. I am not a piece of meat. I would not expect a reply to a five word first message if I had sent one and the social side of swinging is important to me. | |||
"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all. Exactly this. I often wonder who replies to the 'meet now messages' I no more take a man home on a night out than click a dick on here. Any dick won't do I'm afraid. I think there's some confusion between swinging and hookers " Yep I literally reply to the 100s of random let's meet now messaged with call an escort. Also there is a meet section, so why don't they browse there? | |||
"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all. Exactly this. I often wonder who replies to the 'meet now messages' I no more take a man home on a night out than click a dick on here. Any dick won't do I'm afraid. I think there's some confusion between swinging and hookers Yep I literally reply to the 100s of random let's meet now messaged with call an escort. Also there is a meet section, so why don't they browse there?" Because that requires effort, ie searching and reading.  | |||
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"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all. Agree xx" Disagree | |||
"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all. Agree xx Disagree" Are you going to expand on that?. I'm not sure why people get so confused the clue is in the name "fabswingers"!! | |||
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"To play devils advocate here..... You can go to a great steakhouse and order the salmon.... or you can go to a great seafood restaurant and order the steak.... You might get a great meal but wouldn’t you go to a seafood restaurant for seafood and a steakhouse for steak? You can also find the love of your life on a swinging site and also a swinging partner on a dating site.... What the Op is trying to say is if you’re looking for a date , go to a dating site... and if you’re looking for uninhibited NSA sex go to a swinging site..... " We all get that BUT no we will use the site as we choose. Dating sites are worse than this for men that want a quick shag, I prefer here and have made great friends personally x | |||
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"I wonder why the OP started a thread then hid his profile and hasn't commented ... just saying " He might think he can't get blocked that way lol x | |||
"I wonder why the OP started a thread then hid his profile and hasn't commented ... just saying He might think he can't get blocked that way lol x " Why would you block him? He just asked a question. I personally didn’t see anything rude or obnoxious.... | |||
"I wonder why the OP started a thread then hid his profile and hasn't commented ... just saying He might think he can't get blocked that way lol x Why would you block him? He just asked a question. I personally didn’t see anything rude or obnoxious...." I would block him same as anyone I'm not interested in and I'm not interested in the way he thinks wemon should be on here .... x | |||
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"Anyone fancy a date lol x" Medjool dates are still in season I love my calendar it’s full of dates X | |||
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"Anyone fancy a date lol x" Only an old prune hear ts soz I Wouldn't make the grade | |||
"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience! Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter! Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours! Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? " totally agree | |||
"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience! Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter! Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours! Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? "I totally agree with you there | |||
"Swinging is not the same as using." | |||
"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too. As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. " This! | |||
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"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience! Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter! Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours! Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? "Brilliantly put x | |||
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"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block. Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong. I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging. So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either. A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. " Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash.... | |||
"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block. Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong. I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging. So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either. A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. " Is that because you left your ex wife for your current one? Because you had a 'connection'? | |||
"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block. Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong. I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging. So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either. A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. Is that because you left your ex wife for your current one? Because you had a 'connection'? " Lol | |||
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"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. " I completely get what you mean - but if you just want a hook up you’re better off using pure mate. However, and sorry ladies I really don’t mean this too negatively - trying to meet women on here is a joke. Maybe I’m doing it wrong but have never met a lady from here, even for a social first. Not a problem on any other site / app I use which makes me think it’s this site. However I am determined to make it happen haha | |||
"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. I completely get what you mean - but if you just want a hook up you’re better off using pure mate. However, and sorry ladies I really don’t mean this too negatively - trying to meet women on here is a joke. Maybe I’m doing it wrong but have never met a lady from here, even for a social first. Not a problem on any other site / app I use which makes me think it’s this site. However I am determined to make it happen haha" You have a meet veri? | |||
"Not much difference between here and dating sites nowadays to be honest. Dating sites are littered with people seeking nsa from here lol. " . This is true I have been on POF and I have seen 3 women on here that are on POF.I have met women on a dating site and had sex within a few hours.I don’t think there is anything wrong with looking for a partner that is into swinging the hard part maybe is if you get together in a serious relationship how that works out not just swinging but every day life. | |||
"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. I completely get what you mean - but if you just want a hook up you’re better off using pure mate. However, and sorry ladies I really don’t mean this too negatively - trying to meet women on here is a joke. Maybe I’m doing it wrong but have never met a lady from here, even for a social first. Not a problem on any other site / app I use which makes me think it’s this site. However I am determined to make it happen haha You have a meet veri?" That I do - but randomly enough I actually met a chick whilst out, we hooked up, and found out we were both on Fab so she was kind enough to Veri me | |||
"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. I completely get what you mean - but if you just want a hook up you’re better off using pure mate. However, and sorry ladies I really don’t mean this too negatively - trying to meet women on here is a joke. Maybe I’m doing it wrong but have never met a lady from here, even for a social first. Not a problem on any other site / app I use which makes me think it’s this site. However I am determined to make it happen haha You have a meet veri? That I do - but randomly enough I actually met a chick whilst out, we hooked up, and found out we were both on Fab so she was kind enough to Veri me " But you've never met a lady from here? | |||
"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience! Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter! Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours! Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? "This!! The magic words being.... I am here for MY enjoyment. | |||
Dunno why these guys are on a swinging site if it's a wife they after! | |||
"To play devils advocate here..... You can go to a great steakhouse and order the salmon.... or you can go to a great seafood restaurant and order the steak.... You might get a great meal but wouldn’t you go to a seafood restaurant for seafood and a steakhouse for steak? You can also find the love of your life on a swinging site and also a swinging partner on a dating site.... What the Op is trying to say is if you’re looking for a date , go to a dating site... and if you’re looking for uninhibited NSA sex go to a swinging site..... " One tiny flaw with this, dating sites are littered with people from here looking for hook ups and nsa. I know this as I'm on them, hence why I'm also using fab for dating now as well, if you can't beat em, join em lol. | |||
"I'm hoping to date. but I'm also realistic that some men will say oh yes let's date but actually just want fun and it's just something to get my attention. But yeah I'd love to find someone for a relationship that goes on to swing. " I'll go with this ... | |||
"We've had 3 meets (with older guys) and after it, Fiona gets bombarded with private messages wanting her to ditch shrek and rub off with them. And basically belittle and slag shreks skills in the bedroom, trying to intice Fiona away
Dunno why these guys are on a swinging site if it's a wife they after!"Lol we’ve had two guys we were chatting try to go ‘white knight’ on us and tried to message seperatly! We thought it was hilarious
Needless to say they didn’t get any further! Real swingers relationships with each other are so much stronger than a conventional marriage but not everyone gets that | |||
"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience! Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter! Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours! Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? " | |||
"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience! Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter! Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours! Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? "You hit the nail right on the head x | |||
"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block. Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong. I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging. So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either. A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. Is that because you left your ex wife for your current one? Because you had a 'connection'? " Nowhere near as simple as that but yes. No leaving involved but that was the end result. | |||
"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block. Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong. I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging. So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either. A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash...." Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong. | |||
"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block. Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong. I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging. So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either. A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash.... Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong. "And what's wrong with finding out about etiquette? There a lot of posts that are helpful and informative. Just because people aren't meeting you or any Tom dick or Sally, doesn't mean they aren't swingers. They just quietly go about their business with existing friends, contacts on here, maybe club meets or parties. I'm sure many forumites run their profiles like this. No one has the right to judge them. | |||
"We've had 3 meets (with older guys) and after it, Fiona gets bombarded with private messages wanting her to ditch shrek and rub off with them. And basically belittle and slag shreks skills in the bedroom, trying to intice Fiona away
Dunno why these guys are on a swinging site if it's a wife they after!
Lol we’ve had two guys we were chatting try to go ‘white knight’ on us and tried to message seperatly! We thought it was hilarious
Needless to say they didn’t get any further! Real swingers relationships with each other are so much stronger than a conventional marriage but not everyone gets that "This is something I can’t understand.... Why would a single guy want to steal a wife from a couple? You get to have sex with her without dealing with any of her daily problems.... That seems like a dream to me.... | |||
"We've had 3 meets (with older guys) and after it, Fiona gets bombarded with private messages wanting her to ditch shrek and rub off with them. And basically belittle and slag shreks skills in the bedroom, trying to intice Fiona away
Dunno why these guys are on a swinging site if it's a wife they after!
Lol we’ve had two guys we were chatting try to go ‘white knight’ on us and tried to message seperatly! We thought it was hilarious
Needless to say they didn’t get any further! Real swingers relationships with each other are so much stronger than a conventional marriage but not everyone gets that
This is something I can’t understand....
Why would a single guy want to steal a wife from a couple?
You get to have sex with her without dealing with any of her daily problems....
That seems like a dream to me.... "It does seem very odd behaviour, I have to agree. | |||
"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block. Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong. I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging. So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either. A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash.... Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong.
And what's wrong with finding out about etiquette? There a lot of posts that are helpful and informative. Just because people aren't meeting you or any Tom dick or Sally, doesn't mean they aren't swingers. They just quietly go about their business with existing friends, contacts on here, maybe club meets or parties. I'm sure many forumites run their profiles like this. No one has the right to judge them. "Did you read before you posted or did the typos confuse you? There is nothing wrong with asking, just most of the people responding are talking bollocks, and most have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs, they just give their opinion of what it should be in their opinion and not what it is. | |||
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"We've had 3 meets (with older guys) and after it, Fiona gets bombarded with private messages wanting her to ditch shrek and rub off with them. And basically belittle and slag shreks skills in the bedroom, trying to intice Fiona away
Dunno why these guys are on a swinging site if it's a wife they after!
Lol we’ve had two guys we were chatting try to go ‘white knight’ on us and tried to message seperatly! We thought it was hilarious
Needless to say they didn’t get any further! Real swingers relationships with each other are so much stronger than a conventional marriage but not everyone gets that " | |||
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"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block. Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong. I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging. So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either. A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash.... Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong.
And what's wrong with finding out about etiquette? There a lot of posts that are helpful and informative. Just because people aren't meeting you or any Tom dick or Sally, doesn't mean they aren't swingers. They just quietly go about their business with existing friends, contacts on here, maybe club meets or parties. I'm sure many forumites run their profiles like this. No one has the right to judge them.
Did you read before you posted or did the typos confuse you? There is nothing wrong with asking, just most of the people responding are talking bollocks, and most have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs, they just give their opinion of what it should be in their opinion and not what it is. "Not at all confused by typos. Do you have photographic or verbal proof that they 'have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs'? How did you find this to be factual? People are free to use this site and run their profiles how they see fit. I stand by my statement that it's not for you or anyone else to judge them for that. There is no need for rudeness or sarcasm either. | |||
"Its a site for everyone to find whatever want to find.. Why catergorise it? Just do what works for you and leave everyone else to do what works for them " | |||
"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block. Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong. I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging. So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either. A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash.... Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong.
And what's wrong with finding out about etiquette? There a lot of posts that are helpful and informative. Just because people aren't meeting you or any Tom dick or Sally, doesn't mean they aren't swingers. They just quietly go about their business with existing friends, contacts on here, maybe club meets or parties. I'm sure many forumites run their profiles like this. No one has the right to judge them.
Did you read before you posted or did the typos confuse you? There is nothing wrong with asking, just most of the people responding are talking bollocks, and most have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs, they just give their opinion of what it should be in their opinion and not what it is.
Not at all confused by typos. Do you have photographic or verbal proof that they 'have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs'? How did you find this to be factual? People are free to use this site and run their profiles how they see fit. I stand by my statement that it's not for you or anyone else to judge them for that. There is no need for rudeness or sarcasm either. "I responded to the OP question, I'm terribky sorry we disagree, that doesn't mean I'm wrong. When somebody asks for an opinion you not liking it doesn't make their opinion wrong. All of these posts are in the public domain and ANYBODY can give an opinion on them and judge them as they see fit. I know because f what they say and how different it is from reality considering I have worked at multiple clubs and attended in excess of 1000 club events then see somebody giving advice on what happens at clubs that isn't even close to reality that they haven't attended much if at all, therefore they should be listening to advice not giving it. The response to my post implied I was Criticising asking for advice, I very clearly wasn't I was Criticising the appalling advi e often given from people who don't have any experience to be advising. | |||
"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block. Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong. I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging. So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either. A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. " 100% agree with you on this. We don't look for connections etc. | |||
" This is something I can’t understand.... Why would a single guy want to steal a wife from a couple? You get to have sex with her without dealing with any of her daily problems.... That seems like a dream to me.... " We thought it would be easy to find a guy for NSA, but when we get to the Kik stage, they seem to go abit odd. We set the rules, no private messaging but the majority break it within 24 hours. We have a handful of guys who have totally understood the swinging and we remain in contact with. | |||
"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block. Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong. I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging. So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either. A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash.... Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong.
And what's wrong with finding out about etiquette? There a lot of posts that are helpful and informative. Just because people aren't meeting you or any Tom dick or Sally, doesn't mean they aren't swingers. They just quietly go about their business with existing friends, contacts on here, maybe club meets or parties. I'm sure many forumites run their profiles like this. No one has the right to judge them.
Did you read before you posted or did the typos confuse you? There is nothing wrong with asking, just most of the people responding are talking bollocks, and most have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs, they just give their opinion of what it should be in their opinion and not what it is.
Not at all confused by typos. Do you have photographic or verbal proof that they 'have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs'? How did you find this to be factual? People are free to use this site and run their profiles how they see fit. I stand by my statement that it's not for you or anyone else to judge them for that. There is no need for rudeness or sarcasm either.
I responded to the OP question, I'm terribky sorry we disagree, that doesn't mean I'm wrong. When somebody asks for an opinion you not liking it doesn't make their opinion wrong. All of these posts are in the public domain and ANYBODY can give an opinion on them and judge them as they see fit.
I know because f what they say and how different it is from reality considering I have worked at multiple clubs and attended in excess of 1000 club events then see somebody giving advice on what happens at clubs that isn't even close to reality that they haven't attended much if at all, therefore they should be listening to advice not giving it.
The response to my post implied I was Criticising asking for advice, I very clearly wasn't I was Criticising the appalling advi e often given from people who don't have any experience to be advising. "My point was... How do you know the individual people on this thread who have posted dont have experience to advise others? Do you know all of them personally? I don't, but am not judging. Just because they don't have multiple veris, shout it from the rooftops or choose to fly under the radar that doesn't make them unqualified to respond. | |||
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"Personally speaking, I need to have some kind of connection with someone. A social meet first to see if we get on. I wouldn't just turn up at theirs, have them at mine or go to a hotel, there's always safety in mind, hence why I do things that way. If they won't agree to a social I don't meet them at all. There also has to be some kind of attraction. No way would I fuck someone I'm not attracted to just because I'm on fab and they expect it instantly. This isn't gender specific, it applies to all." Agreed | |||
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"Personally speaking, I need to have some kind of connection with someone. A social meet first to see if we get on. I wouldn't just turn up at theirs, have them at mine or go to a hotel, there's always safety in mind, hence why I do things that way. If they won't agree to a social I don't meet them at all. There also has to be some kind of attraction. No way would I fuck someone I'm not attracted to just because I'm on fab and they expect it instantly. This isn't gender specific, it applies to all. Agreed" Safety aspect applies to both sexes too. | |||
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"Better than match of the day this *as once said in Rita sue and Bob too One of my fave films fyi fabbites "Brilliant film!!! | |||
"Personally speaking, I need to have some kind of connection with someone. A social meet first to see if we get on. I wouldn't just turn up at theirs, have them at mine or go to a hotel, there's always safety in mind, hence why I do things that way. If they won't agree to a social I don't meet them at all. There also has to be some kind of attraction. No way would I fuck someone I'm not attracted to just because I'm on fab and they expect it instantly. This isn't gender specific, it applies to all. Agreed Safety aspect applies to both sexes too. "Goes with out saying | |||
"Better than match of the day this *as once said in Rita sue and Bob too One of my fave films fyi fabbites
Brilliant film!!!"It looks like a frozen sausage And ff Mavis | |||
"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. " there really is no difference between this and some dating sites | |||
"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. there really is no difference between this and some dating sites " To be fair their is and its not just the photos. | |||
"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. there really is no difference between this and some dating sites To be fair their is and its not just the photos. " Not for me there isn’t. This is the only site I use. V x | |||
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"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message. Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different. " So what ... people are all different and want all sorts  | |||
"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too. As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. " This!!! 100% | |||
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"OP's attitude is why I have got fussy in my old age. Too many guys who confuse swinging with Tinder. `I've sent you a message therefore I demand a response and a meet.' I'm lucky I have some excellent `friends' and a lovely, kind, respectful, sexy fwb. And if I didn't, I would stick to my battery powered pal's rather than meet a guy with this attitude. No I don't want to marry you. No I don't want to move in with you. No I don't want to date you, but I am a human being and expect to be treated like one. Go have a wank little boy. Maybe when you are grown up enough to realise the above, women may want to meet you. Life - and definitely this site - owes you nothing." Couldn’t have put it any better... x | |||
"OP's attitude is why I have got fussy in my old age. Too many guys who confuse swinging with Tinder. `I've sent you a message therefore I demand a response and a meet.' I'm lucky I have some excellent `friends' and a lovely, kind, respectful, sexy fwb. And if I didn't, I would stick to my battery powered pal's rather than meet a guy with this attitude. No I don't want to marry you. No I don't want to move in with you. No I don't want to date you, but I am a human being and expect to be treated like one. Go have a wank little boy. Maybe when you are grown up enough to realise the above, women may want to meet you. Life - and definitely this site - owes you nothing." | |||
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"OP's attitude is why I have got fussy in my old age. Too many guys who confuse swinging with Tinder. `I've sent you a message therefore I demand a response and a meet.' I'm lucky I have some excellent `friends' and a lovely, kind, respectful, sexy fwb. And if I didn't, I would stick to my battery powered pal's rather than meet a guy with this attitude. No I don't want to marry you. No I don't want to move in with you. No I don't want to date you, but I am a human being and expect to be treated like one. Go have a wank little boy. Maybe when you are grown up enough to realise the above, women may want to meet you. Life - and definitely this site - owes you nothing. Couldn’t have put it any better... x " | |||
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"Have to say ive never felt any connection with anyone we’ve met on fab. The sex is enjoyable because we’re doing it together and thats our connection.. the people we do it with are just extras in our filthy fun "And that is the meaning of connection. If there wasn't, you wouldn't be having filthy fun, and coming back for more. Strange thing connection/chemistry/attraction | |||
"OP's attitude is why I have got fussy in my old age. Too many guys who confuse swinging with Tinder. `I've sent you a message therefore I demand a response and a meet.' I'm lucky I have some excellent `friends' and a lovely, kind, respectful, sexy fwb. And if I didn't, I would stick to my battery powered pal's rather than meet a guy with this attitude. No I don't want to marry you. No I don't want to move in with you. No I don't want to date you, but I am a human being and expect to be treated like one. Go have a wank little boy. Maybe when you are grown up enough to realise the above, women may want to meet you. Life - and definitely this site - owes you nothing." Hm... Actually on Tinder you can only contact someone if you match, and if you do not like them you can unmatch them. | |||
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"Met my husband on here.. " That must have been awkward when you found out. | |||
" Hm... Actually on Tinder you can only contact someone if you match, and if you do not like them you can unmatch them." And possible matches are decided by the machine. You don't see everyone. There's an algorithm to who is shown. | |||
"Swinging is not the same as using. Excellent, not sure what the OP thinks we women will find alluring in his one sentence profile!" Assuming he's looking for women ... but then ... haven't checked his profile ... already know it's not what we are looking for there | |||
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"Gets more like Facebook everyday in my opinion "How so? | |||
"Gets more like Facebook everyday in my opinion
How so?"Just some of the silly statuses your read | |||
" Hm... Actually on Tinder you can only contact someone if you match, and if you do not like them you can unmatch them. And possible matches are decided by the machine. You don't see everyone. There's an algorithm to who is shown. " It can't avoid showing everyone to me - I just run out of people pretty quickly. ) | |||
" Hm... Actually on Tinder you can only contact someone if you match, and if you do not like them you can unmatch them. And possible matches are decided by the machine. You don't see everyone. There's an algorithm to who is shown. It can't avoid showing everyone to me - I just run out of people pretty quickly. ) "Your just a fast left swiper lol | |||
" Hm... Actually on Tinder you can only contact someone if you match, and if you do not like them you can unmatch them. And possible matches are decided by the machine. You don't see everyone. There's an algorithm to who is shown. It can't avoid showing everyone to me - I just run out of people pretty quickly. ) "Oh that's not just me then lol | |||
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