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How to say thanks but no thanks
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've had quite a few guys get annoyed if I don't reply to their message to say I'm not interested but feel bad turning people down and don't really know what to say.
It can be that I don't fancy their pictures or just don't click with their message.
Any advice on what you want to hear guys? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wait for someone posting the Fab rule on this thread..
But it is always nice if you can reply, saying no thanks and so on ..and if they are not for you, ever..block them, once your no thanks message as been sent. |
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I say "thank you for your message but not for me, happy fabbing"
mostly people accept it and either delete or say ok thanks for the reply.
some ask why so I just delete that rather than get into conversation about there not being an attraction
Some do come back with insults or nasty replies, just delete and block those x |
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Actually it can get nasty, so be careful with any reply. A guy asked me if he was repulsive and if I was just a tease etc..ended up blocking him. What was he expecting after insults I would change my mind ?
There is never a perfect way to say no, unfortunately |
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You can make it less specific about them and keep it wholly about you, just tell them you are not pursuing things etc.
But don't feel you have to offer any update on your evaluation of them. You can just wish them luck or block and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry, not my type. Enjoy fab.
That's what I write.
Even if there are no face pics? Or friend only pics"
“Hello,
I appreciate the message thank you, just not what I'm seeking!
Best of luck on your search,
Name”
There. |
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"I've had quite a few guys get annoyed if I don't reply to their message to say I'm not interested but feel bad turning people down and don't really know what to say.
It can be that I don't fancy their pictures or just don't click with their message.
Any advice on what you want to hear guys? "
Well they want to hear that you fancy them. Just say ‘you’re not what I’m seeking’ and block them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry, not my type. Enjoy fab.
That's what I write.
Even if there are no face pics? Or friend only pics"
Just say "no thanks just not attracted" because from the information and what you have seen you are not. |
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"If you’re feeling bad saying ‘no’ just delete the message and most guys will get it. But honesty is the best policy. A ‘no thanks’ is always appreciated. By me anyway. "
Unfortunatly for every guy like urself there are 5 that will take an answer of any kind as an invitation to harass u into changing ur mind or reply with some abusive remark. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it’s someone who fits the criteria I ask for in my profile, a polite no thanks then a block if they message again.
If it’s someone who hasn’t read or has ignored my profile text, it’s a delete and usually block. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just delete it.... thats what happens to most of my messages 
Most people understand the meaning of a deleted message"
It's generally when I've deleted the messages that they have got arsy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm used to messages sent just being read and deleted. But occasionally it would be nice to get a "thanks for your interest, but you aren't what I'm looking for" or similar. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm used to messages sent just being read and deleted. But occasionally it would be nice to get a "thanks for your interest, but you aren't what I'm looking for" or similar."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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'Thanks for your message, but unfortunately you're not who I'm looking for.'
Polite, but to the point. If they get arsy with that or don't accept it, just block them. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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Politeness is a good start and none of your bog standard of brush offs Eg thanks but no thanks. Not my type sorry leave the guy with a bit of pride.
Ask yourself how you would like to hear a no thanks and try that. |
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