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Advice on how to get there as if I'm honest I'm thinking this site is a wash out

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Aye just seems like sus am thinking

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By *issBiWoman over a year ago

Bournemouth

"Aye just seems like sus am thinking "

Hi, i just looked at your profile.

Your only pic is a cockshot, dated 17 July 2015.

Your profile text reads as someone who is annoyed he can't get a meet.

I'd not respond to a wink or message from anyone with a profile like that.

...

I'd say, change to a dif pic or add newer and not all cockshots, write positive things to attract the good fabbers.

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By *oan of DArcCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

"Aye just seems like sus am thinking "

As the other poster said, your profile's pretty awful, not sure why you think it should attract interest in meeting you, sorry to sound brutal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Aye just seems like sus am thinking "
It's a mystery it's a mystery

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Listen.... all these women are making a big mistake by not meeting you....

Keep your chin up and remember it’s their loss...

Hugs

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Your profile Sounds to me like your incredibly unfriendly and self entitled “I’m here for sex like the rest of you so just put out already” is the impression I got

Then you’ve one pic it’s of your cock and it’s outdated and blurry.

Most women will decide to meet you after reading your profile, so do you think the above the best first impression to give them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What ladies or couples wouldn't want to meet an angry self entitled man ?

I just don't understand it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

OK to answer and without trying to come across as a dick but I did have nice things to say when I joined but an a face pic on profile... tried to engage and get chatting but to no avail some woman would even send me nasty replies to the affects of fuck of ugly then block me and all I had done was introduced myself say a wee bit about myself and ask if they fancied a chat see how it goes so yes when people were nasty with me yes I did kinda rant on my profile

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By *oan of DArcCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

"OK to answer and without trying to come across as a dick but I did have nice things to say when I joined but an a face pic on profile... tried to engage and get chatting but to no avail some woman would even send me nasty replies to the affects of fuck of ugly then block me and all I had done was introduced myself say a wee bit about myself and ask if they fancied a chat see how it goes so yes when people were nasty with me yes I did kinda rant on my profile "

Well thats how you're now presenting yourself to everyone, most of us have no interest in the outcome of your interactions with other members!

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

Certainly wouldn’t encourage me to respond.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

U.N.L.O.S

User no longer on site .

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

He has changed it from active aggressive to passive aggressive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

UNCLOS = sea based

UNLOS = filth based

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like it....

He's cool

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

This is great loving it lol best fun I've had on here to date thanks everyone hope your having as good a time as me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hey come on guys even some of you must admit there are a few suspect profiles on here no ?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

Nothing there to talk about now. Pretty much a blank profile.

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By *issBiWoman over a year ago

Bournemouth

Fabulous profile improvement

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By *issBiWoman over a year ago

Bournemouth

"Nothing there to talk about now. Pretty much a blank profile. "

But it's not a negative profile now at least

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Hey come on guys even some of you must admit there are a few suspect profiles on here no ?"

They’re usually the ones with very little effort put into them

Easily available though

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By *issBiWoman over a year ago

Bournemouth

"Hey come on guys even some of you must admit there are a few suspect profiles on here no ?"

You said before about rude replies and being blocked. That happens to most on here, men, women, couples. Some people spit their dummy out and have a tantrum if they don't get what they want. Counter block, move on and be yourself.

Suspect profiles, plenty of them too, as above, block and move on. Why waste your time and energy on negative people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Added to hotlist"
Ha omg

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 08/09/18 11:11:21]

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Added to hotlist"

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

If you go to a night club and it's packed full of women and you don't pull or chat to any do you blame the night club ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Lol you off your head lol people aren't as ignorant in the real world when it's face to face

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Lol you off your head lol people aren't as ignorant in the real world when it's face to face"

In the real world on a night out if I was constantly hit on I’d eventually get a bit pissed off and possible tell them fuck off after a while

Some assume just because a woman is online she’s looking for sexy there and then it’s often not the case

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Lol you off your head lol people aren't as ignorant in the real world when it's face to face"

Then perhaps this site is not for you.....

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By *rHornyGentMan over a year ago

South East London

"UNCLOS = sea based

UNLOS = filth based

Haha Legend!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol you off your head lol people aren't as ignorant in the real world when it's face to face"
they are you try going into any bar in Scotland and waving an English £20 note at barman trying to get served

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By *rHornyGentMan over a year ago

South East London

"Lol you off your head lol people aren't as ignorant in the real world when it's face to facethey are you try going into any bar in Scotland and waving an English £20 note at barman trying to get served"

That’s the problem Mr R. Why visit the place

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah your profile needs a re think some more pics not of your dick and a more positive bio would help massively as i read it it sounds like you hate this site also join in on the forums and cam rooms make friends before finding lovers its not rocket science its just sex but most are looking for a connection before anything else happens trust me single guys on here are in abundance we out number the ladies like 50 to 1 ( maybe im exaggerating) ya got make connections in order to move on to meeting ur profile just seems like you really haven't put any effort in it abit half assed

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm not really one for bombarding someone with messages its not right as you wouldn't keep pestering someone in the real world you get a knock back you get a knock back no biggie you just roll with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This site is not a wash out

There are suspect profiles on here, wind up merchants, sock puppets, keyboard warriors and people that will never partake in the scene other than from a keyboard.

But,

You need some verifications or you will be thought of as a suspect profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not really one for bombarding someone with messages its not right as you wouldn't keep pestering someone in the real world you get a knock back you get a knock back no biggie you just roll with "

Please please please use full stops. I’m out of breath just reading your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not really one for bombarding someone with messages its not right as you wouldn't keep pestering someone in the real world you get a knock back you get a knock back no biggie you just roll with

Please please please use full stops. I’m out of breath just reading your profile."
that'll be the stairs get a bungalow

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

This site works perfectly for me OP. Don't know why it's not working for you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Nobody else got anything to add

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Aye just seems like sus am thinking "

if you feel like that, go to your account and press "delete account"

online sites are what you make of it and how you interact with people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody else got anything to add"

Yeah... you are a great sport dude

But ffs change the profile or you are off our Hotlist... just sayin

#carryon

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By *reygorCouple over a year ago

birmingham

we got no beef with fab works well for us.try a club meet may help you get some contacts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody else got anything to add"

Yes, you're profile and attitude are awful.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody else got anything to add

Yeah... you are a great sport dude

But ffs change the profile or you are off our Hotlist... just sayin

#carryon"

After looking at your pics id feel really honoured to be on your Hotlist amazing pics and a genuine honest profile wow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody else got anything to add

Yeah... you are a great sport dude

But ffs change the profile or you are off our Hotlist... just sayin

#carryon

After looking at your pics id feel really honoured to be on your Hotlist amazing pics and a genuine honest profile wow "

Awww thanks (Mrs) x

Now OP ... there is a good example of profile and pics ^^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great job Changing the profile......

Now you will be so flushed with women, you will have to beat them away with a stick....

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By *ephistoCouple over a year ago

torrance

Since you asked. You're profile is weird and doesn't bring interest.

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By *ENGUYMan over a year ago

Hull

OP.

Try this experiment.

Read your profile text out loud and see how far you get without having to pause for breath before reaching the end!

Chances are you'll fail. There's the problem!

Any shred of positivity in the whole text is lost in one very very very long sentence!

It's not broken up at all. Everyone only sees a pile of letters.

You've written the way you speak, that is, in one long endless tirade. Without realising it, your Profile style comes across as aggressive. That has also come through in your responses in this thread.

You need to soften the content. Break it down into manageable understandable sections.

You have to compete against so many other guys on here. You have to SELL yourself to stand out.

At the moment you don't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

This is great

loving all this it's great thanks who would have thought I'd get so much attention

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can I segue onto this thread asking the same?

I don’t speak in txt spk and don’t have a cock pic either!

Thoughts appreciated.

Ta folks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Right ok so I've kinda went back and amended my profile. So let me know if you can catch a breath now .

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By *ENGUYMan over a year ago

Hull

"Right ok so I've kinda went back and amended my profile. So let me know if you can catch

a breath now ."

Just break it down into a few paragraphs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I segue onto this thread asking the same?

I don’t speak in txt spk and don’t have a cock pic either!

Thoughts appreciated.

Ta folks. "

Haven’t you had enough advice on the other thread you’ve posted on? Poor form to hijack threads

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right ok so I've kinda went back and amended my profile. So let me know if you can catch

a breath now .

Just break it down into a few paragraphs."

Exactly, it doesn't even look readable, so I didn't, it's a wall of text.

And without pictures it utterly irrelevant anyway.

Profiles go ike this

1st message isn't a dick and he's tried, move on

Profile pic, isn't a dick if it is stop

Any other pics, none stop

Is text interesting and makes them want to find out more, no, stop.

So most people would have stopped progressing your profile three times before even thinking about replying to your message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I segue onto this thread asking the same?

I don’t speak in txt spk and don’t have a cock pic either!

Thoughts appreciated.

Ta folks.

Haven’t you had enough advice on the other thread you’ve posted on? Poor form to hijack threads"

Nope. I’ve had little constructive advice, several sarcastic replies.

This is turning out to be a strange website!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This site is what you make it. Your approach and attitude can make or break you. What many guys fail to grasp is that being polite, respectful and approaching women in a normal way will make them feel more comfortable and more likely to reply. Treat it as a bit of fun, expect nothing then it's a bonus if you get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I segue onto this thread asking the same?

I don’t speak in txt spk and don’t have a cock pic either!

Thoughts appreciated.

Ta folks.

Haven’t you had enough advice on the other thread you’ve posted on? Poor form to hijack threads

Nope. I’ve had little constructive advice, several sarcastic replies.

This is turning out to be a strange website! "

That’s not the way we’ve read your thread, but hey ho

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I segue onto this thread asking the same?

I don’t speak in txt spk and don’t have a cock pic either!

Thoughts appreciated.

Ta folks.

Haven’t you had enough advice on the other thread you’ve posted on? Poor form to hijack threads

Nope. I’ve had little constructive advice, several sarcastic replies.

This is turning out to be a strange website!

That’s not the way we’ve read your thread, but hey ho"

No? It’s the way I’ve read it, and I notice you’ve contributed nothing to it!

Feel feee free to do so, you lovely people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

*Feel free

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I segue onto this thread asking the same?

I don’t speak in txt spk and don’t have a cock pic either!

Thoughts appreciated.

Ta folks.

Haven’t you had enough advice on the other thread you’ve posted on? Poor form to hijack threads

Nope. I’ve had little constructive advice, several sarcastic replies.

This is turning out to be a strange website!

That’s not the way we’ve read your thread, but hey ho

No? It’s the way I’ve read it, and I notice you’ve contributed nothing to it!

Feel feee free to do so, you lovely people. "

Little point when all you’ll do is knock down whatever we say...... enjoy your time on FAB

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I segue onto this thread asking the same?

I don’t speak in txt spk and don’t have a cock pic either!

Thoughts appreciated.

Ta folks.

Haven’t you had enough advice on the other thread you’ve posted on? Poor form to hijack threads

Nope. I’ve had little constructive advice, several sarcastic replies.

This is turning out to be a strange website!

That’s not the way we’ve read your thread, but hey ho

No? It’s the way I’ve read it, and I notice you’ve contributed nothing to it!

Feel feee free to do so, you lovely people.

Little point when all you’ll do is knock down whatever we say...... enjoy your time on FAB

No, I would ppreciate your feedback and take it constructively.

I’m disappointed with the site so far, I must admit. I’ve just been told to get “ah life or a wife” by someone on the other thread who can neither spell nor punctuate...

Maybe this site is more about 50+. Is it?

If so that’s fine and I will take on board...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I segue onto this thread asking the same?

I don’t speak in txt spk and don’t have a cock pic either!

Thoughts appreciated.

Ta folks.

Haven’t you had enough advice on the other thread you’ve posted on? Poor form to hijack threads

Nope. I’ve had little constructive advice, several sarcastic replies.

This is turning out to be a strange website!

That’s not the way we’ve read your thread, but hey ho

No? It’s the way I’ve read it, and I notice you’ve contributed nothing to it!

Feel feee free to do so, you lovely people.

Little point when all you’ll do is knock down whatever we say...... enjoy your time on FAB

No, I would ppreciate your feedback and take it constructively.

I’m disappointed with the site so far, I must admit. I’ve just been told to get “ah life or a wife” by someone on the other thread who can neither spell nor punctuate...

Maybe this site is more about 50+. Is it?

If so that’s fine and I will take on board... "

Says the person with a spelling mistake...... oh how we laughed.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple over a year ago

Planet Ork

"Added to hotlist"

SARCASM ALERT!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Added to hotlist

SARCASM ALERT!!!!!!!

No sarcasm here.

CHRIST ON A BIKE, I’M GLAD YOU DIDNT!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Paul and C Berks failed to notice the subsequent post where I corrected it.

They can Foxtrort Oscar for all I care

I came into this site for advice and find myself arguing endlessly...

Oh er missus

Thanks for the advice

I love a bit of Kenneth Williams

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By *exeiraMan over a year ago

London

Guys I can feel the frustration you are encountering. Sometimes even polite, fun messages get deleted without a reply. My advice is to block that person so you never contact them. If they are that rude and arrogant, would you meet them in person? I have more results in clubs and in person. It shows how shallow people are online. Try your best. If no reply or effort Block. You will out timewasters that way. Best of luck .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

OK so I'm guessing the updated version of my profile hasn't really helped with anything. Here was me thinking it was a bit different as I did have a wee look at a few and they were kinda always the same. If I was to be honest I kinda thought rather boring.

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By *ENGUYMan over a year ago

Hull

"OK so I'm guessing the updated version of my profile hasn't really helped with anything. Here was me thinking it was a bit different as I did have a wee look at a few and they were kinda always the same. If I was to be honest I kinda thought rather boring.

You have had some good advice from various people. Also look in the Forum Index under Profile Help. You'll find plenty of other threads there with suggestions relevant to you.

The secret is to take the advice given & use it!

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By *illen5Man over a year ago

Bath

"Aye just seems like sus am thinking "

Good use of English goes a long way. Start off with the spelling, then progress to diction and punctuation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Aye just seems like sus am thinking

Good use of English goes a long way. Start off with the spelling, then progress to diction and punctuation.

"
harsh he's Scottish he's spelling it how he says it mon

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You seem to have made relatively small tweaks and then expected results in 24 hours. Patience will also help.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You seem to have made relatively small tweaks and then expected results in 24 hours. Patience will also help. "
I want a meet now damnit........ Bike shed 20 minutes?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I segue onto this thread asking the same?

I don’t speak in txt spk and don’t have a cock pic either!

Thoughts appreciated.

Ta folks. "

You describe yourself as friendly, yet look at your pictures, do YOU think you look friendly? I don't, more like somebody looking for a fight. That would immediately stop any further looking at the profile what is it with single guys and scowling at the camera instead of smiling

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

To the people who are so obviously not interested in giving advice or tempted to be nasty in your replies...please avoid the advice threads altogether as it really isn't welcoming to new members of which you were all once.

To the OP there is some good advice on this and other threads, I am sure you will figure it out. Stick around on the forum while you wait for a meet, sometimes it can be fun

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Oh and welcome to the forum, don't be put off, it isn't always so unfriendly.

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