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over a year ago
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I’m new here and wondered what others thought of this. Had one meet and the guy concerned picked up my phone (to take pictures) and altered my status on here and asked others to join us AS ME! Without my permission or knowledge.Also tried to dive on in there without a condom Really not happy. Just because its honest, open here (well mostly, I’ve had a HELL of a lot of timewasters and some frankly worrying stuff), why is it ok to treat me like that? Is this normal? Actually considering leaving the site if thats how it is. |
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That isn't ok and isn't normal for here.
Altering your status was wrong and trying to avoid using a condom beyond wrong.
Block him, if anyone attempts to be as disrespectful bin the future end the meet immediately.
Sorry your experience was negative |
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"I’m new here and wondered what others thought of this. Had one meet and the guy concerned picked up my phone (to take pictures) and altered my status on here and asked others to join us AS ME! Without my permission or knowledge.Also tried to dive on in there without a condom Really not happy. Just because its honest, open here (well mostly, I’ve had a HELL of a lot of timewasters and some frankly worrying stuff), why is it ok to treat me like that? Is this normal? Actually considering leaving the site if thats how it is. "
A gentleman would never treat you so poorly. no wonder you were disappointed and unhappy. I guess it just goes to show how careful we all need to be when meeting people and to build up a level of trust through the usual means of talking, socialising etc.
Given the quantity of men on this site, I’d like to think there will be many that will treat you properly and with respect. You’ve just had some bad luck early on in your fab adventures! So put it down to experience and learn from that one x |
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Totally out of order. I had a guy try to force the no condom thing after we'd discussed I only play safe on the phone and he was supposedly ok with it. I told him to sod off, fortunately he did leave. I sent him a shit veri saying what he'd done, knowing full well he would probably block me but he left the site. Probably came back the next day. Sometimes people take advantage, it's way out of order. Please don't let it put you off, there are plenty of decent people on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m new here and wondered what others thought of this. Had one meet and the guy concerned picked up my phone (to take pictures) and altered my status on here and asked others to join us AS ME! Without my permission or knowledge.Also tried to dive on in there without a condom Really not happy. Just because its honest, open here (well mostly, I’ve had a HELL of a lot of timewasters and some frankly worrying stuff), why is it ok to treat me like that? Is this normal? Actually considering leaving the site if thats how it is. "
Report him!! Or eye for an eye |
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Not normal. Report, block. I tend to talk among my small network of friends here to protect others (don't name and shame, it's against the rules, but I'll privately tell a friend about my bad experience in the hope it helps someone).
There are plenty of idiots here, but also plenty of great people. It's sometimes so hard to find the latter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like a right knob. There are nice guys here though, I hope you don't let this idiot put you off.
Perhaps it's a good idea to meet publicly and socially first and see what your instincts tell you about someone, and only agree to a more intimate meet later if you feel ok.
I've had a few try and go for bareback in the moment, even though I'm very clear about not being up for that. You have to keep on your toes with people.
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over a year ago
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It is neither normal nor ok. He acted like a twunt. Today’s lesson: don’t hand over your phone if various social media aren’t locked down. At least it wasn’t the book of face! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some of us do understand how to treat a lady and to be respectful.
Quite frankly sounds like he had to intention or understanding of either.
Manners make the man and usually get you everywhere in life  |
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over a year ago
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He sounds like a diamond ,no idea why he would behave so disgracefully .
Imagine how many others he has tried that with .
A woman should always feel safe and not pressured .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m new here and wondered what others thought of this. Had one meet and the guy concerned picked up my phone (to take pictures) and altered my status on here and asked others to join us AS ME! Without my permission or knowledge.Also tried to dive on in there without a condom Really not happy. Just because its honest, open here (well mostly, I’ve had a HELL of a lot of timewasters and some frankly worrying stuff), why is it ok to treat me like that? Is this normal? Actually considering leaving the site if thats how it is. "
Never come across that before ever,don't you have a screen lock on your phone in case you lose it?
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Totally out of order, from a standard perspective, to touch others' property - as well as use their log-in details to make comments etc.
From a Fab perspective - it's inappropriate too, using another's profile to post as if they were that person.
From a safety pov, then it would be completely wrong to pretend to have safe sex but not actually do it and could constitute illegal activity.
Always report any user here who seemingly acts inappropriately, directly to admin: it is not made public and neither is their action.
Having been here around 10 years, it is really not typical behaviour for anyone. You may get hassled by messages, especially for immediate meets but people usually behave very well, when they turn up for a meet. Consider having a social meet first, to check someone out for suitability for you.
And always agree the ground rules up front, so that they have no reason to break them. |
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"I’m new here and wondered what others thought of this. Had one meet and the guy concerned picked up my phone (to take pictures) and altered my status on here and asked others to join us AS ME! Without my permission or knowledge.Also tried to dive on in there without a condom Really not happy. Just because its honest, open here (well mostly, I’ve had a HELL of a lot of timewasters and some frankly worrying stuff), why is it ok to treat me like that? Is this normal? Actually considering leaving the site if thats how it is. "
Quite simply breathtaking. That said I'm not really surprised. This site has changed so much from the days of likeminded souls that wanted to connect to what is instead a shagging version of Tinder.....I fear many people are purely interested in appendages and holes rather than people or their feelings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You will get the odd ones that are complete wankers, but there are some truly lovely genuine swinger's on here.
Sorry you've got off to a bad start op maybe try a social meet before hand with the person and then take it from there to meet for play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would suggest NAME & SHAME this person. I would even go one step further and have a section in the forum about this kind of behavior. Especially the bit with the condom i would labelled it dangerous too |
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"I would suggest NAME & SHAME this person. I would even go one step further and have a section in the forum about this kind of behavior. Especially the bit with the condom i would labelled it dangerous too"
That’s against site rules. |
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"I’m new here and wondered what others thought of this. Had one meet and the guy concerned picked up my phone (to take pictures) and altered my status on here and asked others to join us AS ME! Without my permission or knowledge.Also tried to dive on in there without a condom Really not happy. Just because its honest, open here (well mostly, I’ve had a HELL of a lot of timewasters and some frankly worrying stuff), why is it ok to treat me like that? Is this normal? Actually considering leaving the site if thats how it is. "
That is really bad and out of order.
No wonder blokes get a bad name |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m new here and wondered what others thought of this. Had one meet and the guy concerned picked up my phone (to take pictures) and altered my status on here and asked others to join us AS ME! Without my permission or knowledge.Also tried to dive on in there without a condom Really not happy. Just because its honest, open here (well mostly, I’ve had a HELL of a lot of timewasters and some frankly worrying stuff), why is it ok to treat me like that? Is this normal? Actually considering leaving the site if thats how it is. "
This is a really odd incident he probably thought it was hilarious at the time but it's nothing more than an ill thought out laugh, put a coded screen lock on your phone  |
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His actions were so out of order. The munute he touched my phone hed be gone. To try fuck without a condom if you've stated you want one is completly out of order. Unacceptable. Block, report and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m new here and wondered what others thought of this. Had one meet and the guy concerned picked up my phone (to take pictures) and altered my status on here and asked others to join us AS ME! Without my permission or knowledge.Also tried to dive on in there without a condom Really not happy. Just because its honest, open here (well mostly, I’ve had a HELL of a lot of timewasters and some frankly worrying stuff), why is it ok to treat me like that? Is this normal? Actually considering leaving the site if thats how it is. "
Swinging does not mean disrespecting women - totally unacceptable. |
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Slightly off topic but still regarding manners; social meets with guys to see if everyone gets on before planning anything further - the amount of guys that don't offer to buy Ashley a drink! They're an immediate no no! |
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"I’m new here and wondered what others thought of this. Had one meet and the guy concerned picked up my phone (to take pictures) and altered my status on here and asked others to join us AS ME! Without my permission or knowledge.Also tried to dive on in there without a condom Really not happy. Just because its honest, open here (well mostly, I’ve had a HELL of a lot of timewasters and some frankly worrying stuff), why is it ok to treat me like that? Is this normal? Actually considering leaving the site if thats how it is.
That is really bad and out of order.
No wonder blokes get a bad name"
Definitely out of order, rude, offensive, not to be tolerated. Sorry to hear you had such a bad experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sadly, some men think because you are on fab they can behave badly. That old Victorian thing that "nice girls" don't do sex !"
I think that comment is bang on the money |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m new here and wondered what others thought of this. Had one meet and the guy concerned picked up my phone (to take pictures) and altered my status on here and asked others to join us AS ME! Without my permission or knowledge.Also tried to dive on in there without a condom Really not happy. Just because its honest, open here (well mostly, I’ve had a HELL of a lot of timewasters and some frankly worrying stuff), why is it ok to treat me like that? Is this normal? Actually considering leaving the site if thats how it is. "
Wrong in so many ways - awful that you have had that experience. If you have agreed/stipulated “safe sex only” then I would say that not using a condom is not consensual sex and thus would be a serious sexual assault. |
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