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Getting into the community

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi - I might be just a bit out of place on a swingers' community, but nudism seems to go hand in hand. I don't know if I could necessarily get into actual swinging, but I certainly would love to get to know a couple and share it with my wife. We have always talked about it and since I caught her creating naked pictures for some guy(s) overseas, I know she wants to.

Mostly, we are getting our bodies back into shape after self-abusive drinking and gorging on food for a few years, but we put all the drink to the side and we are back to healthy diets again. I figure I will be comfortable with my body again in a few weeks, it is amazing what a stone of extra weight can do.

Anyhow, I am looking to make a few friends who like to chat and share nudism, and hopefully I will learn a few secrets of nudism.

I noted that the forum is entertaining chat about 'watching' and that certainly does excite me. My wife gets into it too, but she has a serious confidence issue.

Rules say I have to have a naked chat with someone on the site to get one more level of verified, so if anyone wants to, please just shoot me a message and time. I raise three teens, so just hopping onto the computer naked is not always convenient.

If it is a guy wanting the chat, I have no problem with guys admiring me, but it is not my thing. I will warn that I have close to 2-stone of extra weight from my profile photo, but I am still in pretty good form.

I love to workout in the gym too, so if there are workout people around, feel free.

I must say that I am very body conscious, both for self and others, so 'Big Beautiful' is not really my cup of tea. I believe everyone is beautiful, so I want to be cautious how I say that, just developing a relationship other than friends with me is not likely to be rewarding.

Anyhow, I like to believe that I put a well written bit of text out there, I am articulate and somewhat educated. If anyone wants to try for a new friend, shoot my a buzz.

I will probably join as a supporting member in a bit, so see you all soon, I hope.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s a BIG difference between swinging and naturists. The vast majority of naturists aren’t Swingers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

PS- you’d probably have more luck if you had a couples profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

...and you don't have to have a naked chat with someone to be verified...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"...and you don't have to have a naked chat with someone to be verified..."

Spoil Sport....... wasn’t going to mention that bit

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

I will warn that I have close to 2-stone of extra weight from my profile photo, but I am still in pretty good form.

Having been 4+ stone overweight myself, and having got into pretty good shape, toned and muscular in the last year, my suggestion is that if you are not looking like your profile picture, you remove it and replace it with one that is of you at present, especially if you are stating that you’re not meeting people who are bigger. I would feel deceived by your photo as I am looking for very fit and athletic guys/couples and if you’re not representing yourself in a truthful way, how can you expect others to?

Just sayin’...

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By *he RingmasterMan over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

There is also a difference between naturism and nudist.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks, and I am working on it, I think I may have to create a brand new profile? Not sure if I can mod a single male to couples, I will work on it. Like I pointed out in the introduction, I am mostly looking for ideas and pointers to get it right. I want this to be a positive thing, not rushed. I appreciate the feedback and I am actually looking into the couples profile. I have to think, however, that as I am introducing my wife to the style, I might not be appropriate to enter her as she has a self-confidence thin. I have not really talked her into it, I am just certain that it would be good for her. I will ponder on it, there is no hurry here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the feedback, it is not as bad as all that. I am having some photos taken in about two weeks and I will certainly put them into my private profile. That was the only photo I had available when I created the profile that is a) decent and b) blocks out my face. I am pretty fit, that is for certain, and I keep the tan; just I am in the first 90-days of my workout routine and they can be pretty drastic in change. I plan to put plenty more photos on as I do some work with a couple who makes films (soft core) and they provide me with all the photos I want. I just mentioned the size difference because I put that speedo on the other day at the pool and I had to put on trunks because my belly hangs over right now. I will work on some decent photos for the page that are current, and in a couple weeks I should have some good private photos. Also, I didn't want to post a bunch of 'dick pics' as that seems a bit 'in your face' to me. If someone wants to see it, they will ask, eh? Anyhow, that is still how I look, I just need to finish this workout regime to get back to the speedo fitness.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seems like you’ve got everything covered then OP, surely you have some more up to date photos you could use and crop rather than the one you’re currently using if it isn’t really representative of how you look at the moment.

Pretty sure if you request from Admin they will change your account to a couples profile. Would make it far easier for you both to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not sure where I got that from, I swear it was on the 'to do' list for me to be able to take part in parts of the forum. I am not confusing it with the holding a sign either, because that was done and it said something about a one on one session with a member. Anyhow, I don't see it right now, so no worries. The responses and feedback to this have me pretty interested and checking back to the site frequently, so I am pretty happy with my choice of sites here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Like I pointed out in the introduction, I am mostly looking for ideas and pointers to get it right. I want this to be a positive thing, not rushed. I appreciate the feedback and I am actually looking into the couples profile. I have to think, however, that as I am introducing my wife to the style, I might not be appropriate to enter her as she has a self-confidence thin. "

No doubt her confidence will soar if some others enter her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Cheeky - but yes, I think it would. I have been working on her feeling good about her pictures and sharing them with others as the way I found them was awkward and left her feeling bad. I have just finally convinced her that I really liked the photos and had she included me, then it would have been great fun. Since she was sending them to other people, it is a no brainer that she is game

I just have to figure out how to make her comfortable with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Okay, I uploaded a current photo, even used the phone to show a date. As you can see, I am far from obese, just not the ripped weight of my speedo poses, also not posing for a camera. Funny thing about working out to be 'fit' looking, I spend about 16-weeks eating all I can eat and pumping all I can pump, just to strip down a stone of body fat for that washboard stomach photo. Well, if fit bodies interest you, then pin me (us) to your wall as we are both working out six days weekly and swimming the same, along with 3-5 miles of walking. I'll see if I can pin a couple photos of 'us; in great poses.... will put them in the private photos. When you see I have private photos, then you know I was able to upload them. I won't put nudes of her online until she is comfortable, but she takes some great ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

okay, changed the profile pic to a quick shot from the web cam. Like I said, not fat, but a good ways from my 'showing off' stage. Give me 12-weeks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cheeky - but yes, I think it would. I have been working on her feeling good about her pictures and sharing them with others as the way I found them was awkward and left her feeling bad. I have just finally convinced her that I really liked the photos and had she included me, then it would have been great fun. Since she was sending them to other people, it is a no brainer that she is game

I just have to figure out how to make her comfortable with it."

It would appear that she is already very comfortable about sharing pictures with others. She may have feigned feeling bad about being caught out doing it but women can be wily. Might be best to leave her getting her kicks in her own way and you find some naturists/nudists who like to talk about swinging here...

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