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Struggling to get that first meet

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi all been on here for a while now with still no luck im not sure what im doing wrong is it my profile or my pictures or is it actually me that puts people off ive tried and tried to start a conversation with others but always get ignored please HELP MEEEE thanks

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Don't worry about it. Just use clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Take better pictures and look more groomed, take the cap off, tidy the beard.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh and take off the woe is me status.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Take better pictures and look more groomed, take the cap off, tidy the beard. "

See i was going to say that. But there's plenty of good looking, clean cut guys that can't get laid on here. So concentrate on clubbing.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Two of your pics are identical and the third one is pretty similar

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Take better pictures and look more groomed, take the cap off, tidy the beard.

See i was going to say that. But there's plenty of good looking, clean cut guys that can't get laid on here. So concentrate on clubbing. "

Nature of the beast, supply and demand. He's got a good height though so that gives him a slight advantage on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the advice i shall be making changes immediately tbh i wasnt expecting much advice but genuinely thank you all

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By *xelf787Man over a year ago

Chorlton, Manchester

For a single bloke it is hard it's all about getting to clubs and socials, being respectful and getting yourself known. I was on my first site for six months before I had a meet! That meet happened to be a big party though and things snowballed from there. Above all have perseverance and patience!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Deleted the pics gunna go have a shave and try to clean up lol again i thank ya all

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

May i get some advice on my profile re reading it to myself and i dunno it seems abit bland you know lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"May i get some advice on my profile re reading it to myself and i dunno it seems abit bland you know lol "

Does it reflect who you are and what you want?

If the answer is yes, then its fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"May i get some advice on my profile re reading it to myself and i dunno it seems abit bland you know lol "

"I'm up for anything" tends to put me off.. really - anything?!

other than that it reads okay OP

This

Saying "up for anything" suggests you haven't really thought about what you do want.

Plus the age range you've set contradicts the age range you've stated in your profile text - either way you don't need to state it twice.

Generally speaking your text should tell a reader a little about you and what you are looking for as well as what you think you can offer, whilst reflecting your personality - so ask yourself if yours does that OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"May i get some advice on my profile re reading it to myself and i dunno it seems abit bland you know lol "

It reads fine to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok i see that now thanks for telling me ill change it asap

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Is it better or worse now man this profile shizz is a minefield

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Hi all been on here for a while now with still no luck im not sure what im doing wrong is it my profile or my pictures or is it actually me that puts people off ive tried and tried to start a conversation with others but always get ignored please HELP MEEEE thanks "

This is about fantasy. Not everyone is looking for the Milk Tray man, but few are looking for...well, I'll just say, smarten up a bit. Good luck.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Take better pictures and look more groomed, take the cap off, tidy the beard. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the honesty

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Take better pictures and look more groomed, take the cap off, tidy the beard.

Will be shaving beard off tomorrow and a hair cut lol

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Take better pictures and look more groomed, take the cap off, tidy the beard.

Will be shaving beard off tomorrow and a hair cut lol "

Are you shaving your beard off because you want to or because you think you'll get meets?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Shaving it off for me tbh ive always been told i look better without the beard

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Shaving it off for me tbh ive always been told i look better without the beard "

Cool!

Just think it sad when men jump through hoops on here. It leaves some bitter and angry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Shaving it off for me tbh ive always been told i look better without the beard

Cool!

Just think it sad when men jump through hoops on here. It leaves some bitter and angry."

Im never bitter or angry on here as i see it we're all here for fun no point being nasty over some advice

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Shaving it off for me tbh ive always been told i look better without the beard

Cool!

Just think it sad when men jump through hoops on here. It leaves some bitter and angry.

A) Do ‘reply and quote’ so we know who you’re talking to.

B) check your spelling

C) capitals and full stops

D) more and better photos

E) a social

Im never bitter or angry on here as i see it we're all here for fun no point being nasty over some advice "

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple over a year ago

Planet Ork

Go to clubs just to chat and socialise, you never know what might happen. It’s like playing the lottery on here. Beards, bi sexual and young might put some people off but there again it might be just what someone is looking for. Don’t change your appearance just to please someone else though. Good luck.

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