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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What’s the right balance for contacting people on this site?
What do people look for in the intro message for example as I always feel I put too much detail or too little all the time.
I don’t like to put too much in the first message but it tends to be either dull with bland pictures or overloaded with graphic pictures and too much detail.
I’m not sure what to put as my messages tend to either be mundane dating site style messages or into too much detail. Neither of these seem to work and I don’t know what women want from the first message. Do they want just a little intro message, a dating style profile or some kind of not terribly detailed intro into your sexual tastes?
I’m obviously doing something wrong to be honest. I need to post better profile pics too. |
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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago
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Read their profile- it's normally a good indicator as to what to comment on. If there is hardly anything on it then just say hello and invite them to come and look at your profile. If you don't hear back then chances are they're not interested |
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I can already see that you waffle from this post, they'll lose interest half way through. Try and be a bit more engaging and fun, don't repeat yourself. Short messages are ok if they don't have much to go on from their profile, but do put a little about yourself.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest, I’d suggest maybe changing your public photos on your profile. Numerous photos of you not smiling would be an immediate no for me. Maybe mix it up with some photos of more than just your face, so full length ones too.
I don’t think there is a secret to an opening message. One or two words, I think are lazy and will be a no.
But it does sometimes depend on my mood at the time and how much I like a guys a profile.
It’s good if you can get a bit of personality into your message and show that you have read the persons profile. But not too long either.
But if you don’t hear back you need to just accept that they aren’t interested. Good luck though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I generally send a single message but occasionally I’ll send a follow on message. I don’t ever send more than two without reply though and it’s usually one. It can be hard to tell if a message has been ignored or just not seen yet at times. |
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