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Why am I not getting any responsed
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi...
I'm 30y old, single male(recently separated). I genuinely want to meet like minded people and try swinging or shall I say explore my sexual side. I sent msg's to a number of them where on their profile it says so. So far no luck, no body even bother to reply, don't know why, I don't know if it's because of my colour people don't like me and think I'm not attractive.
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Colour of skin has nothing to do with most of the lack of responses; I could claim that on these forums but it is pointless. Phenotype preference is everywhere.
As was stated above, you really just have your cock shown. Not the best way to sell yourself as there is always someone bigger and better looking than you. 
It may lure in certain folks but will turn off most from what I have seen.
Show a little bit more of who you are. Ladies are more than just vaginas so show you are more than just a cock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Those pictures are really not attractive OP. I'm sorry to sound so blunt. It's difficult enough for men to get responses anyway, without having pictures that may dissuade some from replying. I wouldn't think skin colour would be an issue. I would definitely have another think of what pictures you want to display, to sell yourself. Good luck OP  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Those pictures are really not attractive OP. I'm sorry to sound so blunt. It's difficult enough for men to get responses anyway, without having pictures that may dissuade some from replying. I wouldn't think skin colour would be an issue. I would definitely have another think of what pictures you want to display, to sell yourself. Good luck OP "
Thanks for the suggestion... I will deffo put a bit more better photos..xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also you've been here 3 months.
And like we have told so many single men before you, time moves much differently in single men world.
3 months single male time = 5 minutes in real fab time.
You've just added your name to the constantly ever growing list of single men here. They're are guys ahead of you that have been here YEARS and only just got their FIRST meet.
Stand out from the crowd, be different, be original and tell people WHY they should at the very least take notice of you amongst a crowd of hundreds of others and you may just stand a chance of a message. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She is definitely right in what she says I've been here mmmm me forget long time and have to work hard just to get a reply but still no meets yet ..welcome to the waiting list lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its difficult initially to get on the scene, but eventually you will meet someone on the same page- so long as you're yourself..then a case of go with the flow, meet the new folk that go with and enjoy. Good luck |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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OP..perhaps you could take a look at your profile write-up. Make sure it is entertaining and reflects your personality.
Also, maybe avoid saying 'I like this, this and this before that'...sex is not a checklist to be followed.
Have you considered going to organised socials, or a club, to get verified?
And your pics need changing. They are uninspiring. Get creative! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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It's not your colour OP. There's advice on the end of my profile and lots of existing threads to refer to. Perhaps look at some of the successful guys profiles on here for a few ideas. Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also you've been here 3 months.
And like we have told so many single men before you, time moves much differently in single men world.
3 months single male time = 5 minutes in real fab time.
You've just added your name to the constantly ever growing list of single men here. They're are guys ahead of you that have been here YEARS and only just got their FIRST meet.
Stand out from the crowd, be different, be original and tell people WHY they should at the very least take notice of you amongst a crowd of hundreds of others and you may just stand a chance of a message. x"
Superb advice....and oh so true  |
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"Hi...
I'm 30y old, single male(recently separated). I genuinely want to meet like minded people and try swinging or shall I say explore my sexual side. I sent msg's to a number of them where on their profile it says so. So far no luck, no body even bother to reply, don't know why, I don't know if it's because of my colour people don't like me and think I'm not attractive.
Thank you..xx"
Why don't you try a club get to meet some people face to face and introduce your personality not your profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Also you've been here 3 months.
And like we have told so many single men before you, time moves much differently in single men world.
3 months single male time = 5 minutes in real fab time.
You've just added your name to the constantly ever growing list of single men here. They're are guys ahead of you that have been here YEARS and only just got their FIRST meet.
It's a shame.. I'm gonna change what I've written on the profile an make it more attractive and put up a nice photo too.. face photo for profile pic, what's ur thoughts??
Stand out from the crowd, be different, be original and tell people WHY they should at the very least take notice of you amongst a crowd of hundreds of others and you may just stand a chance of a message. x"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi...
I'm 30y old, single male(recently separated). I genuinely want to meet like minded people and try swinging or shall I say explore my sexual side. I sent msg's to a number of them where on their profile it says so. So far no luck, no body even bother to reply, don't know why, I don't know if it's because of my colour people don't like me and think I'm not attractive.
Thank you..xx
Why don't you try a club get to meet some people face to face and introduce your personality not your profile. "
Could try that, but most clubs vet the single males and deny entry..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi...
I'm 30y old, single male(recently separated). I genuinely want to meet like minded people and try swinging or shall I say explore my sexual side. I sent msg's to a number of them where on their profile it says so. So far no luck, no body even bother to reply, don't know why, I don't know if it's because of my colour people don't like me and think I'm not attractive.
Thank you..xx
Why don't you try a club get to meet some people face to face and introduce your personality not your profile.
Could try that, but most clubs vet the single males and deny entry.. "
No they don’t. Silly comment |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi...
I'm 30y old, single male(recently separated). I genuinely want to meet like minded people and try swinging or shall I say explore my sexual side. I sent msg's to a number of them where on their profile it says so. So far no luck, no body even bother to reply, don't know why, I don't know if it's because of my colour people don't like me and think I'm not attractive.
Thank you..xx
Why don't you try a club get to meet some people face to face and introduce your personality not your profile.
Could try that, but most clubs vet the single males and deny entry.. "
How do they vet them?
Using what criteria? |
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"It’s not your colour.
I too hope that. But in reality I sometimes feel so. It's negative response all the time.
Clubs run Black Lush and BMFC events because black men are so popular"
Lots of club events are based on a good single male attendance - BMFC, Greedy Girls, singles nights etc - so you will definitely find events if you want to.
Your profile is limited, one poor quality photo & one cock pic, not much information about who you are or what you bring to a meet. Your odds as a single male are very different to that of a couple. Improve your profile & you might start getting some responses |
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OP, one word: pictures! You are 30 and the pictures are so poor, you look much older in them, and not in a good way. Ask someone to take some nicer ones. Hide your genitalia and have more of the rest of you on display.
Being in London,your colour is not an issue. Quite the opposite as has been pointed out before. However, you compete with men who present themselves in a much more favourable light.
Also as pointed out above, clubs and parties are the way to go.
Actually, if I were meeting I would overlook the poor photos and meet up with you at least for a chat. But that's just me. |
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