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over a year ago
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"Who has stayed in a relationship or marraige once they find out the other half if is Gay or Bi.
And what were your reasons ?"
Most men would jump for joy and go and buy a bigger bed if their wife came out as Bi...  |
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We both stayed in our relationship when we told each other we were bi  it's amazing to find someone you trust, be open & honest with, which has lead to us being on here to fulfil our fantasies Mrs x |
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"We both stayed in our relationship when we told each other we were bi it's amazing to find someone you trust, be open & honest with, which has lead to us being on here to fulfil our fantasies Mrs x "
.... U say u found out both of you were bi.?? Am a bit confused as yr profile says u are both bi curious?? Is there not a difference as it's kinda misleading. If u bi why not state it as bi sexual. No curious gives the impression you still looking into it and not really sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I came out to my wife as bi and crossdresser a few years ago..Id already ruined marriage one by keeping it a secret..after many hours of talking crying screaming consolation talking talking and more talking we are both at a very good place together and sometimes she has some time with my alter ego and we have girl nights.. its opened up our relationship in many ways including her assuming a male side with strapon and various toys etc but we talked and got it all out so I can only thank her a billion times for listening and wanting to understand so we are partners for life..i had reached the end of the road before that with double lifes and triple lifes.. I help others on other forums going through the same things I did and if it helps anyone and it has then it makes me feel so good inside.. good luck all here xx |
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"We both stayed in our relationship when we told each other we were bi it's amazing to find someone you trust, be open & honest with, which has lead to us being on here to fulfil our fantasies Mrs x .... U say u found out both of you were bi.?? Am a bit confused as yr profile says u are both bi curious?? Is there not a difference as it's kinda misleading. If u bi why not state it as bi sexual. No curious gives the impression you still looking into it and not really sure."
Not really sure why your so bothered when I was answering the post about telling your partner. I said bi as I shortened it from bi curious lol, we've both only dabbed with the same sex so I wouldn't say we're bisexual. Hope that's cleared it up for you Mrs |
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If you are already in an open relationship I don't see that it really matters. Of course if you are in a swinging relationship where you only play as a couple and then one partner admits to cheating that is different. In that case does it matter if the person they cheat with is male or female?
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"We both stayed in our relationship when we told each other we were bi it's amazing to find someone you trust, be open & honest with, which has lead to us being on here to fulfil our fantasies Mrs x .... U say u found out both of you were bi.?? Am a bit confused as yr profile says u are both bi curious?? Is there not a difference as it's kinda misleading. If u bi why not state it as bi sexual. No curious gives the impression you still looking into it and not really sure.
Not really sure why your so bothered when I was answering the post about telling your partner. I said bi as I shortened it from bi curious lol, we've both only dabbed with the same sex so I wouldn't say we're bisexual. Hope that's cleared it up for you Mrs"
.... So sorry if you thought I was bothered. On the contrary I ain't.i just get confused bout these bi curious thing.if you are bi be clear bout it and say it. That's all I was saying. There is a difference btw bi curious and bi sexual. A bi curious man might not have been with a man before. A bi sexual on the other hand has I suppose. My point is for people to be straight n tell it as it is.it wasn't a personal thing to u. Sorry if u felt offended |
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"We both stayed in our relationship when we told each other we were bi it's amazing to find someone you trust, be open & honest with, which has lead to us being on here to fulfil our fantasies Mrs x .... U say u found out both of you were bi.?? Am a bit confused as yr profile says u are both bi curious?? Is there not a difference as it's kinda misleading. If u bi why not state it as bi sexual. No curious gives the impression you still looking into it and not really sure.
Not really sure why your so bothered when I was answering the post about telling your partner. I said bi as I shortened it from bi curious lol, we've both only dabbed with the same sex so I wouldn't say we're bisexual. Hope that's cleared it up for you Mrs.... So sorry if you thought I was bothered. On the contrary I ain't.i just get confused bout these bi curious thing.if you are bi be clear bout it and say it. That's all I was saying. There is a difference btw bi curious and bi sexual. A bi curious man might not have been with a man before. A bi sexual on the other hand has I suppose. My point is for people to be straight n tell it as it is.it wasn't a personal thing to u. Sorry if u felt offended"
People put bi curious when they haven't had much experience with the same sex, or only in a 3 some situation. |
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"We both stayed in our relationship when we told each other we were bi it's amazing to find someone you trust, be open & honest with, which has lead to us being on here to fulfil our fantasies Mrs x .... U say u found out both of you were bi.?? Am a bit confused as yr profile says u are both bi curious?? Is there not a difference as it's kinda misleading. If u bi why not state it as bi sexual. No curious gives the impression you still looking into it and not really sure.
Not really sure why your so bothered when I was answering the post about telling your partner. I said bi as I shortened it from bi curious lol, we've both only dabbed with the same sex so I wouldn't say we're bisexual. Hope that's cleared it up for you Mrs.... So sorry if you thought I was bothered. On the contrary I ain't.i just get confused bout these bi curious thing.if you are bi be clear bout it and say it. That's all I was saying. There is a difference btw bi curious and bi sexual. A bi curious man might not have been with a man before. A bi sexual on the other hand has I suppose. My point is for people to be straight n tell it as it is.it wasn't a personal thing to u. Sorry if u felt offended
People put bi curious when they haven't had much experience with the same sex, or only in a 3 some situation."
but the couple in question are not bi curious |
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"We both stayed in our relationship when we told each other we were bi it's amazing to find someone you trust, be open & honest with, which has lead to us being on here to fulfil our fantasies Mrs x .... U say u found out both of you were bi.?? Am a bit confused as yr profile says u are both bi curious?? Is there not a difference as it's kinda misleading. If u bi why not state it as bi sexual. No curious gives the impression you still looking into it and not really sure.
Not really sure why your so bothered when I was answering the post about telling your partner. I said bi as I shortened it from bi curious lol, we've both only dabbed with the same sex so I wouldn't say we're bisexual. Hope that's cleared it up for you Mrs.... So sorry if you thought I was bothered. On the contrary I ain't.i just get confused bout these bi curious thing.if you are bi be clear bout it and say it. That's all I was saying. There is a difference btw bi curious and bi sexual. A bi curious man might not have been with a man before. A bi sexual on the other hand has I suppose. My point is for people to be straight n tell it as it is.it wasn't a personal thing to u. Sorry if u felt offended
People put bi curious when they haven't had much experience with the same sex, or only in a 3 some situation."
Thank you, we've only had one experience together so I would say we're still curious Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If my partner came out as gay then obviously I wouldn't stay with him.
If he came out as bi, I think I'd be more bothered that he didn't tell me from the jump than the fact that he was bi. I certainly wouldn't leave him (unless he'd partook in no activities behind my back)
I'd like to think that I'd love someone enough that their sexual preference wouldn't cause me to leave them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Who has stayed in a relationship or marraige once they find out the other half if is Gay or Bi.
And what were your reasons ?"
why ......was your wife gay?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"she was in denial at first then has been in a couple of lesbian relationships since we split...
No sign of her dating guys "
Maybe you and this opinion of her have put her off men for a bit.
I know that if I was in a relationship with someone and they thought like this of me id probably be the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We both stayed in our relationship when we told each other we were bi it's amazing to find someone you trust, be open & honest with, which has lead to us being on here to fulfil our fantasies Mrs x .... U say u found out both of you were bi.?? Am a bit confused as yr profile says u are both bi curious?? Is there not a difference as it's kinda misleading. If u bi why not state it as bi sexual. No curious gives the impression you still looking into it and not really sure.
Not really sure why your so bothered when I was answering the post about telling your partner. I said bi as I shortened it from bi curious lol, we've both only dabbed with the same sex so I wouldn't say we're bisexual. Hope that's cleared it up for you Mrs.... So sorry if you thought I was bothered. On the contrary I ain't.i just get confused bout these bi curious thing.if you are bi be clear bout it and say it. That's all I was saying. There is a difference btw bi curious and bi sexual. A bi curious man might not have been with a man before. A bi sexual on the other hand has I suppose. My point is for people to be straight n tell it as it is.it wasn't a personal thing to u. Sorry if u felt offended
People put bi curious when they haven't had much experience with the same sex, or only in a 3 some situation. but the couple in question are not bi curious"
How do you know that?
I've licked a pussy a couple of times; that doesn't make me bisexual. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"That's why I'm asking...if your truly in love then you would only have desires for your sexual type "
To me love and your sexual desires are not always exactly the same thing. To me being in love with somebody doesn't stop me being attracted to other people. Depending on the individual relationship and honesty it's whether one can act on that attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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that was one of the reasons for me coming on this site...Hoping to get some perspective on my situation.
unfortunately I never managed to get chatting in detail with anyone about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're both bi, it's a very minor part of our lives and we are both are fine with it.
What surprised me more was her letting me go out alone in this singles profile and exploring it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When myself and C got together she told me was bi and yes we have both pleasured a woman together and it was so horny. No me G male is having no fantasy’s but still working them out with the help of C let the fun begin life is so good |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When myself and C got together she told me was bi and yes we have both pleasured a woman together and it was so horny. No me G male is having no fantasy’s but still working them out with the help of C let the fun begin life is so good "
G male is having bi fantasy’s |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who was homophobic (add racist too) or wasn't bi in the first place. You simply find out before you get serious. If you don't then you get what you ask for.
A bi is as likely to be unfaithful as a straight. When you are in a relationship and not swinging then you give up other people - your orientation is not relevant. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"That's why I'm asking...if your truly in love then you would only have desires for your sexual type "
You're getting attraction confused with affection.
You may be someone for whom, once you fall in love with someone then that is it, they literally have eyes for noone else.
They are a rare breed, even my totally monogamous husband finds other people attractive.
You don't stop being bisexual because you are in a relationship with one person.
If I was in a monogamous relationship (big if, not likely to happen for me) I wouldn't stop being bisexual because I'd married one person. I'd still be bisexual, I'd just have committed to love one person within the boundaries we had set. |
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I was married to a gay man. I tried but couldn’t cope, wasn’t about just about the sex either it’s just knowing he was looking for emotional connection with same sex that I couldn’t cope with, loads of love still after 10 years of being divorced and great friends, I think it could be possible if a partner is slightly bi but gay it’s a harder one and gets harder all the time. I always steel clear of bi men now |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"I was married to a gay man. I tried but couldn’t cope, wasn’t about just about the sex either it’s just knowing he was looking for emotional connection with same sex that I couldn’t cope with, loads of love still after 10 years of being divorced and great friends, I think it could be possible if a partner is slightly bi but gay it’s a harder one and gets harder all the time. I always steel clear of bi men now "
Can I ask, do you know why he wanted to stay in the marriage of he was gay?
I could understand him wanting to stay in the marriage if he was bisexual and wanted an open or poly relationship. But it seems counter productive to stay in a marriage if you're gay and married to someone who is not what you're looking for. |
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"I was married to a gay man. I tried but couldn’t cope, wasn’t about just about the sex either it’s just knowing he was looking for emotional connection with same sex that I couldn’t cope with, loads of love still after 10 years of being divorced and great friends, I think it could be possible if a partner is slightly bi but gay it’s a harder one and gets harder all the time. I always steel clear of bi men now
Can I ask, do you know why he wanted to stay in the marriage of he was gay?
I could understand him wanting to stay in the marriage if he was bisexual and wanted an open or poly relationship. But it seems counter productive to stay in a marriage if you're gay and married to someone who is not what you're looking for. "
He was hiding from his family, plus loved me in his own way and even though he was gay was still managing to have a regular sex life with me, loads of unsuitable people end up together but can still have a strong connection |
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we are both bi! we are open and honest with each other about it. it was discussed and disclosed( horrible technical term) when we very first got together that's what a marriage is about, I like cock as much as pussy and she likes pussy as much as cock we have both seen each other with same sex partners in play we both enjoy seeing it. it doesn't rule our lives its a fun aspect. |
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Now here is an example of your hanged if you do hanged if you dont pedantic fuckwit, lets nt give anyone further doubt , the person here is giving the impression that the couple who have staed together are lying and he alone is the right thinking person , have a look at yourself and decide whether you , alone ,on a bi swinging website are in the right place to call other people misleading? |
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