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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Been here for a while and generated no interest whatsoever. Not being white is a disadvantage too by the looks of it but what could I be doing wrong? I message the ladies politely and describe what I'm looking for, non of the "fancy a shag" type intros. I'm lost, help!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be what you are and need patience here.. i don't think one need to be over respectful or polite here but i think one need to look her the way we want to be looked..
Try to go to social events, that's the place to know each other better. No one want to be in trouble isn't it, a message in fab or a picture may not say much and we cant expect a
+ve response always so patience is needed here.  good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been here for a while and generated no interest whatsoever. Not being white is a disadvantage too by the looks of it but what could I be doing wrong? I message the ladies politely and describe what I'm looking for, non of the "fancy a shag" type intros. I'm lost, help!! "
I recently asked for advice on here and had a few replies asking me to tone it down, which I have. Yours looks OK to me, but as I was told, you need to say what you can offer.... Yours appears very polite.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well you look okay to me and I like the bit about having your own teeth. I,m glad you haven't got somebody else's, that would be tricky. I guess it could happen if you went out drinking and picked up the wrong dentures. Could we maybe see some proof of the teeth?
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From what I could see I’d suggest the following:
Get rid about being recently separated. Are you single yes/no right now. At first reading who’s interested in your past circumstance
The rest is nice but doesn’t have much of an edge. What’s your ‘so what’ or unique selling point. And what do you really want out of being on here?
Pics: I’ve no shame in looking at other men’s profiles and copying what looks good. Black and white is really effective.
Don’t expect too much too soon.
Don’t get pissed off and moan. I’m just going to break that rule to illustrate a point. I sent a friendly message yesterday which was just unread and deleted. I thought oh and read her profile. We looked a good match but I just moved on.
Good luck and have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well you look okay to me and I like the bit about having your own teeth. I,m glad you haven't got somebody else's, that would be tricky. I guess it could happen if you went out drinking and picked up the wrong dentures. Could we maybe see some proof of the teeth?
XXX"
Thank you, so does this mean if I messaged you, you'd reply? Lol yes of course xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wish I had got a meet in the first 3 weeks I was on here!! Patience pays off here. Polite messages and friendly chat. Stick with it chap... "
Thanks _eader |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Be what you are and need patience here.. i don't think one need to be over respectful or polite here but i think one need to look her the way we want to be looked..
Try to go to social events, that's the place to know each other better. No one want to be in trouble isn't it, a message in fab or a picture may not say much and we cant expect a
+ve response always so patience is needed here. good luck"
Thanks bud |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From what I could see I’d suggest the following:
Get rid about being recently separated. Are you single yes/no right now. At first reading who’s interested in your past circumstance
The rest is nice but doesn’t have much of an edge. What’s your ‘so what’ or unique selling point. And what do you really want out of being on here?
Pics: I’ve no shame in looking at other men’s profiles and copying what looks good. Black and white is really effective.
Don’t expect too much too soon.
Don’t get pissed off and moan. I’m just going to break that rule to illustrate a point. I sent a friendly message yesterday which was just unread and deleted. I thought oh and read her profile. We looked a good match but I just moved on.
Good luck and have fun. "
Thanks Leo very good tips. I've amended my profile now, might look into black and white photos, good idea!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been here for a while and generated no interest whatsoever. Not being white is a disadvantage too by the looks of it but what could I be doing wrong? I message the ladies politely and describe what I'm looking for, non of the "fancy a shag" type intros. I'm lost, help!! "
Very early to play the race card. |
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"Been here for a while and generated no interest whatsoever. Not being white is a disadvantage too by the looks of it but what could I be doing wrong? I message the ladies politely and describe what I'm looking for, non of the "fancy a shag" type intros. I'm lost, help!! "
WTF.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Simple
If someone fancies you they will meet
If they don't
They won't.
Yes I get that but how does one become "fanciable" on here? "
for me it's instant attraction
For some it's personality
Others who knows ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont worry about it to much its the same for the majority of men on here . Dont waste your time sending endless messages and not getting a reply as that makes the " what am i doing wrong? " thoughts even worse. The fact is simple just to many men on here . It will happen just be patient |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi, I'm getting the same problem. Been on and off for a couple of years, I send many polite messages but so rarely even get a reply. The op suggested it night be because he isn't white, well I'm white in a very white area but so little success.
Mike |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, I'm getting the same problem. Been on and off for a couple of years, I send many polite messages but so rarely even get a reply. The op suggested it night be because he isn't white, well I'm white in a very white area but so little success.
Mike"
Start your own thread if you want advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd ditch the bit about not meeting couples as you're not bi.
Only you come across as naive, assuming that every single male half of a couple will pounce on you, as well as usually respecting others boundaries, the majority of them don't fancy blokes at all.
Plus plenty of couples do meet others in singles as well as both together.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd ditch the bit about not meeting couples as you're not bi.
Only you come across as naive, assuming that every single male half of a couple will pounce on you, as well as usually respecting others boundaries, the majority of them don't fancy blokes at all.
Plus plenty of couples do meet others in singles as well as both together.
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Good point! Thanks chap |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi, I'm getting the same problem. Been on and off for a couple of years, I send many polite messages but so rarely even get a reply. The op suggested it night be because he isn't white, well I'm white in a very white area but so little success.
Mike"
Good luck, hope you have better luck than I do, it's brutal out there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi OP your profile text seems fine to me. You only have samey 2 pics though. I will say, 3 weeks is nothing haha. You are practically a newbie. You need to lower your expectations in regards to time. I'm sure if you keep trying and keep an upbeat attitude, you'll generate some interest at some point. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi OP your profile text seems fine to me. You only have samey 2 pics though. I will say, 3 weeks is nothing haha. You are practically a newbie. You need to lower your expectations in regards to time. I'm sure if you keep trying and keep an upbeat attitude, you'll generate some interest at some point. Good luck "
Thanks Angel |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi OP your profile text seems fine to me. You only have samey 2 pics though. I will say, 3 weeks is nothing haha. You are practically a newbie. You need to lower your expectations in regards to time. I'm sure if you keep trying and keep an upbeat attitude, you'll generate some interest at some point. Good luck "
Sorry slightly off topic Dark Angel but I just laughed out loud at your profile. Brilliant!! And your beautiful. Shame I'm too old and in the wrong country but if you wanna just chat I love your sense of humour xxx |
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"Hi OP your profile text seems fine to me. You only have samey 2 pics though. I will say, 3 weeks is nothing haha. You are practically a newbie. You need to lower your expectations in regards to time. I'm sure if you keep trying and keep an upbeat attitude, you'll generate some interest at some point. Good luck
Sorry slightly off topic Dark Angel but I just laughed out loud at your profile. Brilliant!! And your beautiful. Shame I'm too old and in the wrong country but if you wanna just chat I love your sense of humour xxx"
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"Hi OP your profile text seems fine to me. You only have samey 2 pics though. I will say, 3 weeks is nothing haha. You are practically a newbie. You need to lower your expectations in regards to time. I'm sure if you keep trying and keep an upbeat attitude, you'll generate some interest at some point. Good luck
Sorry slightly off topic Dark Angel but I just laughed out loud at your profile. Brilliant!! And your beautiful. Shame I'm too old and in the wrong country but if you wanna just chat I love your sense of humour xxx"
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This is a daily thread and there was even a guy from London with over 90 verifications who actually took the trouble of posting some advice for new single men who were struggling to get meets.
His advice attend social club social club etc and get your face known.I agree completely so that’s 2 of us with 150 veris between us both choosy and at times have up to 6 months not meeting.Him like me doesn’t even do a social meet unless it’s in a club.I known it seems hard work but it pays off and you can play much higher up the food chain.There are a few tips that also help so feel to PM me and good luck |
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"This is a daily thread and there was even a guy from London with over 90 verifications who actually took the trouble of posting some advice for new single men who were struggling to get meets.
His advice attend social club social club etc and get your face known.I agree completely so that’s 2 of us with 150 veris between us both choosy and at times have up to 6 months not meeting.Him like me doesn’t even do a social meet unless it’s in a club.I known it seems hard work but it pays off and you can play much higher up the food chain.There are a few tips that also help so feel to PM me and good luck"
People totally under-estimate the power of getting known. When I started getting involved with swinging as a single it was on IRC chatrooms. This led to organised socials and club visits. The more people you know in real life the easier it is but all we seem to hear on here is people whining about how they can't go to socials/clubs etc. I must admit that when I hear that I just assume they are married and can't book out with the wife. The other excuse seems to be that they are 'too nervous' well, it may sound harsh but if you haven't got the balls to go to an organised social or club then maybe swinging is not for you.
You don't need the body of a greek god, you don't need a huge cock, what you do need is some get up and go.
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"This is a daily thread and there was even a guy from London with over 90 verifications who actually took the trouble of posting some advice for new single men who were struggling to get meets.
His advice attend social club social club etc and get your face known.I agree completely so that’s 2 of us with 150 veris between us both choosy and at times have up to 6 months not meeting.Him like me doesn’t even do a social meet unless it’s in a club.I known it seems hard work but it pays off and you can play much higher up the food chain.There are a few tips that also help so feel to PM me and good luck
People totally under-estimate the power of getting known. When I started getting involved with swinging as a single it was on IRC chatrooms. This led to organised socials and club visits. The more people you know in real life the easier it is but all we seem to hear on here is people whining about how they can't go to socials/clubs etc. I must admit that when I hear that I just assume they are married and can't book out with the wife. The other excuse seems to be that they are 'too nervous' well, it may sound harsh but if you haven't got the balls to go to an organised social or club then maybe swinging is not for you.
You don't need the body of a greek god, you don't need a huge cock, what you do need is some get up and go.
Rant over "
Absolutely right and I’ve said it before when you do go to socials make the effort with guys also they might help you along the way you’d be surprised it’s not a competition.Youll also find out about the best events and parties.That said I’ve often offered the chance for the Op s of these threads to pm me and I’ve yet to receive one. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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OP. send me a message typical of what you normally send and I will let you know my thoughts on your approach.
Regarding your profile.
It's lazy not to amend your age preferences. Would you like a threesone with a college student and someone's great grandmother? 18 - 99 ?
New photos...bit of variety. |
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"Absolutely right and I’ve said it before when you do go to socials make the effort with guys also they might help you along the way you’d be surprised it’s not a competition.Youll also find out about the best events and parties.That said I’ve often offered the chance for the Op s of these threads to pm me and I’ve yet to receive one."
True again. It also helps with travelling if you can pool with other guys going to the further away events. A 200 mile drive is a lot better if their are two or three to share the driving. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP. send me a message typical of what you normally send and I will let you know my thoughts on your approach.
Regarding your profile.
It's lazy not to amend your age preferences. Would you like a threesone with a college student and someone's great grandmother? 18 - 99 ?
New photos...bit of variety. "
Thanks! I'll send you the message |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You aint on your own. No one messages us either. You aint on your own bud. "
Yeah bloody hard work, sometimes I think it's better just to pay for it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been on here doesn't mean anything is guaranteed that you or anyone will get what your looking for,if your not someone's type then you'll score a blank
Women rule on here and are the law and that's how it'll always be |
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