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over a year ago
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"So if you seen your mates wife on here with a single profile what should you do? leave well alone and block them. It’s not your circus or monkeys op  "
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Personally male or female I wouldn’t tell there partner. There is so many people on here that bash guys for playing behind there wives back
But it’s ok for a woman like me. I’ve never once had someone say no when I tell them I’m married.
Leave her alone. As someone has said he might be involved in someway. |
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If he's a good mate and you know that he wouldn't be OK with his missus doing this then tell him,never mind the others saying it's none of your business etc,the simple fact is this is a site for sex and people on the site know the risks,your mate did not sign up for the risks himself and his missus could open him up to a lot of nasty shit if she doesn't play carefully. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You mind your own business. You don't know the circumstances behind her being here.
Heard the term, shoot the messenger? Your mate may react adversely to you putting your nose where it may not be welcome. |
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over a year ago
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If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes! |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes! "
What a load of rubbish. It doesn’t matter how close mates you are, if a guy and his wife want to have an unusual consensual sex life, they are very unlikely to tell even their closest friends.
The point is OP, you have no idea if it’s consensual or not, so mind your own business. |
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes! "
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes!
What a load of rubbish. It doesn’t matter how close mates you are, if a guy and his wife want to have an unusual consensual sex life, they are very unlikely to tell even their closest friends.
The point is OP, you have no idea if it’s consensual or not, so mind your own business."
And if it’s not consensual? And you have known, and he finds out? I would rather spend the 10 mins embarrassment than the lifetime of regret.. |
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes! "
I would have a massive problem with my very close mates questioning me about my relationship or my sex life. It's none of their damn business. What goes on between me and my partner is off limits to other people unless I choose to involve them. They're my friends, they come second to my partner and relationship. If they didn't then I would be in the wrong relationship.
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"If your friends don’t really know you, and you can’t tell them anything. Then are they really your friends? "
Yes. I don't tell my friends a fraction of what goes on in our marriage, why would I, they're my friends it doesn't give them the automatic right to know everything about my life. |
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"If your friends don’t really know you, and you can’t tell them anything. Then are they really your friends?
Yes. I don't tell my friends a fraction of what goes on in our marriage, why would I, they're my friends it doesn't give them the automatic right to know everything about my life."
Granted everything they don’t need to know, but they do need to know when to have you back and what’s ok. This could be cheating. If I saw my mates Mrs potentially cheating. I would tell him. It’s not on. If it’s fine and agreed by them. Then there is no issue and all can carry on. She can block his mate and they don’t need to cross paths on the issue again? But surely you would want to make sure your mate is not being taken for a mug.
I would tell him, every time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP are you 100% sure it's her? If not then why say anything, if you are because of a distinguishing feature eg, tattoo, hair style then you may not be the only one to recognise her and she obviously isn't worried about discression so to speak so there's a possibility that your mate is aware and it's a scenario they wish to explore so still say nothing it's their life, like everyone else on here we all have our reasons and make our choices and some take risks for the thrill. |
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I thought my cousins husband was on here and called him out on it as he was saying he wasn't married......it turned out to be some lowlife using his photos.....so it might not even be her!
If it was your wife/girlfriend would you want this mate to tell you?
If you talk to him and he already knows that's fine....there shouldn't be a problem after all he would know there's a risk of her being seen by someone who knows them. If he doesn't know and he's a mate then you should talk to him imho. Good luck either way  x |
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"If your friends don’t really know you, and you can’t tell them anything. Then are they really your friends?
Yes. I don't tell my friends a fraction of what goes on in our marriage, why would I, they're my friends it doesn't give them the automatic right to know everything about my life."
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"If your friends don’t really know you, and you can’t tell them anything. Then are they really your friends?
Yes. I don't tell my friends a fraction of what goes on in our marriage, why would I, they're my friends it doesn't give them the automatic right to know everything about my life.
Granted everything they don’t need to know, but they do need to know when to have you back and what’s ok. This could be cheating. If I saw my mates Mrs potentially cheating. I would tell him. It’s not on. If it’s fine and agreed by them. Then there is no issue and all can carry on. She can block his mate and they don’t need to cross paths on the issue again? But surely you would want to make sure your mate is not being taken for a mug.
I would tell him, every time. "
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"If your friends don’t really know you, and you can’t tell them anything. Then are they really your friends?
Yes. I don't tell my friends a fraction of what goes on in our marriage, why would I, they're my friends it doesn't give them the automatic right to know everything about my life.
Granted everything they don’t need to know, but they do need to know when to have you back and what’s ok. This could be cheating. If I saw my mates Mrs potentially cheating. I would tell him. It’s not on. If it’s fine and agreed by them. Then there is no issue and all can carry on. She can block his mate and they don’t need to cross paths on the issue again? But surely you would want to make sure your mate is not being taken for a mug.
I would tell him, every time. "
Then you and I will have to agree to differ. I'm of the opinion that seeing a profile on here is evidence of nothing other than a certain picture or pictures has been used in conjunction with a set of words.
I have my friends back at all times without question, I don't need to know every detail of their life to do that. I won't interfere or tell them things I think I know about their partner though.
I don't think loyalty to someone includes telling tales on their partner. |
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Incidentally my partner saw me on a profile this week. It actually wasn't me but the woman looked enough like me to fool even him for a minute.
Imagine the damage that could be caused to a relationship if the "guilty" party didn't even know they were on here. |
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes!
I would have a massive problem with my very close mates questioning me about my relationship or my sex life. It's none of their damn business. What goes on between me and my partner is off limits to other people unless I choose to involve them. They're my friends, they come second to my partner and relationship. If they didn't then I would be in the wrong relationship.
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This is not about you,you are a couple swinging what if you were not a swinger and thought you had a totally vanilla relationship,you don't feel well one day go to the doctor and find out you have some STD your mate hears about this and tells you that he knew your missus was playing away on a sex site but he didn't want to tell you because it wasn't his business how would you feel then? (I know this is a big jump from cheating to STD's by the way) |
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes!
I would have a massive problem with my very close mates questioning me about my relationship or my sex life. It's none of their damn business. What goes on between me and my partner is off limits to other people unless I choose to involve them. They're my friends, they come second to my partner and relationship. If they didn't then I would be in the wrong relationship.
This is not about you,you are a couple swinging what if you were not a swinger and thought you had a totally vanilla relationship,you don't feel well one day go to the doctor and find out you have some STD your mate hears about this and tells you that he knew your missus was playing away on a sex site but he didn't want to tell you because it wasn't his business how would you feel then? (I know this is a big jump from cheating to STD's by the way) "
This whole thing is based on what ifs though. If eveyones so concerned about the guy why don't they advocate talking to the woman? |
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes!
I would have a massive problem with my very close mates questioning me about my relationship or my sex life. It's none of their damn business. What goes on between me and my partner is off limits to other people unless I choose to involve them. They're my friends, they come second to my partner and relationship. If they didn't then I would be in the wrong relationship.
This is not about you,you are a couple swinging what if you were not a swinger and thought you had a totally vanilla relationship,you don't feel well one day go to the doctor and find out you have some STD your mate hears about this and tells you that he knew your missus was playing away on a sex site but he didn't want to tell you because it wasn't his business how would you feel then? (I know this is a big jump from cheating to STD's by the way)
This whole thing is based on what ifs though. If eveyones so concerned about the guy why don't they advocate talking to the woman?"
The womans not his mate his mate is his mate,I had a guy I didn't like tell me before that a gf was cheating on me and my mates knew about it but said nothing,it took a guy i didn't like to take me to one side and tell me which I appreciated a hell of a lot more than what my "friends" did. |
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over a year ago
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"It's interesting also that people who would tell him don't consider speaking to her first."
Your loyalties are to your friend first, if you feel that she is being disloyal I would find it hard in trusting her to tel the truth to him. If I was in his shoes I would 100 percent want my friend to tell me. No questioned asked.
You are a swinging couple? They might not be. She might be cheating.
If you saw her necking on with a different bloke when you were out would you not tell him?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes!
I would have a massive problem with my very close mates questioning me about my relationship or my sex life. It's none of their damn business. What goes on between me and my partner is off limits to other people unless I choose to involve them. They're my friends, they come second to my partner and relationship. If they didn't then I would be in the wrong relationship.
This is not about you,you are a couple swinging what if you were not a swinger and thought you had a totally vanilla relationship,you don't feel well one day go to the doctor and find out you have some STD your mate hears about this and tells you that he knew your missus was playing away on a sex site but he didn't want to tell you because it wasn't his business how would you feel then? (I know this is a big jump from cheating to STD's by the way)
This whole thing is based on what ifs though. If eveyones so concerned about the guy why don't they advocate talking to the woman?
The womans not his mate his mate is his mate,I had a guy I didn't like tell me before that a gf was cheating on me and my mates knew about it but said nothing,it took a guy i didn't like to take me to one side and tell me which I appreciated a hell of a lot more than what my "friends" did."
Is guys stick together. No matter what. If it’s fine you get a little banter for it. And crisis averted.
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes!
I would have a massive problem with my very close mates questioning me about my relationship or my sex life. It's none of their damn business. What goes on between me and my partner is off limits to other people unless I choose to involve them. They're my friends, they come second to my partner and relationship. If they didn't then I would be in the wrong relationship.
This is not about you,you are a couple swinging what if you were not a swinger and thought you had a totally vanilla relationship,you don't feel well one day go to the doctor and find out you have some STD your mate hears about this and tells you that he knew your missus was playing away on a sex site but he didn't want to tell you because it wasn't his business how would you feel then? (I know this is a big jump from cheating to STD's by the way)
This whole thing is based on what ifs though. If eveyones so concerned about the guy why don't they advocate talking to the woman?
The womans not his mate his mate is his mate,I had a guy I didn't like tell me before that a gf was cheating on me and my mates knew about it but said nothing,it took a guy i didn't like to take me to one side and tell me which I appreciated a hell of a lot more than what my "friends" did."
I think we all see this through the lens of our own experiences. Which is fair enough. |
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"It's interesting also that people who would tell him don't consider speaking to her first.
Your loyalties are to your friend first, if you feel that she is being disloyal I would find it hard in trusting her to tel the truth to him. If I was in his shoes I would 100 percent want my friend to tell me. No questioned asked.
You are a swinging couple? They might not be. She might be cheating.
If you saw her necking on with a different bloke when you were out would you not tell him?
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No. It's an unlikely scenario for me anyway which I think is what gives you and I different perspectives on this. My life and experiences have shown me that just because a situation appears one way doesn't mean it is. Your life and experiences have shown you differently. Hence we would react differently to this situation. |
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes!
I would have a massive problem with my very close mates questioning me about my relationship or my sex life. It's none of their damn business. What goes on between me and my partner is off limits to other people unless I choose to involve them. They're my friends, they come second to my partner and relationship. If they didn't then I would be in the wrong relationship.
This is not about you,you are a couple swinging what if you were not a swinger and thought you had a totally vanilla relationship,you don't feel well one day go to the doctor and find out you have some STD your mate hears about this and tells you that he knew your missus was playing away on a sex site but he didn't want to tell you because it wasn't his business how would you feel then? (I know this is a big jump from cheating to STD's by the way)
This whole thing is based on what ifs though. If eveyones so concerned about the guy why don't they advocate talking to the woman?
The womans not his mate his mate is his mate,I had a guy I didn't like tell me before that a gf was cheating on me and my mates knew about it but said nothing,it took a guy i didn't like to take me to one side and tell me which I appreciated a hell of a lot more than what my "friends" did.
Is guys stick together. No matter what. If it’s fine you get a little banter for it. And crisis averted.
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Does that mean that if you saw he had a profile on here you wouldn't tell her? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes!
I would have a massive problem with my very close mates questioning me about my relationship or my sex life. It's none of their damn business. What goes on between me and my partner is off limits to other people unless I choose to involve them. They're my friends, they come second to my partner and relationship. If they didn't then I would be in the wrong relationship.
This is not about you,you are a couple swinging what if you were not a swinger and thought you had a totally vanilla relationship,you don't feel well one day go to the doctor and find out you have some STD your mate hears about this and tells you that he knew your missus was playing away on a sex site but he didn't want to tell you because it wasn't his business how would you feel then? (I know this is a big jump from cheating to STD's by the way)
This whole thing is based on what ifs though. If eveyones so concerned about the guy why don't they advocate talking to the woman?
The womans not his mate his mate is his mate,I had a guy I didn't like tell me before that a gf was cheating on me and my mates knew about it but said nothing,it took a guy i didn't like to take me to one side and tell me which I appreciated a hell of a lot more than what my "friends" did.
Is guys stick together. No matter what. If it’s fine you get a little banter for it. And crisis averted.
Does that mean that if you saw he had a profile on here you wouldn't tell her?"
Unfortunately my loyalties lie towards my friend whether or not they are the guilty party |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Maybe speak to him about fab, if he knows about it he may open up, if he knows nothing say what you found....
Now you know.... If it all goes titsup in the future, you either have to lie and act surprised or say you knew.....
Hard place to be.
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes!
I would have a massive problem with my very close mates questioning me about my relationship or my sex life. It's none of their damn business. What goes on between me and my partner is off limits to other people unless I choose to involve them. They're my friends, they come second to my partner and relationship. If they didn't then I would be in the wrong relationship.
This is not about you,you are a couple swinging what if you were not a swinger and thought you had a totally vanilla relationship,you don't feel well one day go to the doctor and find out you have some STD your mate hears about this and tells you that he knew your missus was playing away on a sex site but he didn't want to tell you because it wasn't his business how would you feel then? (I know this is a big jump from cheating to STD's by the way)
This whole thing is based on what ifs though. If eveyones so concerned about the guy why don't they advocate talking to the woman?
The womans not his mate his mate is his mate,I had a guy I didn't like tell me before that a gf was cheating on me and my mates knew about it but said nothing,it took a guy i didn't like to take me to one side and tell me which I appreciated a hell of a lot more than what my "friends" did.
Is guys stick together. No matter what. If it’s fine you get a little banter for it. And crisis averted.
Does that mean that if you saw he had a profile on here you wouldn't tell her?
Unfortunately my loyalties lie towards my friend whether or not they are the guilty party "
So for you it's a loyalty issue not a moral one? That's fair enough,we all have different ways of looking at things.
I tend to see it as a moral issue but other people's morals are no business of mine. |
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"Tell him,if she's a cheating piece of shit he deserves to know."
So if a married woman contacts you you'll ignore her because "she's a cheating piece of shit" will you?
There is a percentage of married/attached women on here the same as there is of men (though I expect that percentage is higher), accept it it's a sex site. |
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes! "
Im with you on this.... if it was a really close freind i would tell and woukd expect the same in return if the situation was reversed x |
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"I came across my friends wife on another site ages ago . But I just left it there . She knows I know and nothing ever came of it . I know she still plays away but hey that's her business . "
some "friend" you are then. |
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"Tell him,if she's a cheating piece of shit he deserves to know.
So if a married woman contacts you you'll ignore her because "she's a cheating piece of shit" will you?
There is a percentage of married/attached women on here the same as there is of men (though I expect that percentage is higher), accept it it's a sex site."
I would bang her but she ain't my mates wife. The question is should he tell his friend and the answer is yes. |
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"Tell him,if she's a cheating piece of shit he deserves to know.
So if a married woman contacts you you'll ignore her because "she's a cheating piece of shit" will you?
There is a percentage of married/attached women on here the same as there is of men (though I expect that percentage is higher), accept it it's a sex site.
I would bang her but she ain't my mates wife. The question is should he tell his friend and the answer is yes."
So, you'd 'bang' a cheating piece of shit
But as long as she isnt your mates wife?
Righty ho |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"Tell him,if she's a cheating piece of shit he deserves to know.
So if a married woman contacts you you'll ignore her because "she's a cheating piece of shit" will you?
There is a percentage of married/attached women on here the same as there is of men (though I expect that percentage is higher), accept it it's a sex site.
I would bang her but she ain't my mates wife. The question is should he tell his friend and the answer is yes.
So, you'd 'bang' a cheating piece of shit
But as long as she isnt your mates wife?
Righty ho"
Threads like this always reveal Fab’s ‘thinkers’.  |
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"Tell him,if she's a cheating piece of shit he deserves to know.
So if a married woman contacts you you'll ignore her because "she's a cheating piece of shit" will you?
There is a percentage of married/attached women on here the same as there is of men (though I expect that percentage is higher), accept it it's a sex site.
I would bang her but she ain't my mates wife. The question is should he tell his friend and the answer is yes.
So, you'd 'bang' a cheating piece of shit
But as long as she isnt your mates wife?
Righty ho"
yup I would and I would hope if her fellas friends found out they would tell him too. Standing cock's got no morals  |
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"Tell him,if she's a cheating piece of shit he deserves to know.
So if a married woman contacts you you'll ignore her because "she's a cheating piece of shit" will you?
There is a percentage of married/attached women on here the same as there is of men (though I expect that percentage is higher), accept it it's a sex site.
I would bang her but she ain't my mates wife. The question is should he tell his friend and the answer is yes.
So, you'd 'bang' a cheating piece of shit
But as long as she isnt your mates wife?
Righty ho
yup I would and I would hope if her fellas friends found out they would tell him too. Standing cock's got no morals "
Or to put it another way ... ‘one rule for the guys, one rule for the girls’
Misogynistic much??!! |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"So if you seen your mates wife on here with a single profile what should you do? "
You my friend may have inadvertently stumbled upon the holy grail of fab itself. 'Some' may say (not me of course) that there is a chance for you to cuckold your friend with his lady as your fb thus opening the floodgates to fabs sexual riches with everyone being happy as Larry. Question is do you see this as an opportunity or not? 
Couldn't help myself.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id hate to be friends with any of you lot!
If hes a good friend id tell him. If he knows about it then all good. If not then better to find out and deal with it then finding out 5 years later that his wifes a cheating slag and his best mate knew about it.
'None of your business'
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If you feel the need to get involved. I would first attempt to contact the woman to see if it's actually her or not before going any further.
As could be stolen pics. Harrasment profile built to cause woman issues. Then that would be unfair to cause shit on top without information.
If you then had infallible proof then you would have something to speak about with your mate.
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"Tell him,if she's a cheating piece of shit he deserves to know.
So if a married woman contacts you you'll ignore her because "she's a cheating piece of shit" will you?
There is a percentage of married/attached women on here the same as there is of men (though I expect that percentage is higher), accept it it's a sex site.
I would bang her but she ain't my mates wife. The question is should he tell his friend and the answer is yes.
So, you'd 'bang' a cheating piece of shit
But as long as she isnt your mates wife?
Righty ho
yup I would and I would hope if her fellas friends found out they would tell him too. Standing cock's got no morals
Or to put it another way ... ‘one rule for the guys, one rule for the girls’
Misogynistic much??!!"
Not really if I saw a male partner of a female friend I'd do the same. Wouldn't bang him though  |
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over a year ago
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If he's a real good mate, you need to tell him. That's what mates do. He might already know? But either way, correct me if I'm wrong, this site is for swingers- not cheaters (male or female). |
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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago
Torfaen/Gwent |
The word consent is being use so wrongly in this thread.
Her boyfriends knowledge of her being on her.
Not “if she’s on here without consent” he doesn’t own her. She doesn’t actually need his permission  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well you have options keep hush and pretend if you can that you never saw it or you just thought it was someone else ..
Use it to your advantage need I say more
confront her or tell your mate |
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As someone pointed out might not even be her
I was notified from Fab users last month that my pics were being used on many other dating / chat / sex sites
Turns out 17 profiles had been set up and I had to report them all as Fake
I took my pics down and watermark my name on them now
I have a bf and we have a joint profile on here he found it funny but only cos he knows that I’m trustworthy |
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"Id hate to be friends with any of you lot!
If hes a good friend id tell him. If he knows about it then all good. If not then better to find out and deal with it then finding out 5 years later that his wifes a cheating slag and his best mate knew about it.
'None of your business'
Dont know what kind of friends you lot are. Not very good ones though. "
the problem is I saw my ex brother and law with someone else ! I told my sister ! Guess what she believed him! She did not spoke to me for 3 years ! Until she court him herself! I do understand your point but sometimes is best to mind our on business ! That way will not back fire! X |
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I would probably approach the person on here, speak to them and hopefully get a clearer picture. I don't think it's unusual for people to ask stuff like 'Are you single? Is your partner okay with you being on here?' and cheaters usually say something to give themselves away.
Then I'd probably just give them an ultimatum - you come clean, or I'll tell them for you.
But I really hate cheaters and have no empathy for them at all. |
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By *av.x.69Man
over a year ago
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"I would probably approach the person on here, speak to them and hopefully get a clearer picture. I don't think it's unusual for people to ask stuff like 'Are you single? Is your partner okay with you being on here?' and cheaters usually say something to give themselves away.
Then I'd probably just give them an ultimatum - you come clean, or I'll tell them for you.
But I really hate cheaters and have no empathy for them at all. "
First rule of thumb you learn is if you spot anyone you recognise, you stay well clear and mind your own business. It’s not up to you challenge them.
Second rule of thumb you learn is to look at rule number 1.
So guys, it’s not your call. Don’t judge them, leave them alone and let them eat their own dog food or drink their own Champaign, whichever it happens to be. |
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By *av.x.69Man
over a year ago
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"I would probably approach the person on here, speak to them and hopefully get a clearer picture. I don't think it's unusual for people to ask stuff like 'Are you single? Is your partner okay with you being on here?' and cheaters usually say something to give themselves away.
Then I'd probably just give them an ultimatum - you come clean, or I'll tell them for you.
But I really hate cheaters and have no empathy for them at all. "
What’s this, moral police? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If there is one thing I have learnt from fab is that relationships come in many different guises, and somewhat unrecognizable to anything deemed conventional as dictated by society, therefore I'd stay well clear.
And if she's easily identifiable, she's either stupid, he knows or someone has taken her pictures, but if she's cheating and you are a close friend have you noticed any differences in their relationship to suggest she might be cheating or they are having problems? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on your relationship with each of them and who they are, but I suspect the wisest course is to leave well alone. You only have very partial information.
If you are desperate to interfere then have a delicate and casual conversation about their attitudes to adventurous sex. You may get signals from that he DOES know about her activity. But think VERY carefully before you get involved. It's highly unlikely you're going to come out of it with an intact friendship, even if the worst case is true. |
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By *av.x.69Man
over a year ago
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"Id hate to be friends with any of you lot!
If hes a good friend id tell him. If he knows about it then all good. If not then better to find out and deal with it then finding out 5 years later that his wifes a cheating slag and his best mate knew about it.
'None of your business'
Dont know what kind of friends you lot are. Not very good ones though. "
You really need to have absolute water tight proof IMHO before you take the next step.
Watch “Heat” (not the porno version!) lol |
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes!
I would have a massive problem with my very close mates questioning me about my relationship or my sex life. It's none of their damn business. What goes on between me and my partner is off limits to other people unless I choose to involve them. They're my friends, they come second to my partner and relationship. If they didn't then I would be in the wrong relationship.
This is not about you,you are a couple swinging what if you were not a swinger and thought you had a totally vanilla relationship,you don't feel well one day go to the doctor and find out you have some STD your mate hears about this and tells you that he knew your missus was playing away on a sex site but he didn't want to tell you because it wasn't his business how would you feel then? (I know this is a big jump from cheating to STD's by the way)
This whole thing is based on what ifs though. If eveyones so concerned about the guy why don't they advocate talking to the woman?"
Mmm, hello chupa chops, not that its any of my business but I was just wondering if Charlie's aware you are having an extra cuckatoo  is that what you are advocating? Is this some form of feminist stance? |
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Tell your mate don't listen to none of your business brigade you have a Bro's before Ho's duty to uphold. Might sound horrible but dude I guarantee if it were women spotting their friends partner on here 99% of them would spill the beans. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Arrange to meet her. Why not???? Does it really matter that she may be playing behind his back??? i disagree. He needs to leave well alone."
If it was me then i would arrange to meet and fuck her. After all she is on here, if it is her, to have fun. Does it really matter that it is his mate's wife or a strangers wife? Go for it and enjoy it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keep out, block her. Keep quiet, don’t get involved. Like a pair of twisted pants you’ll be caught between cunt and arse. Neither of them will thank you for your interference. |
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"If he’s a very good close mate, he should have no problem talking about his sex life. So tell him. I know if i had a gf and she was on here without my consent and my mate knew about it. I would be fuming at him not telling me. Bros before hoes!
I would have a massive problem with my very close mates questioning me about my relationship or my sex life. It's none of their damn business. What goes on between me and my partner is off limits to other people unless I choose to involve them. They're my friends, they come second to my partner and relationship. If they didn't then I would be in the wrong relationship.
This is not about you,you are a couple swinging what if you were not a swinger and thought you had a totally vanilla relationship,you don't feel well one day go to the doctor and find out you have some STD your mate hears about this and tells you that he knew your missus was playing away on a sex site but he didn't want to tell you because it wasn't his business how would you feel then? (I know this is a big jump from cheating to STD's by the way)
This whole thing is based on what ifs though. If eveyones so concerned about the guy why don't they advocate talking to the woman?
The womans not his mate his mate is his mate,I had a guy I didn't like tell me before that a gf was cheating on me and my mates knew about it but said nothing,it took a guy i didn't like to take me to one side and tell me which I appreciated a hell of a lot more than what my "friends" did.
Is guys stick together. No matter what. If it’s fine you get a little banter for it. And crisis averted.
Does that mean that if you saw he had a profile on here you wouldn't tell her?"
Of course he wouldn't |
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"Tell him,if she's a cheating piece of shit he deserves to know.
So if a married woman contacts you you'll ignore her because "she's a cheating piece of shit" will you?
There is a percentage of married/attached women on here the same as there is of men (though I expect that percentage is higher), accept it it's a sex site.
I would bang her but she ain't my mates wife. The question is should he tell his friend and the answer is yes.
So, you'd 'bang' a cheating piece of shit
But as long as she isnt your mates wife?
Righty ho
yup I would and I would hope if her fellas friends found out they would tell him too. Standing cock's got no morals
Or to put it another way ... ‘one rule for the guys, one rule for the girls’
Misogynistic much??!!"
Revealing though. Lol |
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"I would probably approach the person on here, speak to them and hopefully get a clearer picture. I don't think it's unusual for people to ask stuff like 'Are you single? Is your partner okay with you being on here?' and cheaters usually say something to give themselves away.
Then I'd probably just give them an ultimatum - you come clean, or I'll tell them for you.
But I really hate cheaters and have no empathy for them at all.
What’s this, moral police? "
Just the fab police .. wonder how many of the "fab police" have had thoughts of banging a mates girl or wife..with or without their mate knowing |
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over a year ago
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"Tell your mate don't listen to none of your business brigade you have a Bro's before Ho's duty to uphold. Might sound horrible but dude I guarantee if it were women spotting their friends partner on here 99% of them would spill the beans."
If it was a woman posting she'd get the same none of your business advice too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My friends boyfriend was on here. He tried to get me to fuck him. I told her. Friends come before anything. She was appreciative that id told her. Would have been ten times worse if i hadn't and she found out i knew all along |
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"Tell your mate don't listen to none of your business brigade you have a Bro's before Ho's duty to uphold. Might sound horrible but dude I guarantee if it were women spotting their friends partner on here 99% of them would spill the beans.
If it was a woman posting she'd get the same none of your business advice too"
Would she bollix the misandrists and sir galahads would be insisting that the evil male be outed. |
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"Tell your mate don't listen to none of your business brigade you have a Bro's before Ho's duty to uphold. Might sound horrible but dude I guarantee if it were women spotting their friends partner on here 99% of them would spill the beans.
If it was a woman posting she'd get the same none of your business advice too
Would she bollix the misandrists and sir galahads would be insisting that the evil male be outed. "
They really wouldn't.
These threads come up from time to time and the opinions are the same regardless of the gender of the alledged offender. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have her number send her a message saying that you think that someone is using her photos on a website and see what her reaction is. That's what someone did when they saw my wife on Tinder...it was her but she thanked him for letting her know. |
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over a year ago
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"I am not your best mates wife read my verifications/ profile
Are you who he's talking about??
Yes he messaged saying I looked liked his mates wife "
How could he tell from your photos? He must know his mates wife's feet very well!  |
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"I am not your best mates wife read my verifications/ profile
Are you who he's talking about??
Yes he messaged saying I looked liked his mates wife "
I sincerely hope he didn't take the advice of the "tell him" camp. Imagine the trouble caused in relationship  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Classic. This thread should be linked to in EVERY other thread on this topic. "
This man has really spent a lot if time studying his mates wife's boobs,feet,and shoes x |
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"Classic. This thread should be linked to in EVERY other thread on this topic.
This man has really spent a lot if time swatudying his mates wife's boobs,feet,and shoes x "
My thoughts exactly. And to think that he was going to tell him! |
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"sClassic. This thread should be linked to in EVERY other thread on this topic.
This man has really spent a lot if time swatudying his mates wife's boobs,feet,and shoes x
My thoughts exactly. And to think that he was going to tell him! "
He's just messaged me and a few other people I know on this post.so it could be attention bait to lure people in for him to message x |
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"sClassic. This thread should be linked to in EVERY other thread on this topic.
This man has really spent a lot if time swatudying his mates wife's boobs,feet,and shoes x
My thoughts exactly. And to think that he was going to tell him!
He's just messaged me and a few other people I know on this post.so it could be attention bait to lure people in for him to message x "
Ahhhhhh, sneaky
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"sClassic. This thread should be linked to in EVERY other thread on this topic.
This man has really spent a lot if time swatudying his mates wife's boobs,feet,and shoes x
My thoughts exactly. And to think that he was going to tell him!
He's just messaged me and a few other people I know on this post.so it could be attention bait to lure people in for him to message x "
We got messaged without contributing! An early look at his friends list told us all we needed to know... |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"I am not your best mates wife read my verifications/ profile
Are you who he's talking about??
Yes he messaged saying I looked liked his mates wife "
Wow! If you're not then this is the perfect example of why you should say nowt when it's not 100%. Op, if you're not 100% sure and there's clearly some dispute here then you should stay the hell out of it!!! How the hell can any of us be certain as to give an opinion? I'm out! |
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I found my wife on here once, lots of couples have single profiles as well. Maybe they are just extremely happy, open and swing. I'd have a little chuckle to yourself and not say anything. Good luck. |
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