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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everybody,
After being on here for about two weeks now we figured it's probably a good time to introduce ourselves properly. One of the reasons we hadn't done this any sooner is that we was still trying to figure out exactly who we are ourselves. No, we don't have any mental issues or anything like that, we promise. However, we're not just new to this site, we're also new to the whole lifestyle. In fact, we shouldn't even fall into the 'new' category just yet, we're more 'newbies in waiting'. We're right at the beginning of our journey, and we're looking forward to the road ahead of us and where it may lead.
Who are we?
We're a young'ish' (We're 23 & 33, but young isn't just age, it's a state of mind) couple who have been married for a few years now. We have a very happy marriage and we're very much in love. We're more than just a husband and wife; we're also best friends too. We're just like any other normal couple, we can wind each other up, we can annoy each other, we can fall out, but we always do so knowing that we love each other. That gives us a solid foundation of trust, and that trust has contributed to our journey here. We're also parents, which means that our free time is very limited and any social time requires 'military like' preparation to arrange childcare etc. We've seen that there are many other parents on here so we're sure you know exactly what we mean.
We're a fun loving couple with a relatively healthy social life considering the limited time we do have. We laugh a lot, mostly at each other. We can hold down a serious conversation if we need to, but we try not to take life too seriously.
We do almost everything together, but we also allow each other the freedom to lead their own lives. It just happens to be that for the most part, we both want to do the same things.
However... A couple is made of two individual people though, so we should probably tell you a little bit more about the people behind the couple.
'He' is a bit of a geek, but not in a nerdy way (his words). He is a very laid back and easy going type, who tries to always see the good in a person or situation. He loves music of all kinds, ranging as far back as the 1940s right up to modern pop. From Hip hop to heavy metal, dance, country, rock and roll, just about anything and everything in between.
'She' is a strong but sensitive type, with a take-no-shit attitude and a heart of gold all rolled into one. She can be kindest person you'll ever meet, but cross her at your own peril. Her favourite feature is her eyes. She never runs short on compliments for them and just one look from her can make you weak at the knees. She has a thing for Jason Statham, Ben Affleck and Robert Pattinson, but her perfect dream guy would have to be Tom Hardy.
How did we get here?
It all started as a bit of dirty talk one night between the sheets. 'She' confessed that she'd always had a fantasy about having two guys at the same time. After the initial shock had passed (all of 10 seconds), 'he' found the whole idea a turn on. We were already in the middle of some fun at the time, so it wasn't hard to chalk it down to just getting carried away with things in the heat of the moment. Sure enough though, it was brought up again, and again, always during some bedtime fun and each time making things a little hotter and more intense.
We finally got around to speaking about it in a more relaxed setting, discussing the actual possibility of making it happen, and how could we go about it, and how we'd actually feel about it if we ever found ourselves in a situation where it was a real possibility. We thought about every possibility, inviting a friend to join us, finding a stranger, paying for an escort etc. We decided that whatever path we was going to take, we needed to make sure it was right for us and not something we just rushed into.
Somewhere along the way we stumbled across this site. Until that point 'swinging' wasn't something we'd ever thought about or considered. In all honesty, our preconceived notions where similar to the 'car keys in a bowl' scenario. Boy how wrong did we get it. This site was a real eye opener. So much so that it has actually already had a positive impact on sex life already. Since signing up we're hornier than ever, imagine how much of an effect it'll have once we've had our first encounters.
What do we want?
Well, that's what we've been trying to figure out for the past couple of weeks. We came here with very clear intentions, but once we actually signed up, had a browse and saw what this whole place were like it caused us to rethink a little.
Obviously 'she' is still looking for that elusive other guy to join us, but that is by no means the only objective we have now. We've spoke about everything, from 'her' playing with another girl whilst 'he' watches, the two of us being watched by a group of others, partner swapping with another couple, gang bangs, and everything in between.
We'll be looking for single males, single females, and couples, we don't have any restrictions really. What matters is that there is an physical attraction there, along with a personality that we both like and can get along with.
We're also interested in the social side of things, we like to chat and make friends with others. Both of us come on here and use the messaging feature, so feel free to drop us an inbox if you're looking for someone to chat with. Just make sure that if you do message us, you put a little bit of an effort into that first message. We've had so many people message us and all they've managed is 'hey', 'hows fab treating you' or 'my dicks rock hard, wanna meet now'. Messages like that do nothing for us and will just get deleted. Make an effort and we will usually reply, even if you aren't what we are looking for in a meeting. We may not reply straight away, but we will usually make the time to reply at some stage.
What's next for us?
We're still working that out, we feel like kids in a sweetshop who are spoilt for choice. There are so many possibilities available, but our time is limited so we need to pick and choose our adventures wisely.
We do know that we want to ease ourselves in gently, with as little amount of pressure as possible, and so far everything has pointed towards starting things with a club visit. We even wrote a post in another section of this forum asking for advice, and the general response was to visit a club first.
We've had a look at some of the clubs in the local (northwest) area and have made a bit of a shortlist of the ones we'd like to visit. We still want feedback from others though so we are going to write another post soon sharing out shortlist, and asking any regulars for advice.
Thanks for reading, especially if you made it all the way through. |
