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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone. As the title states I'm new to the swinging scene. Never been to clubs, sex parties, threesomes etc. Everything has been one on one. Iv been lucky to have spoken to a couple of people so far and they've been really polite but then the conversation stops. I accept that there has to be some kind of mutual attraction and I know I'm not the best looking or most hung (was not blessed at all) ?? If I could have some advice on my profile, pictures and how to progress and explore then it would be greatly appreciated? I know cock pics aren't attractive and for some reason it took me ages to put one on my profile. I don't send them as haven't got the confidence. Also please don't think this is for attention. I'm honest and just looking for advice so I can actually chat and hopefully have some fun.
Thanks for reading ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's difficult on here pal.
You might be better off sticking to non swinging sites such as pof. The trouble with this site is there's far more men than women and as such the women feel like Queens with their pick of any man. And let's be honest most of the women on here wouldn't get a second glance in the street.. it's either fat small dicked blokes trying to get other women to join them or women made to feel far more attractive than they are because of all the male attention . Sorry if that's not what you want to hear but that is the reality |
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"Hi everyone. As the title states I'm new to the swinging scene. Never been to clubs, sex parties, threesomes etc. Everything has been one on one. Iv been lucky to have spoken to a couple of people so far and they've been really polite but then the conversation stops. I accept that there has to be some kind of mutual attraction and I know I'm not the best looking or most hung (was not blessed at all) ?? If I could have some advice on my profile, pictures and how to progress and explore then it would be greatly appreciated? I know cock pics aren't attractive and for some reason it took me ages to put one on my profile. I don't send them as haven't got the confidence. Also please don't think this is for attention. I'm honest and just looking for advice so I can actually chat and hopefully have some fun.
Thanks for reading ??"
I think you have a good varied selection of photos OP.
Keep talking to people, there are some great people on here and I believe if you are polite, respectful and friendly, like you seem to be, connections will be made and hopefully you'll have a good time.
All the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's difficult on here pal.
You might be better off sticking to non swinging sites such as pof. The trouble with this site is there's far more men than women and as such the women feel like Queens with their pick of any man. And let's be honest most of the women on here wouldn't get a second glance in the street.. it's either fat small dicked blokes trying to get other women to join them or women made to feel far more attractive than they are because of all the male attention . Sorry if that's not what you want to hear but that is the reality"
You're spot on. I'm an ugly, spotty old bint. Thats why i dont have any pics
I do soooo love Daddy to tell me I'm a beautiful princess though |
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It can be difficult to get up n running. I think your personal opinion of this site and how it works is going to be heavily influenced by if your actually successful or not. If not then people, guys in particular will say it a waste of time. But the site does work, patience and respect go a long way,
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's difficult on here pal.
You might be better off sticking to non swinging sites such as pof. The trouble with this site is there's far more men than women and as such the women feel like Queens with their pick of any man. And let's be honest most of the women on here wouldn't get a second glance in the street.. it's either fat small dicked blokes trying to get other women to join them or women made to feel far more attractive than they are because of all the male attention . Sorry if that's not what you want to hear but that is the reality
You're spot on. I'm an ugly, spotty old bint. Thats why i dont have any pics
I do soooo love Daddy to tell me I'm a beautiful princess though"
I didn't say all..... just most |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Was slow for me at the start. All untill you really sit and work out what it is all about.
Forums is a great base to get yourself known. Taking advice and just being yourself helped me loads.
Patience is the key.  |
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"Oh dear lol!
I'm guessing someone isn't going to get laid much with an attitude like that!
Exactly what I was talking about lol"
Yeah dude, you got me, I'm not getting any and I got a tiny dick...oh, no, wait, I'm wrong  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was slow for me at the start. All untill you really sit and work out what it is all about.
Forums is a great base to get yourself known. Taking advice and just being yourself helped me loads.
Patience is the key. "
"Taking advice and just being yourself " ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Was slow for me at the start. All untill you really sit and work out what it is all about.
Forums is a great base to get yourself known. Taking advice and just being yourself helped me loads.
Patience is the key.
"Taking advice and just being yourself " ?"
Yea sure like what pics are favoured.
Profile lay out.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you take advice and do as someone else advises, are you being your self ?"
Sure I never asked anyone I looked through the profile advice threads. Took on board and used my innicitive.
Is that not being myself? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone. As the title states I'm new to the swinging scene. Never been to clubs, sex parties, threesomes etc. Everything has been one on one. Iv been lucky to have spoken to a couple of people so far and they've been really polite but then the conversation stops. I accept that there has to be some kind of mutual attraction and I know I'm not the best looking or most hung (was not blessed at all) ?? If I could have some advice on my profile, pictures and how to progress and explore then it would be greatly appreciated? I know cock pics aren't attractive and for some reason it took me ages to put one on my profile. I don't send them as haven't got the confidence. Also please don't think this is for attention. I'm honest and just looking for advice so I can actually chat and hopefully have some fun.
Thanks for reading ??"
Hey op
I like your profile for someone new you took time to actually fill it out !!!!
Nothing worse than an empty profile X
Good luck and don't take any notice of the begrudgers
We were all new here at one point !!
Like the tats and piercings
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh dear lol!
I'm guessing someone isn't going to get laid much with an attitude like that!
Exactly what I was talking about lol
Yeah dude, you got me, I'm not getting any and I got a tiny dick...oh, no, wait, I'm wrong "
I'm not looking to meet couples, but I understand why some people need a hand to get aroused with their partners  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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And furthermore... the fact that some people have taken offence at one persons opinion says it all, it wasn't my intention to hit nerves , just to give my opinion of the site so far, people tend to choose people similar to themselves and as the OP is in good shape and most of the couples on here are overweight and frankly unattractive it's highly unlikely that someone would want to see him with their partner. There are some lovely women on here too mind you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wow wasn't expecting so many replies. Iv tried being someone different in the past for previous gf's to keep them happy and it just didn't work. I'd like to say thank you for everyone who posted and apologies for anyone's nerve it may of hit. I shall be patient, read through posts etc and just learn what I can. Thanks everyone x |
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"And furthermore... the fact that some people have taken offence at one persons opinion says it all, it wasn't my intention to hit nerves , just to give my opinion of the site so far, people tend to choose people similar to themselves and as the OP is in good shape and most of the couples on here are overweight
and frankly unattractive it's highly unlikely that someone would want to see him with their partner. There are some lovely women on here too mind you "
Can't agree with you on that, yes all shapes and sizes are on here, that's a good thing for me. As for couples not wanting someone maybe better looking than them, that's just nonsense for me. Think a lot look for things in potential partners that they maybe can't provide. Everybody diff and no right or wrong. |
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"And furthermore... the fact that some people have taken offence at one persons opinion says it all, it wasn't my intention to hit nerves , just to give my opinion of the site so far, people tend to choose people similar to themselves and as the OP is in good shape and most of the couples on here are overweight and frankly unattractive it's highly unlikely that someone would want to see him with their partner. There are some lovely women on here too mind you "
Would you like another shovel dude, you seem to have quite worn that one out with that big hole you are digging? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol, only seem to have upset you and a granny from London , if you thought my comments applied to you then that must be how you see yourself and that's not my issue |
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"Lol, only seem to have upset you and a granny from London , if you thought my comments applied to you then that must be how you see yourself and that's not my issue"
Only about 1% of Fab users bother with the forums (Fabs own statistics), and many would just read your comments, make a mental note not to entertain you, and then go on their way.
Making sweeping insulting generalisations about "most" of the people on here isn't going to do you any favours, and it shows you for the type of person you are, shallow, vain, and only really after one thing... which for you is going to be in short supply. |
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"If your standards are low you'd probably be grateful with the populous on offer,I'm naturally choosy and picky lol"
Ah well, you crack on dude, have fun with your dinner for one, 4 pack of stella and youtube.
Me? Well, I'm taking my gorgeous wife to the Social tonight, where over 100 swingers of all shapes and sizes will be having fun, dancing, making friends, having a giggle, and possibly getting jiggy with some of those new friends... it will be awesome, I would say I'll spare you a thought, but I'd be lying, we will be too busy having fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll be preparing for my meet tomorrow with one of the sexiest women on fab, enjoy you're evening.... on a different note , did you know Tesco offer free eye tests ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone. As the title states I'm new to the swinging scene. Never been to clubs, sex parties, threesomes etc. Everything has been one on one. Iv been lucky to have spoken to a couple of people so far and they've been really polite but then the conversation stops. I accept that there has to be some kind of mutual attraction and I know I'm not the best looking or most hung (was not blessed at all) ?? If I could have some advice on my profile, pictures and how to progress and explore then it would be greatly appreciated? I know cock pics aren't attractive and for some reason it took me ages to put one on my profile. I don't send them as haven't got the confidence. Also please don't think this is for attention. I'm honest and just looking for advice so I can actually chat and hopefully have some fun.
Thanks for reading ??"
your not the only one looking for there first experience so am in and it hard on this site. |
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"Not once did I pick you out or target you.. you did that all by yourself pal"
You didn't have to, as we don't consider ourselves to be better than anyone else on here, I guess that puts us along with a lot of others in the "most" you keep targeting, but unlike many others I'm happy to stand up and tell you you are wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi sweet, I was replying to the bloke who seemed to take offence at my first reply and who has since been waiting for me to post lol"
Done it again.... that's in reply to phantom x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not once did I pick you out or target you.. you did that all by yourself pal
You didn't have to, as we don't consider ourselves to be better than anyone else on here, I guess that puts us along with a lot of others in the "most" you keep targeting, but unlike many others I'm happy to stand up and tell you you are wrong."
, shouldn't you and you're gorgeous wife be getting ready , maybe a bit of practise on a banana or something |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not once did I pick you out or target you.. you did that all by yourself pal
You didn't have to, as we don't consider ourselves to be better than anyone else on here, I guess that puts us along with a lot of others in the "most" you keep targeting, but unlike many others I'm happy to stand up and tell you you are wrong., shouldn't you and you're gorgeous wife be getting ready , maybe a bit of practise on a banana or something"
and yes I know I put you're instead of your ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's gone quiet.... does anyone know the procedure for expelling a banana from the throat ??
Are you bored bud?
Right said Fred not doing any tours?"
not sure pal,,, Asda have got a great deal on training bras though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's a fair point but a pig with tits would still get a hundred winks a day from the desperate men on here
What a very unpleasant man you are."
Sorry Gran |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's a fair point but a pig with tits would still get a hundred winks a day from the desperate men on here
What a very unpleasant man you are.
Sorry Gran"
You have got a great arse though x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's a fair point but a pig with tits would still get a hundred winks a day from the desperate men on here
What a very unpleasant man you are.
Sorry Gran
You have got a great arse though x"
and the pig with tits comment is a fair one and you know it, if you're all so great why on here in the first place |
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"That's a fair point but a pig with tits would still get a hundred winks a day from the desperate men on here
What a very unpleasant man you are.
Sorry Gran
You have got a great arse though x and the pig with tits comment is a fair one and you know it, if you're all so great why on here in the first place"
Erm... if it's so far below your standards, why are you on here might be a more pertinent question?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Like I said before , my comment to the OP was not directly aimed at anyone, just based on what I can see, if he's got dreams of wild constant sex with people on here he's deluded and would be better off on non swinging sites, like someone else said only 1% of fab actually use the forum.
Ask any of the single guys on here and they will all say it's difficult. A woman in the other hand who's willing to be used will do well, it's purely supply and demand and there's far more supply than demand |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's a fair point but a pig with tits would still get a hundred winks a day from the desperate men on here
What a very unpleasant man you are.
Sorry Gran
You have got a great arse though x and the pig with tits comment is a fair one and you know it, if you're all so great why on here in the first place"
You're right. Im so ugly, i shouldnt really be allowed out in public.
Carry on digging that pit sweetcheeks. Stamping your feet and getting all cross, isnt likely to get you layed around these parts.
Jealousy is SO unattractive |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Like I said before , my comment to the OP was not directly aimed at anyone, just based on what I can see, if he's got dreams of wild constant sex with people on here he's deluded and would be better off on non swinging sites, like someone else said only 1% of fab actually use the forum.
Ask any of the single guys on here and they will all say it's difficult. A woman in the other hand who's willing to be used will do well, it's purely supply and demand and there's far more supply than demand "
" A woman who's willing to be used?"
Priceless! |
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"That's a fair point but a pig with tits would still get a hundred winks a day from the desperate men on here
What a very unpleasant man you are.
Sorry Gran
You have got a great arse though x and the pig with tits comment is a fair one and you know it, if you're all so great why on here in the first place
Erm... if it's so far below your standards, why are you on here might be a more pertinent question? "
I'm new myself and joined purely out of curiosity, believe it or not I've had plenty of offers, what makes me laugh though is the men half of couples who say they are straight then offer to suck cock... that's why I'm no longer looking to meet couples, I apologise to anyone I've upset but as mentioned before ,, if you've taken offence that's because that's how you see yourself and it's not my issue |
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"Like I said before , my comment to the OP was not directly aimed at anyone,..."
Fair point, you weren't singling any one person out, but hundreds... in fact thousands of people with the word "most".
"...just based on what I can see, if he's got dreams of wild constant sex with people on here he's deluded and would be better off on non swinging sites, like someone else said only 1% of fab actually use the forum.
Ask any of the single guys on here and they will all say it's difficult."
There are polite, well mannered, fun, interesting, friendly single guys on here who do very well... one thing they don't do is start threads in here slagging "most" people off.
"A woman in the other hand who's willing to be used will do well, it's purely supply and demand and there's far more supply than demand"
Wrong, I think you mean there is much more demand than supply, as in loads of single guys chasing fewer single fems. |
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"Like I said before , my comment to the OP was not directly aimed at anyone, just based on what I can see, if he's got dreams of wild constant sex with people on here he's deluded and would be better off on non swinging sites, like someone else said only 1% of fab actually use the forum.
Ask any of the single guys on here and they will all say it's difficult. A woman in the other hand who's willing to be used will do well, it's purely supply and demand and there's far more supply than demand
" A woman who's willing to be used?"
Priceless!"
And what would you call pimping yourself out for cock ? |
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"That's a fair point but a pig with tits would still get a hundred winks a day from the desperate men on here
What a very unpleasant man you are.
Sorry Gran
You have got a great arse though x and the pig with tits comment is a fair one and you know it, if you're all so great why on here in the first place
Erm... if it's so far below your standards, why are you on here might be a more pertinent question? I'm new myself and joined purely out of curiosity, believe it or not I've had plenty of offers, what makes me laugh though is the men half of couples who say they are straight then offer to suck cock... that's why I'm no longer looking to meet couples, I apologise to anyone I've upset but as mentioned before ,, if you've taken offence that's because that's how you see yourself and it's not my issue"
I'd suggest you go and read the " how to conduct yourself on Fab" booklet, that you were given when you joined
Oh, and lose the attitude. It aint pretty. Most of the women on here would chew you up |
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"Like I said before , my comment to the OP was not directly aimed at anyone, just based on what I can see, if he's got dreams of wild constant sex with people on here he's deluded and would be better off on non swinging sites, like someone else said only 1% of fab actually use the forum.
Ask any of the single guys on here and they will all say it's difficult. A woman in the other hand who's willing to be used will do well, it's purely supply and demand and there's far more supply than demand
" A woman who's willing to be used?"
Priceless!
And what would you call pimping yourself out for cock ?"
Whilst there are undoubtedly a few ladies who "pimp" themselves out as you put it (and prostitution is against the rules btw), using that phrase to describe how women conduct their swinging activities shows not only your lack of respect for ladies, but also your ignorance in the lifestyle in general. |
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"Like I said before , my comment to the OP was not directly aimed at anyone, just based on what I can see, if he's got dreams of wild constant sex with people on here he's deluded and would be better off on non swinging sites, like someone else said only 1% of fab actually use the forum.
Ask any of the single guys on here and they will all say it's difficult. A woman in the other hand who's willing to be used will do well, it's purely supply and demand and there's far more supply than demand
" A woman who's willing to be used?"
Priceless!
And what would you call pimping yourself out for cock ?"
This kind of attitude I see from some guys is pretty narrow minded. Can a woman not be on an adult site and enjoy meeting guys for fun without judgement? Some women, and some men, I've seen on here have hundreds of verifications and seemingly will meet anyone whilst others just want to find a regular meet or two. What others do is no concern of mind but to liken it to prostitution by implying women on here pimp themselves out is uncalled for.
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"This thread is gone. Lol
Notice how he started trying to backpedal when more posters started giving him the bums rush, and disappeared when he knew he was outgunned. "
Yup. Another one whining about not getting layed. They try to disguise it and pretend they have sensible opinions. Bless 'em |
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"This thread is gone. Lol
Notice how he started trying to backpedal when more posters started giving him the bums rush, and disappeared when he knew he was outgunned.
Yup. Another one whining about not getting layed. They try to disguise it and pretend they have sensible opinions. Bless 'em"
He wont last long, an attitude and sense of entitlement like that will get him nowhere. |
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"It's difficult on here pal.
You might be better off sticking to non swinging sites such as pof. The trouble with this site is there's far more men than women and as such the women feel like Queens with their pick of any man. And let's be honest most of the women on here wouldn't get a second glance in the street.. it's either fat small dicked blokes trying to get other women to join them or women made to feel far more attractive than they are because of all the male attention . Sorry if that's not what you want to hear but that is the reality"
says the 'here 1 week' font of all fab knowledge |
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"Hi everyone. As the title states I'm new to the swinging scene. Never been to clubs, sex parties, threesomes etc. Everything has been one on one. Iv been lucky to have spoken to a couple of people so far and they've been really polite but then the conversation stops. I accept that there has to be some kind of mutual attraction and I know I'm not the best looking or most hung (was not blessed at all) ?? If I could have some advice on my profile, pictures and how to progress and explore then it would be greatly appreciated? I know cock pics aren't attractive and for some reason it took me ages to put one on my profile. I don't send them as haven't got the confidence. Also please don't think this is for attention. I'm honest and just looking for advice so I can actually chat and hopefully have some fun.
Thanks for reading ??"
Welcome to fab and the forums. I've been here about 5 years and had about 100 meets so I have an idea of what works and what doesn't. Don't be negative - see that little green arrow? People can track what you say in forum posts and get an idea of your personality from them, e.g. A whinge, a joker, a firter, a clever sod etc. To a certain extent, 'be yourself' is good advice because the only way you're gonna stand out amongst all is other men (including non gym fit, middle aged bisexual men like me) is to be unique- be yourself. Public cock pics tend to be a no-no but it's your profile, why not? It's certainly different to many. Get yourself to a social which will be other swingers meeting up for a chat in a pub. No big deal and it gives you a chance to show your character. Your profile is a bit thin, it needs more substance. Tell people more about yourself as a person, tell people what you can offer not just what you want and please tell me how the fuck do I get a 6pack? |
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"This thread is gone. Lol
Notice how he started trying to backpedal when more posters started giving him the bums rush, and disappeared when he knew he was outgunned.
Yup. Another one whining about not getting layed. They try to disguise it and pretend they have sensible opinions. Bless 'em
He wont last long, an attitude and sense of entitlement like that will get him nowhere. "
Nope. He'll be gone soon enough
One wonders whether he considers that he is pimping himself out, by being on here?
Or was that the stinky smell of sexism he was spouting?
A sure fire way to get Sappy all sweaty and cross, is sexism. |
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"And furthermore... the fact that some people have taken offence at one persons opinion says it all, it wasn't my intention to hit nerves , just to give my opinion of the site so far, people tend to choose people similar to themselves and as the OP is in good shape and most of the couples on here are overweight and frankly unattractive it's highly unlikely that someone would want to see him with their partner. There are some lovely women on here too mind you "
Lot of generalising in your original post. Probably why the bad reactions. Calling a lot of women names won't get the best reactions really. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Welcome to fab and the forums. I've been here about 5 years and had about 100 meets so I have an idea of what works and what doesn't. Don't be negative - see that little green arrow? People can track what you say in forum posts and get an idea of your personality from them, e.g. A whinge, a joker, a firter, a clever sod etc. To a certain extent, 'be yourself' is good advice because the only way you're gonna stand out amongst all is other men (including non gym fit, middle aged bisexual men like me) is to be unique- be yourself. Public cock pics tend to be a no-no but it's your profile, why not? It's certainly different to many. Get yourself to a social which will be other swingers meeting up for a chat in a pub. No big deal and it gives you a chance to show your character. Your profile is a bit thin, it needs more substance. Tell people more about yourself as a person, tell people what you can offer not just what you want and please tell me how the fuck do I get a 6pack?"
Hey thanks for the message. I am trying to be myself and I will add more info into my profile about myself personally and what I can offer. The public cock pic was only put as a user pic as I got advised to so for a couple of days to see what happens. I will change it to something nicer I promise.
Also to everyone I want to apologise as I didn't want this thread to turn nasty.
To get a 6 pack well unless your naturally ripped it's bloody hard work. 5-6 good meals a day, cardio and train hard lol |
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Welcome to fab and the forums. I've been here about 5 years and had about 100 meets so I have an idea of what works and what doesn't. Don't be negative - see that little green arrow? People can track what you say in forum posts and get an idea of your personality from them, e.g. A whinge, a joker, a firter, a clever sod etc. To a certain extent, 'be yourself' is good advice because the only way you're gonna stand out amongst all is other men (including non gym fit, middle aged bisexual men like me) is to be unique- be yourself. Public cock pics tend to be a no-no but it's your profile, why not? It's certainly different to many. Get yourself to a social which will be other swingers meeting up for a chat in a pub. No big deal and it gives you a chance to show your character. Your profile is a bit thin, it needs more substance. Tell people more about yourself as a person, tell people what you can offer not just what you want and please tell me how the fuck do I get a 6pack?
Hey thanks for the message. I am trying to be myself and I will add more info into my profile about myself personally and what I can offer. The public cock pic was only put as a user pic as I got advised to so for a couple of days to see what happens. I will change it to something nicer I promise.
Also to everyone I want to apologise as I didn't want this thread to turn nasty.
To get a 6 pack well unless your naturally ripped it's bloody hard work. 5-6 good meals a day, cardio and train hard lol"
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"Hi everyone. As the title states I'm new to the swinging scene. Never been to clubs, sex parties, threesomes etc. Everything has been one on one. Iv been lucky to have spoken to a couple of people so far and they've been really polite but then the conversation stops. I accept that there has to be some kind of mutual attraction and I know I'm not the best looking or most hung (was not blessed at all) ?? If I could have some advice on my profile, pictures and how to progress and explore then it would be greatly appreciated? I know cock pics aren't attractive and for some reason it took me ages to put one on my profile. I don't send them as haven't got the confidence. Also please don't think this is for attention. I'm honest and just looking for advice so I can actually chat and hopefully have some fun.
Thanks for reading ??"
Try and be more positive and confident. Your body pics are mint and you keep yourself in shape so I don't see why you wouldn't do well on here. Have you tried going to your local club? Making friends there could be key. Good luck |
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"It's difficult on here pal.
You might be better off sticking to non swinging sites such as pof. The trouble with this site is there's far more men than women and as such the women feel like Queens with their pick of any man. And let's be honest most of the women on here wouldn't get a second glance in the street.. it's either fat small dicked blokes trying to get other women to join them or women made to feel far more attractive than they are because of all the male attention . Sorry if that's not what you want to hear but that is the reality"
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Well, I do get an awful amount of attention but am sure that people on this site also do; you need a lot of confidence to put yourself out here and "no second glance" women wouldn't necessarily have it.
The rant about women feeling like "queens" gives me the feeling that you've been on the receiving end of some rebuttal; I've been treated badly in 'real life' but don't rant about all men being bastards... |
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"Well, I'm just waiting on his veri from his meet tomorrow with "one of the sexiest women on fab".
Strikes me he will say they dont believe in veries or summat like that when it doesnt appear lol.  "
As soon ad read that comment I just thought bullshit. I'm new myself about a month or so. No way would I go about things in that way and attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Try and be more positive and confident. Your body pics are mint and you keep yourself in shape so I don't see why you wouldn't do well on here. Have you tried going to your local club? Making friends there could be key. Good luck "
Thank you for the nice comment. To be honest my confidence and self esteem has been shot down big time and I'm working hard to get some of it back. This isn't a sob story nor any form of attention seeking. I'm just being honest so I appreciate your message. I'm too nervous to go on my own to my local club but the thought keeps crossing my mind every single day. Thank you again |
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"Hi everyone. As the title states I'm new to the swinging scene. Never been to clubs, sex parties, threesomes etc. Everything has been one on one. Iv been lucky to have spoken to a couple of people so far and they've been really polite but then the conversation stops. I accept that there has to be some kind of mutual attraction and I know I'm not the best looking or most hung (was not blessed at all) ?? If I could have some advice on my profile, pictures and how to progress and explore then it would be greatly appreciated? I know cock pics aren't attractive and for some reason it took me ages to put one on my profile. I don't send them as haven't got the confidence. Also please don't think this is for attention. I'm honest and just looking for advice so I can actually chat and hopefully have some fun.
Thanks for reading ??"
Having a look at your profile, I'd say this:
Add a little on things you like other than the gym. It doesnt have to be long, keep it short and sweet.
Don't have a cock pic, if you're going to include your dick in a pick, it is better to have a full body. Give it some proper context.
Simple grammar and spelling check, e.g. your and you're etc.
Other than that the profile isn't too bad. When it comes to meets and getting on with people, well:
Find a club or two near you. Have a look on the forums if there are some parties that take your fancy and get in touch with the host(s) about going to the next one. Just simply state that you're new and looking to get out and meet people, but a bit nervous being new to it all - who wouldn't.
Try to think of this like dating, slightly different context, but it works for me. You are not going to float everyone's boat and they aren't all going to float yours. Once you accept that you'll be fine.
Manners make the man. Being polite and respectful to the people you meet and don't try to bullshit.
Do not make messaging women or couples your primary form of first contact on here. Either group will get a stupid amount of messages from would-be guys. Go to clubs, where they feel safe and just take it from there. You'll gradually build on it and people will start to recognise you and feel more comfortable with you.
Other than that, I have nothing else to say. Good luck on your adventures. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone. As the title states I'm new to the swinging scene. Never been to clubs, sex parties, threesomes etc. Everything has been one on one. Iv been lucky to have spoken to a couple of people so far and they've been really polite but then the conversation stops. I accept that there has to be some kind of mutual attraction and I know I'm not the best looking or most hung (was not blessed at all) ?? If I could have some advice on my profile, pictures and how to progress and explore then it would be greatly appreciated? I know cock pics aren't attractive and for some reason it took me ages to put one on my profile. I don't send them as haven't got the confidence. Also please don't think this is for attention. I'm honest and just looking for advice so I can actually chat and hopefully have some fun.
Thanks for reading ??
Having a look at your profile, I'd say this:
Add a little on things you like other than the gym. It doesnt have to be long, keep it short and sweet.
Don't have a cock pic, if you're going to include your dick in a pick, it is better to have a full body. Give it some proper context.
Simple grammar and spelling check, e.g. your and you're etc.
Other than that the profile isn't too bad. When it comes to meets and getting on with people, well:
Find a club or two near you. Have a look on the forums if there are some parties that take your fancy and get in touch with the host(s) about going to the next one. Just simply state that you're new and looking to get out and meet people, but a bit nervous being new to it all - who wouldn't.
Try to think of this like dating, slightly different context, but it works for me. You are not going to float everyone's boat and they aren't all going to float yours. Once you accept that you'll be fine.
Manners make the man. Being polite and respectful to the people you meet and don't try to bullshit.
Do not make messaging women or couples your primary form of first contact on here. Either group will get a stupid amount of messages from would-be guys. Go to clubs, where they feel safe and just take it from there. You'll gradually build on it and people will start to recognise you and feel more comfortable with you.
Other than that, I have nothing else to say. Good luck on your adventures."
really good advice here OP, your profile looks fine, you seem to have taken advice given, so sorry you thread was hi.. jacked by that idiotic troll. You seem to be a nice polite guy and I think you'll do well on here xx |
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"Well, I do get an awful amount of attention but am sure that people on this site also do; you need a lot of confidence to put yourself out here and "no second glance" women wouldn't necessarily have it.
The rant about women feeling like "queens" gives me the feeling that you've been on the receiving end of some rebuttal; I've been treated badly in 'real life' but don't rant about all men being bastards... "
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Op, you have a good profile and speak well.
The biggest issue you will have at first is getting to grips with the amount of timewasters and dreamers on the site.
Unfortunately you are also hidden amongst them.
Best thing you can do is get meet verified at a club or organised social.
Have fun.
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"Op, you have a good profile and speak well.
The biggest issue you will have at first is getting to grips with the amount of timewasters and dreamers on the site.
Unfortunately you are also hidden amongst them.
Best thing you can do is get meet verified at a club or organised social.
Have fun.
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I do need to go to clubs and am event. This is the thing I'm no time waster and nor will I be dishonest. Thank you for your comment. Hopefully I can just meet someone for a chat and get verified. Thank you |
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"I'll be preparing for my meet tomorrow with one of the sexiest women on fab, enjoy you're evening.... on a different note , did you know Tesco offer free eye tests ?"
Oops |
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By *ustme02Woman
over a year ago
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Welcome to fab and the forums. I've been here about 5 years and had about 100 meets so I have an idea of what works and what doesn't. Don't be negative - see that little green arrow? People can track what you say in forum posts and get an idea of your personality from them, e.g. A whinge, a joker, a firter, a clever sod etc. To a certain extent, 'be yourself' is good advice because the only way you're gonna stand out amongst all is other men (including non gym fit, middle aged bisexual men like me) is to be unique- be yourself. Public cock pics tend to be a no-no but it's your profile, why not? It's certainly different to many. Get yourself to a social which will be other swingers meeting up for a chat in a pub. No big deal and it gives you a chance to show your character. Your profile is a bit thin, it needs more substance. Tell people more about yourself as a person, tell people what you can offer not just what you want and please tell me how the fuck do I get a 6pack?
Hey thanks for the message. I am trying to be myself and I will add more info into my profile about myself personally and what I can offer. The public cock pic was only put as a user pic as I got advised to so for a couple of days to see what happens. I will change it to something nicer I promise.
Also to everyone I want to apologise as I didn't want this thread to turn nasty.
To get a 6 pack well unless your naturally ripped it's bloody hard work. 5-6 good meals a day, cardio and train hard lol"
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"Op, you have a good profile and speak well.
The biggest issue you will have at first is getting to grips with the amount of timewasters and dreamers on the site.
Unfortunately you are also hidden amongst them.
Best thing you can do is get meet verified at a club or organised social.
Have
I do need to go to clubs and am event. This is the thing I'm no time waster and nor will I be dishonest. Thank you for your comment. Hopefully I can just meet someone for a chat and get verified. Thank you"
Get down to xtasia your love it |
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"Well, I'm just waiting on his veri from his meet tomorrow with "one of the sexiest women on fab".
Strikes me he will say they dont believe in veries or summat like that when it doesnt appear lol.
As soon ad read that comment I just thought bullshit. I'm new myself about a month or so. No way would I go about things in that way and attitude. "
Looks like he figured out that he had pissed on his chips, he will be back but I doubt that he will post like that again lol |
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Hi. Im new also. Ive chatted to some lovely people, but ive been added to a groupchat for a m&g coming up. I think you should see is there one near you and consider going to it. Far less nerve wracking. No pressure to do anything. Just people meeting for a drink and a boogie and see what happens.x hope this helps.x |
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