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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gold member means nothing. Other than you support the site and that's it. It's not a magic key to the kingdom.
Get to socials and clubs, get verified increase your chances.
Have a little more to say in your profile would be a good start  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Change your expectations. There are way more guys on Fab than there are women. They can be as choosy as they like.
It's not luck that gets you meets here. It's saying to a woman 'why you should meet me instead of the next guy' via your profile and interactions on the site.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
You've been here a week OP which is no time at all - site membership doesn't guarantee instant meets you know.
You've not asked for profile advice so I can't give any - but a decent well written profile that tells people about you, what you're looking for and what you can offer along with a decent set of pics that show off your body and not your cock are good things to have.
Failing that get along to clubs/socials and maybe consider getting more active in the forums which is a great way of getting to know people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ignore the comments about patience being the key.
It's about creating opportunities for yourself, if your lazy amd expect it all to just happen for you then it won't.
You'll get out if this place what you put into it, so put the effort in and get the rewards out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Need the patient's of a Leopard on here, charm of a Casanova, wit of a comedian & profile that offers something different than standard smart piece sausage lol 
Or cld just go to a club, I hear odds are good there |
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You have one profile photo and your profile reads exactly like 99% of other single males on here. Write more about yourself and a few more pics.
You have only been on here a week, relax and chill.
Boo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore the comments about patience being the key.
It's about creating opportunities for yourself, if your lazy amd expect it all to just happen for you then it won't.
You'll get out if this place what you put into it, so put the effort in and get the rewards out "
well said a brain thinking man instead of a dick xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore the comments about patience being the key.
It's about creating opportunities for yourself, if your lazy amd expect it all to just happen for you then it won't.
You'll get out if this place what you put into it, so put the effort in and get the rewards out "
No matter how many opportunities you create if it takes a year it takes a year, you know it's hard work on here for single lads and without patience you may aswell leave, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore the comments about patience being the key.
It's about creating opportunities for yourself, if your lazy amd expect it all to just happen for you then it won't.
You'll get out if this place what you put into it, so put the effort in and get the rewards out
No matter how many opportunities you create if it takes a year it takes a year, you know it's hard work on here for single lads and without patience you may aswell leave, "
Except it shouldn't take a year if you have a decent profile, can hold intelligent conversation and have photos available to view.
It will take even less if guys got off their arses and went to socials amd clubs and actually interacted with the people they're trying to attract.
It's hard work on here because 99% of the guys doing the moaning are the same 99% of guys with shit profiles, no pics, incapable of starting a conversation which does it involve FAF or anything else.
Do you see threads from guys who actually do make an effort moaning they don't get success? No you don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore the comments about patience being the key.
It's about creating opportunities for yourself, if your lazy amd expect it all to just happen for you then it won't.
You'll get out if this place what you put into it, so put the effort in and get the rewards out
No matter how many opportunities you create if it takes a year it takes a year, you know it's hard work on here for single lads and without patience you may aswell leave,
Except it shouldn't take a year if you have a decent profile, can hold intelligent conversation and have photos available to view.
It will take even less if guys got off their arses and went to socials amd clubs and actually interacted with the people they're trying to attract.
It's hard work on here because 99% of the guys doing the moaning are the same 99% of guys with shit profiles, no pics, incapable of starting a conversation which does it involve FAF or anything else.
Do you see threads from guys who actually do make an effort moaning they don't get success? No you don't."
Stop talking about clubs and socials as we are talking about fabs, and yes I see guys moan who make an effort, if it was all about efforts everyone would be fucking but there not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore the comments about patience being the key.
It's about creating opportunities for yourself, if your lazy amd expect it all to just happen for you then it won't.
You'll get out if this place what you put into it, so put the effort in and get the rewards out
No matter how many opportunities you create if it takes a year it takes a year, you know it's hard work on here for single lads and without patience you may aswell leave,
Except it shouldn't take a year if you have a decent profile, can hold intelligent conversation and have photos available to view.
It will take even less if guys got off their arses and went to socials amd clubs and actually interacted with the people they're trying to attract.
It's hard work on here because 99% of the guys doing the moaning are the same 99% of guys with shit profiles, no pics, incapable of starting a conversation which does it involve FAF or anything else.
Do you see threads from guys who actually do make an effort moaning they don't get success? No you don't."
I've met guys with roughly about two lines on their profile. They could hold a good conversation and they had lots of patience with me.
Therefore I do believe having patience here is very much key. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore the comments about patience being the key.
It's about creating opportunities for yourself, if your lazy amd expect it all to just happen for you then it won't.
You'll get out if this place what you put into it, so put the effort in and get the rewards out
No matter how many opportunities you create if it takes a year it takes a year, you know it's hard work on here for single lads and without patience you may aswell leave,
Except it shouldn't take a year if you have a decent profile, can hold intelligent conversation and have photos available to view.
It will take even less if guys got off their arses and went to socials amd clubs and actually interacted with the people they're trying to attract.
It's hard work on here because 99% of the guys doing the moaning are the same 99% of guys with shit profiles, no pics, incapable of starting a conversation which does it involve FAF or anything else.
Do you see threads from guys who actually do make an effort moaning they don't get success? No you don't.
Stop talking about clubs and socials as we are talking about fabs, and yes I see guys moan who make an effort, if it was all about efforts everyone would be fucking but there not"
sorry but I disagree .. for a single guy as long as he can talk and present himself well then socials and clubs are the best way forward. Although in general getting meets any other way seems to have got harder on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore the comments about patience being the key.
It's about creating opportunities for yourself, if your lazy amd expect it all to just happen for you then it won't.
You'll get out if this place what you put into it, so put the effort in and get the rewards out
No matter how many opportunities you create if it takes a year it takes a year, you know it's hard work on here for single lads and without patience you may aswell leave,
Except it shouldn't take a year if you have a decent profile, can hold intelligent conversation and have photos available to view.
It will take even less if guys got off their arses and went to socials amd clubs and actually interacted with the people they're trying to attract.
It's hard work on here because 99% of the guys doing the moaning are the same 99% of guys with shit profiles, no pics, incapable of starting a conversation which does it involve FAF or anything else.
Do you see threads from guys who actually do make an effort moaning they don't get success? No you don't."
Absolutely spot on.. Amen brother! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore the comments about patience being the key.
It's about creating opportunities for yourself, if your lazy amd expect it all to just happen for you then it won't.
You'll get out if this place what you put into it, so put the effort in and get the rewards out
No matter how many opportunities you create if it takes a year it takes a year, you know it's hard work on here for single lads and without patience you may aswell leave,
Except it shouldn't take a year if you have a decent profile, can hold intelligent conversation and have photos available to view.
It will take even less if guys got off their arses and went to socials amd clubs and actually interacted with the people they're trying to attract.
It's hard work on here because 99% of the guys doing the moaning are the same 99% of guys with shit profiles, no pics, incapable of starting a conversation which does it involve FAF or anything else.
Do you see threads from guys who actually do make an effort moaning they don't get success? No you don't.
Stop talking about clubs and socials as we are talking about fabs, and yes I see guys moan who make an effort, if it was all about efforts everyone would be fucking but there not"
What do you think Fab is an extension of? The swinging scene. Despite the common misconception of this place, it's not actually a sex site! It's a swingers site, otherwise it would be FabSex. Com
You see successful guys mean about this place do you? Well you must be the only person who does because I hardly ever see them moan, their too busy enjoying the rewards for their efforts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What were your expectations of the site?
Were you of the belief that it was simply a matter of creating a profile and waiting for the offers to come rolling in?
Single guys massively outnumber single ladies and couples on fab, so you need to stand out and be pro-active.
Most single guys wait around 6 months to get their first meet - at least that was the case when I joined 4 years ago. It may be even longer now.
You've been here just one week and are already complaining.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I just love the self affirmation on here...
" I am a good member and good looking"...
Really... and congratulations on paying fees 
BTW I have a body like a melted welly and face like a ruptured spleen...
But complaining about lack of success... it's not a competition |
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"I'm a gold member, verified and good looking but no luck so far
Any tips on a better success rate? Am I missing something? "
I hear sending as many cock picture to as many people as you can works well. It's a numbers game you see! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a gold member, verified and good looking but no luck so far
Any tips on a better success rate? Am I missing something? "
we get few emails but it never goes any further  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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General rule of thumb when you're trying to sell something (in this case its yourself)
Use as little words as you can for maximum impact.
Humour and lightheartedness wins over good looks 900000000% of the time. |
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By *oul BrothaMan
over a year ago
A Galaxy far far away |
"General rule of thumb when you're trying to sell something (in this case its yourself)
Use as little words as you can for maximum impact.
Humour and lightheartedness wins over good looks 900000000% of the time. "
Maybe I need to cut my profile down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"General rule of thumb when you're trying to sell something (in this case its yourself)
Use as little words as you can for maximum impact.
Humour and lightheartedness wins over good looks 900000000% of the time.
Maybe I need to cut my profile down."
Try it, like if you can hold a good conversation then everything on your profile at the moment will come through anyway when you start messaging someone.
If you can get the same message across from a few lines instead of a few paragraphs it makes so much more sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You say you're good looking. Others may not find you as attractive as you think you are.
If that body in the pic is yours it will appeal to some people. Others will be put off.
Take some more pictures so the ladies you message can see you haven't just grabbed a pic from the net.
Gold membership gives you the chance to upload loads of pictures and go on more cams. It doesn't impress anyone. It just gives you more things to do while you're being patient.
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
Ive been hear 9 Months and still havount met anyone.
Just be pashount. And if you look at the site as a social media site and not a swinging site it turns in to a rother good site 
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I'm one of those that's in agreement about clubs/socials.
I'll give you the reason.
As a single woman, who is far weaker and smaller than most men, I find it safer meeting at a club or social. A few experiences I've had when meeting have scared me, I can't lie about that.
It takes chatting to someone for a while, or noticing their forum interaction for me to guage whether I'll feel comfortable to meet alone.
If you meet someone at a club/social the pressure is lifted, expectations are less and I for 1 are far more confident as I'm not concerned about my safety being so much of an issue. |
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"I'm a gold member, verified and good looking but no luck so far
Any tips on a better success rate? Am I missing something? "
Welcome to the forums.
You ain't got a bicep (left) like mine so I don't know really. Get pumping.... |
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"Good looking? Show off. "
He's got a good body, toned and such but.....it's not enough. It's never just one thing people look for, it's a combination of several factors and these differ for everyone. The OPs been here a week and it's a learning curve. Early days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm surprised op isn't unlos already after this thread "
There's no need for him to go UNLOS. He's been given some sound advice.
If he chooses to take it, then he should prosper, if he chooses to ignore it? Well, we can all say we told you so when he creates another thread in 6 months time. If indeed he hasn't gone UNLOS |
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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago
Barbados |
Phrases such as "I am attractive" or "give me a try, I guarantee you'll like it". Just annoy me. How do you know what I'm looking for? How do you know if I find you attractive? Guarantee? How does that work then? Do I get my money back if I don't like you? Does a service person come out and fix you if I think you are defective?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Phrases such as "I am attractive" or "give me a try, I guarantee you'll like it". Just annoy me. How do you know what I'm looking for? How do you know if I find you attractive? Guarantee? How does that work then? Do I get my money back if I don't like you? Does a service person come out and fix you if I think you are defective?
-Matt"
The only guarantee I give out is that I turn up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Phrases such as "I am attractive" or "give me a try, I guarantee you'll like it". Just annoy me. How do you know what I'm looking for? How do you know if I find you attractive? Guarantee? How does that work then? Do I get my money back if I don't like you? Does a service person come out and fix you if I think you are defective?
-Matt
The only guarantee I give out is that I turn up! "
to some not all yes not all but most i guess, you come across as so fecking wonderful and good looking.. they might wonder well why be on here if you have so much success, or indeed start the thread think???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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one does does need patience when looking for a truly stunning women with the right size titties, stunning looks, will do anything you say, aged under 35, blond hair and her fanny must not be like a welly top |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"Ignore the comments about patience being the key.
It's about creating opportunities for yourself, if your lazy amd expect it all to just happen for you then it won't.
You'll get out if this place what you put into it, so put the effort in and get the rewards out
No matter how many opportunities you create if it takes a year it takes a year, you know it's hard work on here for single lads and without patience you may aswell leave,
Except it shouldn't take a year if you have a decent profile, can hold intelligent conversation and have photos available to view.
It will take even less if guys got off their arses and went to socials amd clubs and actually interacted with the people they're trying to attract.
It's hard work on here because 99% of the guys doing the moaning are the same 99% of guys with shit profiles, no pics, incapable of starting a conversation which does it involve FAF or anything else.
Do you see threads from guys who actually do make an effort moaning they don't get success? No you don't.
Stop talking about clubs and socials as we are talking about fabs, and yes I see guys moan who make an effort, if it was all about efforts everyone would be fucking but there not"
If your aim is to get a shag or better yet just to make some new friends then who cares whether they come from cyberspace or meat-space?
In fact, if you're gonna have sex then you will need to come into physical contact with a real living breathing person.
I know a place where you can find loads of those... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good looking? Show off.
He's got a good body, toned and such but.....it's not enough. It's never just one thing people look for, it's a combination of several factors and these differ for everyone. The OPs been here a week and it's a learning curve. Early days. "
Your right. I'm a fucking Adonis, I got a wink last week and thought it was awesome. Op needs some patience. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
Firstly; Being negative isn't an attractive trait, whoever it's coming from.
I don't think you particularly need patience or whatever, and it isn't hard to get people to meet you (unless you have very specific....er...requests). The only rule here, as in life is "Don't be a dickhead" - you will find that there are peple off all shapes and sizes who have a good time here, and mostly, those who don't are people who whine. |
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"Firstly; Being negative isn't an attractive trait, whoever it's coming from.
I don't think you particularly need patience or whatever, and it isn't hard to get people to meet you (unless you have very specific....er...requests). The only rule here, as in life is "Don't be a dickhead" - you will find that there are peple off all shapes and sizes who have a good time here, and mostly, those who don't are people who whine. "
Yeh, this.
Women don't see posts like this and go "holy shit yeh you are really hot better get on that D".  |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
I would say I think it is a bit of going to socials and clubs, posting on forums, jumping in chat and some luck at times.
For example I have had a meet where someone I know was looking m, they weren't on hotlist, I checked out who is meeting, came across them. We had met before at a social and we ended up meeting for a play
Also for me whilst I don't always ask people to go to play straight away, I do ask and small chat and take it from there |
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"I'm a gold member, verified and good looking but no luck so far
Any tips on a better success rate? Am I missing something? "
As longstanding swingers who have a modicum of success, I can hand on heart tell you there are three ways of being a lot more successful on here...
1. Go to socials.
2. Go to socials.
3. Go.... seriously... are you going to make me type it again?
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I find there is no real difference between silver and gold unless you use chat rooms and cam. With silver you get all the same benefits except what I said above but you get double the time as a member |
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