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Always getting rejected.. Its not like I am being pushy. I know I don't like look like Tom hardy. People say it's its your messages or your profile.
No its the fact I do not fit the profile of a male model just the average guy. I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
So I know now it's impossible to get when a meet with any one here.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Always getting rejected.. Its not like I am being pushy. I know I don't like look like Tom hardy. People say it's its your messages or your profile.
No its the fact I do not fit the profile of a male model just the average guy. I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
So I know now it's impossible to get when a meet with any one here.
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it's not you just have to be a bit more pro-active get yourself to some socials or clubs |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Always getting rejected.. Its not like I am being pushy. I know I don't like look like Tom hardy. People say it's its your messages or your profile.
No its the fact I do not fit the profile of a male model just the average guy. I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
So I know now it's impossible to get when a meet with any one here.
it's not you just have to be a bit more pro-active get yourself to some socials or clubs"
and you aren't helpful yourself by referring to some of the women on here as 'old grotbag types', not exactly endearing is it? |
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"... I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the 'OLD GROTBAG' types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
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You're quite the charmer aren't you?  |
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and you aren't helpful yourself by referring to some of the women on here as 'old grotbag types', not exactly endearing is it?
its frustration humor i never meant it that way. and also its like i am just always looking for sex either i am easy going.
i was just using this as an example on how i feel that i am not fitting into womens taste of men. always getting the "not my type" |
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"Always getting rejected.. Its not like I am being pushy. I know I don't like look like Tom hardy. People say it's its your messages or your profile.
No its the fact I do not fit the profile of a male model just the average guy. I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
So I know now it's impossible to get when a meet with any one here.
it's not you just have to be a bit more pro-active get yourself to some socials or clubsand you aren't helpful yourself by referring to some of the women on here as 'old grotbag types', not exactly endearing is it?"
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Pick someone you want to meet. Meet them also halfway by being someone they want to meet as per their profile.
Send a nice tailored message then delete it from your sent box.
Don't go all out. Have patience as Shag will tell you shortly.
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It's not really about looks on here. There is a high percentage of men on here so it's about standing out amongst the others. If you are polite, respectful, witty, show personality etc in your messages then you may just be successful with ladies but the 'grot bag' comment is awful.
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over a year ago
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"Always getting rejected.. Its not like I am being pushy. I know I don't like look like Tom hardy. People say it's its your messages or your profile.
No its the fact I do not fit the profile of a male model just the average guy. I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
So I know now it's impossible to get when a meet with any one here.
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i'm in the same boat so your not the only one  |
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By *awty40_xxWoman
over a year ago
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"and you aren't helpful yourself by referring to some of the women on here as 'old grotbag types', not exactly endearing is it?
its frustration humor i never meant it that way. and also its like i am just always looking for sex either i am easy going.
i was just using this as an example on how i feel that i am not fitting into womens taste of men. always getting the "not my type" "
Well even "old grotbags types" are allowed to have a type and be picky .. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Pick someone you want to meet. Meet them also halfway by being someone they want to meet as per their profile.
Send a nice tailored message then delete it from your sent box.
Don't go all out. Have patience as Shag will tell you shortly.
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yes, where is he lurking today?! |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"Always getting rejected.. Its not like I am being pushy. I know I don't like look like Tom hardy. People say it's its your messages or your profile.
No its the fact I do not fit the profile of a male model just the average guy. I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
So I know now it's impossible to get when a meet with any one here.
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You've only been here six weeks for gawd's sake.
Besides the grotbag comment, the comment about messaging all sorts leaps out a mile. It suggests you're sending a lot of messages.
I don't really know why I'm offering advice given the tone of the original message, but basically - stop messaging anyone you'd like to get dirty with. Seriously, stop!
You know what works - becoming a member of the community on here. Posting about all sorts and being interesting, helpful, wise and funny is more likely to get you some fun than firing off messages to women right left and centre. In a nutshell - take your time and stop thinking about sex!
Up to you whether you have the patience to try it  .
Remember - six weeks is nothing at all  |
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"Pick someone you want to meet. Meet them also halfway by being someone they want to meet as per their profile.
Send a nice tailored message then delete it from your sent box.
Don't go all out. Have patience as Shag will tell you shortly.
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i have tried this..and messages either get deleted or not my type. so not sure what else i can write thats going to go against my nature as a person. |
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"Pick someone you want to meet. Meet them also halfway by being someone they want to meet as per their profile.
Send a nice tailored message then delete it from your sent box.
Don't go all out. Have patience as Shag will tell you shortly.
i have tried this..and messages either get deleted or not my type. so not sure what else i can write thats going to go against my nature as a person. "
Then it's a simple numbers game. Be true to yourself don't compromise your values and be patient.
There is somebody for everyone on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would consider myself just one of many faces in the crowd but sometimes things are slow on here it's just the way the cookie crumbles. Today however is not that day for me as I've had two couples message me first which is always surprising but pleasant. Just have to be yourself in your bio and express your wants and intentions as well as showing that you understand if for example a couple took an interest you would not only be focusing on your own needs. |
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Mate it's of no consequence what you write. DO NOT BEAT yourself up about it, sick of men pecking their own heads as to why you can't get meets. You will have as much chance as everyone else on here and it won't have anything to do with your looks, cock, body, manner, personality. I am sure you are a great guy with lots to give so stop putting yourself down.
If someone has intentions to meet then they will. Don't listen to some people on the forums as they will feed into your insecurity and make you feel even worse. Do your thing and it will happen pal. |
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"with the Grotbags comment i was thinking perhaps you just had a fetish for the character from the children's tv show with Emu!  "
Don't get me started on emu had a massive crush on that bird.
But really to everone I am really sorry it's been a hard past few weeks my emotions have been like a roller-coaster.. I am stuck in this house only visiting town for shopping.
The Grotbags was out of order and was meant to me a sarcastic comment.
And down to how I feel about myself being unattractive to any woman. But as I say my emotions are all over the place at the moment.. I want to go to the club but can't at the moment. So I am not out for a quick jump in the sack because I can't have any sex at the moment in my condition so was just happy to meet for social nothing more. |
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"OP can I ask what was the accident?"
Car accident... Well i was hit by a car i was on a scooter going into the A38 from a slip road swapping with a white car who was going into the slip lane.. I was going 40mph but there was a car behind the white car that I could not see and he didn't have his eyes on the road and hit me at 70mph.. Throwing me onto his bonnet and ended up with burns and cuts to my hand and 3 fractured vertebrae in my spine. |
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"OP can I ask what was the accident?
Car accident... Well i was hit by a car i was on a scooter going into the A38 from a slip road swapping with a white car who was going into the slip lane.. I was going 40mph but there was a car behind the white car that I could not see and he didn't have his eyes on the road and hit me at 70mph.. Throwing me onto his bonnet and ended up with burns and cuts to my hand and 3 fractured vertebrae in my spine."
OUCH!!!! |
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"Always getting rejected.. Its not like I am being pushy. I know I don't like look like Tom hardy. People say it's its your messages or your profile.
No its the fact I do not fit the profile of a male model just the average guy. I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
So I know now it's impossible to get when a meet with any one here.
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I think you have shown your true colours |
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over a year ago
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I like Mr Average, I don't go for the pretty model types. I'm sure many other women are the same but I know one thing we all go for, it's a positive upbeat attitude. |
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OUCH!!!! "
Yep got a brace that I have to wear every day for a few more weeks, I have to wait in for home care to help me shower in the morning, I have my meds and stuck in most days on my own just going into town every day to keep busy and do a little shopping. Lucky I live near town and speaking of luck.. I am lucky to be alive or not paralysed as many people tell me. |
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"I like Mr Average, I don't go for the pretty model types. I'm sure many other women are the same but I know one thing we all go for, it's a positive upbeat attitude."
I am trying hard on the upbeat attitude but it's not easy. |
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over a year ago
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"I like Mr Average, I don't go for the pretty model types. I'm sure many other women are the same but I know one thing we all go for, it's a positive upbeat attitude.
I am trying hard on the upbeat attitude but it's not easy. "
You are either a positive person or you're not. If you're finding it difficult then I'm guessing you're a glass half empty type of guy. Maybe try getting out to some organised socials, meet like minded people in person? |
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OUCH!!!!
Yep got a brace that I have to wear every day for a few more weeks, I have to wait in for home care to help me shower in the morning, I have my meds and stuck in most days on my own just going into town every day to keep busy and do a little shopping. Lucky I live near town and speaking of luck.. I am lucky to be alive or not paralysed as many people tell me. "
Keep positive and you will get there OP. |
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"I like Mr Average, I don't go for the pretty model types. I'm sure many other women are the same but I know one thing we all go for, it's a positive upbeat attitude.
I am trying hard on the upbeat attitude but it's not easy.
You are either a positive person or you're not. If you're finding it difficult then I'm guessing you're a glass half empty type of guy. Maybe try getting out to some organised socials, meet like minded people in person?"
I will plan to visit a club more often when my brace is off. At the moment don't feel right going to a club with a brace and walking stick.. Although there is the medical room at the attic in Derby |
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"I like Mr Average, I don't go for the pretty model types. I'm sure many other women are the same but I know one thing we all go for, it's a positive upbeat attitude.
I am trying hard on the upbeat attitude but it's not easy.
You are either a positive person or you're not. If you're finding it difficult then I'm guessing you're a glass half empty type of guy. Maybe try getting out to some organised socials, meet like minded people in person?
I will plan to visit a club more often when my brace is off. At the moment don't feel right going to a club with a brace and walking stick.. Although there is the medical room at the attic in Derby "
Most social meets are in local pubs or similar. Check out the meets and events section. |
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"I like Mr Average, I don't go for the pretty model types. I'm sure many other women are the same but I know one thing we all go for, it's a positive upbeat attitude.
I am trying hard on the upbeat attitude but it's not easy.
You are either a positive person or you're not. If you're finding it difficult then I'm guessing you're a glass half empty type of guy. Maybe try getting out to some organised socials, meet like minded people in person?
I will plan to visit a club more often when my brace is off. At the moment don't feel right going to a club with a brace and walking stick.. Although there is the medical room at the attic in Derby
Most social meets are in local pubs or similar. Check out the meets and events section."
Will do when this brace is off I was looking before the accident and with having a bike I could go out of Derby.. But now I can't but I do look and think this is how i ended up getting frustrated. |
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"OP can I ask what was the accident?
Car accident... Well i was hit by a car i was on a scooter going into the A38 from a slip road swapping with a white car who was going into the slip lane.. I was going 40mph but there was a car behind the white car that I could not see and he didn't have his eyes on the road and hit me at 70mph.. Throwing me onto his bonnet and ended up with burns and cuts to my hand and 3 fractured vertebrae in my spine.
OUCH!!!! "
OUCH Indeed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheeky bugger there's nothing wrong with us old grotbag type's  "
Hardly!! I think if grotbags looked like you there would be a massive demand to reintroduce the show!! |
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over a year ago
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"Always getting rejected.. Its not like I am being pushy. I know I don't like look like Tom hardy. People say it's its your messages or your profile.
No its the fact I do not fit the profile of a male model just the average guy. I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
So I know now it's impossible to get when a meet with any one here.
i'm in the same boat so your not the only one "
since trying 4 years ago off and on |
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"Cheeky bugger there's nothing wrong with us old grotbag type's
Hardly!! I think if grotbags looked like you there would be a massive demand to reintroduce the show!! "
You haven't seen my mugshot! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go to clubs go to socials. I have played with 2 ladies from here that just did not reply to messages.its just one of those things. It's all in the face to face interaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I thought some women liked being treated badly, insulted etc...
Maybe the op should tailor his messages to them. Who could resist the following.
"Hey grotbags you ugly old troll, I'd fuck you, I'm desperate."
Always remember a friend of mine trying to pull a bar maid. He'd been trying all night, end of her shift she said he was a good looking bloke, but that I made her laugh, despite being pig ugly, she'd choose me over him every time.
Still not sure if it was a compliment or an insult, 20 years later. |
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"Always getting rejected.. Its not like I am being pushy. I know I don't like look like Tom hardy. People say it's its your messages or your profile.
No its the fact I do not fit the profile of a male model just the average guy. I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
So I know now it's impossible to get when a meet with any one here.
i'm in the same boat so your not the only one since trying 4 years ago off and on"
I tried to give you advice  |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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Get yourself to a club and or social and also don't push the sex thing
For me I had a busy end of year and beginning of this year but I haven't had it for a couple of months, mainly as I haven't reached out to people to ask if they want to meet also I have been down in London a lot |
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By *edzyWoman
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
Well...aside from the grot bag comment obviously, you have pics that show your face which is great - but you are not smiling in any of them - it either suggests you have bad teeth or are not a happy person |
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By *edzyWoman
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"Well...aside from the grot bag comment obviously, you have pics that show your face which is great - but you are not smiling in any of them - it either suggests you have bad teeth or are not a happy person "
Oh - and the shy thing - fab is a hard place for shy people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe he's not happy because he's not getting any sex. Blue balls are no fun.
I'd say he's better looking than most men on here, though a smile and a sense of humour goes a long way. |
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By *abfemaleWoman
over a year ago
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you've only been on here for 6 weeks !! why do some people expect that being on the site 5 minutes and getting laid immediately is connected?? have patience young man, for every woman on here there are hundreds of men and we choose who we chat too and in my case I can't stand a whinger about why can't I meet someone- after 6 weeks for goodness sake |
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"Maybe he's not happy because he's not getting any sex. Blue balls are no fun.
I'd say he's better looking than most men on here, though a smile and a sense of humour goes a long way."
Wanking is the answer |
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I know that girls on the site have a difficult time getting through all the messages they receive, so I am never surprised if I don't get a response.
As a few people have mentioned, going to a few clubs would give you the opportunity to meet a few people and get some verifications. I have been lucky to meet some lovely people at my local club Cupids!
Plus I have only recently found out that you can ghost view people, so you could be getting checked out and not even know it. |
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"I know that girls on the site have a difficult time getting through all the messages they receive, so I am never surprised if I don't get a response.
As a few people have mentioned, going to a few clubs would give you the opportunity to meet a few people and get some verifications. I have been lucky to meet some lovely people at my local club Cupids!
Plus I have only recently found out that you can ghost view people, so you could be checked out and not even know it. "
I doubt that is happening |
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"I know that girls on the site have a difficult time getting through all the messages they receive, so I am never surprised if I don't get a response.
As a few people have mentioned, going to a few clubs would give you the opportunity to meet a few people and get some verifications. I have been lucky to meet some lovely people at my local club Cupids!
Plus I have only recently found out that you can ghost view people, so you could be checked out and not even know it.
I doubt that is happening "
Yes you can hide the fact you've looked at people's profiles |
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"I know that girls on the site have a difficult time getting through all the messages they receive, so I am never surprised if I don't get a response.
As a few people have mentioned, going to a few clubs would give you the opportunity to meet a few people and get some verifications. I have been lucky to meet some lovely people at my local club Cupids!
Plus I have only recently found out that you can ghost view people, so you could be checked out and not even know it.
I doubt that is happening
Yes you can hide the fact you've looked at people's profiles "
I meant I doubt women are doing that in this case. Lots if lovely eye candy in other profiles - harsh but, true |
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"Always getting rejected.. Its not like I am being pushy. I know I don't like look like Tom hardy. People say it's its your messages or your profile.
No its the fact I do not fit the profile of a male model just the average guy. I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
So I know now it's impossible to get when a meet with any one here.
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Really and calling the more mature woman old grotbags will help ? |
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"Always getting rejected.. Its not like I am being pushy. I know I don't like look like Tom hardy. People say it's its your messages or your profile.
No its the fact I do not fit the profile of a male model just the average guy. I have tried this with all types of women from the young and good looking and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across.
So I know now it's impossible to get when a meet with any one here.
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Those grit bags are fussy fuckers ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get much responses either but you win some you lose some.. don't be hung up on it and calling people grotbags... erm don't even know what to say to that... |
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"and to the old grotbag types and still get the same reply no matter how nice or charming I come across."
Calling people grotbags doesn't really fit with "nice or charming".
Your post is saying that you'd meet anyone just for the sake of a meet, which is far from sexy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and you aren't helpful yourself by referring to some of the women on here as 'old grotbag types', not exactly endearing is it?
its frustration humor i never meant it that way. and also its like i am just always looking for sex either i am easy going.
i was just using this as an example on how i feel that i am not fitting into womens taste of men. always getting the "not my type" "
Nobody is everyone's type....but everyone is somebody's type!
Just remember that. On the surface I'm a pretty average looking guy...a bit on the older side. Not as "gym fit" as I would like to be. Going grey, loosing my hair....basically nothing going for me....and yet? This is my "came back ant taking it quietly" profile. But not short of success. My previous profile would have scared you, when I was trying.
So you need to look at your approach. What are you doing to get out there and get noticed....sitting behind your keyboard clearly isn't working. Take the advice...go to clubs/socials/parties(or organise your own). Make an effort dude! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wasn't 'Grotbags' one of those goblin bankers in Harry Potter? .... see I'm witty and there's no queue of women filling my mailbox .....
That almost qualifies as a euphemism .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not really about looks on here. There is a high percentage of men on here so it's about standing out amongst the others. If you are polite, respectful, witty, show personality etc in your messages then you may just be successful with ladies but the 'grot bag' comment is awful.
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A nice measured reply... hopefully OP will take it on board... I did hear earlier Rome wasn't built in a day but hey who the fuck knows about shit like that lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meeting on this site is a hit or miss situation I have been on this site for three months now haven't had alot of meets but the ones o have had are amazing people. Just don't give up on it |
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Well come on! Grotbags was complimentry to some.They are rough as fuck and still giving it the diva demands on their profile. Its because the men to women ratio is about 100 to 1. So some women will feel they are VIP now and post things like "579 unread messaaged bulk deleted OMG!"
I think a lot of women are soley on fab for the ego boost only but like the other gentleman said its a numbers game so its just a matter of time.
I did love the way loads of men jumped to have a dig with the "charmer" and "not very nice to women" comments. They are no doubt the same ones pleading and kissing arse in the cam rooms to see a glimpse of tit. |
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"Well come on! Grotbags was complimentry to some.They are rough as fuck and still giving it the diva demands on their profile. Its because the men to women ratio is about 100 to 1. So some women will feel they are VIP now and post things like "579 unread messaaged bulk deleted OMG!"
I think a lot of women are soley on fab for the ego boost only but like the other gentleman said its a numbers game so its just a matter of time.
I did love the way loads of men jumped to have a dig with the "charmer" and "not very nice to women" comments. They are no doubt the same ones pleading and kissing arse in the cam rooms to see a glimpse of tit."
I love my arse being kissed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read their profile. I cannot stress that enough, constantly get "love your profile" but two messages later its apparent they have seen a display pic and nothing more. If you don't make the effort to read the profile dont expect them to make the effort to reply |
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