We seem to not get meets as we are soft swing and when mention it people stop talking or block us....is there a stigma with soft swing ?
We have been married 26 years and looking for couple meets with no sex but plenty of everything else. Do any other couples get the same treatment ? |
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"We seem to not get meets as we are soft swing and when mention it people stop talking or block us....is there a stigma with soft swing ?
We have been married 26 years and looking for couple meets with no sex but plenty of everything else. Do any other couples get the same treatment ? "
There isn't a stigma but there's no point people meeting you if they want full sex. We find that fewer people want to meet us because we're soft swing but we accept that. |
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over a year ago
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I happily do soft swing threesomes with couples where the female is bi. Pity you are so far away. I've seen your pics so the two of you could have me anytime  |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
You do what you want. If soft swing is your thing then make it clear to those who contact you and if they don't want to take it further then so be it. Do not, ever feel pressured into doing something you feel uncomfortable about or will regret later. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You do what you want. If soft swing is your thing then make it clear to those who contact you and if they don't want to take it further then so be it. Do not, ever feel pressured into doing something you feel uncomfortable about or will regret later."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are soft swing and it clearly says so more than once in our profile and also that were both straight but couples still ask if im bi or do we full swap lol its like can you not read but we always tell them straight away then if there not happy not wasn't each others time x Andrea |
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We like meeting bi wife couples, so the girls can play as the guys watch, and then they join in for soft swap fun before fucking our own partner whilst watching the other couple and being watched.
Lots of fun all together in reaching distance. |
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over a year ago
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We do both but most of our meets have been soft swap, i like the bi female play some times the guys just watch but I enjoy every one playing together and then sex with my own partner. I don't rule out full swap we just go with the flow of the night.  |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"I happily do soft swing threesomes with couples where the female is bi. Pity you are so far away. I've seen your pics so the two of you could have me anytime "
I realise this will sound completely daft (as i genuinely don't know), but what is a soft swing meet between two women? And how is is that different from a full play meet between 2 women? |
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By *AA123Couple
over a year ago
Lichfield |
"I happily do soft swing threesomes with couples where the female is bi. Pity you are so far away. I've seen your pics so the two of you could have me anytime
I realise this will sound completely daft (as i genuinely don't know), but what is a soft swing meet between two women? And how is is that different from a full play meet between 2 women?"
Good question. I'm not sure either. |
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It's like anything else unfortunately. The more limits you put on in terms of who you meet, style of meet etc, the more you restrict the pool of potential matches. That being said, we have played soft before and loved it. |
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Hi been here 5yrs have always been and cant see us not being softswing. Have met fullswap and softswap never to our knowledge disappointed. Yes quite a few seem to discount softswing thankfully as if they met thinking we'd change they would be disappointed & we'd feel awlful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't think there is any stigma attached to soft swing; plenty of people like that. We only want a full swap and say so on our profile so that couples don't waste their time writing to us
- Mrs. J - |
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There's a lot to be said for soft fun and it can be hugely erotic. It's perfectly possibly to have a lot of fun that way and save the rest for your own partner. We've done exactly that in the past and would do again. |
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soft swap hasn't caused us any problems
like previous messages it can be very erotic and even more fun
one of the great things about this life style is that we all like different things
all lovely people going at their own pace
happy swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we like a couple/female we wouldn't be put off by soft swing. We do both and always respect others wishes. One of our fav ladies is soft swing only and we are looking forward to our next meet as she's very sexy,
Mrs xx |
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We have had just as much fun with soft swap as with full swap.....the main thing is that everyone is happy and feels comfortable.J much more prefers
the sexy build up,kissing,stroking,wanking sucking....loves soft swap with her being able to enjoy another lady with the guys joining in but knowing that she's not going to get one from behind !! |
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Never been an issue for us, if it's what you are comfortable with op then stick with it, you might find one day you want to go further but that's your decision you shouldn't feel you have to change to get a meet.  |
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we do soft swap enjoy club meets & hot tubs lol both get compliments as well if someone doesnt like us they can jog on its your body dont let anyone force you into anything you dont want to do sandy paul xx |
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"we do soft swap enjoy club meets & hot tubs lol both get compliments as well if someone doesnt like us they can jog on its your body dont let anyone force you into anything you dont want to do sandy paul xx"
Yep. |
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over a year ago
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"We like meeting bi wife couples, so the girls can play as the guys watch, and then they join in for soft swap fun before fucking our own partner whilst watching the other couple and being watched.
Lots of fun all together in reaching distance. "
Very very similar to ourselves x |
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over a year ago
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"We do both but most of our meets have been soft swap, i like the bi female play some times the guys just watch but I enjoy every one playing together and then sex with my own partner. I don't rule out full swap we just go with the flow of the night. "
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over a year ago
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"We seem to not get meets as we are soft swing and when mention it people stop talking or block us....is there a stigma with soft swing ?
We have been married 26 years and looking for couple meets with no sex but plenty of everything else. Do any other couples get the same treatment ? "
i love soft swing and adore the plain topped stockings you wear , very sexy |
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"We seem to not get meets as we are soft swing and when mention it people stop talking or block us....is there a stigma with soft swing ?
We have been married 26 years and looking for couple meets with no sex but plenty of everything else. Do any other couples get the same treatment ? "
Everyone is different so the important thing is to be true to oneselves and only indulge in what makes you both happy.
My GF is new to swinging and much more nervous about meeting couples than single guys.
I've been there and done it all so I'm happy to go at a pace that suits her. To date that has meant all our experiences with couples has been of the softswing variety which is still deliciously naughty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm going to show just how naive I am but how exactly is soft swing defined when used on this site?
As with anything though, if you place restrictions then it's going to reduce the pool of potential meets. But if you're reducing it to people who want the same thing then that's a good thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm going to show just how naive I am but how exactly is soft swing defined when used on this site?
As with anything though, if you place restrictions then it's going to reduce the pool of potential meets. But if you're reducing it to people who want the same thing then that's a good thing "
When soft swing was explained to us, way before this site existed, it was explained that other than male/female penetration, anything goes.
But people have different boundaries. So yes we enjoy soft swap, the difficulty comes in sorting out those boundaries. |
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"I'm going to show just how naive I am but how exactly is soft swing defined when used on this site?
As with anything though, if you place restrictions then it's going to reduce the pool of potential meets. But if you're reducing it to people who want the same thing then that's a good thing "
I think the most important definition is the one agreed between the people meeting each other.
I couldn't agree more with your comments on restrictions, wish more people understood that it only limits your options to those you actually want. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"I'm going to show just how naive I am but how exactly is soft swing defined when used on this site?
As with anything though, if you place restrictions then it's going to reduce the pool of potential meets. But if you're reducing it to people who want the same thing then that's a good thing "
We wouldn't call it restrictions more like it is what we are into. We only play with people when all have that chemistry and agree with each others boundaries. We have played with full swap couples and some have even told us its the best play they've had due to soft swap. We are not in this world to attract everyone only the folk who have the same outlook on life. Everyone cant get on with everyone. We believe a profile should be written not just to tice everyone but an honest few words about who you are and what you look for |
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"I'm going to show just how naive I am but how exactly is soft swing defined when used on this site?
As with anything though, if you place restrictions then it's going to reduce the pool of potential meets. But if you're reducing it to people who want the same thing then that's a good thing
We wouldn't call it restrictions more like it is what we are into. We only play with people when all have that chemistry and agree with each others boundaries. We have played with full swap couples and some have even told us its the best play they've had due to soft swap. We are not in this world to attract everyone only the folk who have the same outlook on life. Everyone cant get on with everyone. We believe a profile should be written not just to tice everyone but an honest few words about who you are and what you look for "
If not restrictions then boundaries or limits maybe. Sorry I tend to slip into kink terminology as that's where my interests lie. I'm fairly forthright and will say I'm happy to do x, y and z but a, b and c are off the table. I'm probably out of place here but sexual play is off the table for me for now unless I meet someone with the right chemistry, just as an example. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm going to show just how naive I am but how exactly is soft swing defined when used on this site?
As with anything though, if you place restrictions then it's going to reduce the pool of potential meets. But if you're reducing it to people who want the same thing then that's a good thing
We wouldn't call it restrictions more like it is what we are into. We only play with people when all have that chemistry and agree with each others boundaries. We have played with full swap couples and some have even told us its the best play they've had due to soft swap. We are not in this world to attract everyone only the folk who have the same outlook on life. Everyone cant get on with everyone. We believe a profile should be written not just to tice everyone but an honest few words about who you are and what you look for
If not restrictions then boundaries or limits maybe. Sorry I tend to slip into kink terminology as that's where my interests lie. I'm fairly forthright and will say I'm happy to do x, y and z but a, b and c are off the table. I'm probably out of place here but sexual play is off the table for me for now unless I meet someone with the right chemistry, just as an example. "
That's what is good about Fab, a wide and varied mix of people. We get our fair share of messages from folk who think we are compatible, oh yea and from some who do not match our profile, suppose they are the ones who cant read or tend not to read at all  |
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