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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don't seem to be having much luck, I'm bi, meeting guys is easy, meeting ladies or couples near on impossible.
Any tips would be grateful, I'm polite always messaging, they get deleted, no reply which says to me they are not worth meeting anyway as very rude not to reply?!
Thanks Steve |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not rude, the FAQs say no reply = no interest."
Ok I didn't realise this was stated, but being human, I still find it rude, I'd prefer for someone to say no thanks but that's me. |
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"I don't seem to be having much luck, I'm bi, meeting guys is easy, meeting ladies or couples near on impossible.
Any tips would be grateful, I'm polite always messaging, they get deleted, no reply which says to me they are not worth meeting anyway as very rude not to reply?!
Thanks Steve"
It's basically the same for every guy on here mate. We see women we really like the pics of and we match have everything they are looking for so we write out thoughtful, polite and individual messages introducing ourselves.....read,deleted.
I've stopped bothering now, I just come on here to read the forums and don't expect a lot more than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't seem to be having much luck, I'm bi, meeting guys is easy, meeting ladies or couples near on impossible.
Any tips would be grateful, I'm polite always messaging, they get deleted, no reply which says to me they are not worth meeting anyway as very rude not to reply?!
Thanks Steve"
My single friend showed me her Fab message inbox the other day and had over 1000 unread messages. So sometimes as a single woman and some couples you get so many that you can't even read them.. I will usually reply if someone has written a nice message even if we are not interested but T will probably just delete it..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I were you, and coming from experience as a single gent. I would get yourself out there to a swingers club.
Where you'll meet new people, make. new friends and possibly get some action there. Do take note that it's not guaranteed you'll get action though. But you could end up getting verifications and even meets if you let them know that you're on Fab.
Hope this helps. |
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"It's not rude, the FAQs say no reply = no interest.
Ok I didn't realise this was stated, but being human, I still find it rude, I'd prefer for someone to say no thanks but that's me. "
This issue has been addressed many times on here. Some answer, some don't. Women often don't say no thanks because they get abuse back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I were you, and coming from experience as a single gent. I would get yourself out there to a swingers club.
Where you'll meet new people, make. new friends and possibly get some action there. Do take note that it's not guaranteed you'll get action though. But you could end up getting verifications and even meets if you let them know that you're on Fab.
Hope this helps."
Definitely second going to clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't seem to be having much luck, I'm bi, meeting guys is easy, meeting ladies or couples near on impossible.
Any tips would be grateful, I'm polite always messaging, they get deleted, no reply which says to me they are not worth meeting anyway as very rude not to reply?!
Thanks Steve
It's basically the same for every guy on here mate. We see women we really like the pics of and we match have everything they are looking for so we write out thoughtful, polite and individual messages introducing ourselves.....read,deleted.
I've stopped bothering now, I just come on here to read the forums and don't expect a lot more than that."
im sure I can hear a violin playing somewhere |
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"I don't seem to be having much luck, I'm bi, meeting guys is easy, meeting ladies or couples near on impossible.
Any tips would be grateful, I'm polite always messaging, they get deleted, no reply which says to me they are not worth meeting anyway as very rude not to reply?!
Thanks Steve
It's basically the same for every guy on here mate. We see women we really like the pics of and we match have everything they are looking for so we write out thoughtful, polite and individual messages introducing ourselves.....read,deleted.
I've stopped bothering now, I just come on here to read the forums and don't expect a lot more than that.
im sure I can hear a violin playing somewhere"
Very constructive, thanks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It feels even worse when you find out they've blocked you for daring to send a message...on a contacts website  "
I block anyone who messages who I know I'll never meet.
Saves us all time in the long run. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not rude, the FAQs say no reply = no interest.
Ok I didn't realise this was stated, but being human, I still find it rude, I'd prefer for someone to say no thanks but that's me. "
I agree with you
It does not take much to be polite to people who have been polite enough to write a message to you
I find it quite rude myself
But that is the excuse given so have to take it
Not a problem with rejection but good manners does not cost anything
Rant over ?????????? |
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"I don't seem to be having much luck, I'm bi, meeting guys is easy, meeting ladies or couples near on impossible.
Any tips would be grateful, I'm polite always messaging, they get deleted, no reply which says to me they are not worth meeting anyway as very rude not to reply?!
Thanks Steve"
Hi Steve, it can take time to make real contacts. Attending socials or clubs would probably be a giant leap forward. It least you may get verifications if nothing else from attending events. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm new on here too.. I think it safe to say that the best way forward is to try out a club and therefore meet people. I cant imagine the number of messages some of the girls on this site must receive daily.. I do see both points of view.
At the end of the day though just keep plodding on, show your personality in your messages.. the ones that feel like talking will. And if they don't, yeah, they're more than likely not interested so move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not rude, the FAQs say no reply = no interest.
Ok I didn't realise this was stated, but being human, I still find it rude, I'd prefer for someone to say no thanks but that's me.
This issue has been addressed many times on here. Some answer, some don't. Women often don't say no thanks because they get abuse back."
Thats why I ignore people now, I was sick of getting abuse for saying I wasn't interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cant understand why folk have to turn abusive if there is disinterest. Would they be the same in a bar.. or just skulk off?
The actions of others have a bad effect on the rest of us |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not rude, the FAQs say no reply = no interest.
Ok I didn't realise this was stated, but being human, I still find it rude, I'd prefer for someone to say no thanks but that's me.
I agree with you
It does not take much to be polite to people who have been polite enough to write a message to you
I find it quite rude myself
But that is the excuse given so have to take it
Not a problem with rejection but good manners does not cost anything
Rant over ??????????"
It doesn't take much to whom?
It's a waste of my time and mine is precious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is not just fab where every female gets 1,000s of messages from guys.
Dont see it as not having luck on here, see it as having took a step to look and see what is out there.
Girls will not message back if they dont like you its that simple |
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By *rallvalCouple
over a year ago
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"I agree with you
It does not take much to be polite to people who have been polite enough to write a message to you
I find it quite rude myself
But that is the excuse given so have to take it
Not a problem with rejection but good manners does not cost anything
Rant over ??????????"
We have been accused of being rude by not replying despite stating no single guys. We get 4 or 5 messages a week despite being up front so they get ignored. Some people seem to think that a fabbed picture or a wink gets a foot in the door or that just because we are near that we will reply. The main reason for saying no single guys is the minority who get abusive after a reply declining a meet. We have single male friends but we don't find them via messages.
A minority of guys can get quite nasty after a rejection but we are here for fun and that puts a dampener on fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't seem to be having much luck, I'm bi, meeting guys is easy, meeting ladies or couples near on impossible.
Any tips would be grateful, I'm polite always messaging, they get deleted, no reply which says to me they are not worth meeting anyway as very rude not to reply?!
Thanks Steve
It's basically the same for every guy on here mate. We see women we really like the pics of and we match have everything they are looking for so we write out thoughtful, polite and individual messages introducing ourselves.....read,deleted.
I've stopped bothering now, I just come on here to read the forums and don't expect a lot more than that.
im sure I can hear a violin playing somewhere
Very constructive, thanks "
sorry but what do you expect ? sympathy ?there are probably hundreds of threads about this subject and frankly it's boring , it's been clearly stated on the forum rules and in the other threads that no response equals no interest,just move on . are guys so desperate for contact that they actually need a response even if it's no ?
We have occssionally sent messages that have been read and deleted but we don't give it a second thought ,as had been said above the average female on here probaby gets hundreds of messages a week, do you seriously expect them to reply to each and every one ?
the next time a local pizza house pushes a flyer through your door offering 2 for 1 on any pizza are you gonna ring them and say thanks for the kind offer but I'm not interested ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nutty200 is right and quite frankly - for an easier life - I now just block every new single guy who registers in my area (who I don't like the look of), block anyone who sends a message whom I don't like the look of - and I block people who whine on threads about no responses.
I now live a more peaceful existence and any messages I do get, I live in hope that they're bordering on what I'm looking for, knowing I'm one step closer to finding 'the Holy Grail'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't seem to be having much luck, I'm bi, meeting guys is easy, meeting ladies or couples near on impossible.
Any tips would be grateful, I'm polite always messaging, they get deleted, no reply which says to me they are not worth meeting anyway as very rude not to reply?!
Thanks Steve
It's basically the same for every guy on here mate. We see women we really like the pics of and we match have everything they are looking for so we write out thoughtful, polite and individual messages introducing ourselves.....read,deleted.
I've stopped bothering now, I just come on here to read the forums and don't expect a lot more than that.
im sure I can hear a violin playing somewhere
Very constructive, thanks "
To be more constructive, your profile has only one photo & no veri's - I'd be unlikely to reply because of that. |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"It's not rude, the FAQs say no reply = no interest.
Ok I didn't realise this was stated, but being human, I still find it rude, I'd prefer for someone to say no thanks but that's me.
I agree with you
It does not take much to be polite to people who have been polite enough to write a message to you "
It takes quite a lot to be polite to 30 people a day who message you though.  .
Not that I have that problem, but a friend does. |
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