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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No it just directs you to the forum and no your not helping by saying I should have loads of info by now "
It directs you to the threads you have commented on or started.
I'm not sure what advice you expect to receive 5th time round that would be different to before.... however... if you have the same attitude in your messages as you do in the forums then maybe that's the issue? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No it just directs you to the forum and no your not helping by saying I should have loads of info by now "
It directs you to every post you have recently made.
Like was said above you can see all the previous comments and advice given on your previous similar posts.
Did they not help at all? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah but still struggling for meets can dome check my profile too see what they think "
Well now I can't give you any advice because you've blocked me lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unblocked "
Penetrating is spelt incorrectly but personally there are better choice of words.
Being brutally honest... with having a disability you're going to struggle.. maybe elaborate on your limits?
Plus you only list what you want and nothing about what u can offer
I take this as sound advice.. by following it you are not guaranteed meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why should I struggle with my disability "
You mentioned that it limits you. Alot of people on here have limited free time and want meets which fit with their often extensive criteria... unfortunately there are thousands and thousands of guys on here looking for the same as you.
I can imagine that once you know a person a disability becomes invisible but on here you have to take someone at face value. If you perhaps listed your limits or struggles then it would pain't a better picture of what you can offer.
At the minute.. we could speculate anything from you have a slight limp all the way up to complete paralysis.... please don't take this as any offence... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You hit the nail on the head I have a limp that all x"
In that case if I were you I'd remove the statement all together. Maybe mention it before meeting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you don't wana help why comment "
Think the point being made is you have already had 4 sets of advice. If you don't want to take/act on the advice given already then the comment seems to be why are you asking again?
The advice will not be any different! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I hate my smile that's why I don't and don't wana be recognised as I know quite a lot of people in here "
I wouldn't want to be recognised by, for example, colleagues. However, as I tend not to strut about the office with my tits out I don't think the fact that I have photos means I'll be easily identified. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I hate my smile that's why I don't and don't wana be recognised as I know quite a lot of people in here "
Be prepared to be ignored lots then as nobody responds to face pics that look miserable. You have been offered that tip many times. If you choose to ignore it then expect your struggles to continue.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I hate my smile that's why I don't and don't wana be recognised as I know quite a lot of people in here
I wouldn't want to be recognised by, for example, colleagues. However, as I tend not to strut about the office with my tits out I don't think the fact that I have photos means I'll be easily identified. "
I recognise those boobies from somewhere 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here "
Well you opening messages are good so you got something right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here "
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read |
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Copying word for word the text from my profile is either a massive congratulations on mine or a little low, I'll go for the frost option as I like to see he best in people, remember it's you selling yourself to others not me that you're selling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Profile is too long .would you tell someone that if you just met up in a bar. Also patience and just realise people are choosy depending on their mood.Smiles and cheekiness all the way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Copying word for word the text from my profile is either a massive congratulations on mine or a little low, I'll go for the frost option as I like to see he best in people, remember it's you selling yourself to others not me that you're selling. "
Oh dear.. |
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"Copying word for word the text from my profile is either a massive congratulations on mine or a little low, I'll go for the frost option as I like to see he best in people, remember it's you selling yourself to others not me that you're selling.
Oh dear.."
Original profile has now been restored it seems... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think most profiles on here are men looking for sex, after that couples then after that single females. I dare say if your a female you get 50+ messages a day, think you've got accept they'll find you if they want you.
That being said go to some clubs/meets and build rapport witht the scene, probaly the more people you meet and get verified by the more people will want to meet you like a snowball effect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Copying word for word the text from my profile is either a massive congratulations on mine or a little low, I'll go for the frost option as I like to see he best in people, remember it's you selling yourself to others not me that you're selling.
Oh dear..
Original profile has now been restored it seems..."
Yup. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haven't got anyone to take one
Stop putting obstacles up against any advice. It's now wonder you're getting nowhere.
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Damnit, you've made me spot a typo now, and I can't correct it 
*no wonder* obviously |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why have I got a bad attutufe "
Polite advice. Don't dig a hole any deeper when you're standing in it. Sometimes it is better to climb out before it is too late.
I don't want to be critical. This is a friendly place (all in all). Just be yourself, show your real personality and you will have a good time.  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Why have I got a bad attutufe "
I don't think they mean bad attitude....
but you do remind me of the textbook defination of "insanity"... which is doing the same thing over and over again... and expecting a different result!
so this is the 3/4/5th time you have started this thread.... but what did you learn from the thread before? and if you did not learn or change anything from those then why should people spend their time helping you this time....
people have tried to help you... and whether this is a fair thing to take away or not, it just looks so far as if that advice has gone in one ear and straight out the other....
i'll tell you the same thing i tell everyone...... time, patience, and basic common sense
the rest you have to learn for yourself... you can't be spoonfed because people tried that and it got us to where we are now... you again asking for help!
so sit down, turn off the computer, get a pen, pad, and actually think about what you want to put across....
sometimes the biggest thing is to get people to "help themselves" help themself! because until you do that no one can help you!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well all the couples and single are so picky when it comes to men that tickles there fancies due their to many men here and little females who like men as for couple there very little amount who like men |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here "
Check spelling, grammar and punctuation. Not much info in your text and a couple of body pics in public gallery would help too. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"well all the couples and single are so picky when it comes to men that tickles there fancies due their to many men here and little females who like men as for couple there very little amount who like men"
Re your comment..We are specifically looking for men and still can't find any that can accommodate locally so it's just as hard for couples too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well all the couples and single are so picky when it comes to men that tickles there fancies due their to many men here and little females who like men as for couple there very little amount who like men"
Oh so we should drop our standards to make life easier for you? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Why have I got a bad attutufe
I don't think they mean bad attitude....
but you do remind me of the textbook defination of "insanity"... which is doing the same thing over and over again... and expecting a different result!
so this is the 3/4/5th time you have started this thread.... but what did you learn from the thread before? and if you did not learn or change anything from those then why should people spend their time helping you this time....
people have tried to help you... and whether this is a fair thing to take away or not, it just looks so far as if that advice has gone in one ear and straight out the other....
i'll tell you the same thing i tell everyone...... time, patience, and basic common sense
the rest you have to learn for yourself... you can't be spoonfed because people tried that and it got us to where we are now... you again asking for help!
so sit down, turn off the computer, get a pen, pad, and actually think about what you want to put across....
sometimes the biggest thing is to get people to "help themselves" help themself! because until you do that no one can help you!!!"
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"well all the couples and single are so picky when it comes to men that tickles there fancies due their to many men here and little females who like men as for couple there very little amount who like men
Oh so we should drop our standards to make life easier for you?"
Apparently so lol |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Copying word for word the text from my profile is either a massive congratulations on mine or a little low, I'll go for the frost option as I like to see he best in people, remember it's you selling yourself to others not me that you're selling.
Oh dear.."
I don't like frost |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read "
im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Check spelling, grammar and punctuation. Not much info in your text and a couple of body pics in public gallery would help too."
ok thank you . Advice taken x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Well you opening messages are good so you got something right "
thank you x |
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x"
People have age restrictions because they don't want to talk to certain age groups. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x
People have age restrictions because they don't want to talk to certain age groups. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Not here for arguments pal , just advice ,I do like the older woman so that's another reason I did it , but point taken "
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x
People have age restrictions because they don't want to talk to certain age groups. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Not here for arguments pal , just advice ,I do like the older woman so that's another reason I did it , but point taken "
I'm not arguing. The point I'm making is that when they see that in your profile and these forum posts, they won't want to anyway. Go for those that do - it's much easier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x
People have age restrictions because they don't want to talk to certain age groups. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Not here for arguments pal , just advice ,I do like the older woman so that's another reason I did it , but point taken
I'm not arguing. The point I'm making is that when they see that in your profile and these forum posts, they won't want to anyway. Go for those that do - it's much easier. "
. Ok , all a learning curve this to me tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Socials, daytime ones are no play so there's no pressure on or from anyone. Get some one to take some face photos there with /for you so that you can get them right. Use chat u talk to people, get to know them e, make them laugh and enjoy your company. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x
People have age restrictions because they don't want to talk to certain age groups. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Not here for arguments pal , just advice ,I do like the older woman so that's another reason I did it , but point taken
I'm not arguing. The point I'm making is that when they see that in your profile and these forum posts, they won't want to anyway. Go for those that do - it's much easier. . Ok , all a learning curve this to me tbh "
Just one small point. What started as the OPs thread, has become your thread. Hijacking somebody else's thread is not the best etiquette on the forums.
Just something for you to think about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x
People have age restrictions because they don't want to talk to certain age groups. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Not here for arguments pal , just advice ,I do like the older woman so that's another reason I did it , but point taken
I'm not arguing. The point I'm making is that when they see that in your profile and these forum posts, they won't want to anyway. Go for those that do - it's much easier. . Ok , all a learning curve this to me tbh
Just one small point. What started as the OPs thread, has become your thread. Hijacking somebody else's thread is not the best etiquette on the forums.
Just something for you to think about. "
behave man , what's the point in opening another thread about the same topic ! Common sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x
People have age restrictions because they don't want to talk to certain age groups. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Not here for arguments pal , just advice ,I do like the older woman so that's another reason I did it , but point taken
I'm not arguing. The point I'm making is that when they see that in your profile and these forum posts, they won't want to anyway. Go for those that do - it's much easier. . Ok , all a learning curve this to me tbh
Just one small point. What started as the OPs thread, has become your thread. Hijacking somebody else's thread is not the best etiquette on the forums.
Just something for you to think about. behave man , what's the point in opening another thread about the same topic ! Common sense "
. And plus wasn't intentional . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Socials, daytime ones are no play so there's no pressure on or from anyone. Get some one to take some face photos there with /for you so that you can get them right. Use chat u talk to people, get to know them e, make them laugh and enjoy your company."
cheers
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x
People have age restrictions because they don't want to talk to certain age groups. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Not here for arguments pal , just advice ,I do like the older woman so that's another reason I did it , but point taken
I'm not arguing. The point I'm making is that when they see that in your profile and these forum posts, they won't want to anyway. Go for those that do - it's much easier. . Ok , all a learning curve this to me tbh
Just one small point. What started as the OPs thread, has become your thread. Hijacking somebody else's thread is not the best etiquette on the forums.
Just something for you to think about. behave man , what's the point in opening another thread about the same topic ! Common sense "
Actually, this thread was about the OP's profile, not yours.
If everyone wanting advice requested it on this thread, it would be one helluva confused thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x
People have age restrictions because they don't want to talk to certain age groups. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Not here for arguments pal , just advice ,I do like the older woman so that's another reason I did it , but point taken
I'm not arguing. The point I'm making is that when they see that in your profile and these forum posts, they won't want to anyway. Go for those that do - it's much easier. . Ok , all a learning curve this to me tbh
Just one small point. What started as the OPs thread, has become your thread. Hijacking somebody else's thread is not the best etiquette on the forums.
Just something for you to think about. behave man , what's the point in opening another thread about the same topic ! Common sense
Actually, this thread was about the OP's profile, not yours.
If everyone wanting advice requested it on this thread, it would be one helluva confused thread."
I know , didn't mean to offend anyone or take over anything , like I said , this is all a learning curve for me . I'm learning quickly that people can be very picky though |
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Just one small point. What started as the OPs thread, has become your thread. Hijacking somebody else's thread is not the best etiquette on the forums.
Just something for you to think about. behave man , what's the point in opening another thread about the same topic ! Common sense "
There are bout 10 threads a day started by people asking for profile advice. Start your own or its too confusing. The fact its called hijacking tells you what people think about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just one small point. What started as the OPs thread, has become your thread. Hijacking somebody else's thread is not the best etiquette on the forums.
Just something for you to think about. behave man , what's the point in opening another thread about the same topic ! Common sense
There are bout 10 threads a day started by people asking for profile advice. Start your own or its too confusing. The fact its called hijacking tells you what people think about it."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just one small point. What started as the OPs thread, has become your thread. Hijacking somebody else's thread is not the best etiquette on the forums.
Just something for you to think about. behave man , what's the point in opening another thread about the same topic ! Common sense
There are bout 10 threads a day started by people asking for profile advice. Start your own or its too confusing. The fact its called hijacking tells you what people think about it."
. Lmao !! Ok i got it ppl ! Wasn't intentional . New to this . Easy !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x
People have age restrictions because they don't want to talk to certain age groups. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Not here for arguments pal , just advice ,I do like the older woman so that's another reason I did it , but point taken
I'm not arguing. The point I'm making is that when they see that in your profile and these forum posts, they won't want to anyway. Go for those that do - it's much easier. . Ok , all a learning curve this to me tbh
Just one small point. What started as the OPs thread, has become your thread. Hijacking somebody else's thread is not the best etiquette on the forums.
Just something for you to think about. behave man , what's the point in opening another thread about the same topic ! Common sense
Actually, this thread was about the OP's profile, not yours.
If everyone wanting advice requested it on this thread, it would be one helluva confused thread. I know , didn't mean to offend anyone or take over anything , like I said , this is all a learning curve for me . I'm learning quickly that people can be very picky though"
No pickiness there. Just giving some guidance. I hope you can see why "hijacking" can be a little unsettling to a post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could do with a bit of advice myself pal , struggling too ! Thinking of just giving up on here
Not sure if you are 37 or 41?
Plus the text speak is hard to read im 37 but a lot of ppl have age restrictions so change it , not trying to mislead , its just so i can chat x
People have age restrictions because they don't want to talk to certain age groups. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? Not here for arguments pal , just advice ,I do like the older woman so that's another reason I did it , but point taken
I'm not arguing. The point I'm making is that when they see that in your profile and these forum posts, they won't want to anyway. Go for those that do - it's much easier. . Ok , all a learning curve this to me tbh
Just one small point. What started as the OPs thread, has become your thread. Hijacking somebody else's thread is not the best etiquette on the forums.
Just something for you to think about. behave man , what's the point in opening another thread about the same topic ! Common sense
Actually, this thread was about the OP's profile, not yours.
If everyone wanting advice requested it on this thread, it would be one helluva confused thread. I know , didn't mean to offend anyone or take over anything , like I said , this is all a learning curve for me . I'm learning quickly that people can be very picky though
No pickiness there. Just giving some guidance. I hope you can see why "hijacking" can be a little unsettling to a post."
. Ok i understand and apologies to the op |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To answer the OP, one moody head shot is not enticing. Your text pretty much says you will meet literally anybody- again, not enticing. You like oral sex- so does everyone else, big deal. You don't accommodate which puts many off when you don't state the reasons why. Poor spelling and grammar just makes it seem like you can't be bothered. Ditto with the "ask me anything" type of attitude....if you can't be bothered to make yourself sound appealing, why should anyone be bothered to meet you?
That might seem harsh, but it's reality. Whether you do anything about that is completely down to you. |
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