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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been on here a couple weeks or so now and I seem to get no replies I write long messages not just a simple hello. Am I really ugly or something? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here a couple weeks or so now and I seem to get no replies I write long messages not just a simple hello. Am I really ugly or something? Lol "
Yes, you are doing something wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you know longer smoke I would personally take that picture down as you could be putting people off. As you have not asked for profile advice I can't give you any.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here a couple weeks or so now and I seem to get no replies I write long messages not just a simple hello. Am I really ugly or something? Lol "
Are you 31 or 24. Can't be both. Marie |
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"I've been on here a couple weeks or so now and I seem to get no replies I write long messages not just a simple hello. Am I really ugly or something? Lol "
Smoking in photo and non smoker in profile.....age 31 and 24 (a problematic and difficult mistake to make granted)....and the daft warning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here a couple weeks or so now and I seem to get no replies I write long messages not just a simple hello. Am I really ugly or something? Lol "
There are lots of things wrong. In fact, there isn't much right... |
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"I've been on here a couple weeks or so now and I seem to get no replies I write long messages not just a simple hello. Am I really ugly or something? Lol "
You aren't ugly at all, you have a kind of cheeky charm  .
There are many more men than women on fab so the men need to really stand out via their profile and approach.
Good luck. |
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By *opeyMan
over a year ago
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Single women on here get literally hundreds of messages, so I guess they need to reply selectively. That said there are a lot that are just plain rude too, but never mind probably best you didn't meet those ones anyway. Good luck.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been on here a couple weeks or so now and I seem to get no replies I write long messages not just a simple hello. Am I really ugly or something? Lol
You aren't ugly at all, you have a kind of cheeky charm .
There are many more men than women on fab so the men need to really stand out via their profile and approach.
Good luck."
Thank you for the kind reply n ok I'll bear that in mind. Yes absolute sasauge fest its just a shame as I feel I have so much to offer |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Single women on here get literally hundreds of messages, so I guess they need to reply selectively. That said there are a lot that are just plain rude too, but never mind probably best you didn't meet those ones anyway. Good luck.."
Cheers buddy, yea I can imagine they get loads n hahahaa for sure!! |
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"I've been on here a couple weeks or so now and I seem to get no replies I write long messages not just a simple hello. Am I really ugly or something? Lol
You aren't ugly at all, you have a kind of cheeky charm .
There are many more men than women on fab so the men need to really stand out via their profile and approach.
Good luck.
Thank you for the kind reply n ok I'll bear that in mind. Yes absolute sasauge fest its just a shame as I feel I have so much to offer "
If you have a lot to offer you need to let people know what it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of criticism but a couple of nice replies above! so thank you  "
So you are only looking for positive replies to reinforce your sense of self-worth? |
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"A lot of criticism but a couple of nice replies above! so thank you "
Mine is good criticism - how will you improve if people don't tell you where you're going wrong. Yes, it's nicer getting nice replies but will those nice replies help you improve?
Try this then: your profile is fantastic, mate - don't change it at all - you'll be knee deep in clunge by next Thursday.
See? A nice message that doesn't help. Take the advice/criticism/not nice messages with the self awareness and self confidence that you can improve things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like others said before
The smoking thing is confusing
You need to stand out
Use your charm and be honest
Be cheeky if you want
Dos don'ts likes and dislikes
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not very clear what you are looking for. Obviously we wouldn't approach you as you aren't looking for MF couples. As you only want to meet women, some guys find it easier to get sex from casual dating sites as opposed to a swinging site.
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"Why do you say you don't smoke but in one of your photos you have a cigarette in your mouth?
Sally
I used to smoke I don't anymore "
Picture will suggest otherwise so would make some question other things about the profile
I wouldn't have said no replies are looks related but profile maybe what ever you're sending as messages.
Warning is longer than any info on your profile not sure about other's, but that alone makes me back away from a profile. |
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"Thank you for the kind reply n ok I'll bear that in mind. Yes absolute sasauge fest its just a shame as I feel I have so much to offer "
Look at your profile as being one of those flyers that come through the door, you need to say something about yourself give people something to go off. You have seconds to make an impression or people are off to the next profile.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you say you don't smoke but in one of your photos you have a cigarette in your mouth?
Sally
I used to smoke I don't anymore
Picture will suggest otherwise so would make some question other things about the profile
I wouldn't have said no replies are looks related but profile maybe what ever you're sending as messages.
Warning is longer than any info on your profile not sure about other's, but that alone makes me back away from a profile."
Not a deal breaker, but when I see those 'copy and paste' so-called legal warnings it makes me feel the person putting it on their profile is a bit naive, which can be a turn-off. It's common knowledge that such a disclaimer is not legally binding. And even if it was, is anybody seriously going to go to the trouble and the expense of sueing? And even then one has to have photos that people want to steel! Ordinary pictures of men with fags hanging out of their mouths are unlikely to be used by a university research project. Raunchy explicit pictures are likely to be all over Tumblr, disclaimer or no disclaimer. But I digress....
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It can take single guys like you a long time to become established and it's overall better to be a swinger who supplements their life with fab, rather than only swinging via a website.
Expectations are often different to the reality.
Your profile is how you sell yourself - people look when they get a message. Make your profile watertight fantastic. Search for tips as well as look at local single men to you - notice how they are better than yours.
Stay if you're ok with a potential low volume of meets over the next year and not getting replies to your mail - it's like that. Be open to increasing who you'll have sex with - there are many others here who aren't single women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, most people will look at your profile before going anywhere near your message, so you need to consider that this is your shop window and what will make them decide if your message is likely to be worthy of your time or not.
You need to ask yourself, is your profile the best it can possibly be?
You've only been here 4 weeks. Most single guys wait around 6 months to a year before they get their first meet. What are you expecting? Instashag this is not. Single guys outnumber the ladies by around 100 to 1 - so you really do need to stand out.
Since you haven't specifically asked for a profile critique or advice, I can't make any comments on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here months and got nowhere!"
To quote the message two above, 'this site requires effort'.
Lots of it.
A lot of people say that they are not getting anywhere. Have they put their best effort in?
That is the question that they need to ask themselves when looking at their profile and photos.
Best efforts in = Best rewards out. |
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"I've been on here a couple weeks or so now and I seem to get no replies I write long messages not just a simple hello. Am I really ugly or something? Lol "
See all the advice above. You don't have to take a blind bit of notice but it has been 5 days.....if you don't change anything then nothing will change and you'll be here with no sex meets months into 2017. Your choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on here months and got nowhere!
I'm not surprised.
Thanks for the advice!
Is that what you are looking for? Advice? "
No, my sarcasm to the previous post. |
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"I've been on here a couple weeks or so now and I seem to get no replies I write long messages not just a simple hello. Am I really ugly or something? Lol "
You replied to your on question.
You only been here a couple of weeks. In general guys have a hard time meeting girls. Asking to be verified is not helping your cause. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Asking for advice on this site isn't advisable. "
Being honest, seeing the wealth of advice already on the Forums that can be found with a quick search it would be a real struggle to add anything new. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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Swinging is more than dashing off a few messages (however long) and expecting a free fuck in return. Get out there (to clubs, socials etc) and actually meet some people. You will find things improve dramatically! |
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"I've been on here months and got nowhere!
I'm not surprised.
Thanks for the advice!
Is that what you are looking for? Advice?
No, my sarcasm to the previous post. "
Why be sarcastic? That's not a very nice personality trait. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I don't think a site specialising in swinging is the best option for single men who are only looking for hookups with women. That's not to say singles don't have fun via this site, but with such a disproportionate amount of men on this site looking for sex and not getting it and perhaps never getting it, it might be worth considering a singles site too, for those who are not into couple play or sex parties.
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Please please have sex with me!! Is what I'm reading. I'm not an experienced swinger but I'm guessing that approach won't work, just like dating. What do you have to offer? Someone said. Doubt there's many girls or couples who are on here just to do single guys a favour. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on the site about the same amount of time as you I'm no oil painting but I'm doing alright don't try to be billy big balls just be normal speak to people how you would expect to be spoken to and homestly you won't go far wrong. Just my opinion |
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