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What do couples look for in single males?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, I have recently joined the site and find it hard to figure out how to make a profile appeal to a couple who are looking for a guy to join them. Some seem really hacked off with the tone of their profiles and it seems to be guys who are the enemy, although some are openly looking for guys to contact them. If you do contact them, they block you for some reason. Seems some people do not want the scene getting any bigger?. Interested in opinions on this one guys and girls.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It was more of an introductory observation on the complexities of meeting couples. Thanks for the sterling advice and certainly do not want to be tagged a winger.  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Your profile I am guessing is a work in progress? If not you may have trouble attracting people.
I would write what you want out of this and what you are hoping to find. Add what you can offer and take off the silly message about privacy.
Keep your profile upbeat rather than negative.
It isn't worth anyone telling you exactly what to write as then it wouldn't be you, so be yourself.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes I notice some (I assume)guys in couples are a bit afraid of the site of other men in white pants. Amazes me that in _iew of the overall context. Thanks though getting a deeper flavour of how couples are looking for particular features in the guys they choose to join them....and why not  |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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Sometimes people don't know what they want - I've seen profiles stating seekign single males and what they expect, and the looking for box showing "M, MM," and others, yet also has "Not looking for single males" just above it so when you try to send a message you get "Has blocked everyone of your sex".
I've seen single females saying "Not bi, and not interested in couples" yet you try to message and get the same result. Confused in both cases.
Sometimes doing nothing is sufficient - I've been blocked by people who's offence was that I never approached them (up themselves?) and some because whilst I approached them, they felt I only wanted to chat and not play and so saw me a time-waster.
But what interests me - according to your profile, are you looking for play, or looking for verifications? PS: No one wants to feel their only good enough in order to get the verification - once they've outlived their usefulness they never hear from you again? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"men in white pants. "
Sorry, but white pants are just naff. And it's not just couples who are put off by them. I'm always put in mind of that quote by one of Ashley Cole's less discreet shags, who told the press he wore "disgusting tighty whities"... There is nothing sexy about white underpants. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Yes I notice some (I assume)guys in couples are a bit afraid of the site of other men in white pants. Amazes me that in _iew of the overall context. Thanks though getting a deeper flavour of how couples are looking for particular features in the guys they choose to join them....and why not "
lol it isn't just men, no matter what designer name white pants have on them, they are not sexy to me either
I like your new profile, hopefully someone else will too and you will get the fun you are after.
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Generic response:
Sometimes people don't know what they want - I've seen profiles stating seekign single males and what they expect, and the looking for box showing "M, MM," and others, yet also has "Not looking for single males" just above it so when you try to send a message you get "Has blocked everyone of your sex".
you again?"
( below is taken from the FAQ )
http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ
Someone has blocked single males but their profile says they are looking for single males!
This means that they want to find and contact single males first, rather than be innundated with messages from them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was more of an introductory observation on the complexities of meeting couples. Thanks for the sterling advice and certainly do not want to be tagged a winger. "
Ryan Giggs has been tagged a winger all his professional football career...didn't do him any harm ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"men in white pants.
Sorry, but white pants are just naff. And it's not just couples who are put off by them. I'm always put in mind of that quote by one of Ashley Cole's less discreet shags, who told the press he wore "disgusting tighty whities"... There is nothing sexy about white underpants. "
You may not find them sexy but a lot of women do...If men can't wear white pants than what the bloody hell should they wear...tight do nothing for me either but that's not to say some people find them sexy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Find i dont need the pants nor the muscles, pics are pics, cams are cams, let people get to know u, either via chat or attend the socials and clubs.
And without sounding offensive to anyone dont just be going for the "absolute" ideal woman/cpl to u...swinging IS about having fun and it shouldnt all be based entirely on aesthetics.NOT saying that means meet people u dont fancy just for the sake of it ffs....i find the most accepting swingers are the most fun swingers, who dont ask arsehole questions about how much u cum, how many times can u do it etc pish...95% humour and some decent convo gets u to that %100 (thats just talking about the meet, not of course working the percentage on sexual prowess lol) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I conclude from this that pants can be an important ingredient to a profile, but I need to vary the colours to make it as appealing for a wider cross section!...but its not just about the pants, some people are looking even deeper. Pants are a reflection of your personality though surely? |
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"I conclude from this that pants can be an important ingredient to a profile, but I need to vary the colours to make it as appealing for a wider cross section!...but its not just about the pants, some people are looking even deeper. Pants are a reflection of your personality though surely? "
I have a few pairs of white ones and they are very popular with the ladies I have shown them to. Stick with it you'll be ok you made the fatal error that all us new blokes did and strayed onto the forums and asked what you thought was a straight enough question. Leave it a couple of weeks and you'll soon figure out how it works. Basically single men are not allowed to post anything that may be construed as a grumble, whether it is or not. Good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Generic response:
Am with you on that one...
Sometimes people don't know what they want - I've seen profiles stating seekign single males and what they expect, and the looking for box showing "M, MM," and others, yet also has "Not looking for single males" just above it so when you try to send a message you get "Has blocked everyone of your sex".
I've seen single females saying "Not bi, and not interested in couples" yet you try to message and get the same result. Confused in both cases.
Sometimes doing nothing is sufficient - I've been blocked by people who's offence was that I never approached them (up themselves?) and some because whilst I approached them, they felt I only wanted to chat and not play and so saw me a time-waster.
But what interests me - according to your profile, are you looking for play, or looking for verifications? PS: No one wants to feel their only good enough in order to get the verification - once they've outlived their usefulness they never hear from you again?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I conclude from this that pants can be an important ingredient to a profile, but I need to vary the colours to make it as appealing for a wider cross section!...but its not just about the pants, some people are looking even deeper. Pants are a reflection of your personality though surely?
I have a few pairs of white ones and they are very popular with the ladies I have shown them to. Stick with it you'll be ok you made the fatal error that all us new blokes did and strayed onto the forums and asked what you thought was a straight enough question. Leave it a couple of weeks and you'll soon figure out how it works. Basically single men are not allowed to post anything that may be construed as a grumble, whether it is or not. Good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not a single male *double checks downstairs :o... But I think your best to try to get on in the chat rooms. That way you can chat to and get the feel of numerous people. It also helps if you've got a cam. I'm not saying people who don't go on cam aren't genuine but I find it easier to 'get the feel' of someone when you can see them,see their reactions to what you have said to them. I don't meet now but I did. And anyone who I would consider meeting had to be able to have a laugh.I find sex is much better when you feel comfortable and can have a laugh.I know this is a swingers site but just cos we're on a swingers site doesn't mean we'd 'do anything' *lways be polite and respectful.. Even if others aren't. As a single fem a little respect goes along way. Anyway ... Good luck in your search for whatever your looking for :o) x x x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Iv got white pants on in my profile pic lol are they really that bad? ha ha maybe I should of warn my black ones lol
Yes, terrible... get em off!  "
come and take them off |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yep, White pants on men conjure images of love rat husbands?.....in that case sussies remind me of those nasty kiss and tell models that go for married footballers in night clubs! despicable!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Iv got white pants on in my profile pic lol are they really that bad? ha ha maybe I should of warn my black ones lol
Yes, terrible... get em off!
come and take them off
May just have to.... "
well friday nights are my white pants night, if you wana come take them off lol but have got to take them off with your teeth |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"men in white pants.
Sorry, but white pants are just naff. And it's not just couples who are put off by them. I'm always put in mind of that quote by one of Ashley Cole's less discreet shags, who told the press he wore "disgusting tighty whities"... There is nothing sexy about white underpants. "
I TOTALLY disagree - it's a bi-gay man thing to like tight white briefs - remember Beckham in the Armani ads? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I notice some (I assume)guys in couples are a bit afraid of the site of other men in white pants. Amazes me that in _iew of the overall context. Thanks though getting a deeper flavour of how couples are looking for particular features in the guys they choose to join them....and why not "
Have to say at a glance i did think it was woman but nothing wrong in a man in white skimpy shorts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't like white brief pants either - and they look just wrong on the over 40s. I have to supress a giggle when I see men in briefs full stop. Much prefer boxers!  |
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White hold ups & stilettos do it for me everytime. 