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Why is it so hard to get a meet
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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Ok...this advice is kindly meant, since you asked for it. Women here receive countless messages from guys. They can afford to be choosy. Just because we are swingers, it doesn't mean we will fuck any and all men. You may not like it, but you can either take it like a man, or cry like a kid. So here goes...
1. Your pic is crap. Ill-fitting clothes, unimaginitive pose, and you are frowning.
2. Your profile description reads like a bucket list. How will that sell yourself to the ladies on here?
3. You have no veris. Before you whinge about having to get a meet to get a veri, blah blah blah, go to a club. Meet people, find out a bit more about swinging. Get a veri.
4. Join in the discussions in the forums, but without being an imature teenage knobhead.
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
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"Ok...this advice is kindly meant, since you asked for it. Women here receive countless messages from guys. They can afford to be choosy. Just because we are swingers, it doesn't mean we will fuck any and all men. You may not like it, but you can either take it like a man, or cry like a kid. So here goes...
1. Your pic is crap. Ill-fitting clothes, unimaginitive pose, and you are frowning.
2. Your profile description reads like a bucket list. How will that sell yourself to the ladies on here?
3. You have no veris. Before you whinge about having to get a meet to get a veri, blah blah blah, go to a club. Meet people, find out a bit more about swinging. Get a veri.
4. Join in the discussions in the forums, but without being an imature teenage knobhead.
In my opinion "
And there in a nutshell...  
Only thing to add (and speaking from bitter experience having been through 50 odd messages last night) tailor each and every message you send to the person you are sending it to, and make it more than a one liner and definitely don't make it all about you and what you want.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I changed mine. I think you need to message admin somehow. I can't remember how because I'm getting old  "
there's an option to change it in settings at my account, it has to be approved though and silver members can change it too.
it's hard coz people are meeting strangers and they have to weigh up if it's safe for them or not, they also have to find something attractive about that person too (more than the several 100 other guys who have messaged that day) and people are complicated sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't change my username even when I was a gold subscriber??"
You should be able to hit the "account" button at the top of the page, then "change username" should be simple enough.
As for your original question, yes is IS pretty difficult to hey a meet, particularly if your standards are as high as your expectations. Something you need to remember is the the pussy has the power, make no mistake, I have sat with a female friend and watched her inbox rack up 300 messages in just ONE hour (ok so she did make her profile photo a full body naked shot of her utter gorgeousness lol) but my point is that you are outnumbered 500-1 at least, so ask yourself why would someone want to meet YOU? Make your profile more interesting, update your photo to one a little more appealing, talk about what you can bring to a meet instead of a list of things you'd like to check off.
I have made some great friends on here by being honest, polite and respectful.
Happy fabbing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok...this advice is kindly meant, since you asked for it. Women here receive countless messages from guys. They can afford to be choosy. Just because we are swingers, it doesn't mean we will fuck any and all men. You may not like it, but you can either take it like a man, or cry like a kid. So here goes...
1. Your pic is crap. Ill-fitting clothes, unimaginitive pose, and you are frowning.
2. Your profile description reads like a bucket list. How will that sell yourself to the ladies on here?
3. You have no veris. Before you whinge about having to get a meet to get a veri, blah blah blah, go to a club. Meet people, find out a bit more about swinging. Get a veri.
4. Join in the discussions in the forums, but without being an imature teenage knobhead.
In my opinion "
DITTO....check out a few profiles of some delicious funny gentleman off the forums .....ones with a few lovely verries....and use their profiles as your benchmark...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok...this advice is kindly meant, since you asked for it. Women here receive countless messages from guys. They can afford to be choosy. Just because we are swingers, it doesn't mean we will fuck any and all men. You may not like it, but you can either take it like a man, or cry like a kid. So here goes...
1. Your pic is crap. Ill-fitting clothes, unimaginitive pose, and you are frowning.
2. Your profile description reads like a bucket list. How will that sell yourself to the ladies on here?
3. You have no veris. Before you whinge about having to get a meet to get a veri, blah blah blah, go to a club. Meet people, find out a bit more about swinging. Get a veri.
4. Join in the discussions in the forums, but without being an imature teenage knobhead.
In my opinion
DITTO....check out a few profiles of some delicious funny gentleman off the forums .....ones with a few lovely verries....and use their profiles as your benchmark... "
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By *sym45Man
over a year ago
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No matey ! Not just you.Honestly.Without sounding big headed.I find it a lot more easier to meet folk out on the Town.Old School Way.That includes Ladies and Couples ! But there are a lot of of Idiots that are spoiling it for us "genuine horny fellas".Good luck.Carl.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is tough, there are a LOT of single guys on here so ladies can afford to be very picky which is totally there porogative. You need to have the right attitude to being on here in my opinion. It's no good thinking its a way to a quick fix, I think of it and try to treat it more like a social network. I haven't had lots of meets from Fab but had a few and they come about from just being sociable, scrabbling around just searching for a quick fuck won't get you anywhere. Just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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succinctly put , make friends be friends play nice even when no one else is , and never take anything for granted especially a promise or arrangement, you can be choosey change your mind or be lied to and not have to explain it to anyone , be the man tou always wanted to be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok...this advice is kindly meant, since you asked for it. Women here receive countless messages from guys. They can afford to be choosy. Just because we are swingers, it doesn't mean we will fuck any and all men. You may not like it, but you can either take it like a man, or cry like a kid. So here goes...
1. Your pic is crap. Ill-fitting clothes, unimaginitive pose, and you are frowning.
2. Your profile description reads like a bucket list. How will that sell yourself to the ladies on here?
3. You have no veris. Before you whinge about having to get a meet to get a veri, blah blah blah, go to a club. Meet people, find out a bit more about swinging. Get a veri.
4. Join in the discussions in the forums, but without being an imature teenage knobhead.
In my opinion "
Great advice right here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh, and don't cut and paste your messages. They're shit and easy to spot. "Hi" messages are also shit."
Any advice here then?
Go down the interests route?
Be funny?
Be flirty?
Help appreciated |
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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?"
Hmmmm....... maybe your problem is that you're on the wrong site.
This is a swingers site.
Swingers are couples who want to meet other couples!
Single men and women are not swingers.
Perhaps you should try a dating site.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?
Hmmmm....... maybe your problem is that you're on the wrong site.
This is a swingers site.
Swingers are couples who want to meet other couples!
Single men and women are not swingers.
Perhaps you should try a dating site.
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Not precisely! I am single and never had any issues meeting! I don't want to date ! I want to play with who I fancy! And I played with couples before and they didn't asked me for a partner!Why should be for couples only? Even in the clubs is not only for couples,Saturday nights I stay also! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?
Hmmmm....... maybe your problem is that you're on the wrong site.
This is a swingers site.
Swingers are couples who want to meet other couples!
Single men and women are not swingers.
Perhaps you should try a dating site.
Not precisely! I am single and never had any issues meeting! I don't want to date ! I want to play with who I fancy! And I played with couples before and they didn't asked me for a partner!Why should be for couples only? Even in the clubs is not only for couples,Saturday nights I stay also!"
exactly. even single people can join this site and choose to play as singles on their profile and the site lets them do that.
i've never fucked any couples either, unless we're counting MM couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?
Hmmmm....... maybe your problem is that you're on the wrong site.
This is a swingers site.
Swingers are couples who want to meet other couples!
Single men and women are not swingers.
Perhaps you should try a dating site.
Not precisely! I am single and never had any issues meeting! I don't want to date ! I want to play with who I fancy! And I played with couples before and they didn't asked me for a partner!Why should be for couples only? Even in the clubs is not only for couples,Saturday nights I stay also!
exactly. even single people can join this site and choose to play as singles on their profile and the site lets them do that.
i've never fucked any couples either, unless we're counting MM couples."
Gready girl! MM couple? Enjoy it ! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?
Hmmmm....... maybe your problem is that you're on the wrong site.
This is a swingers site.
Swingers are couples who want to meet other couples!
Single men and women are not swingers.
Perhaps you should try a dating site.
Not precisely! I am single and never had any issues meeting! I don't want to date ! I want to play with who I fancy! And I played with couples before and they didn't asked me for a partner!Why should be for couples only? Even in the clubs is not only for couples,Saturday nights I stay also!
exactly. even single people can join this site and choose to play as singles on their profile and the site lets them do that.
i've never fucked any couples either, unless we're counting MM couples.
Gready girl! MM couple? Enjoy it ! X"
thanks, i always do/did. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?"
The best way to meet people is have a look out at socials or stingers clubs. I recommend it as it's a good way of meeting other like minded people.
Make your profile persuasive and attractive. Keep naughty pics private and bloody smile! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?"
I've just posted this into another identical thread in a different section.
Here's your answer and don't ignore it.
Tired tired tired of these threads.
Dude you're no different to anyone else. Every couple and single woman ( presuming you like women ) have different needs and wants. Why do think you're entitled to sex or a meet; answer you're not!
it's no different to meeting a meeting a nice young lady ( or man ) that fits you under normal circumstances.
Swinging does NOT mean automatic sex. If you're that desperate find a proper girlfriend ( or boyfriend ). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?"
Its the same here dude! I even get people cancel at Las minute. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My frustrations with fab is not so much not getting meets but with how some of people think it's ok to treat you.
Treat others how you wish to be treated!, Just wish more people on here followed that advice.
Meets will come along every so often, I'm picky so they don't tend to happen that regularly for me but it's about having the right attitude to it. Just enjoy the ride and don't obsess about getting a meet, then when you least expect it you will catch somebody's eye. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?"
Fella av asked for advise n all i got was greif :/
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?
Fella av asked for advise n all i got was greif :/
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He has received advice - good advice - just as you did. Whether he, or you, liked the advice or acted upon it is another matter. On the whole, the people who respond to these posts are constructive in their (requested) advice and criticism. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?
Fella av asked for advise n all i got was greif :/
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No you didn't. You got good constructure advice on how to improve your chances of getting verified. You have chosen to twist it and became abusive to other users. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?
Fella av asked for advise n all i got was greif :/
He has received advice - good advice - just as you did. Whether he, or you, liked the advice or acted upon it is another matter. On the whole, the people who respond to these posts are constructive in their (requested) advice and criticism."
some of the advise i received was helpful bit the majority of the peolle who commented on mine were saying go a social but as for myself i get realy nervous and shy and wud prefer going with sum 1 to help me calm down and dont get me wrong i have taken your advise and will be acting upon it wen i finished work like i have sed and maybe its not hard if your a couple like yourself but a young single lad like we are its hard to even get people to give u the time of day
Their all alright commenting on threads but wen sum one inboxs them then thats wen it becomes a differnt matter for lads like us :$ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?
Fella av asked for advise n all i got was greif :/
No you didn't. You got good constructure advice on how to improve your chances of getting verified. You have chosen to twist it and became abusive to other users."
i have not twisted anything at all i asked for advise and i got was gonto a social thats it of the majority of people but if someone is shy then everyb1 gets pissed off n takes it asif that person hasnt listend and about the abusive part of people are big and old enuf to give snide comments then they are big enuf to take them or wud that be wrong to say that ? |
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I like this site..yes its a swingers site..not really tailored to single men...but u get to chat to amazin people...if your a single man lookin to meet its hard but so jus be you...ps life isnt inside of a screen..theres clubs you can go an meet singles and couples check the sites clubs. Hope it helps |
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By *iss JBWoman
over a year ago
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It's understandable as the men far outweigh the women on here
Women can and should be very picky in whom they want to meet with
A message should stand out and appeal in many different ways
So many timewasters spoil it for others so you kind of have to stand out as being genuine appealing and real, not too pushy and likeable to the person you are messaging
Hope this helps and good luck xx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks every one for the feedback ill take it on board did not expect this many replies just from being on the forum more often like someone said in getting about 75 views and a few messages so thanks everyone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks every one for the feedback ill take it on board did not expect this many replies just from being on the forum more often like someone said in getting about 75 views and a few messages so thanks everyone "
By the way aswell I'm not just on here for a meet as I have also meet a few really nice people who I get along with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm the only guy but is it just me or is it actually quite hard to get a meet on here?
Hmmmm....... maybe your problem is that you're on the wrong site.
This is a swingers site.
Swappers are couples who want to meet other couples!
Single men and women can be swingers.
Perhaps you should try a dating site.
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Fixed that...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All of my messages just get deleted without being read or even looked at my profile no matter what i write is there a big avoid on my profile???????"
In a word yes! Would you reply to such a profile? (If you were a woman).
5 words and three of them the same. Pics all focussed on your cock. It is just about everything that people advise against. |
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"All of my messages just get deleted without being read or even looked at my profile no matter what i write is there a big avoid on my profile???????"
You can reset a message to unread after reading it so if they viewed if while you were offline then reset it you would think it was unread when it may not have been
There is also an option in the sites privacy settings where you can set your profile so that you don't show on people's "who's looked at me page" (on the forums it's referred to as stealth mode). Most women (as I do) will check to not show as there are so many guys that see you've looked and take that as you must be "interested" and then message you, when merely you're just looking, so then there's an inbox full of messages from people you've looked at and aren't interested in
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
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"All of my messages just get deleted without being read or even looked at my profile no matter what i write is there a big avoid on my profile???????"
Most women and couples look at the profile before even reading a message, so take a look at your profile from a female perspective and ask yourself how alluring it really is. Does it show you in a good light? Does it clearly lay out who you are and what you are looking for? Is it appealing to others? Are your pics interesting and teasing, or just a series of cock shots?
Am not going to offer direct profile advice as none has been requested, but ask yourself the above questions (and more), answer them honestly and adjust accordingly and who knows what might happen.
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"All of my messages just get deleted without being read or even looked at my profile no matter what i write is there a big avoid on my profile???????"
In regards to the profile all pics are of your cock and the 5 words you have wrote are over sexualised, I'd avoid you based on it as would a majority of other women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are not the only guy to find it quite hard to get a meet but life when it comes to the lifestyle of swinging these days..   "
iT'S 100 times harder for single men than opposite sex when it comes to the lifestyle of swinging.. Because there too many men seeking the same thing |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
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"I change my pics and profile regulary although didnt realise only had cock pics lol no one even looks at my profile so why write anything ? "
If you're asking "why write anything" then there's the answer to why your messages get deleted/you can't get a meet to be honest. It's a well worn cliche round here, but your profile is your shop window to sell yourself, if you can't be bothered to fill it with enticing goods, then you can't expect any shoppers to enter the shop, let alone buy anything
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"I change my pics and profile regulary although didnt realise only had cock pics lol no one even looks at my profile so why write anything ? "
Missed the part where many view in stealth mode
Onless your hoping for a pity fuck I'd loose the woe is me approach |
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"All of my messages just get deleted without being read or even looked at my profile no matter what i write is there a big avoid on my profile???????"
That's actually quite witty and the answer is yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive litteraly just changed it b4 you posted lol will do more pics when ive finished my coffee but im still expecting the same i have been here quite a while and changed everything alot |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive litteraly just changed it b4 you posted lol will do more pics when ive finished my coffee but im still expecting the same i have been here quite a while and changed everything alot "
I didn't see the original profile but still too cock heavy in the pics department and never read past the first line about giving oral for hours. Nearly every other guy claims he can do that and if you can do it for hours, you must be doing it wrong! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"plus saying you meet tv is off putting for alot of women, be honest about what you like but that could be a factor
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Saying anything will put some people off.
I am not sure why you conclude that meeting TVs will put off a lot of women. Some, yes. Others, no.
Personally, we only meet males who are openly bisexual.
Our opinion is that you are better off stating your preferences openly and accepting that not everyone will be attracted. |
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"Ive litteraly just changed it b4 you posted lol will do more pics when ive finished my coffee but im still expecting the same i have been here quite a while and changed everything alot
I didn't see the original profile but still too cock heavy in the pics department and never read past the first line about giving oral for hours. Nearly every other guy claims he can do that and if you can do it for hours, you must be doing it wrong! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh no i do it right and keep going till they cant take it anymore alot of women love a good licking and where does it say bout tv? Its not on my profile or what im looking for |
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"Oh no i do it right and keep going till they cant take it anymore alot of women love a good licking and where does it say bout tv? Its not on my profile or what im looking for"
Think the tv comment was more for the OP (original poster) than you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh no i do it right and keep going till they cant take it anymore alot of women love a good licking and where does it say bout tv? Its not on my profile or what im looking for"
And some women aren't that bothered about it. Personally, if a guy puts he can lick for hours I will pass him by as it not my idea of fun for that to go on for hours and for me, if you are there for hours you are doing it totally wrong because done right, I won't stand more than 10 minutes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never heard of cumming more than once you may not like it, alot do and i love doing it "
can take me ages to cum so i like a guy to spend ages down there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is very hard. Most won't meet unless you have verification but you cannot get it unless you Meet!! Chicken and egg come to mind"
If you attend an organsied social meet you can get several veris in one hit. There are usually plenty on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's quite difficult for single males here in general.
You are also quite young which won't help. But someone will meet you. You just have to preserve."
Young? I would love to meet a young guy but no one young seldom messages me ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's difficult to get meets regardless if your single male, female, couple....we all want to meet a type and therefore treat carefully... Time is the biggest factor I've found... Never enough of it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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diaries. We all have things 'to do'. If these clash with your 'free days/nights'. Then it becomes difficult to meet.
I'd like a PA to organise a social.
Sooo....there's a position available for an outgoing confident woman. |
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