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Is a 19 too young for a single female swinger?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get a lot of comments saying that I'm very young, it's most peoples first message.
Should I go and come back in a few years?
I felt this would be a safer, more respectable way of finding myself sexually when compared to one night stands or going clubbing. I'd like to be sober and become comfortable with my body and another's body without the curb or alcohol. To learn and experience new things in a safe way but a lot of people seem put off by my age.
What should I do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do whatever you fancy. I just remember being 19 and all I wanted to do was go out with my friends and have a laugh. There is guys your age on here. Maybe get chatting to a couple and see if you are compatible and it could be a regular thing. If it was me tho I would come off here and just concentrate on being 19 and enjoy yourself. You have your whole life ahead of you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know you can set age limit preferences (do they show on profiles?) they're a good guide at least. Who are these people giving you these replies? Men you've approached? I know personally at 33 I wouldn't agree to meet someone of 19, thats just my personal choice though.
Surely you'd have more age appropriate, local choice on the likes of tinder? Just be upfront that you're not interested in a relationship and its a similar thing really.
Enjoy yourself, youve a beautiful body and sound a very bright girl, you'll have them queuing up xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No is simple answer as long as you are making your own choices and not pressurised into the swinging life style, then fill your boots ...or pussy which ever is preferable lol  |
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"I get a lot of comments saying that I'm very young, it's most peoples first message.
Should I go and come back in a few years?
I felt this would be a safer, more respectable way of finding myself sexually when compared to one night stands or going clubbing. I'd like to be sober and become comfortable with my body and another's body without the curb or alcohol. To learn and experience new things in a safe way but a lot of people seem put off by my age.
What should I do? "
Not at all if you feel like you want too join in your age is not a problem at all x |
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Whatever makes you happy .. Age is just a no # I started very young not here .. And that how I met my lovely better half .. Don't let let this bother you .. There a lot of younger people getting into this lifestyle .. I'm sure you will meet them ..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get a lot of comments saying that I'm very young, it's most peoples first message.
Should I go and come back in a few years?
I felt this would be a safer, more respectable way of finding myself sexually when compared to one night stands or going clubbing. I'd like to be sober and become comfortable with my body and another's body without the curb or alcohol. To learn and experience new things in a safe way but a lot of people seem put off by my age.
What should I do? "
I think you should do whatever - and whoever - you want to. So long as you are not pressured and are making the choices then that's fine. I think you will be able to choose from a very large number of offers so good luck to you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I started swinging at 19 (was alot different back then). Had a bit of fun, went away, did the relationship thing and came back 20 years later. Was I too young at 19 - of course I was! Did I know anything about life and relationships - did I hell!! Could you tell my 19 year old self that?? Noooo way I knew it all. Would I change my life? Nope. I did what I did back then cos I enjoyed it.
OP do what you feel is right. You maybe a very mature 19 year old but don't do anything you are uncomfortable with. Find your 'I am not happy with this' voice very very quickly and use it. People will try to exploit you. Don't be afraid to tell them to fuck off (they don't deserve the nice approach) Do what you feel comfortable with and build up a little network of trusty friends. Most of all have fun and stay safe. |
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I started at your age OP so it's not young at all most people will arguably judge you to not have the life/sexual experience to be emotionally ready for swinging, however if like me you have a mature head on your shoulders, and have the confidence can carry yourself/communicate well, I can tell you from experience your age then won't be a factor |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Difficult one it depends on the person... all I'll say is that I wish I knew about Fab when I was 19!
mind you it was probably dial up connections back then!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thankyou to everyone that has given such solid advice! I am very wary about people as, like everyone, I've had bad experiences. Safety is such a huge factor when meeting anybody be it from online or in person.
I will take everything that each of you has said into account and I hope that I can be successful with it, as I hope you all are too 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thankyou to everyone that has given such solid advice! I am very wary about people as, like everyone, I've had bad experiences. Safety is such a huge factor when meeting anybody be it from online or in person.
I will take everything that each of you has said into account and I hope that I can be successful with it, as I hope you all are too
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do whatever you fancy. I just remember being 19 and all I wanted to do was go out with my friends and have a laugh. There is guys your age on here. Maybe get chatting to a couple and see if you are compatible and it could be a regular thing. If it was me tho I would come off here and just concentrate on being 19 and enjoy yourself. You have your whole life ahead of you x"
God i wish i could remember when i was 19, but then i was d*unk most of the time back then, lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thankyou to everyone that has given such solid advice! I am very wary about people as, like everyone, I've had bad experiences. Safety is such a huge factor when meeting anybody be it from online or in person.
I will take everything that each of you has said into account and I hope that I can be successful with it, as I hope you all are too
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You're pics are hot,but you are way to young for me or im too old for you,but i wish you well and stay safe its scary out there |
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By *anB451Man
over a year ago
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There's no getting away from the fact that you'll be much younger than a lot of the people involved in this lifestyle, but don't let that be a barrier. There's still be plenty who will meet you.
Go out there, discover yourself. But most importantly, stay safe and don't rush into meets because a few have said no based on your age |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely not. If your looking for men you wont have any issues getting meets, couples/females may be a bit harder but not impossible.
Love to meet someone my age or younger whos fit, sexy and outgoing. Alot of younger/similar aged girls here get bombarded too much |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not that long since I was regularly seeing a 19yr old - we had a great NSA relationship. Really helped that we liked the same music, art, food types, etc. Couldn't believe my luck.
Pity my work ended in that area and I had to move away. |
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By *aptzogMan
over a year ago
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Certainly not too young. You decide the ages of the people you want to meet.
Some people may be saying you're very young as a way of breaking the ice and starting a conversation.
You say this is a safe place to meet people. I wouldn't rely on that. Most people on here are genuine and although there are timewasters, they do not mean anyone harm. However you should still be careful when meeting for first time, tell someone where you are, meet in public place etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If swinging is something you want to do, then I would guess not. After all there are things you can do with swinging that you wouldn't do on a vanilla date necessarily.
If you know your own mind and body then enjoy yourself. I have to say it's not something I ever did until my 30's at nineteen I was more interested in having a laugh with my friends.
You mention safety, but I would suggest that is the same with whatever your age especially for a single female. Do you have a close friend you can confide in who you could tell when you are on a meet, or social?
I wouldn't suggest your age matters, but your life experience may. I've had a quick look at your profile and your age preference is set at a small parameter, suggesting to me you are perhaps happier with those close to your own age, (nothing wrong with that, many older are the same, whatever you are most comfortable with!) but it makes me wonder if perhaps these are boys you would date, anyway? If that makes sense? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Alot of people won't meet you and alot will judge you but if you are happy then go for it! I was 21 when Mark and I first started swinging together and I had already experiences 3sum/4sum/more some action before I met him at 21 so no, I see nothing wrong with you being 19 but don't expect everyone to be ok with it would be my advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You will get plenty of interest but little of it actionable.
Id be surprised if you were still here in a fortnight, not meaning that in any offensive way to you but I doubt this is something you are going to take anywhere at your age. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get a lot of comments saying that I'm very young, it's most peoples first message.
Should I go and come back in a few years?
I felt this would be a safer, more respectable way of finding myself sexually when compared to one night stands or going clubbing. I'd like to be sober and become comfortable with my body and another's body without the curb or alcohol. To learn and experience new things in a safe way but a lot of people seem put off by my age.
What should I do? "
Sharon would eat you alive  
19 is not a problem, Shaz starting swinging at 19 also. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single i dont see a problem, we all have to learn to spot the predators etc regardless thats part of maturing and finding yourself.
All i would say is stay true to your own desires and never let anyone try to get you to do things you dont want to.
A 19 year old couple on the other hand.... that is a different question, as i would doubt they have the emotional maturity to handle swapping.... then again i am old so irrelevant anyway and certainly wish i found all this when i was younger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a single i dont see a problem, we all have to learn to spot the predators etc regardless thats part of maturing and finding yourself.
All i would say is stay true to your own desires and never let anyone try to get you to do things you dont want to.
A 19 year old couple on the other hand.... that is a different question, as i would doubt they have the emotional maturity to handle swapping.... then again i am old so irrelevant anyway and certainly wish i found all this when i was younger. "
I don't see a problem as long as your careful and comfortable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will get plenty of interest but little of it actionable.
Id be surprised if you were still here in a fortnight, not meaning that in any offensive way to you but I doubt this is something you are going to take anywhere at your age. "
Why wont it be actionable? She'll have men crawling all over her, couples too. Ill bet shes already considering deleting her kik account due to the influx of messages as its given on her profile. Theres not a man on here that wouldnt want to fuck a 19 yr old girl |
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You seem eminently sensible.
We discussed swinging at 18. The good lady had a 3some before meeting me.
So long as you are comfortable, safe and having fun, do what you enjoy.
It might not be for you, but then again you may keep doing it till your 80.
We have one life, live it and taste the whole buffet. ( But avoid the nuts.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sammie. like anywhere there are good people here and some not so good, we would say the safest enviroment is to visit a club, safety in numbers. most clubs are strictly controled against unwanted attention and some have a real mixed age range as well, young to old (although at 19 you will be one of the youngest we think) at a club you can meet people and just chat watch others play and its in a very relaxed atmosphere. that would be our advice even for meets arranged for a single women. |
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Do as you wish. We had some abuse on here but we know who we are. When we meet people they find out who we are too. If at 19 all you have going on in life is being a sexual object on fab then perhaps you are to young. But you could say that about people at an older age who have not got their shit together. At 19 you need to be developing with (some sort of) education and travel not getting stuck in a rut. If you are in the right place with your life, why not swing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would not be interested in you from here, way too young, but in a club we don't ask age so then would give you the opportunity to chat etc.
But there are several singles and couples in their 20's who would be interested. though I think you may need to reach out to them.
Have fun, play safe and learn who you are. |
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"I get a lot of comments saying that I'm very young, it's most peoples first message.
Should I go and come back in a few years?
I felt this would be a safer, more respectable way of finding myself sexually when compared to one night stands or going clubbing. I'd like to be sober and become comfortable with my body and another's body without the curb or alcohol. To learn and experience new things in a safe way but a lot of people seem put off by my age.
What should I do? "
You would be too young for us, but then I'm sure we would be too old for you too.
There's absolutely no reason why you shouldn't be on here, I'm there will be more people who would like to meet you than those who wouldn't.
Clubs are a great (and safe) place to explore all kind of fantasies.
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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I'll make a similar comment I made to a male that posted a similar thread a few days ago.
Do what makes you happy. I agree that it's probably safer to meet in swinging clubs than regular clubs. At least on this site you can have an upfront honest conversation about what you do and don't want to do. Time is on you're side so there is no rush. Maybe try a social event at one of the clubs.
Strange though, that when an 18 year old male queried his age and being on this site, lots of people critisised him (not the people on this thread.)
Good luck and have fun.
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No you're not to young. There are people of all ages on here. It's a bit like saying people are too old to swing. The thing with swinging is that there is no right and no wrong way. And age is exactly the same unless someone is under age |
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yeah sammie your old enough to make your own decisions your an attractive young girl and nothing wrong with having fun lifes to short not too xxx Just play safe and enjoy yourself and ignore the naysayers who say your too young to swing xxx |
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By *handi83Man
over a year ago
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I remember being 19 and thinking very differently from my friends in terms of sex and what it is or should be. I've always been very free and not disempowered by sex, if there's something I've wanted to do I've done it and sought it out.
The one thing I would say is that there are some people (note I'm not just focusing on one sex) who prey, so make sure you look after yourself, no your limits and boundaries. Making sure whoever it is who is with you respects you and is in it to pleasure you. Not just themselves.
Good luck! |
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"You seem eminently sensible.
We discussed swinging at 18. The good lady had a 3some before meeting me.
So long as you are comfortable, safe and having fun, do what you enjoy.
It might not be for you, but then again jyou may keep doing it till your 80.
We have one life, live it and taste the whole buffet. ( But avoid the nuts.)"
Feel free to taste the nuts. Just don't chew them! |
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