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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet  |
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see what you did there :P |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!"
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing."
Whilst the site is swamped with 'single' men the reality is that many are anything but single, hence not being able to confirm to meets. There are some good guys on here but they tend to be in demand, as trawling thro the fantasists and dreamers gets very tiresome. Maybe try a club that allows single men on on a Saturday night. Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
Saturday nights often is a little harder for us to find guys also, don't think it's you just maybe alot of single guys go out at weekend looking for tail  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If anyone looking for single guy I'm here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm often in a swingers club on a Saturday night lol |
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
I would fondahood  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing.
Whilst the site is swamped with 'single' men the reality is that many are anything but single, hence not being able to confirm to meets. There are some good guys on here but they tend to be in demand, as trawling thro the fantasists and dreamers gets very tiresome. Maybe try a club that allows single men on on a Saturday night. Good luck x"
What would you know about single guys then
I don't know of any club that allows single guys on a Saturday? If there are, someone name which ones please   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing.
Whilst the site is swamped with 'single' men the reality is that many are anything but single, hence not being able to confirm to meets. There are some good guys on here but they tend to be in demand, as trawling thro the fantasists and dreamers gets very tiresome. Maybe try a club that allows single men on on a Saturday night. Good luck x
What would you know about single guys then
I don't know of any club that allows single guys on a Saturday? If there are, someone name which ones please "
Nevermind, I've just remembered I go to a club on a Saturday, excuse the brain fart |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing.
Whilst the site is swamped with 'single' men the reality is that many are anything but single, hence not being able to confirm to meets. There are some good guys on here but they tend to be in demand, as trawling thro the fantasists and dreamers gets very tiresome. Maybe try a club that allows single men on on a Saturday night. Good luck x
What would you know about single guys then
I don't know of any club that allows single guys on a Saturday? If there are, someone name which ones please "
Cupids.....
Townhouse allows 8 single guys that are already members in if you book in advance.
Do your homework and you'll find a fair few that do even though the majority don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing.
Whilst the site is swamped with 'single' men the reality is that many are anything but single, hence not being able to confirm to meets. There are some good guys on here but they tend to be in demand, as trawling thro the fantasists and dreamers gets very tiresome. Maybe try a club that allows single men on on a Saturday night. Good luck x
What would you know about single guys then
I don't know of any club that allows single guys on a Saturday? If there are, someone name which ones please "
Pmsl you have first hand experience of what I know about single guys ....... See the bit I put about the good ones being in demand lol. |
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I usually have no success when I try on a Saturday night because so many are off to clubs and I can't get in! (In the West Midlands anyway) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing.
Whilst the site is swamped with 'single' men the reality is that many are anything but single, hence not being able to confirm to meets. There are some good guys on here but they tend to be in demand, as trawling thro the fantasists and dreamers gets very tiresome. Maybe try a club that allows single men on on a Saturday night. Good luck x
What would you know about single guys then
I don't know of any club that allows single guys on a Saturday? If there are, someone name which ones please "
Cupids and amour in Manchester both allow single guys on a Saturday night c |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a reliable single guy that can accommodate or travel. |
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By *ambanCouple
over a year ago
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We have terrible trouble finding single guys too?
You chat to them arrange a meet and then try to confirm the day of the meet.....no answer?
Why,what is the point? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a single guy up for regular meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nope.. i have problems too... and even when was looking from a couples profile it was a nightmare... loads of messages.. guys that actually would turn up and meet... totally different and Saturday nights.. yup even harder |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"nope.. i have problems too... and even when was looking from a couples profile it was a nightmare... loads of messages.. guys that actually would turn up and meet... totally different and Saturday nights.. yup even harder"
Oddly enough we thought Saturday nights with enough notice would be easier, ah well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Patience is the key lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Patience is the key lol"
Heard that somewhere before |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
I'll meet you for a social  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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if you know what you are after... then why do you not do the hunting , as opposed to waiting on people coming to you....
the thing about popular guys is they are that.. popular...
they are already out there having fun... going to clubs,socials and events...
so you have to give them as much of a reason as to why they should meet you as opposed to anyone else... |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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given that there are so many guys on here i would have thought that isnt an issue.
most couples seem to struggle finding a single female... |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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I tend to go clubs for my meets. But I'm definitely single and I definitely meet xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"if you know what you are after... then why do you not do the hunting , as opposed to waiting on people coming to you....
the thing about popular guys is they are that.. popular...
they are already out there having fun... going to clubs,socials and events...
so you have to give them as much of a reason as to why they should meet you as opposed to anyone else..."
Done this in the past and been let down by no shows |
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My local is OurPlace4Fun, which also limits single guys on Saturday.
Don't know what any of us can do about the time wasters on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you know what you are after... then why do you not do the hunting , as opposed to waiting on people coming to you....
the thing about popular guys is they are that.. popular...
they are already out there having fun... going to clubs,socials and events...
so you have to give them as much of a reason as to why they should meet you as opposed to anyone else..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess patience and perseverance are the keys without pestering. Can't speak for any other single guys but i find it difficult to get couples to respond and therefore build any rapport. I always attach a picture of myself maybe thats what puts them off lol |
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I tried multiple times to meet on Saturday nights including putting meets up, messaging others that have put meets up and more times than not I end up watching match of the day alone!
I'm not convinced there is a genuine shortage of men looking to meet out there! |
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By *aridon1Couple
over a year ago
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yes we know what you mean, we have been trying to arrange a meet with a couple of males several times, we get the usual a lot of replies, then they go quiet, and the ones who say they will turn up hardly do, a lot of time wasters on here, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tried multiple times to meet on Saturday nights including putting meets up, messaging others that have put meets up and more times than not I end up watching match of the day alone!
I'm not convinced there is a genuine shortage of men looking to meet out there!"
I think thee are a lot of guys who won't meet couples either. I am one of them. I will only meet females and most couples in my experience won't meet separately so save me going through a lot to find the odd one or two I tend to focus just on single ladies and as I can very rarely accommodate it narrows it down even further to those who can.....but it still works well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing."
Stop meeting married or attached guys then |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing.
Stop meeting married or attached guys then "
We don't set out to meet married men, it's them who contact us, surely you can relate to that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
We used to struggle a bit finding single guys so we gave up and now meet them in clubs. Much easier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm on the Wirral and can meet but I'm out of your age range op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Patience is the key lol
Heard that somewhere before "
That is right. I say it few times too |
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet
We used to struggle a bit finding single guys so we gave up and now meet them in clubs. Much easier. "
You struggled? I cant believe that one! I wouldnt be saying no!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey op thought it was just us when we post meet goes all quite like its a secret lol when we busy loads offers ,then guys moan can't get meets lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well guys tbf a lot go for the best they can in looks etc as they should but these tend to be fake or airbrushed profiles and then they are upset to find theyve been conned..this leaves the honest normal guys out of the loop most of which can a have pefect meet with |
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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago
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We have the same issues when we put up meets, the only replies we get are from those we wouldn't meet. Or those who aren't happy to meet with both of us present, erm hello 'swinging' 'couples'
Those we have spoken to previously who we have said we'd be happy to meet are nowhere to be found
We just go to clubs now and hope for the best, but we enjoy ourselves anyway so their loss.
Let them keep moaning in here as to why they get no meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have the same issues when we put up meets, the only replies we get are from those we wouldn't meet. Or those who aren't happy to meet with both of us present, erm hello 'swinging' 'couples'
Those we have spoken to previously who we have said we'd be happy to meet are nowhere to be found
We just go to clubs now and hope for the best, but we enjoy ourselves anyway so their loss.
Let them keep moaning in here as to why they get no meets "
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We also have the same issues.
We have a meet up for Saturday night. As we have been let down so many times, we only now meet in clubs. I feel your frustration op but stick at it there are some good guys out there xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We also have the same issues.
We have a meet up for Saturday night. As we have been let down so many times, we only now meet in clubs. I feel your frustration op but stick at it there are some good guys out there xx"
We are patient so I'm sure we will find someone eventually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet
I would fondahood "
yes if need my help i would offer this to you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet
Saturday nights often is a little harder for us to find guys also, don't think it's you just maybe alot of single guys go out at weekend looking for tail "
Or they are with their wife on a Saturday night |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a single male but having no luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also single, with a bit of a kink, but very little joy on this site, it comes off very cliquey here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
Just seen this
Its hard to believe that this site which is full of testosterone rampant men in the main, that you cant find any to join you .....do you have two heads or are you in fact Trappist monks on a mission, cuz from your profile you look very inviting .........or is it more the case that your getting more "attached men" contact you as apposed to genuine singles ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
I would not arrange a meeting with a couple that l had not met previously on a Saturday night unless l would happen to be in their area. Too many couples or single women disappear at the last minute on Saturday night only to be verified by someone else on Monday for the Saturday.
I am normally in West London on saturday and l have Rios, Tease 2, and Jaydees within striking distance. If l stay at home l can get to Eureka or Paradise Spa. Additionally there is generally a BMFC on. There is no guarantee of anything happening at those events but nor is there with a meet with a couple or single woman, but there is certainty of the event and socialising and having a laugh.
I am neither married nor in a relationship and it is patronising to say most single men are married or dreamers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's cos your age range is set too low.
Us slightly older fellas tend to jump at the opportunities to pleasure sexy ladies...x  |
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I'm looking to meet tonight but I'm not banking on any luck with any couples even though I am definitely free!
I too wonder as above whether some couples or women are going for the airbrushed 6 pack profiles with 12 inch cocks and then wondering why they disappear suddenly - exactly the same thing happens with men as well with some of he 'too good to be true' female profiles
I'm sure even on a Friday or Saturday there are genuine single man keen to meet - I suspect I'll be at chams later!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Saturday nights often is a little harder for us to find guys also, don't think it's you just maybe alot of single guys go out at weekend looking for tail
Or they are with their wife on a Saturday night "
Ok, the single guys are out chasing tail and the married guys are in with there wifes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got a meet with a single guy tomorrow night. I think i pinched him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've got a meet with a single guy tomorrow night. I think i pinched him "
Have fun
We are meeting someone tonight |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've got a meet with a single guy tomorrow night. I think i pinched him
Have fun
We are meeting someone tonight "
Give em one from GG xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For some, Swinging is a lifestyle, for others, it is a pastime. I have a very full and active 'normal' social life; weekends and evenings are thus, rarely available for meets (unless I am working away from home).
As a consequence, I can (typically) only meet daytime, Mon-Fri when the flexible nature of self-employment allows me to take time off (providing I'm feeling affluent enough to do so).
So, if your profile said you "only meet Saturday nights" I wouldn't even waste your time, or mine! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it hard to believe so many couples can't find men that will meet, we used to have our pick of men when we were meeting more freuently and could always find some nice guy.
We find it harder now we are just looking for bi guys, but judging by the amount of messages we still get from well verified straight guys, there are loads out there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I thought you were being sarcastic?!
Maybe they are just bottling it? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've got a meet with a single guy tomorrow night. I think i pinched him
Have fun
We are meeting someone tonight
Give em one from GG xx "
I won't it's a guy But Shaz will |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm up for a meet |
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Jaydees let a limited amount of single guys on a sat night |
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By *ister1Man
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
Well Im here if anyone would like to meet a genuine guy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
Definitely! One of the warning signs seems to be when they reply to meet details etc with ..."cool" Just sort of says "I have no intention of turning up"  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet
Definitely! One of the warning signs seems to be when they reply to meet details etc with ..."cool" Just sort of says "I have no intention of turning up" "
We've just been cancelled on again |
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
Yes been here some years and is always been the same. Get dozens of messages and as soon as it gets close to arranging something they go very quite or dissappear completely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
That's because most are married dreamers. We had the same problem when I was married. Now the idiot dreamers spoilt it for us genuine guys who can accommodate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a single guy and looking for a meet tonight |
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"if you know what you are after... then why do you not do the hunting , as opposed to waiting on people coming to you....
the thing about popular guys is they are that.. popular...
they are already out there having fun... going to clubs,socials and events...
so you have to give them as much of a reason as to why they should meet you as opposed to anyone else..."
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
This is what spoils it for the genuine single blokes who can accommodate and travel...it's muppets who talk the talk but can not walk the walk in case the wife finds out ...
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Despite being single I have comitments. I work alternative Sunday's so my time on those weekends is pretty limited. I have family and friends as well as hobbies that fill my spare time. As others have said I'm not sat here waiting for my phone to beep. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe these single guys are married ? Or in a relationship  |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
Don't you know we are contractually obliged to go to the weekly single guys union meeting on Saturday nights. If we don't attend we will be stripped of out single guy status.
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By *xijenWoman
over a year ago
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give up trying now..last time i was arranging a meet and the single guy blocked me..did the same to a good single female friend of mine..take my chances at partners now so any single guys reading this get your ass down to partners at weekends ,quite a few of us single girls there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing."
You mean married cheating morons....can you not put a little more effort into researching your meets,seems you are getting what you deserve |
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We've given up trying to meet single men they never show up the Mrs has a single girl profile and now she won't even bother looking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing.You mean married cheating morons....can you not put a little more effort into researching your meets,seems you are getting what you deserve "
Getting what we deserve? Ok |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can entertain if needed ???? |
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Well Yes I know it sounds so unbelievable is it not? But true! This is exactly how City Slickers started believe it or not!!!
We started as a Gang Bang team of guys who were well spoken, well travelled and that knew how to entertain a girl, who would be a gentleman in the lounge and an absolute stud in the bedroom and that could perform in group scenario particularly because most of the time the husband wanted to take some photos... I am most certain that couple had the hell of a night once they left, but true... not many guys would in fact tern up on the night so we had to expand by networking...
Things have developed and grown since then but this thread brings back good old days memories and I am surprised why not many other guys have the same idea as indeed we achieve in bringing some quality of respectful single guys in the scene!
We are now hosting parties in the Midlands at Liberty Elite the first Friday of the month so please come and see what we do! |
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I was free last night - put a meet up, messaged some couples/women etc including those that had meets up - no meets and went to a club instead
I simply don't believe this single guys not meeting thing at all |
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"I was free last night - put a meet up, messaged some couples/women etc including those that had meets up - no meets and went to a club instead
I simply don't believe this single guys not meeting thing at all "
Just a tip of advice from and old and bald man  but with experience!
1) Provide something different that other single guys DO NOT for example form a team of reliable guys as any couple can (or at least think) can get plenty of guys!
2) If you want to pick (ok let's say) 'fuck' the best women in here DO NOT look only at the Best Women photos! BUT look also to the Best Men photos! I am not suggesting to become bisexual but put in the perspective of other women are seeking for so... watch your calories intake, join a Gym, get fit!!! You only have a life and this is your life!
The rest is a snow ball believe me I have done it!!! |
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That's not the debate though is it
The argument wasn't why are we constantly let down by the men with 6 packs it was why won't single men meet! |
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"That's not the debate though is it
The argument wasn't why are we constantly let down by the men with 6 packs it was why won't single men meet!"
It was not a debate it was my genuine advice so you can choose to follow it or continue adding your meets and wait and hope |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
...single guys are ten a penny.. that's true...its a common misconception 'quantity means it's easy' quantity can be as much a hindrance as a help. Finding the right guy can be like trying to find the needle in the haystack..
It's often said (mainly to single guys ) effort in reward out .. no different for any other demographic...
P.S. Saturday s... Single guys can have a life out side of fab ...seriously.. they might have something else on ... |
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"That's not the debate though is it
The argument wasn't why are we constantly let down by the men with 6 packs it was why won't single men meet!
It was not a debate it was my genuine advice so you can choose to follow it or continue adding your meets and wait and hope "
I don't wait and hope I either arrange a meet in advance or go to a club - which is exactly what I did last night!
The point of the thread wasn't me complaining I do fine! I was pointing out that there aren't queues of couples waiting for single guys that don't exist, it maybe that their specific requirements aren't available but that's not the same as saying single guys aren't meeting |
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"That's not the debate though is it
The argument wasn't why are we constantly let down by the men with 6 packs it was why won't single men meet!
It was not a debate it was my genuine advice so you can choose to follow it or continue adding your meets and wait and hope
I don't wait and hope I either arrange a meet in advance or go to a club - which is exactly what I did last night!
The point of the thread wasn't me complaining I do fine! I was pointing out that there aren't queues of couples waiting for single guys that don't exist, it maybe that their specific requirements aren't available but that's not the same as saying single guys aren't meeting "
I agree but some single guys (as I am one of them) meet more than others even if all couples do not like to verify us... the statistic remain a proof!
I was only giving you an advice to increase your chances the rest is up to you! |
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Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing."
Surely there must be shed loads of single guys free at the weekends |
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"I've got a meet with a single guy tomorrow night. I think i pinched him "
Pinch me please. |
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"I've got a meet with a single guy tomorrow night. I think i pinched him "
Pinch me too and I'm just down the road from you xx |
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Most guys have no patience and want meetings after just saying hello or talk about what they want to do while they are whacking off then they dissappear |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Manchester guy here looking for chat and meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
I WLTM but all the ladies / couples disappear |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow, the site is full of single guys... Maybe be more selective and of course the verifications help although for new members here it's very difficult sometimes as people pass you by if you don't have veri's!
Good luck though, there are gems out there ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wow, the site is full of single guys... Maybe be more selective and of course the verifications help although for new members here it's very difficult sometimes as people pass you by if you don't have veri's!
Good luck though, there are gems out there ??"
We have been very selective when making first contact with single guys (we don't seek out to meet married men) we get messages every day from guys but most are deleted as they've not read our profile, yes we get everyone has lives outside of fab, the reason we can only do Saturday nights is because we are both busy with work and family the rest of the week, guys we've messaged and have said they're willing to meet suddenly go offline for days when the weekend is approaching, or our messages to them go ignored.
I'm sure not every guy is like this and we like to give the benefit of the doubt if they cancel, but this weekend, we had a "single guy" cancel on us two days on the run. So you can understand the frustration, I think we will be giving the 3somes a break for a while and doing what a few have suggested and go to a club on a Saturday night instead, seems to be the way forward.
Enjoy your Sunday fabulous people
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its the other way for me, i cant get a meet on here!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't find it easy. Firstly we only want to meet someone that we get on with. Secondly I am fussy about who I have sex with. This rules out much of Fab. Then we always insist on a social (albeit will usually play the same night). But many men on Fab feel that it's not worth their while spending a couple of hours in a pub, and buying a round of drinks, in order to get some sex later - they would rather have instant guarenteed sex or go without. There is also the problem of geography, and understandably people have to decide how far they want to travel for a meet. Then some men turn into nutcases, so that rules out a fair few.
But the biggest problem we have is that a lot single men march to a different beat. Many couples have children therefore have to arrange their play time in advance, and play time is also restricted to child free nights. We find single men with no commitments don't always like to make arrangements in advance, and don't understand that a cancellation to a couple with kids means a waste of precious play time.
All in all, it doesn't take long for a shortlist of men to turn into zero. However over a long period of time it's possible to have a few regular friends off and on. But patience is required. |
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You can say that again there are very few opportunities for us single guys to go to clubs on a Saturday. Not that I am a big fan of clubs anyway. For me they are a good way of showing that I am genuine but I much prefer unrushed intimate encounters when meeting couples. |
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"Wow, the site is full of single guys... Maybe be more selective and of course the verifications help although for new members here it's very difficult sometimes as people pass you by if you don't have veri's!
Good luck though, there are gems out there ??
We have been very selective when making first contact with single guys (we don't seek out to meet married men) we get messages every day from guys but most are deleted as they've not read our profile, yes we get everyone has lives outside of fab, the reason we can only do Saturday nights is because we are both busy with work and family the rest of the week, guys we've messaged and have said they're willing to meet suddenly go offline for days when the weekend is approaching, or our messages to them go ignored.
I'm sure not every guy is like this and we like to give the benefit of the doubt if they cancel, but this weekend, we had a "single guy" cancel on us two days on the run. So you can understand the frustration, I think we will be giving the 3somes a break for a while and doing what a few have suggested and go to a club on a Saturday night instead, seems to be the way forward.
Enjoy your Sunday fabulous people
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yes I have had the same problems
"couples" saying they're willing to meet suddenly go offline for days when the meet
or very short notice meets, and invites to pay parties
maybe they think that we're desperate
or cancel on me two days on the run. So you can understand my frustration, I think i'll be giving the 3somes a break for a while and doing what a few have suggested and go to a club on a Saturday night instead, seems to be the way forward. |
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I know what you mean. Although I haven't given up on threesomes. I have stopped focusing so much of my energy on couples. Why? because even when you have established a connection with a couple and met. You are still dependant on not one but two people being in the right frame of mind to meet and thats not even taking family and careers into account.
No point in me wining about it. It is what it is. But I learnt long ago not to put other aspects of my life on hold just in case a couple I am in contact with might give a green light a couple of hours before wanting to meet me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have terrible trouble finding single guys too?
You chat to them arrange a meet and then try to confirm the day of the meet.....no answer?
Why,what is the point?"
Fabswingers needs a messaging app notifications would go a long way and probably make meets easier. Also a good old fashioned phone call always works wonders! |
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
I think theres hundreds of single guys that would meet, it's just depends on if they fit a certain persons criteria |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
You're obviously contacting the wrong single guys.
If I arrange to meet I meet, but sadly most of the time I never get the chance to, as people tend to be blinded by promises from the unreliable people and ignore genuine people like myself who aren't 'shouty' about what they can do, and who don't use 'enhanced' or 'photo-shopped' pics to attract others. Nobody said life was fair. |
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I'm genuinely single ladies and genuinely gentlemanly, but I'm not a gentle man |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oddly enough I have the exact opposite problem. Ive chatted with a number of couples and single ladies on here and every time it's them that turn cold. Even had one couple who, when we got to arranging things, unfriendly me, deleted all messages and blocked me!!
I'm genuinely here to meet but seems so many others just aren't. |
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We'll I always struggle to get meets have had so many female n couple messers just sick of them . Like why do they come on here if there not going to meet . I've met a few friends on here but far to many messers |
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
This is defo a windup lol
Very good
Defo get the dogs Barking |
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"We've given up trying to meet single men they never show up the Mrs has a single girl profile and now she won't even bother looking "
Yes my wife has a single.profile also and has not checked it in years |
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"Despite being single I have comitments. I work alternative Sunday's so my time on those weekends is pretty limited. I have family and friends as well as hobbies that fill my spare time. As others have said I'm not sat here waiting for my phone to beep. "
This is quite reasonable and understandable. How ever when you are mid arrangements and the day gets close or arrives and suddenly all contact is lost this is frustrating.
We also have busy lives and our chances are limited for meets and are so often left with no meet at all on a chance we may only get once every couple of months |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
As a single female, I too find it hard to find a reliable "single" guy. Most are married or attached and Saturday night is take out the missus night or get a take-away and stay at home with the missus. I suspect it is easier to make excuses mid-week to get out and stay out for a while. Keep at it though, there are some very good and reliable singles on here, you just have to work through the profiles until you find one. |
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By *handi83Man
over a year ago
Right here |
As a single guy, who is truly single and a bit bohemian I don't understand why you would set up a meet and then not turn up?! Baffling behaviour really. Although as yet I haven't been let down. I've arraigned a few meets and have no intention of backing out. |
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet
This is defo a windup lol
Very good
Defo get the dogs Barking "
your dead right and you've hit the nail on the head |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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As a single female, I too find it hard to find a reliable "single" guy. Most are married or attached and Saturday night is take out the missus night or get a take-away and stay at home with the missus. I suspect it is easier to make excuses mid-week to get out and stay out for a while. "
I’m very sorry I hear this argument quite often levelled against single men on here and my personal opinion is that it’s quite a lazy one. Yes there are married “single” men on here but guess what there married “single” women on here are too. Yes there are single men that cancel on meets or go cold on them but guess what so do couples and single women in exactly the same way as described here.
On the main weather a couple, single woman or man we all lead busy lives that require us to juggle many things like work, friend’s family and other commitments. Also couples and single women are the only ones with children? You know there are such things as single fathers who have to put their kind’s needs before theirs just like any of you parents out there. Sex is a nice thing to have but sometimes just like everyone else life causes us to prioritise other things before it. Everyone is different with different situations; you can’t tar everyone with the same brush.
I suspect however there is a number of people on here that just get off on chase as it were, the constant toing and throwing of messages and the idea of meeting that person. Which is why they go cold once the meet has been arranged and they have hit their wank limit for the week or what ever
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"We also have the same issues.
We have a meet up for Saturday night. As we have been let down so many times, we only now meet in clubs. I feel your frustration op but stick at it there are some good guys out there xx
We are patient so I'm sure we will find someone eventually."
Reading this thread and sadly heaving a deep sigh of regret that I am outside your age range. As a single guy who has had only two meets since joining in February and who sends out some messages most days, I really wish I was in demand lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!
Saturday nights, as it says in our profile. We've had some success but we get guys saying they can't stay late, or, not sure if I can get out, that sort of thing."
You need to stop messaging married guys....seems a simple solution! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My own view is that although single women are called unicorns, there is something rarer! The young ( but not too young) genuinely good looking (not Hollywood looks) white guy with easy charm and not necessarily a gym sculptured body but fit body. These guys have their pick and probably can be cancelled and be blocked with no issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi fonda hood, for a beginer lover male to date with a couple for a threesome, the first thought can be: how safe is the sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi fonda hood, for a beginer lover male to date with a couple for a threesome, the first thought can be: how safe is the sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hello!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not just the men, I've chatted to a few ( couples n single ladies) and they are don't turn up or change their minds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This single guy is up for a meet with a couple,and wont back out!
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over a year ago
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I'm not sure there's such a thing as being a single guy 'in demand' ... my experience on here has been of couples / females making arrangements and then, 19 out of 20 times, going quiet or just blocking. Which is all fine, I understand the supply/demand economy on here, the annoying thing is hearing that some of 'us' seem to be actively making the experience worse for the apparent minority of genuine people... |
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By *av1970Man
over a year ago
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"It's not just the men, I've chatted to a few ( couples n single ladies) and they are don't turn up or change their minds "
I've never had a problem with couples backing out or not showing when I could accommodate |
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I' only once backed out of a meet. I'd sprained my ankle badly.
It can though be difficult to arrange with work, family ( I have aged parents) and vanilla life in general |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love meeting couples. Can't get enough of them to be honest lol. Shame I'm a little out of you age range. I would have loved to join you both David xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Genuine guy here will meet message for pics and a chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
No |
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We don't have any issues finding a meet, we kind of have to do last minute arrangements because of busy work life and little ones at home.
Princess xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i meet saturdays , always turn up and never cancel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was on here in 2007 as a single guy I did really well.
I was a genuine single guy, always polite and respectful when sending messages, had some good banter going with both singles and couples.
When a meet was arranged I turned up, and the prospective meet turned up as well, never ever had a cancellation.
Met someone in the real world lol fell in love and left Fab, we are now on here as a newbie couple and having some success.
However as we are not looking for guys we haven't got this problem, but I have noticed that the guys have increased exponentially, and in my opinion I would say most of them are married or just pic hunters having a quick wank.
I would say keep trying as there are some great single guys out there, I still have the name of one of the guys I used to meet at gang bangs and he was and still is a genuine guy
Also recently been contacted by a 2 man team and can pass their name on if anyone would like to pm me and as far as I could tell they seemed very genuine.
Anyway that's my take on things hope it helps
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When I was on here in 2007 as a single guy I did really well.
I was a genuine single guy, always polite and respectful when sending messages, had some good banter going with both singles and couples.
When a meet was arranged I turned up, and the prospective meet turned up as well, never ever had a cancellation.
Met someone in the real world lol fell in love and left Fab, we are now on here as a newbie couple and having some success.
However as we are not looking for guys we haven't got this problem, but I have noticed that the guys have increased exponentially, and in my opinion I would say most of them are married or just pic hunters having a quick wank.
I would say keep trying as there are some great single guys out there, I still have the name of one of the guys I used to meet at gang bangs and he was and still is a genuine guy
Also recently been contacted by a 2 man team and can pass their name on if anyone would like to pm me and as far as I could tell they seemed very genuine.
Anyway that's my take on things hope it helps
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We find that a club provides the best way to meet a single guys for us, also the best surroundings and seems to work well. As to the question of available single men there are plenty, but we always look for a big needle in a small haystack ! |
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Unfortunately its even harder for genuine guys.. so many twats flood couples boxes with messages most genuine messages just get bulk deleted! !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
I have had this problem... and i also find that even though i have already met with someone, when trying to arrange a 2nd play date its almost impossible... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
I have the reverse problem, finding woman and couples who don't cancel last min |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same here... I'm a single guy who finds it hard to meet women and couples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a single guy who likes couples but still struggle to meet , |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agreed with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet
I have the reverse problem, finding woman and couples who don't cancel last min"
Yep. Agreed with this... |
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If I'm fortunate enough to get a reply to a polite message I consider that a success on here... If a meet is arranged I'll be there, can't say more than that really. |
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet
I have had this problem... and i also find that even though i have already met with someone, when trying to arrange a 2nd play date its almost impossible..."
Same for us and a lot of the time Its those that have been the most persistent that does it which totally burns my head out As for second play meets we have been lucky and have met all our meets twice or more
Another mind fuck i find is just when you think great we have found a good egg here had a few fantastic meets then suddenly they have vanished deleted account  Some return weeks later and get in touch and some come back under different names and wot not and never get in touch why lol just why go to all that pissing about Then have the same pics as the previous profile had  just no need for it at all am now pondering on changing how we use fab all together maybe fab can be hard work For all and For the sake of your sanity best not to try to work shit out
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Always reply even if it's "not for us sorry" If it's obvious that they haven't read our profile (Around 50%) then they don't deserve a reply. ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a genuine single guy, I find its meeting couples that is so hard on here.
Most don't reply, and those that do usually say no thanks.
I guess there are lots of bad eggs on each side, and it's a case of keeping on going and hopefully we'll all find the person/people we're looking for.
And on that note, am free tomorrow afternoon |
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
Completely agree! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
Many go quiet coz you have said to meet at an awkward time of day. (This is the married ones). After work Monday to Thursday, they can tell the other half that they had to work late, but Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights? Nope, since when did they ever work late Friday? Ditto Saturday and Sunday during the day. Oh no, that won't work, got to do the food shop in ASDA at some point. So unless you ask to meet them during a work day, for which they have carefully booked a day off for, they are never going to show, no matter what drivel they spout. The others, well, some are socially inept and can only function in front of a keyboard, typing out fantasies that race around in their heads and which will only ever remain fantasies.
That said, I have met a fair number of nice, single guys. They are out there, the really good, reliable ones are few and far between, but there none the less. Just got to work hard to find them! |
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We've met one single guy and he was fab. But he was already invested as he was at a club. But he was a true gent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet
Many go quiet coz you have said to meet at an awkward time of day. (This is the married ones). After work Monday to Thursday, they can tell the other half that they had to work late, but Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights? Nope, since when did they ever work late Friday? Ditto Saturday and Sunday during the day. Oh no, that won't work, got to do the food shop in ASDA at some point. So unless you ask to meet them during a work day, for which they have carefully booked a day off for, they are never going to show, no matter what drivel they spout. The others, well, some are socially inept and can only function in front of a keyboard, typing out fantasies that race around in their heads and which will only ever remain fantasies.
That said, I have met a fair number of nice, single guys. They are out there, the really good, reliable ones are few and far between, but there none the less. Just got to work hard to find them! "
Couldn't of put it better myself. I'm a genuine single woman and yes I find it hard to meet with genuine single guys. I've written on my profile they must live alone. That's for privacy and safety reasons but it also helps to out the supposed single guys who actually don't like alone because they "house share". Yeah with their wife / girlfriend! Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"because they "house share Yeah with their wife / girlfriend! Lol. "
Bit unfair.
I live in London and rent is so expensive that house sharing is the only way a lot of people can afford to live where they work.
Yes there are some guys out there who are cheating, but to tar all single men who house share with a single stroke of the brush like that is harsh and unfair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"because they "house share Yeah with their wife / girlfriend! Lol.
Bit unfair.
I live in London and rent is so expensive that house sharing is the only way a lot of people can afford to live where they work.
Yes there are some guys out there who are cheating, but to tar all single men who house share with a single stroke of the brush like that is harsh and unfair"
Did I say I was tarring ALL guys ? No because I wasn't. I was referring about the guys that message me! The ones that live local and message me. I'm not interested in outside my area so I wasn't referring to London etc at all. So ask before assuming and accusing. It's not nice. Have a great day. |
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By *eppoMan
over a year ago
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I'm single
I have my own flat
Does that qualify me for anything lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm single
I have my own flat
Does that qualify me for anything lol
P."
Would if you lived in my area lol. . Great chest by the way |
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I think a lot of the time people are simply going for shallow profiles with 6 packs haha
If you actually talk to people and not just 'arrange a date' im sure youd have more luck.
Id say look at the more normal and average looking people.
For example most guys that have over the top gym bodies are probably people with no substance im conversation. Seen this confirmed so many times its a truth and not a complete generalisation.
Most of the intelligent and fun people to be around have been average looking as it were from my experience.
So tip of the day. . Over the top gym body prob means they love themselves too much to be worth meeting.
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By *eppoMan
over a year ago
London Colney |
Thank god I've let my gym membership run out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a lot of the time people are simply going for shallow profiles with 6 packs haha
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Sorry I have agree with Red. I used to organise party's but one of the reasons for stopping doing them was trying to get them to turn up. I used to get messages from "single" men asking if I ever held them in the week because they had problems with weekends. Last night I was at a social and the organiser told us she always booked twice as many men because only half of them turn up. I once met someone who organised gang bangs and he told me if you were not using a club you had to hold them during the week in the day time. The reason most of the "single" men on here are not and its easier for them to get time off work than it is to get away from the wife or girlfriend. I went to a couple and found there were only a couple of us who were "single". We do exist but OP there is no easy way to le out the none single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single guyou here in manchester always up for meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shame you are quite so far away or I would definately show up.
Im on the other end of the scale being a newbie and single guy I think it's hard to convince e people I am genuine. |
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By *errysMan
over a year ago
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet "
another spoof post !!! |
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Ummmm yeah you have to be rigorous and keep control of your candidate... I mean child... I mean man...Until such time as they appear at your door... Lol |
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seriously fonda hood if u lived near me with an ass like that !!!! I'd definitely not be pulling out what are these guys thinking ?????? |
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By *km45Man
over a year ago
UTTOXETER |
Genuine single guy here looking to meet couples outside clubs. Never timewasted any lady. Always send polite friendly messages and never in a rush to meet. |
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"Any other couples struggle when it comes to finding a single guy?
We get loads of messages but as soon as you try to arrange an actual meet they go all quiet
Many go quiet coz you have said to meet at an awkward time of day. (This is the married ones). After work Monday to Thursday, they can tell the other half that they had to work late, but Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights? Nope, since when did they ever work late Friday? Ditto Saturday and Sunday during the day. Oh no, that won't work, got to do the food shop in ASDA at some point. So unless you ask to meet them during a work day, for which they have carefully booked a day off for, they are never going to show, no matter what drivel they spout. The others, well, some are socially inept and can only function in front of a keyboard, typing out fantasies that race around in their heads and which will only ever remain fantasies.
That said, I have met a fair number of nice, single guys. They are out there, the really good, reliable ones are few and far between, but there none the less. Just got to work hard to find them!
Couldn't of put it better myself. I'm a genuine single woman and yes I find it hard to meet with genuine single guys. I've written on my profile they must live alone. That's for privacy and safety reasons but it also helps to out the supposed single guys who actually don't like alone because they "house share". Yeah with their wife / girlfriend! Lol. "
Or as I did for some time with my oldest son! Some very judgmental people on here that can't see beyond the obvious. |
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"because they "house share Yeah with their wife / girlfriend! Lol.
Bit unfair.
I live in London and rent is so expensive that house sharing is the only way a lot of people can afford to live where they work.
Yes there are some guys out there who are cheating, but to tar all single men who house share with a single stroke of the brush like that is harsh and unfair"
I think that you are over-reacting a tad. Us country bumpkins are not used to the extortionate rents that you poor people who live in "The Smoke" have to put up with. I was working in Wembley a few weeks ago and found that student accommodation costs more per week than I pay per month! I have been messaged by "single guys" who live in local areas that I know quite well and the rents are really low, so it makes me wonder too. When you have been phoned at 2am in the morning, by an irate wife for fucking her husband who you thought was single, you tend to err on the side of caution. |
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over a year ago
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Or as I did for some time with my oldest son! Some very judgmental people on here that can't see beyond the obvious. "
It isn't that cut n dried. Unfortunately, the few spoil it for the many. Take it up with the "single" married guys. |
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Or as I did for some time with my oldest son! Some very judgmental people on here that can't see beyond the obvious.
It isn't that cut n dried. Unfortunately, the few spoil it for the many. Take it up with the "single" married guys. "
There is no doubt cheating "single" men abound on here but I won't bet a quid on the single fems on here either. I would go a step further to say quite a number of "couples" on here are seriously at it too. It's a fucked up thing but hey, it is what it is. Swinging is not exactly a monogamous thing. I don't care if it's Mrs Cameron, Mrs Beckham or Mrs Mo. As long as we are both happy and we know what we are up to, happy days!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously!
Have you very specific times in mind or are flexible? Sometimes people struggle when they've got very specific Windows they need for a meet as, despite the popular myth, not all single guys are sat at home on their phones waiting for a meet at all times!
But if you're flexible I cannot understand why you'd struggle on here!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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Or as I did for some time with my oldest son! Some very judgmental people on here that can't see beyond the obvious.
It isn't that cut n dried. Unfortunately, the few spoil it for the many. Take it up with the "single" married guys.
There is no doubt cheating "single" men abound on here but I won't bet a quid on the single fems on here either. I would go a step further to say quite a number of "couples" on here are seriously at it too. It's a fucked up thing but hey, it is what it is. Swinging is not exactly a monogamous thing. I don't care if it's Mrs Cameron, Mrs Beckham or Mrs Mo. As long as we are both happy and we know what we are up to, happy days!!!"
I agree and I think the best thing to do is trust your gut and check out veris. Although it is hard to get one to begin with, which is why socials that are organised all round are probably the best places to start. Go to one, get seen and chatted with, get veris and then you are good to go. |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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This is why I need to get out (of London) more often, a guy could become a virgin all over again waiting for a meet: like the OP, finding women in London that meet is like trying to get blood out of a stone. Outside London however, very different experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm surprised that you're getting no-shows from single guys. All the couples that I've been with for MMF haven't had any problems with single guys. Having said that, all my MMF meets are Monday to Friday daytime meets during school hours as thats when the couples are generally free. I'm lucky in that I can get workday days off at a days notice, so can meet their free time scales. Can you do weekdays? Mike |
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over a year ago
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As a single male I can see the point some of the people on here are making but I've also been messed about by quite a few couples and single ladies on here. Not just on a weekend on some week day meets an yes I've had a few club meets but do find its either hard because who wants to pay a silly price to go to a club to meet a woman/couple an then they don't turn up( which has happened to me just like me booking a hotel an they didn't turn up) and you're left there like Billy no mates as I find most clubs the people tend to be real one sided in a way where if they don't know you they ain't really up to socializing with you. So then I think it puts some males off clubs etc.
I just feel the Real single guys have to just through so many hurdles an landmines left from the fakes on here that it can sometimes even been off putting the scene souls be for everyone to enjoy an be treated the same...
Just my thoughts so don't shoot me on them |
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I can't find any single guys, either |
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