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"We find it hard to get meets. Check our profile and make some constructive comments. Thanks. X" Not a lot wrong to be honest. Lose the "name and shame" and the grumpy update, otherwise its a pity you're so far away from us lol | |||
Peach
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"The spelling and grammar could do with some attention, but we would meet. Bit odd to say you would meet mm but hubby is straight. " Thanks, that's sweet. | |||
More and up to date pics would be good.
Spell and grammar check would benefit.
No negativity whatsoever including in your status.
Other than that.....come to Brighton! It's a good profile  | |||
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"Your profile confuses me a bit. It says you're in London midweek and Liverpool weekends, and that you don't want to meet in London but that midweek is best ? Maybe I'm just being stoooopid "I thought this too had to read it 3 times to be sure. | |||
"It looks a bit aggressive at the start with the naming and shaming and the "he gets fed up" bit, I personally wouldn't have that bit. Then the rest is a nice read, maybe could be slightly more in depth about what you can give to a potential meet. Mainly though, it's upto you what you write, we put loads of time into writing our profile, have changed the write up a few times and it's never made any difference to us, we still struggle to find meets. Feel free to have a look at ours and give us some feedback in return
Peach
"Not sure it counts as constructive but "yum" | |||
"Your profile confuses me a bit. It says you're in London midweek and Liverpool weekends, and that you don't want to meet in London but that midweek is best ? Maybe I'm just being stoooopid "Yes that is now very confusing And requires clarity, but I think it's just an accidental oversight and in credit to the OP they've changed the profile up a few times since asking for guidance so they are trying to get it right for them | |||
"Thanks everybody, It would appear there'snot to much wront. We firmly belive the problem lies in wanting to meet for ad rink in a neutral location before playing. Plus a lot of people, including ourselves, share accomodation in London. That's our excuse anyway.. As for grammar.. Not taking it personally but it is a pet hate. If somebody can point out grammar is wrong, then they must know what the correct version is. Meaning, they understood in the first place. So job done, they understood. " Yes, of course but I thought you might have wanted a really top notch profile and hence get it all right instead of it being alright. Some people really do make decisions on whether or not to meet people based on their ability to write well so I figured that not putting up barriers was constructive advice. You can also imagine that any negativity also puts people off. At the end of the day, it's your profile and I hope it works for you. | |||
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"So, you are in Liverpool on weekends, but cant meet then due to family, and you are in London during the week but won't meet anyone in London as you have "given up" on that location? So, when are you going to meet lol? "Coventry? | |||
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"Your profile confuses me a bit. It says you're in London midweek and Liverpool weekends, and that you don't want to meet in London but that midweek is best ? Maybe I'm just being stoooopid "Yep this confused me as well. Where do you want to meet? London during the week or liverpool during the week? As you say cannot meet weekends? Have a read back of your profile to see where we are both coming from | |||
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"thanks again everybody. Central London is the issue not our profile." What? London is like swinger central. For my advice delete all of the pictures they are not very apealing/dont put you in a good light. Go for more neutral body shots/faces of you both rather than hardcore close up graphic shots. As frankly you cant tell a thing about you from them other than the male half could probbaly do with some clippers Clear full body always helps people decide. Also ditch this line "If you require gym fit, or slim to turn you on then pass us by. We are normal healthy people" Comes across awfully argumentative and if you had clear body pics wholly unessecery | |||
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Your feed will be showing you London based people of whom your unlikely to meet. 
What is the point in advertising yourselves in a place your not gonna be at
And more importantly Liverpool bassed people cant find you on a location search because your profile is in London
Surly it would be easier and more logical to locate your profile in Liverpool and state you only play at weekends.  | |||
"thanks again everybody. Central London is the issue not our profile." Hmm. Let's see now... "London based during the week. Liverpool at the weekend. Not looking to meet in London." Your profile is set to London, your first line of your profile is telling people from London you're not interested in them! You're in Liverpool at weekends... most people make time for swinging at weekends... so set your location to where you want to play.... "Not hugely experienced.. We used to meet a couple regularly for Fem Fem play and soft male partner swap." Are you still only soft swap, or full swap? Say so in your profile! "Have been to a club about three times on social evenings. Not really our thing." This is fair enough, but the club scene is pretty big in London, so you have cut your options down straight away... you're also subliminally saying 'people who go to clubs aren't what we're looking for' Also, you're in Liverpool at weekends... the club scene is also big in the NW.. so again, you're cutting down your options. "Please help us with your location if your profile says just London. We dont like people saying they will travel miles at short notice, experience shows it doesn't happen." What about meeting halfway for the first meet? From doing a search based on Bow, on your criteria, there are well over 300 results within a 5 mile radius! And anyway, you're not interested in meeting in London! "So with couples we like to have a drink first, somewhere neutral and play afterwards if we click." Play where? At yours, at theirs? Confusing, as you want to meet somewhere neutral. "If you require gym fit, or slim to turn you on then pass us by. We are normal healthy people." Change this to a more user friendly version. "Mrs camper likes ladies, preferably curvy but always down to earth, so curves not mandatory." You have put off fems that aren't curvy, and what do you mean by 'always down to earth'?! Surprisingly, you may also have put off some curvy fems! "as for guys, well yes, but still exploring that option. It will happen when the time is right." How about something like, 'Single guys- if we want you, we will find you.' "All our pics are of us together, hence no condom. We dont take pics when we meet, well not yet anyway." ALL of your pics? Makes it sound like you've got quite a few pics on.... oh, wait a minute...no, you haven't! The pics you've got on are poor quality and show nothing of yourselves really... people want to see a bit more than that.. what your body shapes are like, for a start. "Excuse Mr's bushyness, he is more trimmed nowdays." This says that your pics are not up to date, so put some up to date pics on. "P.S. no "Jays" because nobody is actually called J Blah blah blah, privacy and shit." What on earth does this mean? Re-word it or lose it! "thanks again everybody. Central London is the issue not our profile." You're thread title is "what's wrong with our profile?" you asked for constructive replies....which you got... you obviously didn't like those replies. You then alienate the whole of London by saying it's London that is the issue, not you! Your profile is poorly written, your pics are out of date and poor quality, your location is set as London, but you don't meet there, and you're in Liverpool every weekend anyway.... but no one from there will know or be able to see you on a search. And your profile is not the issue? | |||
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"other than the male half could probbaly do with some clippers " That's a subjective matter. We don't agree. Its a fashion choice either way. | |||
"other than the male half could probbaly do with some clippers That's a subjective matter. We don't agree. Its a fashion choice either way. " Ok so if you dont agree why do you say "Excuse Mr's bushyness, he ismore trimmed nowdays." ? | |||
"London is not swinger central. The most people we have ever seen in the London room on chat is 30 tops. usually, regularly, most commonly, frequently below ten. Often zero. London is massively club oriented as confirmed in a post above. " Every time i go to london i get meet offers. Its where i meet mostly these days tbh. And i dont do clubs. Theres lots more people in london than elsewhere in the country. Never used the chat rooms though i just see whos near and message them. | |||
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"The whole profile comes across as very cynical and world weiry. Wouldn't be at all keen. Just being honest. Good luck." You've hit the nail on the head. Substitute "Fab" for world | |||
"maybe you don't like clubs but if a nice couple invited you to a club, wouldn't you be enticed to go? " We have done that and faced the full force of pressure sell tactics. So no we wouldn't arrange to meet in a club. Neutral locations are much easier to walk away from politely. | |||
"other than the male half could probbaly do with some clippers That's a subjective matter. We don't agree. Its a fashion choice either way. Ok so if you dont agree why do you say "Excuse Mr's bushyness, he ismore trimmed nowdays." ?" To pander to those who think it's necessary. | |||
"There is a, "more body pics" concensus. Which we can see the validity of. However the people we are trying to meet would be looking to connect on a mental level. Hence we didn't think them necessary." I kinda see what you are saying buy cock shots do not make us connect on a mental level any more than body shots. I'm not entirely sure how a profile can make any one connect mentally. For us the profile is the shop window. Once people have said hello then we can see if we are on a similar wavelength. | |||
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"other than the male half could probbaly do with some clippers That's a subjective matter. We don't agree. Its a fashion choice either way. Ok so if you dont agree why do you say "Excuse Mr's bushyness, he ismore trimmed nowdays." ? To pander to those who think it's necessary." So is it a lie then? | |||
"There is a, "more body pics" concensus. Which we can see the validity of. However the people we are trying to meet would be looking to connect on a mental level. Hence we didn't think them necessary." But you think few close up cock pics will build a mental connection? Fab is like food the first bite is with the eye. | |||
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"They said, "we find it hard to get meets. Check out our profile and make constructive comments".... After very many constructive comments were made, they told everyone that those comments and suggestions were wrong. Not only that, but that the reason they don't get meets is not down to them, but rather every other swinger in London...." We have acted on peoples suggestions if you view the profile now you will see; Location changed. Pictures removed pending New ones. Perceived negative statements removed. General reshuffle and rewording. Thanks again for the comments. | |||
"We find it hard to get meets. Check our profile and make some constructive comments. Thanks. X" No public pictures, not saying put everything public but at least a few. | |||
"We find it hard to get meets. Check our profile and make some constructive comments. Thanks. X" It says no one outside 20 miles away...In London but you are not meeting in London. Does that go for Aintree as well..also only weekends..? Also. Looks like no blokes. Also no pics. I may not want to have to be friends before I see a pic. So in summary. If you want just a female and you're not sure about swapping you might struggle. | |||
