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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Been here a couple weeks and had minimal conversations and 'friends' lol
Don't have the time to be sat in the chat rooms all day/nite... what am I doing wrong?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately this isn't an instant shag site, my advice look at your profile, would you message it or respond to it if you were looking at it? What sets you out above others?
No public pics, very little text on your profile, says nothing about you or what you are looking for. People will pass profiles like that by.
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"Unfortunately this isn't an instant shag site, my advice look at your profile, would you message it or respond to it if you were looking at it? What sets you out above others?
No public pics, very little text on your profile, says nothing about you or what you are looking for. People will pass profiles like that by.
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Yep. What she said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately this isn't an instant shag site, my advice look at your profile, would you message it or respond to it if you were looking at it? What sets you out above others?
No public pics, very little text on your profile, says nothing about you or what you are looking for. People will pass profiles like that by.
Yep. What she said. "
Ditto from me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And the ladies who ARE here need to be treated respectfully. As the OP named the thread we need more girls in here, I think alienating them and driving the ones who ARE here away is the wrong way to go !!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been here a couple weeks and had minimal conversations and 'friends' lol
Don't have the time to be sat in the chat rooms all day/nite... what am I doing wrong?!"
One line of text, no photos and cannot accommodate. They are not going to be queing up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been here a couple weeks and had minimal conversations and 'friends' lol
Don't have the time to be sat in the chat rooms all day/nite... what am I doing wrong?!"
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Not got time to sit in chatrooms day and night try putting some effort into what your looking for  good luck |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"Been here a couple weeks and had minimal conversations and 'friends' lol
Don't have the time to be sat in the chat rooms all day/nite... what am I doing wrong?!"
Like they said, no effort put into profile, no public pics. Won't help your cause
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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago
Bury/Bolton |
We love these threads but they always make us feel conflicted, we like them because it highlights those that really don't get it so we can avoid them.
On the other hand we feel the urge to help.
OP if you walked up to someone in a bar (or anywhere else for that matter) and delivered the 8 or so words in your profile to someone you hadn't met before who also couldn't see you, how successful do you think you would be?
Now imagine there were 10 women and 100 men (horny men at that because they think every woman in there is gagging for it) and play out the same scenario.
Just because you have a collection of open minded sexually liberated people gathered in one place, doesn'the mean they're going to bang your brains out because you popped your head in the door and said come and get me.
There still needs to be an attraction, you still need to connect with people, you still need to convince people what it is about you that people will enjoy experiencing.
Are we wrong? Or do we not get it?
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"Thanks to all who replied, I was afraid I'd have to put some actual effort in!! Hah... thanks again will revamp xx"
Bet you wouldn't put much effort in if someone actually agreed to meet you either  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Been here a couple weeks and had minimal conversations and 'friends' lol
Don't have the time to be sat in the chat rooms all day/nite... what am I doing wrong?!"
Now that you have posted this, you will stand out as the most amazing 'stud' amongst the tens of thousands of similar guys here. Get ready for an inbox melt-down  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Contrary to what some who have posted here are saying...It is quite a closed shop with lots of cliques. It's not just the disproportionate single men to women on here that makes it hard. It's the distrust that many long termer have. Read the posts and comments gives you a good flavour of the general feelings. The best way to get a feel about someone is read their replies to posts....many give away often hidden issues. It's a good filtering system to use as well. Read their profiles and you'll know if you'll get any chance of a response. Many are no longer reading your message as they have 100s. If they're going to read all of them they won't have time to meet lol . If someone says they'reggetting ltoo many messages then my advise is skip and filter. Know what you're wanting and targeted carefully. Wait a few days if you've had no reply and message saying you're not wanting to be a pain and have waited a few days etc but noticed they hadn't read and maybe overlooked... I then move on. Sometimes it's best to leave after a few weeks if you have had no interest and rethink if it's for you. It's not a shag site (for some it is when you see 100s of veries but tbh most of those are just a casual chat up at a social) but they're not whom I'd look at twice. Always be curteous even when you get that b*tch reply. It never pays to b*tbh back or u could easily be on the naughty step without explanation. That's more frustrating than not getting any interest shown lol. Be chilled and parouse the site. Smile and there's some on here will make you smile others ull just shake ur head at. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Numbers smumbers...
If you were the only guy and you weren't what the others were looking for you'd still be unsuccessful...
Like myself.. you're unique...sell that to folks and if that's what others are looking for you'll get meets..  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Alternatively OP less men would have the desired effect you think the site needs too "
Maybe it's just a matter of time, opportunity, fate, tactics and all the rest!!! |
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"Yes, the site is saturated with men, heard latest count was about 1 million men and very few women, patience is the key."
About 23,000 guys actually to about 10,000 ladies. Did you do some research once about length of time it takes for a new male single to get sex on here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Alternatively OP less men would have the desired effect you think the site needs too
Maybe it's just a matter of time, opportunity, fate, tactics and all the rest!!!"
You make your own opportunities. Noone is going to hand you anything on a plate. Take control or accept that you have no chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, the site is saturated with men, heard latest count was about 1 million men and very few women, patience is the key.
About 23,000 guys actually to about 10,000 ladies. Did you do some research once about length of time it takes for a new male single to get sex on here?"
lol so about 10,000 more men, yes about 3 years or so is the wait aint it? |
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"Yes, the site is saturated with men, heard latest count was about 1 million men and very few women, patience is the key.
About 23,000 guys actually to about 10,000 ladies. Did you do some research once about length of time it takes for a new male single to get sex on here?lol so about 10,000 more men, yes about 3 years or so is the wait aint it?"
I think you're right. It's jam all the way after 3 years though!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And of those 10,000 female profiles, 5,000 are probably men pretending to be women
Mind you, there could be 10,000 male profiles which are actually women pretending to be men "
I know men create bogus profiles, don't think women are pretending to be men... for what purpose? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"control it is!!!
Not at the moment. Four bland lines and no photos is not much better. "
I'm not here to write my life story, sticking to the basic rule of 'if u like what u see, you'll say hello' with the basics on my profile.. and pics I can't really out public due to line of work I'm in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"control it is!!!
Not at the moment. Four bland lines and no photos is not much better.
I'm not here to write my life story, sticking to the basic rule of 'if u like what u see, you'll say hello' with the basics on my profile.. and pics I can't really out public due to line of work I'm in."
Nothing to see. Enjoy your bubble. Many here have offered advice. Ignore it. But do not expect a change in your fortunes. Good luck, OP. |
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"control it is!!!
Not at the moment. Four bland lines and no photos is not much better.
I'm not here to write my life story, sticking to the basic rule of 'if u like what u see, you'll say hello' with the basics on my profile.. and pics I can't really out public due to line of work I'm in."
....and are they saying hello with your profile as it is? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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....and are they saying hello with your profile as it is?
Some have, just none that tick my box so to speak, hence this post.."
I don't understand why you ignored the advice but it is up to you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don't understand why you ignored the advice but it is up to you."
I'm not ignoring the advice, don't think that, I'm trying to take on board what's been said without compromising my personality.. as can appreciate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Pics don't have too be face pics, nice bum and body pics are appreciated by lots of people "
I know, need to get round to taking some! Thanks for your patience aha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't understand why you ignored the advice but it is up to you.
I'm not ignoring the advice, don't think that, I'm trying to take on board what's been said without compromising my personality.. as can appreciate"
No personality shown. Think it is high time I left this thread. |
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I don't understand why you ignored the advice but it is up to you.
I'm not ignoring the advice, don't think that, I'm trying to take on board what's been said without compromising my personality.. as can appreciate"
I'm struggling to understand how taking the advice given can in any way "compromise your personality"..... |
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Sorry to sound blunt here, but if you'd put as much time and effort into taking a few "public" pictures and writing something a bit more engaging on your profile as you've put into justifying your laziness and arrogance, you'd be in a much better position already.
The site does not owe you a meeting, any more than a nightclub or a pub does. You have to put the effort in.
Chat in the chatrooms and forum, send bespoke replies to posts that appeal to you. Maybe send a face picture with your replies.
I've had lots of fun out of this site (including a great meeting this afternoon), but you don't get anything without trying.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry to sound blunt here, but if you'd put as much time and effort into taking a few "public" pictures and writing something a bit more engaging on your profile as you've put into justifying your laziness and arrogance, you'd be in a much better position already.
The site does not owe you a meeting, any more than a nightclub or a pub does. You have to put the effort in.
Chat in the chatrooms and forum, send bespoke replies to posts that appeal to you. Maybe send a face picture with your replies.
I've had lots of fun out of this site (including a great meeting this afternoon), but you don't get anything without trying.
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Appreciate your honesty, I will get there eventually! Far from arrogant though I may come across that way cos of my wording... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No personality shown. Think it is high time I left this thread."
Do as you please, but I must say, yours and everybody else's criticism (constructive as it may be) is just wat I need.. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"control it is!!!
Not at the moment. Four bland lines and no photos is not much better.
I'm not here to write my life story, sticking to the basic rule of 'if u like what u see, you'll say hello' with the basics on my profile.. and pics I can't really out public due to line of work I'm in."
It is tough heading Mi6.  |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"Thanks to all who replied, I was afraid I'd have to put some actual effort in!! Hah... thanks again will revamp xx
Bet you wouldn't put much effort in if someone actually agreed to meet you either "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been here a couple weeks and had minimal conversations and 'friends' lol
Don't have the time to be sat in the chat rooms all day/nite... what am I doing wrong?!"
try another site you havnt got patience for this one and you need loads xx |
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"We love these threads but they always make us feel conflicted, we like them because it highlights those that really don't get it so we can avoid them.
On the other hand we feel the urge to help.
OP if you walked up to someone in a bar (or anywhere else for that matter) and delivered the 8 or so words in your profile to someone you hadn't met before who also couldn't see you, how successful do you think you would be?
Now imagine there were 10 women and 100 men (horny men at that because they think every woman in there is gagging for it) and play out the same scenario.
Just because you have a collection of open minded sexually liberated people gathered in one place, doesn'the mean they're going to bang your brains out because you popped your head in the door and said come and get me.
There still needs to be an attraction, you still need to connect with people, you still need to convince people what it is about you that people will enjoy experiencing.
Are we wrong? Or do we not get it?
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Sums it up perfectly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"New on here I've seen a Cple of post before about kiss ,Fuck or avoid ,so thought I'd be brave and ask the same "
Start a new thread hun rather than hijack someone else's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a woman who gets a lot of mail. I can assure you I am meeting people and allow myself to be seduced!!
What works with me is..
Someone who has read my profile and gotten me and shows it. Who writes something relevant.
Flattery - yep my ego takes it well!
Humbleness - 'I know you get a lot of mail, I appreciate you reading this...'
Cheerful banter - sense of humour is sexy..
And if done well... Tell me the naughty things you want to do to me.. turn me on! Lol
I meet guys who meet lots.. It's about believing you will and not getting bogged down in negativity.
Send a face pic, have a good conversational authentic demonstration of your personality profile.. Have hot photos... Keep it nice..
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a woman who gets a lot of mail. I can assure you I am meeting people and allow myself to be seduced!!
What works with me is..
Someone who has read my profile and gotten me and shows it. Who writes something relevant.
Flattery - yep my ego takes it well!
Humbleness - 'I know you get a lot of mail, I appreciate you reading this...'
Cheerful banter - sense of humour is sexy..
And if done well... Tell me the naughty things you want to do to me.. turn me on! Lol
I meet guys who meet lots.. It's about believing you will and not getting bogged down in negativity.
Send a face pic, have a good conversational authentic demonstration of your personality profile.. Have hot photos... Keep it nice..
Good luck x"
Thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's too many men too many men. Too many men too many men"
Like what you did OP, makes you stand out to me however we don't meet single men but wishing you sexy fun with sexy ladies
Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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""There's too many men too many men. Too many men too many men"
Like what you did OP, makes you stand out to me however we don't meet single men but wishing you sexy fun with sexy ladies
Xx"
Lol glad someone got it!! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks like He took my advice and reduced the male population of fab
By just a drop in the ocean; and he was dripping "
That's the type of bitching that endears me to most women on here. He's away so let's talk. It's a shame so many on here are like that in the forums especially to single men. I hope 2016 proves to be better than 2015. Let's hope so for all concerned. |
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"Looks like He took my advice and reduced the male population of fab
By just a drop in the ocean; and he was dripping
That's the type of bitching that endears me to most women on here. He's away so let's talk. It's a shame so many on here are like that in the forums especially to single men. I hope 2016 proves to be better than 2015. Let's hope so for all concerned."
Yes and most men are quite assuming.
I've said nothing publicly, that I hadnt privately said to the OP and my comment was a little joke between me and him for if he returns and sees the thread, based on out PMs.
But by all means you make the classic forum mistake of jumping to conclusions without knowing the facts, and give us a good example of another way in which the forums need to change
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes and most men are quite
But by all means you make the classic forum mistake of jumping to conclusions without knowing the facts, and give us a good example of another way in which the forums need to change
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And you didn't? Think you just confirmed my earlier comment which wasn't aimed at you by the way but you just implemented yourself. I bet you've never read any of my forum comments or posts or you wouldn't have said that. Too many open their mouth and ruin themselves on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's an interesting rent post called...If you haven't got anything nice to say. Interestingly again the OP is a guy. Interestingly too how defensive some women have responded without any forum directive. |
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"There's an interesting rent post called...If you haven't got anything nice to say. Interestingly again the OP is a guy. Interestingly too how defensive some women have responded without any forum directive. "
I never said I wasn't assuming
I reply the same regardless of gender. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Looks like He took my advice and reduced the male population of fab
By just a drop in the ocean; and he was dripping
That's the type of bitching that endears me to most women on here. He's away so let's talk. It's a shame so many on here are like that in the forums especially to single men. I hope 2016 proves to be better than 2015. Let's hope so for all concerned."
Then move on somewhere else
I would say exactly the same (and already have) whether he was here or not |
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