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whats a single man got to do to get involed around here !!!!
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"What are you sending?
Your profile alone doesn't make me wanna meet you, so maybe others think the same."
Well more trying to get conversation started like complement the pics and like the look of the profile. Would like to get to know a bit more etc etc dont want to sound like a sex pest or to pushy i am quite respectfull . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My opinion is that women get so many messages, you really have to stand out as appealing in the verbal and visual sense to get anywhere.
There's nothing really stimulating the senses on your profile (visual or verbal) hence I doubt anyone would respond. I know you go on about being discreet but I would delete and move on to someone who is less discreet. Too much effort. But that's just me. |
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"My opinion is that women get so many messages, you really have to stand out as appealing in the verbal and visual sense to get anywhere.
There's nothing really stimulating the senses on your profile (visual or verbal) hence I doubt anyone would respond. I know you go on about being discreet but I would delete and move on to someone who is less discreet. Too much effort. But that's just me."
Better or worse lol xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Look...If women don't know what you look like from the off, you'll get nowhere I'm afraid. It's not Blind Date. We will just move onto the next guy who's willing to show a bit more. And I don't mean his dick either. |
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Your profile/communications have to stand out. Your profile at times come across as if you are doing the person a favour, you mentioned something on the lines of "I can accommodate" also I dont think the image does you any justice. Be a bit more creative with your image.
Pop into chatrooms and try and chat to people. Being new and not verified can also put people off.
You have to realise that there are loads of single guys on here.
Hope this gives you something to look into or change however don't expect miracles. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
You need what I call the H factor..display these on your profile and in your messages and you'll do ok.
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*the first two are essential.. ths third isn't. It's purely for views personal collection.    |
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You don't sound very picky in your profile - it reads as if you'll do anything to get a shag. Try being more choosy and then you'll attract the ladies who like choosy men. As it is, it's not attracting anyone yet, is it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You don't sound very picky in your profile - it reads as if you'll do anything to get a shag. Try being more choosy and then you'll attract the ladies who like choosy men. As it is, it's not attracting anyone yet, is it? "
Steve is spot on this may be a sex site but you need some morals or atleast prefrences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The first thing you have to realise is that this is a common theme for the forums and that before clicking on your profile most people thought to themselves:
// I bet he's only been on the site for a few weeks
// I bet he's barely got any pics
// I bet his profile is poorly written
The advice you're now going to be given goes something like this:
// take more pictures and put your cock away
// work on your spelling punctuation and grammar
// re write your entire profile.
// don't sound so desperate and twist after not getting a shag in two weeks.
Rinse and repeat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You need better pics, women aren't going to ask for photos, most get so many messages they just won't bother with the ones with little or no photos, they'll go for the ones who they know what they look like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perserverance, dont be pushy, go to socials to get to know some people. There are far more of us single males than females, so you need to stand out (for the right reasons).
There are some great people on here though, its worth the effort |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perserverance, dont be pushy, go to socials to get to know some people. There are far more of us single males than females, so you need to stand out (for the right reasons).
There are some great people on here though, its worth the effort "
And when I say perserverance, I dont mean bombarding the same person with endless messages, just be prepared for no responses or polite nos more often than success lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first thing you have to realise is that this is a common theme for the forums and that before clicking on your profile most people thought to themselves:
// I bet he's only been on the site for a few weeks
// I bet he's barely got any pics
// I bet his profile is poorly written
The advice you're now going to be given goes something like this:
// take more pictures and put your cock away
// work on your spelling punctuation and grammar
// re write your entire profile.
// don't sound so desperate and twist after not getting a shag in two weeks.
Rinse and repeat. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Still quite new to this have sent few messages out but dont seem to get anywhere is this just me? Am i doing something wrong? Or is it just a single guy in a couples game thing ?? "
Well you could try asking the girl out that works at the coop and go on dates with her
Working for me .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Still quite new to this have sent few messages out but dont seem to get anywhere is this just me? Am i doing something wrong? Or is it just a single guy in a couples game thing ??
Well you could try asking the girl out that works at the coop and go on dates with her
Working for me .
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Won't you be a bit jealous?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"build a camp fire, warm yourself up some marsh mellows and play the guitar while relaxing on a fold up chair...
then just see what happens really..."
As good an answer as any |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Poor spelling and grammar will put off some. Not all, but it will reduce the response rate.
We wouldn't reply to a message from you.
Call us grammar nazis but it is our choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've only been here two weeks, its not instashag, some guys wait months before meeting/getting verified  "
That is right. I saw a woman who joined and after a week she had 3 veris, she must of been busy lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Still quite new to this have sent few messages out but dont seem to get anywhere is this just me? Am i doing something wrong? Or is it just a single guy in a couples game thing ??
Well you could try asking the girl out that works at the coop and go on dates with her
Working for me .
Won't you be a bit jealous?!"
I wil ask her later and report back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say I'm still new to this to.. Took me a month to sort out what a certain women was looking for..
Test with messages find out what works and what to stay away from.
I'm not ashamed to say I've had help from women I've met in clubs regarding my profile. So get to a club!
Then there's the frustrating bit where a certain women around the corner from you has you out of her age range by 2-3 years. And her status pops up everyday.
And you know full well you'd get on well but you can't message them!!
Rockchick!! Up you're age limit! 
Xx |
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"You've only been here two weeks, its not instashag, some guys wait months before meeting/getting verified That is right. I saw a woman who joined and after a week she had 3 veris, she must of been busy lol."
I had 4 verifications on the day I joined as I had met a few people at an event the night before who told me about Fabs. |
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By *ay3Man
over a year ago
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Well.. I have used the genuine approach,, as that's me,, I have used the being polite, send nice compliments approach.
I read peoples profiles before contacting, and don't contact if i'm not suitable for them.. And still get rudeness about not reading profiles... Some twAXX should read their own lol..
So now going to become an off grid spoon whittler for a while lol  |
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"You've only been here two weeks, its not instashag, some guys wait months before meeting/getting verified That is right. I saw a woman who joined and after a week she had 3 veris, she must of been busy lol."
I had 4 veri's the day after I joined. Didn't mean I fucked 4 people that day! |
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"You've only been here two weeks, its not instashag, some guys wait months before meeting/getting verified That is right. I saw a woman who joined and after a week she had 3 veris, she must of been busy lol.
I had 4 veri's the day after I joined. Didn't mean I fucked 4 people that day! "
I know, but is shows how easy it is for women to meet than men. |
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"Still quite new to this have sent few messages out but dont seem to get anywhere is this just me? Am i doing something wrong? Or is it just a single guy in a couples game thing ?? "
I am afraid that an unappealing profile and bad photo will not put you first on anyone's list. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I give him another week, before he deletes the thing
Up you're age preference rockchick by 4 years!!
Pull you're finger out? "
Why? It's my preference.
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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Still quite new to this have sent few messages out but dont seem to get anywhere is this just me? Am i doing something wrong? Or is it just a single guy in a couples game thing ?? "
Afraid if you messaged us after reading your profile we would not be interested, needs a complete re-vamp am afraid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah... I know totally respect that but sometimes it's worth coming out of you're comfort zone and trying something different!!
You should try it...
This was the only way I could try my luck
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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"You've only been here two weeks, its not instashag, some guys wait months before meeting/getting verified That is right. I saw a woman who joined and after a week she had 3 veris, she must of been busy lol.
I had 4 veri's the day after I joined. Didn't mean I fucked 4 people that day! I know, but is shows how easy it is for women to meet than men."
I had 2 veris within five days, it's not difficult for guys either |
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"Yeah... I know totally respect that but sometimes it's worth coming out of you're comfort zone and trying something different!!
You should try it...
This was the only way I could try my luck
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It's also a breach of forum rules to message people try to get around filters and blocks |
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I don't mean this to be offensive but it's all down to you.
Plenty of single guys find people to play with in here. What you've really got to ask yourself is how much effort are you prepared to put into it.
Look at single guys profiles that have a large amount if verifications for tips. There's a lot of compitition out there so you've got to make yourself stand out from the crowd.
Most of all don't go on rants on fourm that your not getting any. It's not very attractive.
patience will go a long way
Xxxxx |
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As a single male I didn't do to badly on a different site which I believe is still around. Be that as it may.
It might be helpful to offer what the ladies actually want? Would you go to a strangers house (as a single fem) so all you do needs to be thought of from that perspective.
The wife who has played as a single fem and no we did not meet swinging, and after reading the first bit it's an instant NO. Why? Well please go and read it over or if you want I (M) will proof it for you. Caps need attention so does the first sentence and you need pics pal. That is NEED.
L2 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think of it more as introducing yourself,then put yourself in the shoes of women/couples.If you wouldn't meet you on the strength of your profile,why would they?
It's a buyers market that is saturated with single men,so to stand out is tough!
Look at "successful" guys profiles and try to pick up some tips.
I believe that if you're genuine and patient on here,you'll get your reward... |
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"Still quite new to this have sent few messages out but dont seem to get anywhere is this just me? Am i doing something wrong? Or is it just a single guy in a couples game thing ?? "
All your profile says is that you are make ,34 , and looking for sex .
As a profile is your key marketing tool , it really has to stand out . What are your hobbies and interests . What unique ten features do you have that differentiate you from others on this site?. |
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"Look...If women don't know what you look like from the off, you'll get nowhere I'm afraid. It's not Blind Date. We will just move onto the next guy who's willing to show a bit more. And I don't mean his dick either."
Exactly! ! |
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"thanks will try that maybe im just expecting rather than enjoying
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I jut looked at the profile and I'm afraid it's jsut another guy with a cock who is looking to try stuff. And expecting women to flock to him.
It doesn't work like that on Fab |
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"Look...If women don't know what you look like from the off, you'll get nowhere I'm afraid. It's not Blind Date. We will just move onto the next guy who's willing to show a bit more. And I don't mean his dick either."
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first thing you have to realise is that this is a common theme for the forums and that before clicking on your profile most people thought to themselves:
// I bet he's only been on the site for a few weeks
// I bet he's barely got any pics
// I bet his profile is poorly written
The advice you're now going to be given goes something like this:
// take more pictures and put your cock away
// work on your spelling punctuation and grammar
// re write your entire profile.
// don't sound so desperate and twist after not getting a shag in two weeks.
Rinse and repeat. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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As one single guy to another.. Unless you look like an adonis its not easy at all. Lots of guys on here. I have been to clubs and its also not easy at all.. Dont be pushy and you may get somewhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As one single guy to another.. Unless you look like an adonis its not easy at all. Lots of guys on here. I have been to clubs and its also not easy at all.. Dont be pushy and you may get somewhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah... I know totally respect that but sometimes it's worth coming out of you're comfort zone and trying something different!!
You should try it...
This was the only way I could try my luck
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I actually don't want to.
My profile clearly says I'm after guys in their early twenties. Nothing to do with comfort zone I'm afraid. |
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"Yeah... I know totally respect that but sometimes it's worth coming out of you're comfort zone and trying something different!!
You should try it...
This was the only way I could try my luck
It's also a breach of forum rules to message people try to get around filters and blocks "
Really? And so it should! How annoying! x |
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"Still quite new to this have sent few messages out but dont seem to get anywhere is this just me? Am i doing something wrong? Or is it just a single guy in a couples game thing ?? "
ouch, check out the ass kicking i got in the forum before you post anything else.
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