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Not been on this site a massive amount of time but I've found that people (especially women) don't message back, fair enough if I don't tickle your pickle but at least just message back and say that, I'm a straight guy and if a gay guy messaged me if message him back to say thanks but not for me!
A lot of women I've come across seem to think that all men are these Neanderthal nuckle dragging cavemen who are after 1 thing and there's definitely a lot of guys that aren't and won't be sending that in the first message, I'd much prefer to get a to know a girl and make her laugh before it gets down to that!
So basically I'm just trying to friend new friends whoever they are gender/race/age or whatever and that a lot of people should lighten up a tad a be a bit more friendly, it's definitely make the world go round more smoothly anyway!  |
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over a year ago
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" Not been on this site a massive amount of time but I've found that people (especially women) don't message back, fair enough if I don't tickle your pickle but at least just message back and say that, I'm a straight guy and if a gay guy messaged me if message him back to say thanks but not for me!
A lot of women I've come across seem to think that all men are these Neanderthal nuckle dragging cavemen who are after 1 thing and there's definitely a lot of guys that aren't and won't be sending that in the first message, I'd much prefer to get a to know a girl and make her laugh before it gets down to that!
So basically I'm just trying to friend new friends whoever they are gender/race/age or whatever and that a lot of people should lighten up a tad a be a bit more friendly, it's definitely make the world go round more smoothly anyway! "
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" Not been on this site a massive amount of time but I've found that people (especially women) don't message back, fair enough if I don't tickle your pickle but at least just message back and say that, I'm a straight guy and if a gay guy messaged me if message him back to say thanks but not for me!
A lot of women I've come across seem to think that all men are these Neanderthal nuckle dragging cavemen who are after 1 thing and there's definitely a lot of guys that aren't and won't be sending that in the first message, I'd much prefer to get a to know a girl and make her laugh before it gets down to that!
So basically I'm just trying to friend new friends whoever they are gender/race/age or whatever and that a lot of people should lighten up a tad a be a bit more friendly, it's definitely make the world go round more smoothly anyway! "
According to the site FAQs it is not considered impolite not to message back, it should just be taken as a thanks but no thanks. Some ladies get so many messages on here that they would spend their whole day sending messages to that effect and not using their time on people they are interested in.
Also, profiles are like a shop window. Many people read profiles before reading the messages. This means you have to sell yourself and stand out for people to want to read your message and want to respond, you may well say it in your messages but your profile says nothing about you and what you are looking for really so people will just gloss over you, however harsh that seems.
Some people like to have friendly.conversations before meeting, I for one do that, but many others aren't interesting in endless chat and getting to know on great detail so you just have to find the ones which are compatible with what you are looking for.
Oh and joining in the forums is great for getting to know people so pop in and check them out!
Good luck
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" Not been on this site a massive amount of time but I've found that people (especially women) don't message back, fair enough if I don't tickle your pickle but at least just message back and say that, I'm a straight guy and if a gay guy messaged me if message him back to say thanks but not for me!
A lot of women I've come across seem to think that all men are these Neanderthal nuckle dragging cavemen who are after 1 thing and there's definitely a lot of guys that aren't and won't be sending that in the first message, I'd much prefer to get a to know a girl and make her laugh before it gets down to that!
So basically I'm just trying to friend new friends whoever they are gender/race/age or whatever and that a lot of people should lighten up a tad a be a bit more friendly, it's definitely make the world go round more smoothly anyway!
According to the site FAQs it is not considered impolite not to message back, it should just be taken as a thanks but no thanks. Some ladies get so many messages on here that they would spend their whole day sending messages to that effect and not using their time on people they are interested in.
Also, profiles are like a shop window. Many people read profiles before reading the messages. This means you have to sell yourself and stand out for people to want to read your message and want to respond, you may well say it in your messages but your profile says nothing about you and what you are looking for really so people will just gloss over you, however harsh that seems.
Some people like to have friendly.conversations before meeting, I for one do that, but many others aren't interesting in endless chat and getting to know on great detail so you just have to find the ones which are compatible with what you are looking for.
Oh and joining in the forums is great for getting to know people so pop in and check them out!
Good luck
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Alright thanks for that genuinely did help a lot and I'll definitely update my profile to seem more appealing, any advice on what's good to see on a guys profile from a girls point of view? |
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" Not been on this site a massive amount of time but I've found that people (especially women) don't message back, fair enough if I don't tickle your pickle but at least just message back and say that, I'm a straight guy and if a gay guy messaged me if message him back to say thanks but not for me!
A lot of women I've come across seem to think that all men are these Neanderthal nuckle dragging cavemen who are after 1 thing and there's definitely a lot of guys that aren't and won't be sending that in the first message, I'd much prefer to get a to know a girl and make her laugh before it gets down to that!
So basically I'm just trying to friend new friends whoever they are gender/race/age or whatever and that a lot of people should lighten up a tad a be a bit more friendly, it's definitely make the world go round more smoothly anyway!
According to the site FAQs it is not considered impolite not to message back, it should just be taken as a thanks but no thanks. Some ladies get so many messages on here that they would spend their whole day sending messages to that effect and not using their time on people they are interested in.
Also, profiles are like a shop window. Many people read profiles before reading the messages. This means you have to sell yourself and stand out for people to want to read your message and want to respond, you may well say it in your messages but your profile says nothing about you and what you are looking for really so people will just gloss over you, however harsh that seems.
Some people like to have friendly.conversations before meeting, I for one do that, but many others aren't interesting in endless chat and getting to know on great detail so you just have to find the ones which are compatible with what you are looking for.
Oh and joining in the forums is great for getting to know people so pop in and check them out!
Good luck
Alright thanks for that genuinely did help a lot and I'll definitely update my profile to seem more appealing, any advice on what's good to see on a guys profile from a girls point of view?"
Pic wise a variety, not just pics of your cock..ladies in general do not find that attractive, seen one seen them all. Torso and bum shots are good.
Profile, what are you into, what are you looking for, what you can offer a lady |
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By *roggMan
over a year ago
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" Not been on this site a massive amount of time but I've found that people (especially women) don't message back, fair enough if I don't tickle your pickle but at least just message back and say that, I'm a straight guy and if a gay guy messaged me if message him back to say thanks but not for me!
A lot of women I've come across seem to think that all men are these Neanderthal nuckle dragging cavemen who are after 1 thing and there's definitely a lot of guys that aren't and won't be sending that in the first message, I'd much prefer to get a to know a girl and make her laugh before it gets down to that!
So basically I'm just trying to friend new friends whoever they are gender/race/age or whatever and that a lot of people should lighten up a tad a be a bit more friendly, it's definitely make the world go round more smoothly anyway!
According to the site FAQs it is not considered impolite not to message back, it should just be taken as a thanks but no thanks. Some ladies get so many messages on here that they would spend their whole day sending messages to that effect and not using their time on people they are interested in.
Also, profiles are like a shop window. Many people read profiles before reading the messages. This means you have to sell yourself and stand out for people to want to read your message and want to respond, you may well say it in your messages but your profile says nothing about you and what you are looking for really so people will just gloss over you, however harsh that seems.
Some people like to have friendly.conversations before meeting, I for one do that, but many others aren't interesting in endless chat and getting to know on great detail so you just have to find the ones which are compatible with what you are looking for.
Oh and joining in the forums is great for getting to know people so pop in and check them out!
Good luck
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sensible advice and try not to take it too seriously on here |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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You definitely could do with more information on your profile. Explain what you are into. What you are good at and enjoy. Why women would like to chat to you or meet you. You need to stand out from the crowd.
Regarding photos.....you class yourself as curvy I think I read. Big build or overweight ? Might be worth displaying a full length photo of yourself.
Finally why can you not accommodate? If you are with parents or flat share... Add A comment, otherwise people might think you have a wife or partner hidden away you are cheating on. Hope that helps. |
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" Not been on this site a massive amount of time but I've found that people (especially women) don't message back, fair enough if I don't tickle your pickle but at least just message back and say that, I'm a straight guy and if a gay guy messaged me if message him back to say thanks but not for me!
A lot of women I've come across seem to think that all men are these Neanderthal nuckle dragging cavemen who are after 1 thing and there's definitely a lot of guys that aren't and won't be sending that in the first message, I'd much prefer to get a to know a girl and make her laugh before it gets down to that!
So basically I'm just trying to friend new friends whoever they are gender/race/age or whatever and that a lot of people should lighten up a tad a be a bit more friendly, it's definitely make the world go round more smoothly anyway! "
hi Dave you have a veri that's pretty good at this stage if you want helpful advice to improve your chances of contacting women put other pics up and don't have a blank avatar also fill out profile tell them about you and explain why you don't accommodate ,when you message women read their profile and base your message on it ,it may take a while but success will come eventually ,a sense of rumours good to   |
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" Not been on this site a massive amount of time but I've found that people (especially women) don't message back, fair enough if I don't tickle your pickle but at least just message back and say that, I'm a straight guy and if a gay guy messaged me if message him back to say thanks but not for me!
A lot of women I've come across seem to think that all men are these Neanderthal nuckle dragging cavemen who are after 1 thing and there's definitely a lot of guys that aren't and won't be sending that in the first message, I'd much prefer to get a to know a girl and make her laugh before it gets down to that!
So basically I'm just trying to friend new friends whoever they are gender/race/age or whatever and that a lot of people should lighten up a tad a be a bit more friendly, it's definitely make the world go round more smoothly anyway! hi Dave you have a veri that's pretty good at this stage if you want helpful advice to improve your chances of contacting women put other pics up and don't have a blank avatar also fill out profile tell them about you and explain why you don't accommodate ,when you message women read their profile and base your message on it ,it may take a while but success will come eventually ,a sense of rumours good to "
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" Not been on this site a massive amount of time but I've found that people (especially women) don't message back, fair enough if I don't tickle your pickle but at least just message back and say that, I'm a straight guy and if a gay guy messaged me if message him back to say thanks but not for me!
A lot of women I've come across seem to think that all men are these Neanderthal nuckle dragging cavemen who are after 1 thing and there's definitely a lot of guys that aren't and won't be sending that in the first message, I'd much prefer to get a to know a girl and make her laugh before it gets down to that!
So basically I'm just trying to friend new friends whoever they are gender/race/age or whatever and that a lot of people should lighten up a tad a be a bit more friendly, it's definitely make the world go round more smoothly anyway!
According to the site FAQs it is not considered impolite not to message back, it should just be taken as a thanks but no thanks. Some ladies get so many messages on here that they would spend their whole day sending messages to that effect and not using their time on people they are interested in.
Also, profiles are like a shop window. Many people read profiles before reading the messages. This means you have to sell yourself and stand out for people to want to read your message and want to respond, you may well say it in your messages but your profile says nothing about you and what you are looking for really so people will just gloss over you, however harsh that seems.
Some people like to have friendly.conversations before meeting, I for one do that, but many others aren't interesting in endless chat and getting to know on great detail so you just have to find the ones which are compatible with what you are looking for.
Oh and joining in the forums is great for getting to know people so pop in and check them out!
Good luck
Alright thanks for that genuinely did help a lot and I'll definitely update my profile to seem more appealing, any advice on what's good to see on a guys profile from a girls point of view?
Pic wise a variety, not just pics of your cock..ladies in general do not find that attractive, seen one seen them all. Torso and bum shots are good.
Profile, what are you into, what are you looking for, what you can offer a lady "
Genuinely thanks for this, will definitely update my profile text and I'll probably wait for a bit to do torso pics, just finished my tea haven't I 
Thanks for this though |
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" Not been on this site a massive amount of time but I've found that people (especially women) don't message back, fair enough if I don't tickle your pickle but at least just message back and say that, I'm a straight guy and if a gay guy messaged me if message him back to say thanks but not for me!
A lot of women I've come across seem to think that all men are these Neanderthal nuckle dragging cavemen who are after 1 thing and there's definitely a lot of guys that aren't and won't be sending that in the first message, I'd much prefer to get a to know a girl and make her laugh before it gets down to that!
So basically I'm just trying to friend new friends whoever they are gender/race/age or whatever and that a lot of people should lighten up a tad a be a bit more friendly, it's definitely make the world go round more smoothly anyway! hi Dave you have a veri that's pretty good at this stage if you want helpful advice to improve your chances of contacting women put other pics up and don't have a blank avatar also fill out profile tell them about you and explain why you don't accommodate ,when you message women read their profile and base your message on it ,it may take a while but success will come eventually ,a sense of rumours good to "
Cheers bud, will definitely be doing everything that everyone has told me! |
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"You definitely could do with more information on your profile. Explain what you are into. What you are good at and enjoy. Why women would like to chat to you or meet you. You need to stand out from the crowd.
Regarding photos.....you class yourself as curvy I think I read. Big build or overweight ? Might be worth displaying a full length photo of yourself.
Finally why can you not accommodate? If you are with parents or flat share... Add A comment, otherwise people might think you have a wife or partner hidden away you are cheating on. Hope that helps. "
Thanks for the advice, I think I put 'big build' because 'pleasantly plump' wasn't an option!
Thanks for all the info though |
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"Alright thanks for that genuinely did help a lot and I'll definitely update my profile to seem more appealing, any advice on what's good to see on a guys profile from a girls point of view?"
No cock pics, a nice torso pic and for me, the hand down the jeans shot |
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sometimes the worse thing you can do is ask for advice reason being no two swingers are the same and most on this site don't view the forums....the only advice i can give is be yourself and find what you want not what others want |
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"sometimes the worse thing you can do is ask for advice reason being no two swingers are the same and most on this site don't view the forums....the only advice i can give is be yourself and find what you want not what others want"
I always am myself but there's no harm in tweaking a couple of things to make you seem more appealing!
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"Alright thanks for that genuinely did help a lot and I'll definitely update my profile to seem more appealing, any advice on what's good to see on a guys profile from a girls point of view?
No cock pics, a nice torso pic and for me, the hand down the jeans shot "
I'll definitely do that then, the hands down the pants shot could be challenging with only having 2 hands though! |
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"The chat rooms are good if you stick to the rules. People will often invite familiar faces from chat to private parties etc
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Alright, cheers for the help bud!"
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