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What's the best way to get my fiancé ( fem ) into swinging
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not judging. How about finding a swinging programme to watch with her and start the discussion that way? "
Louis therroux weird weekends is on netflix, first episode is about swingers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are plenty of forum posts with exactly the same question. Read them for advice.
But if she knows you are already swinging you are half way there.....
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Set her up with a single account on fab and let her take it from there ... then she can decide for herself, no pressure"
This an ex of mine made us a joint account to get me into it. But because we had been together for a while before he did, I took it as he wasnt happy with me and it well and truly knocked my confidence, had women messaging to meet him on his own and gave me a bad view of it all, but coming on here since then as a single female has been a much better experience. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have talked bout it but she is really shy and will only talk when had a good drink"
Then she is not going to cope well when you are fucking someone in front of her and a stranger wants to do the same to her is she.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Delete your profile and talk to the woman u supposedly love.
Dirty talk in bed, often under the influence, is probably where most people start.
Trying to find other women to fuck behind her back probably isn't gonna do your relationship any good is it?
It takes time, talk and a whole load of trust to swing as a couple.
Now you've posted this a lot of people will see it, look at the little blue arrow next to your name, and swerve u.
I guarantee that if your looking for a great sex life, it's always better doing it with the person you love the most.
If I were u, I'd go away and sort your relationship out before you do this. Deceit is hurtful and unnecessary.
Work it out with your fiance, buy her sexy underwear, talk dirty to her, make her feel loved, secure and progress from there. Introduce blindfolds, toys etc over time. Help her awaken sexually and u will both enjoy the benefits of that.
It's not an overnight thing but it can happen. Explore sex together and you may eventually end up swinging.
But please, consider her before u go any further.
Miss Nico. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Delete your profile and talk to the woman u supposedly love.
Dirty talk in bed, often under the influence, is probably where most people start.
Trying to find other women to fuck behind her back probably isn't gonna do your relationship any good is it?
It takes time, talk and a whole load of trust to swing as a couple.
Now you've posted this a lot of people will see it, look at the little blue arrow next to your name, and swerve u.
I guarantee that if your looking for a great sex life, it's always better doing it with the person you love the most.
If I were u, I'd go away and sort your relationship out before you do this. Deceit is hurtful and unnecessary.
Work it out with your fiance, buy her sexy underwear, talk dirty to her, make her feel loved, secure and progress from there. Introduce blindfolds, toys etc over time. Help her awaken sexually and u will both enjoy the benefits of that.
It's not an overnight thing but it can happen. Explore sex together and you may eventually end up swinging.
But please, consider her before u go any further.
Miss Nico."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"my wife suggested it, years after I first suggested it. what I'm trying to say is, its got to be her decision. her choice. simple.  "
Absolutely! you can't push . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally if you are bored with your sex life and you are not married swining may be the easiest way to destroy your relationship completely.
Fickle creatures women, how would you feel if she really gets into it and is off fucking fit toned massive men while you are stuck at home because to be honest she will have significantly more choices than you.Just a thought. |
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"What's the best way to get my fiancé into swinging ?
How did others start out ?"
Don't start without her.
Think of it like this, how can she get you into sucking cock. She likes it so she reckons you will too.
Setting up a single profile with no mention of her is not the best way.
As others have said talk, excite her first with sex between you. But if it's not for her then you can force someone to like what you like.
Then it's a matter of is she really the one?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I think marry her first then tell her you've joined fab and have met a few really sexy women you would like her to meet I think that should work ,she might try swinging after that just not with you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've not done anything so no I've not cheated or fucked her about, I was interested to see what it's all about that's why I made a profile then when I knew a bit more about it I was gonna speak more to her about it so no need for sarcasm thank you |
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"I've not done anything so no I've not cheated or fucked her about, I was interested to see what it's all about that's why I made a profile then when I knew a bit more about it I was gonna speak more to her about it so no need for sarcasm thank you "
You see a lot of men say that, some even say they want to meet people to check them out before their partner meets them. Your profile is actually at odds with your post but if we overlook that, the best and to my mind only way to involve a loved one in anything like this is to talk to them about it before you try it. Saying one evening "darling I've been trying to have sex with other people so that I can tell you what its like" is unlikely to win you any brownie points however saying "I love you and I want to share sexual experiences with you" then taking the discussion from there might open up a whole world of possibilities.
Just saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Delete your profile!
This is the woman you are supposedly marrying ffs!
For a start you need to help her explore her sexuality, help her enjoy her body and what turns her on.
Just a quick chat about 'hey darling, I fancy fucking strangers, do you?' Is probably going to get you no where.
I like to think I'm broadminded but if my otherhalf had a profile on a swingers site before actually discussing it with me.....I would be ending the engagement and seriously reconsidering the relationship!
What's important to you....fucking strangers, or your future wife??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Delete your profile!
This is the woman you are supposedly marrying ffs!
For a start you need to help her explore her sexuality, help her enjoy her body and what turns her on.
Just a quick chat about 'hey darling, I fancy fucking strangers, do you?' Is probably going to get you no where.
I like to think I'm broadminded but if my otherhalf had a profile on a swingers site before actually discussing it with me.....I would be ending the engagement and seriously reconsidering the relationship!
What's important to you....fucking strangers, or your future wife???"
well said that woman with the good oral skills |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Delete your profile!
This is the woman you are supposedly marrying ffs!
For a start you need to help her explore her sexuality, help her enjoy her body and what turns her on.
Just a quick chat about 'hey darling, I fancy fucking strangers, do you?' Is probably going to get you no where.
I like to think I'm broadminded but if my otherhalf had a profile on a swingers site before actually discussing it with me.....I would be ending the engagement and seriously reconsidering the relationship!
What's important to you....fucking strangers, or your future wife???"
Looks like he either listened or hes gone to start another profile.  |
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