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What am I doing wrong?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I sent probably 100 messages to women on this site. I'm never rude, polite try to engage and ask questions yet I'm getting no where fast. What am I doing wrong? Many thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ditch the cock pic or make it private and expand your profile wording a little
As the previous poster stated, change your profile name to something a little less.......cromagnon
Also, get yourself to a club and talk to people. They will give you Veri's
Look out for a Fab social near you
Good luck mate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you. Your right stupid name not sure how to change it. Was trying to be funny as I work at the airport. Clearly I messed that up. Not really sure what to write on my profile. I want to show my personality but find it hard online. Just a simple chap looking for someone to spend some time with. |
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"Thank you. Your right stupid name not sure how to change it. Was trying to be funny as I work at the airport. Clearly I messed that up. Not really sure what to write on my profile. I want to show my personality but find it hard online. Just a simple chap looking for someone to spend some time with."
You've blocked men from messaging you. Pity, they are the ones who can provide you with advice. |
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"Thank you. Your right stupid name not sure how to change it. Was trying to be funny as I work at the airport. Clearly I messed that up. Not really sure what to write on my profile. I want to show my personality but find it hard online. Just a simple chap looking for someone to spend some time with."
Sounds like you need a site that is somewhat more conventional than this one.not sure this is for you....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can't accommodate means your cheating or living at home, unless you give good reason why"
No, he could be divorced but hav young children at home. Not every single bloke who can't accommodate is a cheater.  |
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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Can't accommodate means your cheating or living at home, unless you give good reason why
No, he could be divorced but hav young children at home. Not every single bloke who can't accommodate is a cheater. "
True, unlikely being Cabin Crew though xx |
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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Can't accommodate means your cheating or living at home, unless you give good reason why
Not necessarily.
What's the other option? Xx
As fun4us63 said. "
Yes but as I said unlikely if he's cabin crew xx |
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"Can't accommodate means your cheating or living at home, unless you give good reason why
Not necessarily.
What's the other option? Xx
As fun4us63 said.
Yes but as I said unlikely if he's cabin crew xx"
There could be other reasons, like housesharing. |
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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Can't accommodate means your cheating or living at home, unless you give good reason why
Not necessarily.
What's the other option? Xx
As fun4us63 said.
Yes but as I said unlikely if he's cabin crew xx
There could be other reasons, like housesharing."
Yeah, very true, but I'd mention the reason why I can't accommodate if I were a single guy x |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else |
"Can't accommodate means your cheating or living at home, unless you give good reason why
Not necessarily.
What's the other option? Xx
As fun4us63 said.
Yes but as I said unlikely if he's cabin crew xx
There could be other reasons, like housesharing.
Yeah, very true, but I'd mention the reason why I can't accommodate if I were a single guy x"
Is "personal choice" an allowable reason? |
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"Can't accommodate means your cheating or living at home, unless you give good reason why
Not necessarily.
What's the other option? Xx
As fun4us63 said.
Yes but as I said unlikely if he's cabin crew xx
There could be other reasons, like housesharing.
Yeah, very true, but I'd mention the reason why I can't accommodate if I were a single guy x
Is "personal choice" an allowable reason?"
I think that's acceptable. |
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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Can't accommodate means your cheating or living at home, unless you give good reason why
Not necessarily.
What's the other option? Xx
As fun4us63 said.
Yes but as I said unlikely if he's cabin crew xx
There could be other reasons, like housesharing.
Yeah, very true, but I'd mention the reason why I can't accommodate if I were a single guy x
Is "personal choice" an allowable reason?
I think that's acceptable."
I'm not saying it isn't, but he's asking for help.
He wouldn't even come up on our search and friends of ours wouldn't meet him for that reason. By not accommodating and not saying why takes away 90% of people on here, which must be what's happening as he's sent 100's100's of messages, other than that he sunder interesting xx |
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"Can't accommodate means your cheating or living at home, unless you give good reason why
Not necessarily.
What's the other option? Xx
As fun4us63 said.
Yes but as I said unlikely if he's cabin crew xx
There could be other reasons, like housesharing.
Yeah, very true, but I'd mention the reason why I can't accommodate if I were a single guy x
Is "personal choice" an allowable reason?
I think that's acceptable.
I'm not saying it isn't, but he's asking for help.
He wouldn't even come up on our search and friends of ours wouldn't meet him for that reason. By not accommodating and not saying why takes away 90% of people on here, which must be what's happening as he's sent 100's100's of messages, other than that he sunder interesting xx"
I get what you mean, but my hubby has his own profile and he doesn't mention he can't accom, let alone say he's married. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in the same boat mate, I'm divorced had to relocate, living in shared accommodation. Doesn't help, always polite, ever the gent (with a cheeky side) but getting nowhere... |
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By *nfinity1Man
over a year ago
Near Bournemouth |
"I'm in the same boat mate, I'm divorced had to relocate, living in shared accommodation. Doesn't help, always polite, ever the gent (with a cheeky side) but getting nowhere..."
Try going to parties or clubs, that's where I get more success. |
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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago
Southend |
"I'm in the same boat mate, I'm divorced had to relocate, living in shared accommodation. Doesn't help, always polite, ever the gent (with a cheeky side) but getting nowhere..."
You've had no meets in a year, your still doing better than most men on here who give up after a month. I'd try a club or a normal dating/nsa site xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can't accommodate means your cheating or living at home, unless you give good reason why
Not necessarily.
What's the other option? Xx
As fun4us63 said.
Yes but as I said unlikely if he's cabin crew xx
There could be other reasons, like housesharing."
maybe he's just really untidy and doesn't want anyone to see his mess  |
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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago
Southend |
"Can't accommodate means your cheating or living at home, unless you give good reason why
Not necessarily.
What's the other option? Xx
As fun4us63 said.
Yes but as I said unlikely if he's cabin crew xx
There could be other reasons, like housesharing.maybe he's just really untidy and doesn't want anyone to see his mess "
That happened to us at xmas, E just said to me 'fuck this' and she made us leave, was so embarrassed lol x |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"Is "personal choice" an allowable reason?
I think that's acceptable.
I'm not saying it isn't, but he's asking for help.
He wouldn't even come up on our search and friends of ours wouldn't meet him for that reason. By not accommodating and not saying why takes away 90% of people on here, which must be what's happening as he's sent 100's100's of messages, other than that he sunder interesting xx"
90% is a very high proportion of people likely to make a sweeping generalisation.
But it doesn't matter - the important thing for OP is that some people would like to see a reason for non accommodation in the profile text.
My opinion is that doing so may help, but may not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before opening any polite message I receive (ohh unless the message title really gets my attention) I always have a read of the profile.
After reading yours I'm afraid I would probably delete your message without reading it. Why?
It's mainly all about you and not what you can offer to women and couples, it comes over as more looking for friendship than sexy liaisons.
Makes no difference to me that you can or can't accommodate, that's your choice. Perhaps worth mentioning that though as it seems quite an important issue to many others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I sent probably 100 messages to women on this site. I'm never rude, polite try to engage and ask questions yet I'm getting no where fast. What am I doing wrong? Many thanks"
everything |
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Your write up makes you sounds like your bored, and your pics don't do you any justice. No smiling! Just being honest and not meant to be taken as rude. What can you offer someone? What are you looking for? This site is about excitement, passion, being different, freedom of expression, fun, naughty moments, pushing boundaries and total freedom from the day to day. As a single man you really need to stand out! Just for the record we only ever meet in hotels as we don't welcome strangers into our home. If you can't accommodate perhaps give this as an option! |
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"I'm in the same boat mate, I'm divorced had to relocate, living in shared accommodation. Doesn't help, always polite, ever the gent (with a cheeky side) but getting nowhere..."
Are you asking for profile advice? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Thanks for your advice. Tried to make some changes. If no success will give up on the site."
so what "timescale" do you put on that... because I would say the word patience time and time and time again....
100 mesages in 4 weeks does feel a bit "kid in a candy shop" when you mailed everyone and had unrealistic expectations of where you would be....
i say to everyone... time, patience, basic common sense....
obviously the name didn't fall under "basic common sense" so it went.... but did someone really have to tell you that for you to realise?
time and patience..... is 4 weeks really giving it time? is threatening to leave after 4 weeks really showing patience?
the realities of swinging and for most people far and from original expectations... people don't just drop their knickers for you... so why should people want to meet you over anyone else....
give people a reason to say "wow!!! i just have to meet that person!!!"... hand on heart..do you really do that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I sent probably 100 messages to women on this site. I'm never rude, polite try to engage and ask questions yet I'm getting no where fast. What am I doing wrong? Many thanks"
you sent a 100 messages tailored to every whim stated on the woman's profile you sent a face pic and no cock pics and you got no replies ,this is what you are doing ,wasting your time like the rest of the guys on here |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Thank you. Your right stupid name not sure how to change it. Was trying to be funny as I work at the airport. Clearly I messed that up. Not really sure what to write on my profile. I want to show my personality but find it hard online. Just a simple chap looking for someone to spend some time with.
You've blocked men from messaging you. Pity, they are the ones who can provide you with advice."
He asked for advice on the forum. |
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"Thank you. Your right stupid name not sure how to change it. Was trying to be funny as I work at the airport. Clearly I messed that up. Not really sure what to write on my profile. I want to show my personality but find it hard online. Just a simple chap looking for someone to spend some time with.
You've blocked men from messaging
you. Pity, they are the ones who can
provide you with advice.
He asked for advice on the forum.
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Sometimes advice is better given privately. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I sent probably 100 messages to women on this site. I'm never rude, polite try to engage and ask questions yet I'm getting no where fast. What am I doing wrong? Many thanks"
Your profile looks ok to me, except it is a bit bunched up.
I don't think mailing people is a bad thing, you won't get anywhere by sending one mail a month. I would make sure the mails you do send will stand out and hopefully it will attract someones attention.
Good luck  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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He asked for advice on the forum.
Sometimes advice is better given privately.
I suppose he would ask for that and would have taken his filters off in readiness.
Point taken.  "
I have seen it mentioned a couple of times ( not sure it was you or not ) but can I ask why you thought men would be a better option to give advice when he is looking for women?
Don't get me wrong I think anyone can give the advice but wouldn't the females he is looking for have more of an idea of what they are looking for? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You no what they say, the harder you look the futher it moves away..Just enjoy the chat banter an sexy pics..I've only been here a week lol. Dont listen to me am a Fab virgin too..Goodluck. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"You no what they say, the harder you look the futher it moves away..Just enjoy the chat banter an sexy pics..I've only been here a week lol. Dont listen to me am a Fab virgin too..Goodluck. "
Oh and an attitude like this is good too.
If you use it as a site that might get you what you are looking for and enjoy the site while waiting |
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To the OP..get to a club or show your face in the chat rooms and speak and get to know people in your area.
I wouldn't bother posting here ,still as clicky as ever. Although thumbs up to the constructive comments.
So what if he is cheating. What he uses on his own profile is his business. Did he pick apart your profile on your preferences. Dont like it, move on. He doesnt have to explain to you. If the woman was cheating most wouldn't batter an eye lid. What you have is too much choice of males to women. Couples seem to be more approachable from my experience. If a single lady goes to nightclub and sleeps around they get a name for themselves yet not if they class themselves as a swinger
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He asked for advice on the forum.
Sometimes advice is better given privately.
I suppose he would ask for that and would have taken his filters off in readiness.
Point taken.
I have seen it mentioned a couple of
times ( not sure it was you or not ) but
can I ask why you thought men would
be a better option to give advice when
he is looking for women?
Don't get me wrong I think anyone can give the advice but wouldn't the females he is looking for have more of an idea of what they are looking for?"
I didn't say that men were a better option. I just wanted to give advice privately rather than in the public forum. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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He asked for advice on the forum.
Sometimes advice is better given privately.
I suppose he would ask for that and would have taken his filters off in readiness.
Point taken.
I have seen it mentioned a couple of times ( not sure it was you or not ) but can I ask why you thought men would be a better option to give advice when he is looking for women?
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I guess it wasn't you who mentioned it last time...I did say I wasn't sure if it was you or not.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I sent probably 100 messages to women on this site. I'm never rude, polite try to engage and ask questions yet I'm getting no where fast. What am I doing wrong? Many thanks"
100! Jesus maybe give up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You said 100 women, did you copy and paste the same message?
If so, that's easily spotted and a real turn off too."
How can you tell the difference between a typed message and a "copy n paste" one? A message is a message, surely? |
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