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A little help please?
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"I have changed my profile a number of times, but I just can't seem to get it right. Can I get some help please, preferable from a female, one in or near Wolverhampton, seemingly the only area not to show any interest." There's no right or wrong profile. What works for one won't work for another. Different people will suggest different things then it becomes a mish mash of stuff. Your very capable of writing your own profile to attract people too. You've had meets so what's the issue op?  | |||
"Your 36 and cannot accommodate, sounds like your married, also a great profile doesn't guarantee meets...have patience " You're 36  or are you lying  | |||
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"Your 36 and cannot accommodate, sounds like your married, also a great profile doesn't guarantee meets...have patience You're 36 or are you lying "I'm 37 this October. | |||
"Your 36 and cannot accommodate, sounds like your married, also a great profile doesn't guarantee meets...have patience You're 36 or are you lying "A good point brought out there. Clear up the accommodation bit. It can put off a lot of people. | |||
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"Noted." Hey!! Reading some of your verifications, it should be YOU giving advice, not the other way round!! You seem to have had a lot more success on here than a lot of other single guys, you must be doing something right!! | |||
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"Thanx Gordon and Shaq. Pic has changed a few times recently. Patience I have, I just wondered if my profile was pushing rather than pulling." I think I'll leave that particular question to the ladies. There has already been unfavourable comment on your current status message, largely because it may be contradicting the tone you're trying to set in your profile. | |||
"Thanx Gordon and Shaq. Pic has changed a few times recently. Patience I have, I just wondered if my profile was pushing rather than pulling. I think I'll leave that particular question to the ladies. There has already been unfavourable comment on your current status message, largely because it may be contradicting the tone you're trying to set in your profile." Noted. | |||
"Thanx Gordon and Shaq. Pic has changed a few times recently. Patience I have, I just wondered if my profile was pushing rather than pulling. I think I'll leave that particular question to the ladies. There has already been unfavourable comment on your current status message, largely because it may be contradicting the tone you're trying to set in your profile. Noted." Maybe moving your location might help. How far are you willing to travel? | |||
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"Maybe, thanx. I'll think about that." Moving location isn't an option is it? You said in one of your previous threads you are married and not getting what you want at home, so we guess you can't move. Admire your honesty, but we guess it may put some people off. | |||
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"Hi try going to your local clubs " | |||
"I have changed my profile a number of times, but I just can't seem to get it right. Can I get some help please, preferable from a female, one in or near Wolverhampton, seemingly the only area not to show any interest." It must be quite disheartening and a little scary to know that someone is monitoring your previous posts, but I too have noted your politeness - we can do with some nice people here on the forums, who are willing to give an opinion about things and chew the cut - just don't rise to the bait about your personal circumstances, as has already been said on another thread ... | |||
"I have changed my profile a number of times, but I just can't seem to get it right. Can I get some help please, preferable from a female, one in or near Wolverhampton, seemingly the only area not to show any interest. It must be quite disheartening and a little scary to know that someone is monitoring your previous posts, but I too have noted your politeness - we can do with some nice people here on the forums, who are willing to give an opinion about things and chew the cut - just don't rise to the bait about your personal circumstances, as has already been said on another thread ..."   | |||
I will try getting in on the forums more and see if that helps my cause. Clubs might be more difficult for me, but nit ruling it out. | |||
"Thank you all. All has been taken into consideration. It seems the key is just to wait. I plan on amending my profile again soon, maybe being more specific in what I am and what I want. Though I feel that narrows my chances, maybe I could get lucky. If only you were all interested local females
I will try getting in on the forums more and see if that helps my cause. Clubs might be more difficult for me, but nit ruling it out." | |||
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"Start a monthly munch? " Interesting. Explain please. | |||
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"Jo here, I like to see a nice honest body shot....visiting the odd club is also good to make new contacts ..... How far do you travel ? XX"Rarely out of Wolverhampton, but willing to go further. | |||
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"Friend hi Am not a female but I don't think it matters what you put on your profile This site is Garbage , google it everyone ie men say it's rubbish,the women on here most not all are either teasers gold diggers or self voyeurs its a very dull site ...sorry " Yet you are still here! | |||
"Friend hi Am not a female but I don't think it matters what you put on your profile This site is Garbage , google it everyone ie men say it's rubbish,the women on here most not all are either teasers gold diggers or self voyeurs its a very dull site ...sorry Yet you are still here! " | |||
"Friend hi Am not a female but I don't think it matters what you put on your profile This site is Garbage , google it everyone ie men say it's rubbish,the women on here most not all are either teasers gold diggers or self voyeurs its a very dull site ...sorry Yet you are still here! "We haven't found it dull or garbage just quite the opposite , but we note those comments were made by men apparently. One possible explanation is that the men who said this were moaning due to rejection? There are a number of men who will contact anyone regardless what their profile says and that may cause rejection which in turn upsets the guy. Just a thought. | |||
"Friend hi Am not a female but I don't think it matters what you put on your profile This site is Garbage , google it everyone ie men say it's rubbish,the women on here most not all are either teasers gold diggers or self voyeurs its a very dull site ...sorry Yet you are still here!
We haven't found it dull or garbage just quite the opposite , but we note those comments were made by men apparently. One possible explanation is that the men who said this were moaning due to rejection? There are a number of men who will contact anyone regardless what their profile says and that may cause rejection which in turn upsets the guy.
Just a thought. "
Highly likely explanation methinks | |||
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"I understand what The Giraffe is saying, but I don't think you can blame the site. No doubt Males greatly outnumber females on here, therefore we have less to choose from, and females have more to choose from. Men obviously need to be more proactive, which leads to women being inundated with offers, and so they have to first sift through the myriad of messages, filter the less desirable, and then do the same with the remaining profiles, no doubt a fulltime job un itself, and that's just the women with nothing in their profile but the word "Hi". Some of these are no doubt looking for more than the site offers (eg: An LTR), and so most men here won't appeal to those. The others already have their pick and favourites, and aren't here to meet, just socialise. So there is no real fault with the site, there is just a bad male / female ratio when men are concerned. As I've been told, patience is key, we just need to make sure our profiles and messages are worded perfectly in order to stand a chance of finding the right girl in the right mood at the right time." And of course contacting people who are asking for contact from people like yourselves rather than just anyone. We know to the better quality decent single people on here that this is exactly how they always behave, but you would be REALLY surprised at the amount of unwanted or unrequested contact that a lot of couples and single ladies get from guys who just either blatantly ignore profile choices, or just don't bother reading them. One again it leads to needless rejection, and more moaning! This is a GREAT site for genuine honest swinging people who use it well and respect others just as they wish to be respected themselves. | |||
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"I don't think its only single guys who give unwarranted attention - I get far too many replies from couples on my single fem profile, where I make it plainly obvious that I meet women alone and only that - the guys seem to get the message, or it may be that I have blocked them all already - some couples don't get the message either. Its people being people, I guess" That's true. I actually have better luck with couples, not that really look for them, but those that catch my attention usually respond more, in equal amount to those that seek me out. But I'm a straight male, and the amount of males messaging me is surprising. Twice as many males than couples, single ladies, and friends combined. And I forgot about those that block you with no given reason. That's a little disheartening. I know not to take that personally, but still, it does make you wonder what was so bad they had to do that. But I digress. All we can do is be selective and wait it seems. | |||
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"As the serial patience guy says, you can sit and wait and you will sit forever, or you can be proactive and get out there and open your options, but then I hope your wife/partner is doing the exact same thing behind your back." Now now!! You know how much moaning you will get if you mention marital status!! Swinging is for everyone!! | |||
" We know to the better quality decent single people on here that this is exactly how they always behave, but you would be REALLY surprised at the amount of unwanted or unrequested contact that a lot of couples and single ladies get from guys who just either blatantly ignore profile choices, or just don't bother reading them. ." We get those from couples. | |||
"As the serial patience guy says, you can sit and wait and you will sit forever, or you can be proactive and get out there and open your options, but then I hope your wife/partner is doing the exact same thing behind your back. Now now!! You know how much moaning you will get if you mention marital status!! Swinging is for everyone!!" I was shocked at how vindictive it sounded too! We all know that swinging does not guarantee a marriage stays together and that cheating (as swingers define it, ie without your partner knowing) is indicative of something else wrong in the relationship. | |||
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"As the serial patience guy says, you can sit and wait and you will sit forever, or you can be proactive and get out there and open your options, but then I hope your wife/partner is doing the exact same thing behind your back. Now now!! You know how much moaning you will get if you mention marital status!! Swinging is for everyone!! I was shocked at how vindictive it sounded too! We all know that swinging does not guarantee a marriage stays together and that cheating (as swingers define it, ie without your partner knowing) is indicative of something else wrong in the relationship. " vindictive? It wasnt vindictive at all, I gave the lad some advice then pointed out whats good for the goose is good for the gander. | |||
"Start a monthly munch? Interesting. Explain please." A monthly social in a vanilla setting such as a pub | |||
"Friend hi Am not a female but I don't think it matters what you put on your profile This site is Garbage , google it everyone ie men say it's rubbish,the women on here most not all are either teasers gold diggers or self voyeurs its a very dull site ...sorry " Don't know about anyone else, but I'm here for the sex!! | |||
"Start a monthly munch? Interesting. Explain please. A monthly social in a vanilla setting such as a pub" I like this idea. I'll look into that. | |||
"Friend hi Am not a female but I don't think it matters what you put on your profile This site is Garbage , google it everyone ie men say it's rubbish,the women on here most not all are either teasers gold diggers or self voyeurs its a very dull site ...sorry Don't know about anyone else, but I'm here for the sex!! " That makes two of us. | |||
